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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so stand corrected.

We are thinking about venturing to a club once we are allowed to again. It will be our first time.

So are they actually as cliquey as we have been told they are?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm sorry. That was rude of me, and I shouldn't have said anything. I apologise.

Thank you for dealing with my crassness so gracefully.

To answer your question: It'll depend on the club and who's there at the time. I've been lucky in that all but one of the clubs I've been to have been perfectly friendly and welcoming.

There'll be a *measure* of insularity, of course – humans are humans, after all, and they prefer the company of people they already know – but it won't be full-on shunning strangers or anything. If you go along with an open mind, no expectations, and a willingness to chat to new people, I'm sure you'll be fine.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Sometimes but not always, some clubs and nights more than others. It's the same with life, workplaces, schools, vanilla clubs etc. Some people are more welcoming than others. You'll always find some friendly Swingers happy to chat to newbies though. Have fun.

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

It all depends on the type of club you visit, it was only recently that i got into the club scene and then lockdown hit. There is a good review page of clubs and a page for information on venue locations in the forum section.

Personally I have found them very welcoming there's certain rules and respectfulness to be adhered to at all times. Each club has a different standard set of rules. I ventured to Club SX as a newbie they have a ground floor and first floor. On the ground floor you do not have to dress down and if you didnt know could be like any club you'd go to on a standard night out. Found this made it easier to get used to the scene as it where. The first floor is strictly dress down this could be lingerie for the lady and briefs/boxers for the gent. Dressing gowns are provided aswell if you require one.

People are generally very welcoming as we've all had to take that first step into the scene.

My tip would be to find a club that would be right for you, check on here or their own websites. Generally alot of clubs offer special newbie days aswell as other themed days/nights.

I think once u take that first step though, and get to know the scene u will never look back lol

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Ok so stand corrected.

We are thinking about venturing to a club once we are allowed to again. It will be our first time.

So are they actually as cliquey as we have been told they are? "

Yes and no need to be a big personal to stand out but we go about our business quietly you need to find your way..

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Sometimes. Every night is different. Occasionally it has felt clicky but you just have to make the effort and be sociable. It sometimes pays off,it sometimes doesn't. You can still enjoy yourselves just the 2 of you and soak up the atmosphere. Go with an open mind and don't expect play to happen.

Enjoy yourselves whatever happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes they feel like it but that's probably because it might be regulars who know everyone else.

If you make no effort to socialize and sit in the corner expecting something to happen, it won't unless you're smoking hot! And even then there is no guarantee.

Just be friendly and make an effort and you'll be made to feel welcome unless you're a dick.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Ok so stand corrected.

We are thinking about venturing to a club once we are allowed to again. It will be our first time.

So are they actually as cliquey as we have been told they are? "

Clubs are just places, the people in clubs vary every night. Sometimes everyone knows everyone (but you) and starting a conversation is difficult. Other times, everyone is chatty and you hardly stop talking all night.

We love the clubs, and always have a fun night out.

Cal

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Been a member of all sorts of clubs throughout the years from motorcycle to running. All of them have had some sort of clique or bunch who appear to be happy with each other and not open to newcomers.

In most cases I’ve been wrong and they’re just people who gravitate to others they know. Once you get friendly with them, next thing you know you’re part of their group or at least a friendly wave or hi.

As a TV occasionally I’ll get a signal that someone definitely doesn’t want to socialise with me, but I now choose nights and clubs in which that type of person is generally not going to attend.

Go and enjoy yourself

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