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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone

Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of in group scenarios!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?"

Not personally, but then I like to think of myself as a confident individual anyway.

Nice avatar by the way.

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?

Not personally, but then I like to think of myself as a confident individual anyway.

Nice avatar by the way."

Thank you

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No I wouldn't say it has greatly

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By *irimusMan
over a year ago

Burnley

It's made me stop caring about being naked in front of others. Weird how we're taught to be embarassed from an early age.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.

It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Only in so much as the more you do something the more proficient you can become, but not personality wise.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.

It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."

I didn't quite word that right.

Swinging at it's core, in it's most natural form actually showed me how beautiful it can be, 2 people so comfortable, secure and in love that are able to share it with others and extend that beauty. Sublime.

Cheats, liars, chancers, abusers, those on the victim hunt, those who will do or say anything to get in the underwear of another person. That has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely xx

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Absolutely xx"

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Hatfield


"It's made me stop caring about being naked in front of others. Weird how we're taught to be embarassed from an early age."

I would agree. Threesomes, groups and gangbangs especially don't necessarily need confidence, more an ability to be relaxed in front of others (well, perhaps not too relaxed).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely xx "

I honestly didn't think anyone would want me before I joined here and some other sites. I know it sounds cheap and shallow, but in honesty going through some guys (and girls) did wonders for my confidence, especially pleasant, attractive ones that I know could have met others but chose me.

It has really released the slut in me though, which was always there but I never had enough confidence to do hook-ups, ONS, clubs, porn etc.

Although the sex is the main motivator I've always been very sociable too, and I like making friends on here. Fab is my favourite place for making contacts Xx

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Absolutely xx

I honestly didn't think anyone would want me before I joined here and some other sites. I know it sounds cheap and shallow, but in honesty going through some guys (and girls) did wonders for my confidence, especially pleasant, attractive ones that I know could have met others but chose me.

It has really released the slut in me though, which was always there but I never had enough confidence to do hook-ups, ONS, clubs, porn etc.

Although the sex is the main motivator I've always been very sociable too, and I like making friends on here. Fab is my favourite place for making contacts Xx"

Thank you for sharing

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.

It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Oh most definitely, though only partly, my confidence began to grow as I hit 40

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso


"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.

It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love.

I didn't quite word that right.

Swinging at it's core, in it's most natural form actually showed me how beautiful it can be, 2 people so comfortable, secure and in love that are able to share it with others and extend that beauty. Sublime.

Cheats, liars, chancers, abusers, those on the victim hunt, those who will do or say anything to get in the underwear of another person. That has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."

That makes more sense. I sincerely believe that's how we are ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, no. When I'm at the park I always have a go on the swings but I can't say I feel any better about myself when I get home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep

Px

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By *lmondhammerMan
over a year ago

nunyaaa

Not yet, I have only been to one club and I had Dutch courage, so didn’t really establish confidence... hoping that changes in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it hasn't...at times it makes me feel (mrs) very self conscious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it has. Its probably made even more body confident than I was.

Like Princess Peach, its destroyed any confidence when it comes to relationships when you see the amount of cheats, liars etc. on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex started my journey into confidence at 47.. It was interesting and surprising to see myself through his eyes

Then i met my current DD - i can't even describe how he makes me feel and the confidence that he's given me.. The utter belief in my capabilities and who i am. I genuinely believe i only got my last two promotions due to his utter belief in me and his confidence coaching. I wish you could all experience it, he is pretty fucking amazing

That in turn has led to an acceptance of my body, my skin, my shape and at times a little bit of love for myself too

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"My ex started my journey into confidence at 47.. It was interesting and surprising to see myself through his eyes

Then i met my current DD - i can't even describe how he makes me feel and the confidence that he's given me.. The utter belief in my capabilities and who i am. I genuinely believe i only got my last two promotions due to his utter belief in me and his confidence coaching. I wish you could all experience it, he is pretty fucking amazing

That in turn has led to an acceptance of my body, my skin, my shape and at times a little bit of love for myself too "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's been a delightful backdrop to the work I was doing on myself anyway. Another part of self acceptance.

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Not yet, I have only been to one club and I had Dutch courage, so didn’t really establish confidence... hoping that changes in the future."

I hope so too

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"No I wouldn't say it has greatly "

thanks for sharing

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Yes, it has. Its probably made even more body confident than I was.

Like Princess Peach, its destroyed any confidence when it comes to relationships when you see the amount of cheats, liars etc. on here. "

Thanks for sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i naturally had it when i needed it

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

When I was a single guy yes. As someone a little socially awkward it pushed me right out of I my comfort zone. From there grew and developed my social skills, then my success grew and thus my confidence grew. Having said that as a single guy it's not for the faint hearted and it's hard work. I would suspect depending on you character it could easily have the opposite effect.

