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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so like most women and couples the pm system is going into melt down with messages from guys which is great as thats why im and many others are here for to chat and hopefully get on with guys to meet after lockdown and covid calms down.

but there a bigger pattern forming with my messages (so i guess your too) more and more messages are along the lines of ..you wont say no to anything as you'll be so desperate type of messages and i see it on the forums too the excitement of guys thinking its going to be a free for all minge fest ?? ...

so the question is guys what are you expecting ... and couples and ladies are you going to change the way you swing because as has been put ''your now desperate''

again i have ask this question from my point of view ie i only meet guys ..so the question is about expectation not to bash guys and or tarr them all with the sam brush just what do you expect to happen once meets start again...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not desperate.

If anything this last year will make me more wary and more selective, because I've seen some real ugliness in humanity that I didn't realise was so prevalent.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Definitely not desperate so no free pass here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no expectations, I'll approach things in the same manner I always have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not desperate but more apprehensive about meeting.

Ive had no sex or male attention for over a year now and I’m not about to jump into bed with someone just because I want some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not desperate, we have a great sex life, but if we decide to spice it all good.

I don't get the status's from couples who say they are sexually frustrated, I mean you have eachother??

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Not desperate here, but have always been selective with what we are looking for.

I see no reason why we would alter what we are looking for just to get a quick fix, as that is less likely to be satisfying for us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not desperate.

If anything this last year will make me more wary and more selective, because I've seen some real ugliness in humanity that I didn't realise was so prevalent."

Well said! The OP has a point though and i already feel a mild anxiety about the pressure to meet once its all ok again. Likely some will say leave if thats how you feel but thats not the point. People should have sensible expectations in terms of meeting not preference wise but in respect of building up rapports and trust etc.

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By *superfuse663Man
over a year ago

manchester

Can you imagine what it will be like when clubs open, single males hanging round outside hoping a lady will sneak them in on couples only nights.

I'm in no rush to meet and will just play it by ear. But I can imagine some males have there best faf and dick pics ready to copy and paste to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ive always been selective i will get more selective due to covid and the changes to living we will all be making

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

My "filters" will remain the same but I am determined in making more time to meet/play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My "filters" will remain the same but I am determined in making more time to meet/play "

yep i will be making more time for the couple of guys i already know less time for others..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm not desperate.

If anything this last year will make me more wary and more selective, because I've seen some real ugliness in humanity that I didn't realise was so prevalent.

Well said! The OP has a point though and i already feel a mild anxiety about the pressure to meet once its all ok again. Likely some will say leave if thats how you feel but thats not the point. People should have sensible expectations in terms of meeting not preference wise but in respect of building up rapports and trust etc. "

I'll probably keep my filters at their current levels (you can't message me if you're male, female, TV/TS, or a couple of any kind - I call it "pandemic no") for a long time yet.

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By *ilkandhoneyxWoman
over a year ago

leicester

i get this. a lot of guys are like ‘you must be going crazy let me help you’ and while yeah it’s a back log of stuff i wanted to do, don’t mean i’m gona fuck anything with a pulse, i don’t like it when men assume they’re wanted by me without even knowing me, so i just block those types and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

keep it on the forum guys not via my pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d expect people of all genders and relationship types to have each side of the spectrum - some basically banging on the doors or swinging clubs on day 1 of legally being able to, whereas others may meet after the initial rush or gradually meet others in safer settings etc. And who knows what restrictions will be in place too

My hope is that when things are more relaxed, less people are messaging like they are now and they’re spending time getting out instead

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yeah... nahhhhhhh.

I'm satisfied with my wand.

It doesn't lie, it doesn't assume anything, it doesn't judge me for ignoring it for days or weeks or even months.

