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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester

do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Nothing that I wouldn't have with men from anywhere else.

Sex is sex for me, regardless of where I met the man from.

I don't have a partner to have to keep anything just for him, or only be intimate with, so I can do what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing other than our rules that are always in place...

Can I ask...why would you do those things with someone you met outside fab but not fab meets?

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. "

Idle curiosity but why do you only have limits in place for fab?

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"Nothing other than our rules that are always in place...

Can I ask...why would you do those things with someone you met outside fab but not fab meets?

Lu "

just because in my experience with fab meets if i don’t set these limits then they’ll just take them as a given, and it makes me uncomfortable. natural meets i’ve always found to be more gentle and i’m more comfortable in general x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing other than our rules that are always in place...

Can I ask...why would you do those things with someone you met outside fab but not fab meets?

Lu

just because in my experience with fab meets if i don’t set these limits then they’ll just take them as a given, and it makes me uncomfortable. natural meets i’ve always found to be more gentle and i’m more comfortable in general x"

Fair enough...I've never noticed a difference tbh.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

For the most part, any fab specific limits would likely be around the level we play at as we expect most fab people to be less exposed or experienced in the types of play we enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No PPP, or humiliation or being disrespectful. But aside from that no, you can pretty much do what you want. Anything I'd do at home with my husband I'd do on a meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my limits would be across the board ...there are some things i only do with hubs and a regular guy

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Yes of course I thought everyone had “boundary’s”

We have no kissing others ( apart from girl girl)

And then some more assumed ones like no anal etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. "
m

I kind of understand the no anal one .... can I ask why no kissing or nipple play?

Nipple play is just kissing and touching the nipples I guess (in my head it is unless I’m not doing something right ha).

Anal can hurt but in general kissing doesn’t ? Genuinely curious x

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. "

I can understand you not wanting to do anal, maybe just understand not kissing but I can’t for he life of me understand why you wouldn’t want nipple play. But I am male so maybe never understand x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I have no boundaries at all...

Iv met couples but I don’t meet any that say no kissing as I like to kiss and it feels unnatural for me to not kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just seen it’s a couples profile so I get the no kissing rule - completely missed that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stay away from these with 'up their own arse' lists because majority of the time they are nothing special themselves

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Since I play alone, there aren’t acts that I would feel threatened by if a partner did them or consider too “intimate”, such as kissing etc.

And I narrow down the list of people I could potentially meet by chatting online and then socials, so by the time we do have sex I would want it to be as intimate and pleasurable as possible... not a mechanical act of fucking. I can use toys for that.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"I stay away from these with 'up their own arse' lists because majority of the time they are nothing special themselves"

Not sure how having limits/boundaries makes people 'up their own arse'?

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"I just seen it’s a couples profile so I get the no kissing rule - completely missed that! "

oh no i’m not a couple profile haha it randomly changed a few days ago i’m in the process of fixing that, i just don’t like kissing lol i find it gross haha

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"I stay away from these with 'up their own arse' lists because majority of the time they are nothing special themselves"

how is having limits up their own arse? jesus

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. m

I kind of understand the no anal one .... can I ask why no kissing or nipple play?

Nipple play is just kissing and touching the nipples I guess (in my head it is unless I’m not doing something right ha).

Anal can hurt but in general kissing doesn’t ? Genuinely curious x

"

just cuz i have pierced nipples and so if it isn’t done gently it can hurt more or cause issues with the piercings, so i rule that out by just saying to leave them alone. because on my first few fab meets it wasn’t gentle nipple play, they were really rough with them and it hurt and caused issues! also i just find kissing in general quite gross, maybe i’m weird haha but i don’t like being kissed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. m

I kind of understand the no anal one .... can I ask why no kissing or nipple play?

Nipple play is just kissing and touching the nipples I guess (in my head it is unless I’m not doing something right ha).

Anal can hurt but in general kissing doesn’t ? Genuinely curious x

just cuz i have pierced nipples and so if it isn’t done gently it can hurt more or cause issues with the piercings, so i rule that out by just saying to leave them alone. because on my first few fab meets it wasn’t gentle nipple play, they were really rough with them and it hurt and caused issues! also i just find kissing in general quite gross, maybe i’m weird haha but i don’t like being kissed x"

That’s completely fair enough. We can’t all like the same thing.

I have a nipple pierced and someone did accident rip it out once but I think the ball was loose on one side so I let them off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No anal, no deepthroat, no bareback.

