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Slut or sexually liberated?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello,

Just thinking out loud, and would love to hear others opinions, especially in this community and in the light of recent press coverage.

I consider myself sexually liberated, I like what I like and am happy to share that with different partners. I am promiscuous, but safe and consensual with it

A few single guys have said 'oh you're such a slut' when we've shared historical things etc

I personally find this term a bit derogatory and feels like negative connotations to me and I feel a bit turned off when that term is used - when its a double standard for men who are seen as a 'stud' bedding multiple women.

So what are your thoughts? Like being called a slut? Is it a negative word for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been called a slut for opening up about my past and find it incredibly offensive.

However if during dirty talk I get called "my little slut" I find that okay as it's not in reference to my past..

It's odd I know aha

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Good for you OP

I think it depends much on the tone of how "slut" is used, most guys don't mean it in a derogatory way at all but I'm always aware it can have negative connotations......

Anyway, be yourself and love life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only recently unlocked my ‘slutty’ side after years of hiding my sexuality.

Personally, I don’t give a fuck either way any more how somebody wants to label me.

There is only one guy in my life who really matters x

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

I don't like being called a slut personally but that's just my opinion, I like to see myself as someone who just REALLY enjoys sex lol xxx

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By *ffinfuntMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Like this one

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't want to be called a slut, I don't want to be called sexually liberated as if it's a badge of honour, I don't want other people to think it's ok to have an opinion either way on how many partners I've had. It's mine of their damn business! Just call me a woman.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to be called a slut, I don't want to be called sexually liberated as if it's a badge of honour, I don't want other people to think it's ok to have an opinion either way on how many partners I've had. It's mine of their damn business! Just call me a woman."

This

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By *ffinfuntMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Lady at leisure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar to the answers above, there's a legacy of double standards that exist that empowered women like yourself should challenge and change! Enjoy, be safe and keep having those incredible moments!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't want to be called a slut, I don't want to be called sexually liberated as if it's a badge of honour, I don't want other people to think it's ok to have an opinion either way on how many partners I've had. It's mine of their damn business! Just call me a woman."

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I think it’s highly dependant on the setting - if I had opened up about my past in a conversation with a male and he outright called me a slut I wouldn’t be best pleased however if in the throws of passion/kink that word comes spilling out of a mans mouth I’m not going to complain

It’s all mood/chemistry dependant for me x

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire


"I think it’s highly dependant on the setting - if I had opened up about my past in a conversation with a male and he outright called me a slut I wouldn’t be best pleased however if in the throws of passion/kink that word comes spilling out of a mans mouth I’m not going to complain

It’s all mood/chemistry dependant for me x"

This

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone


"Similar to the answers above, there's a legacy of double standards that exist that empowered women like yourself should challenge and change! Enjoy, be safe and keep having those incredible moments! "

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By *ffinfuntMan
over a year ago

liverpool

In the heat of the moment any way way does a slut mean in the english dicionery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello,

Just thinking out loud, and would love to hear others opinions, especially in this community and in the light of recent press coverage.

I consider myself sexually liberated, I like what I like and am happy to share that with different partners. I am promiscuous, but safe and consensual with it

A few single guys have said 'oh you're such a slut' when we've shared historical things etc

I personally find this term a bit derogatory and feels like negative connotations to me and I feel a bit turned off when that term is used - when its a double standard for men who are seen as a 'stud' bedding multiple women.

So what are your thoughts? Like being called a slut? Is it a negative word for you?

"

I hate the word, and I hate the double standards. This could set me on a rant but that sentence says it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hate for someone just to call me a slut, it is derogatory and upsets me. I do accept in the right sexual environment it can add something but not in general terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind being called a slut as it's frankly true, but I don't see the need for it, or for other labels like promiscuous or sexually liberated. It my life and body, no one else's business, I don't judge others or expect to be judged back. I'm honest about my relationships, sexual history, and preferences, if you want to talk or fuck then great, otherwise good luck. No need for name calling. And there is definitely a double standard with men. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello,

Just thinking out loud, and would love to hear others opinions, especially in this community and in the light of recent press coverage.