I think I'd go to a club, but for the dancing not the sex.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’re in no rush. We will wait for the clubs to reopen. Not sure wether there will be an initial rush by everyone to visit them though. A lot of people will still remain cautious.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I’ve made some interesting new contacts on here since lockdown but the age old issue of filtering the fakes and fantasists from the genuine will remain.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I haven’t had a message like that yet, but no doubt will do eventually. But I’m far from desperate and won’t be fucking anything that stands still long enough when I do start meeting again.

I’m more selective now. When I first joined I wasn’t fussy enough and had some really shit meets as a result. I’d definitely rather stay at home with my toys than waste my time on a crap shag with a 5-minute man.

And for me, the first and most important thing will be to spend a lot of quality time with my FWB. After him, I want to get together with the friends I met before covid and haven’t seen for well over a year. Then I want to finally get to meet the people I’ve been talking to for a year or more. Only after that will I even be considering meeting new people.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"We’re in no rush. We will wait for the clubs to reopen. Not sure wether there will be an initial rush by everyone to visit them though. A lot of people will still remain cautious."

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Same here,

even if it's just in a social capacity we'll be happy to visit and support our usual one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

a good 30% of my message's for weeks now have been meet now / i wanna empty my balls .....never blocked as many people as i have since xmas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

and as much as id like to support clubs i just cant see my self in them for a long long time same as pubs and vanilla clubs too for me its too much of a risk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

also do you think clubs may let more guys in ? as a means to fill the till and make some ground up on the time they've lost ??

ive always said there not enough guys in clubs alaways seems to be the same ones every week that do nothing for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely going along the lines that if we haven't been chatting through this I'm not you meeting you after this ... my filters will remain up and my profile mainly hidden especially with all the holiday traffic that's expected down here! Definitely not desperate and absolutely not changing my approach

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"and as much as id like to support clubs i just cant see my self in them for a long long time same as pubs and vanilla clubs too for me its too much of a risk"

Once I deem my risk low enough (which will be more conservative than what we're allowed) I'll be back to supporting the clubs I love. Doesn't mean I need to be having sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"and as much as id like to support clubs i just cant see my self in them for a long long time same as pubs and vanilla clubs too for me its too much of a risk

Once I deem my risk low enough (which will be more conservative than what we're allowed) I'll be back to supporting the clubs I love. Doesn't mean I need to be having sex."

its not the sex that worries me its the whole we are in a club with peoples inside breathing the same air ...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"and as much as id like to support clubs i just cant see my self in them for a long long time same as pubs and vanilla clubs too for me its too much of a risk

Once I deem my risk low enough (which will be more conservative than what we're allowed) I'll be back to supporting the clubs I love. Doesn't mean I need to be having sex.

its not the sex that worries me its the whole we are in a club with peoples inside breathing the same air ... "

Sure. As I say, I'll make that judgement, when it's safe enough. Probably well after we're allowed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've very much enjoyed making new friends and having some lovely conversations

Its been nice enjoying a conversation without the presumption that there has to be a meet at the end of it

Really looking forward to catching up with some special people in my life and hopefully meeting some that I've gotten to know over lockdown.

Hopefully even when its ok to meet again the conversations will keep rolling on

Its always lovley to have a good chat

Thank you lovely fab people for keeping my inbox interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a bit anxious at thought of meeting socially let alone anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's already people desperate for a shag. It will get even worse when people think they are allowed to fuck again.

I'll be avoiding them like they are the plague as they will be exactly that. It will be even worse spunk soup than a hot tub in a club.

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

I have a few friends I’d meet before Covid and I’m looking forward to meeting up with them again... not just for the sex, they are also good friends I’ve missed seeing for drinks and nights out.

As for new people... probably not.

I was picky before Covid due to what I’m after, I chatted to one or two during lockdown but no one I’m desperate to meet.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Wasn't desperate before and certainly not desperate now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've even had an offer today of having electrical work done in payment for sex...

I wasn't desperate a year ago when I joined and I'm still not desperate now. Like others, if I meet, it'll be others I've met before.

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