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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering how many men are actual BBW lovers as im a larger lady ,l seem to get guys who seem nice at first then turn into idiots because i can't meet there and then.

What happened to being polite and nice or is this lockdown bringing out the fakes more than usual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just last week I got told I deserved to be messed around because I didn't reply to a message from a profile with not one decent pic...

Politeness and respect has gone out of the window.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally speaking I agree, but there are pockets of nice people. Tend to the dross out early on to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count on 1 hand in over 10 years on here that someone has sent me a rude mail. (I bet that changes now though)

I dont understand how it happens to some and not others

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My face pics are in private, and I’m beautiful curvaceous .....then when I say sorry not for me, I’m ugly fat and they would be surprised if I ever get any fun

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I can count on 1 hand in over 10 years on here that someone has sent me a rude mail. (I bet that changes now though)

I dont understand how it happens to some and not others"

I’d guess because you’re a couple profile who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can count on 1 hand in over 10 years on here that someone has sent me a rude mail. (I bet that changes now though)

I dont understand how it happens to some and not others"

I've always wondered this too ... I answer all my messages and been here for years!

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

it's a declining trait to be kind and polite, not just on here but in general. I would like to think that it wasn't common on such a site as this to get inpolite or nasty messages and comments, hopefully not from old school more mature people as I would like to think they have more respect. Maybe as you mentioned it is from fake profiles, surely anyone who is serious about getting to know someone in advance of a possible meeting the last thing they would do is be nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be wrong, but probably when ‘possibility’ is taken away by rejection, when they think they should have a chance hurts their ego.

Ive seen quite a few guys talk about how women have a warped opinion of themselves through magnified attention on here that they wouldn’t get in the real world, believing all the attention and compliments from horny guys... this argument in itself is a bit nuts and sour which suggest damaged ego...

So to answer your question, I think you will hear all the lovely nice things under the sun if the guy is horny and not yet been rejected. But probably a sociopath if rejected..

Personally I’d say don’t believe or trust anyone based on 1 or 2 messages regardless if it’s nice or nasty

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By *lhr1061Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I'm always pleasant and polite, even if someone messages me and I'm not interested. All I seem to get are fakes and time wasters though, I'm really thinking of giving up on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently got told I was a monstrosity and didnt deserve oxygen by some bloke. This message was totally out of the blue and never spoke to him at all. I mean I've got thick skin but I don't understand that sort of behavior. It would be nice if everyone was polite and nice but it's not going to happen unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What gets me is I quite clearly have it on my profile that I don't reply to all messages nor do I reply to messages without face pics and yet I still get abuse...

Even been called the rudest c**t on here because I didn't reply to one message from a bloke that lived hundreds of miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most are polite until you say no thanks

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By *lhr1061Man
over a year ago

Warwickshire


"most are polite until you say no thanks "

I can take people saying no, I say no to some people(not many,lol) no need to be rude if someone rejects you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do so many ladies get rude messages when they say no though? I literally just get a thanks for replying mostly or no reply to that more occasionally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a mixed bag for my wife some say ok at being told no thanks some dont reply but sadly that still leaves alot of abuse too mind you she gets between 30 to a 100 messages a day and when meets start again that number will double

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Unfortunately some guys can’t take a NO from a lady and then you ladies think that we are all the same but we are not I message ladies and they say no sorry and I reply back saying that’s ok and no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately some guys can’t take a NO from a lady and then you ladies think that we are all the same but we are not I message ladies and they say no sorry and I reply back saying that’s ok and no problem "

no no no we women do not tar all with the same brush stop blaming others for your problems

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Watford

Honesty and politeness shouldn't be too much to ask for but, unfortunately, for some people it is.

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

North East


"I can count on 1 hand in over 10 years on here that someone has sent me a rude mail. (I bet that changes now though)

I dont understand how it happens to some and not others

I’d guess because you’re a couple profile who knows "

Nope, we’ve had plenty of rude people on this profile and our previous one. Had a couple tell us we believed we were privileged because we said no a couple of weeks back xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I tell rude people to fucking fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunatly some people are just arseholes who think they can say what they want over a computer, just got to try and block out the idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just arseholes OP blessings that you hadn’t met them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why wouldn’t you be polite, treat others as you want to be treated yourself

And to OP, yes bbw lover here

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Near Glasgow


"it's a declining trait to be kind and polite, not just on here but in general. I would like to think that it wasn't common on such a site as this to get inpolite or nasty messages and comments, hopefully not from old school more mature people as I would like to think they have more respect. Maybe as you mentioned it is from fake profiles, surely anyone who is serious about getting to know someone in advance of a possible meeting the last thing they would do is be nasty."

I find it's the older men who are the worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering how many men are actual BBW lovers as im a larger lady ,l seem to get guys who seem nice at first then turn into idiots because i can't meet there and then.

What happened to being polite and nice or is this lockdown bringing out the fakes more than usual? "

Manners makes the man

Politeness get you everywhere...drilled into me as a child and stick to it.

Stand up for women if they enter

Offer seats

Hold doors etc

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

We have had our share of rude PMs when we say no politely, which we try to do for every message we get that we are not interested in. Some of them are crass straight out of the box though - these get equally crass responses. Mind you if they are rude to us after we have said not thanks, they get it back 10x - well they do if they aren't cowards who send and block!

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield


"it's a declining trait to be kind and polite, not just on here but in general. I would like to think that it wasn't common on such a site as this to get inpolite or nasty messages and comments, hopefully not from old school more mature people as I would like to think they have more respect. Maybe as you mentioned it is from fake profiles, surely anyone who is serious about getting to know someone in advance of a possible meeting the last thing they would do is be nasty.

I find it's the older men who are the worst. "

Unfortunately we have found it is those who fall below our age range who seem to be the worst. If they can't take a polite 'No' then they sure aren't going to respect our boundaries!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I can count on 1 hand in over 10 years on here that someone has sent me a rude mail. (I bet that changes now though)

I dont understand how it happens to some and not others"

I've been here longer and not had one either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot people on here are just out form themselves. And will say and do anything for sex. If it's mean acting nice and polite to get what they want then that what they're do. And minute they think there not going to get what they want they're hint out attack and try to bully you into it.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I can count on 1 hand in over 10 years on here that someone has sent me a rude mail. (I bet that changes now though)

I dont understand how it happens to some and not others

I've been here longer and not had one either.

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We've been on here for around four years and don't remember a single rude message. I think generally single ladies have a harder time with bullys, but that's very easily dealt with by replying 'no thanks' then immediately blocking.

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