I consider myself sexually liberated, I like what I like and am happy to share that with different partners. I am promiscuous, but safe and consensual with it

A few single guys have said 'oh you're such a slut' when we've shared historical things etc

I personally find this term a bit derogatory and feels like negative connotations to me and I feel a bit turned off when that term is used - when its a double standard for men who are seen as a 'stud' bedding multiple women.

So what are your thoughts? Like being called a slut? Is it a negative word for you?

"

Like all labels, these things can be good or bad.

Used in the right context, 'heat of the moment', then I'm sure that word gets some people going. Used out of context, it's more offensive.

I would think most people on here are liberated and that's a good thing.

And I agree like so many things, there seems to be a big double standard!

I think your username sums you up as well as any label

Yours,

DefinitelyNotAMaleSlut

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

I've never understood why men start the how many conversation if they can't deal with the answer

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Confident within their own sexuality.

This can work both ways, I personaly am attracted to women who enjoy sex and have the confidence and understanding of their own bodies and are comfortable within themselves.

I've told women in the past that I enjoy the fact they like sex and I like exploring this with them, some women find this a turn off just as some men may find a confident woman a turn off.

As for calling a woman a slut, in a sexual context an setting, if the woman enjoyed this and it enhanced the experience then, why not.

The term in a normal enviroment is abusive.

I'll probably get a load of shit again for saying ot but.

Sexuality should be something to be celebrated and enjoyed, even better if you find someone you can do this with. Finding reason to belittle people based on the number of people you have had sex with is controling and, as I've said, abusive. Who would want a parner like then anyway.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Outside of the bedroom/playing then it’s a bit out of place for us purely as it’s being used out of context.

We’d never call someone a slut or whore etc for their sexual choices. As long as it’s between two consenting adults then no one else should be able to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs Playful's immediate response was "I'm a sexually liberated slut"

As others have said, though, context is everything. We've used the term, applied to us both, to turn each other on, and we wouldn't outright say it's unwelcome from others, but at the same time we would be wary of someone for whom that was their early go-to description of Mrs Playful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to be called a slut, I don't want to be called sexually liberated as if it's a badge of honour, I don't want other people to think it's ok to have an opinion either way on how many partners I've had. It's mine of their damn business! Just call me a woman."

???????????????????? Well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello,

Just thinking out loud, and would love to hear others opinions, especially in this community and in the light of recent press coverage.

I consider myself sexually liberated, I like what I like and am happy to share that with different partners. I am promiscuous, but safe and consensual with it

A few single guys have said 'oh you're such a slut' when we've shared historical things etc

I personally find this term a bit derogatory and feels like negative connotations to me and I feel a bit turned off when that term is used - when its a double standard for men who are seen as a 'stud' bedding multiple women.

So what are your thoughts? Like being called a slut? Is it a negative word for you?

"

I think it's all about context,and attitude. When it's said as an insult to mean cheap, slag etc then it's absolutely derogatory and insulting. When it's said in a mutually respecting, consenting encounter, where both people are happy with the use of the word, it can be really sexy. But only if its meant in a sexy way! X

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that unfortunately there are often judgements made by people with regards to another woman’s sexuality and what she does with her body.

These are vestiges of the shame that society and the male gaze places on women, which echo through others of any gender.

We see it in the judgement of ‘too many versus’, in who others have sex with and in hundreds of other ways.

Ultimately, it’s none of their business unless we let them make it so.

Whilst the word slut is somewhat being reclaimed, it still has negative connotations and there is a huge double standard across genders.

I think that there is only one context in which it should be used and that’s within ‘edgey’ dirty talk, where it won’t be misconstrued and the negative aspects add to the thrill.

In general terms though, we should all stop judging others for what they choose to do with their bodies

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

Just like many other words, it's all about context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel there is double standard for men who are seen as a 'stud' bedding multiple women.

If the equivalent is a 'slut' then so be it. I am a slut

I decide who what and when so I am a sexual liberated woman as well.

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