The rules don't just apply to fab meets, they apply to all meets.

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. m

I kind of understand the no anal one .... can I ask why no kissing or nipple play?

Nipple play is just kissing and touching the nipples I guess (in my head it is unless I’m not doing something right ha).

Anal can hurt but in general kissing doesn’t ? Genuinely curious x

just cuz i have pierced nipples and so if it isn’t done gently it can hurt more or cause issues with the piercings, so i rule that out by just saying to leave them alone. because on my first few fab meets it wasn’t gentle nipple play, they were really rough with them and it hurt and caused issues! also i just find kissing in general quite gross, maybe i’m weird haha but i don’t like being kissed x

That’s completely fair enough. We can’t all like the same thing.

I have a nipple pierced and someone did accident rip it out once but I think the ball was loose on one side so I let them off lol "

ouch!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I stay away from these with 'up their own arse' lists because majority of the time they are nothing special themselves"

People are entitled to have boundaries, and should feel they are respected, rather than them being a bad thing.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Think most people have some kind of limits/rules and as long as everyone knows them and respects them everything should be ok ....but always get the one's who try to push it ..sadly

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It is making a distinction between Fab meets and meets from elsewhere I find baffling.

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"It is making a distinction between Fab meets and meets from elsewhere I find baffling. "

why? i just feel more comfortable with natural meets. i still enjoy fab meets, but i’m more wary.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah we do. We have limits with others that aren't on place between ourselves

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By *wing66Couple
over a year ago

Burton-upon-trent


"Yes of course I thought everyone had “boundary’s”

We have no kissing others ( apart from girl girl)

And then some more assumed ones like no anal etc"

Kissing is a must for us on a meet, makes it so much more passionate

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Condoms are a must. No poo, no pee and no hurting me.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

the main ones I've been asked to adhere to are either "no kissing" or "no anal"

I'm fine with what others want, and don't have massive interest in anal to start with.

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By *1011Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Not into watersports but otherwise I'm not too fussed. I suppose it all depends on that person and how comfortable I feel.

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"the main ones I've been asked to adhere to are either "no kissing" or "no anal"

I'm fine with what others want, and don't have massive interest in anal to start with."

Same here, I think I’d need to sit on my hands to keep away from the nipples though

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By *ig J and Little GCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I stay away from these with 'up their own arse' lists because majority of the time they are nothing special themselves

People are entitled to have boundaries, and should feel they are respected, rather than them being a bad thing.

"

Exactly. Everyone needs to be comfortable and relaxed or the fun is just one sided.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. "

Not to pour scorn on your choices but that kind of meet sounds incredibly austere. Basically just PIV and done?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutes for me are be clean, be respectful and condoms for full sex. Personally I'm not into inflicting pain or scat, but otherwise I'm pretty laid back and like to get to know what others like.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"It is making a distinction between Fab meets and meets from elsewhere I find baffling.

why? i just feel more comfortable with natural meets. i still enjoy fab meets, but i’m more wary. "

So IMO it’s quite common. One that I discovered on fab and had this rule myself as a couple , is couples that avoid single men or women who play with single men.

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By *ilkandhoneyx OP   Woman
over a year ago

leicester


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place.

Not to pour scorn on your choices but that kind of meet sounds incredibly austere. Basically just PIV and done?

"

maybe that’s how it seems. i still have lots of fun with my partners and we find lots of ways to enjoy it, but those are my limits and they’re always clear before i meet anyone so if they don’t like it they don’t have to do anything at all. it’s just how i like it

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By *elshcouple4000Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I wouldn't set her limits for her. Just no sick stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My limits are more emotional than physical (though yes of course there’s physical limits).

I don’t want anyone on fab to try and become friends or develop feelings in any meaningful way. I’ll stop messaging if I sense that happening. I like to keep everything as fun and lighthearted as possible, without strings

Weird eh? But that’s me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do any of you guys have limits specifically for fab meets? i’m quite strict- i don’t allow kissing, nipple play or anal with fab meets. i do it for meets from other places, but here i always keep these limits in place. "

I don’t have any particular limits beyond the norm, as such. That said, I will see what others limits are and maybe use that as a guide as to whether I’d meet. I’m quite a sensual person, so most likely wouldn’t meet someone who doesn’t kiss for instance.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My boundaries and limits are not specific to fab, and I don't understand why they might be specific for fab.

I use condoms with anyone I'm not married to.

That's basically the boundary. None of my likes or interests are off the table.

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