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"No i naturally had it when i needed it "
ok

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes. I was quite shy when I joined.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I'm more confident after being on this site if that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No - I'm still quite shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll report back if confidence happens.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts


"No - I'm still quite shy "
you needn't be grrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% absolutely it has

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I still lack confidence and have a lot of self doubt

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By *auti Lass and MoleCouple
over a year ago

Bicester


"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.

It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love.

I didn't quite word that right.

Swinging at it's core, in it's most natural form actually showed me how beautiful it can be, 2 people so comfortable, secure and in love that are able to share it with others and extend that beauty. Sublime.

Cheats, liars, chancers, abusers, those on the victim hunt, those who will do or say anything to get in the underwear of another person. That has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."

^^ this

Being able to flirt with others and be flirted to are wonderful experiences.

The feelings of desire are strong and impactful. All confidence boosters and general self worth improvements.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.

It has probably made me more suspicious rather than boosted my confidence I think lol

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"It has probably made me more suspicious rather than boosted my confidence I think lol"
why?

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"No. I still lack confidence and have a lot of self doubt "

Any reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I still lack confidence and have a lot of self doubt

Any reason? "

It's always easier to believe the bad stuff

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"No. I still lack confidence and have a lot of self doubt

Any reason?

It's always easier to believe the bad stuff "
i understand

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Both boosted and damaged in different ways. Occasionally makes me feel great, but sometimes feel really undesirable. Lockdown hasn't helped and now pretty worried about meeting, particularly in clubs where things have traditionally been a lot more successful than getting interest on here.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm in an interesting position. My experiences in the kink community have bolstered my confidence, but my experiences with swinging have brought me rather back down to Earth.

I guess being a very tall, very stern-looking, very non-monogamous single guy is a pretty small niche.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Yes and no. It has boosted it in the sense that I've met and played with some very attractive women at clubs, in private and in public (I love an audience!). That's always going to make a guy feel good.

But at the same time its impossible not to notice that I'm often the least 'manly' or 'masculine' guy there. I love being naked but at the same time it highlights even more that I'm pretty skinny. Even when I've been the one playing with other guys watching, I've still been award that they are visibly more stocky, well built, muscular, 'typically masculine' or whatever else.

Even when it's not been an issue, I'm still very self conscious of it. I'd say it is very much a double-edged sword.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Yes and no. It has boosted it in the sense that I've met and played with some very attractive women at clubs, in private and in public (I love an audience!). That's always going to make a guy feel good.

But at the same time its impossible not to notice that I'm often the least 'manly' or 'masculine' guy there. I love being naked but at the same time it highlights even more that I'm pretty skinny. Even when I've been the one playing with other guys watching, I've still been award that they are visibly more stocky, well built, muscular, 'typically masculine' or whatever else.

Even when it's not been an issue, I'm still very self conscious of it. I'd say it is very much a double-edged sword."

Totally get that! I'm short and bald, which isn't something too many women favour. We all have elements of our appearance we don't like and will naturally see them as unattractive to others too. For me it's certainly true to say I had more interest and opportunity when I was part of a couple, but although we may not think it pretty much everyone else is in the same boat to one degree or another - with the possible exception of those who come across as loving themselves and arrogant, who by default instantly become unattractive in some way by default of that alone. This can be a brutal place in some respects, but I doubt anyone intends us to feel we're 'inferior' in any way. It's just human nature to pick faults with ourselves and assume the worst sometimes. Definitely true to say getting a little interest and/or attention can make all the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as?

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston


"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as?"

Fab life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That'll do it

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?"

In a way yes. In a club scenario I’m a different person compared to a vanilla club. But even then I’d never make the first move. But if I’m having fun then I have no inhibitions. I can be watched and filmed and I wouldn’t even notice lol

On a meet, it’s similar, it’s usually the woman that has to make the first move

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?

In a way yes. In a club scenario I’m a different person compared to a vanilla club. But even then I’d never make the first move. But if I’m having fun then I have no inhibitions. I can be watched and filmed and I wouldn’t even notice lol

On a meet, it’s similar, it’s usually the woman that has to make the first move "

You are on the right track

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By *eparrain1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?

In a way yes. In a club scenario I’m a different person compared to a vanilla club. But even then I’d never make the first move. But if I’m having fun then I have no inhibitions. I can be watched and filmed and I wouldn’t even notice lol

On a meet, it’s similar, it’s usually the woman that has to make the first move "

You are on the right track

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