FabSwingers.com forum: We decided to take the plunge!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To try and get to know then meet a couple!

How the story goes, when we first got into this scene 7 years ago, the first couple we met I (Tony) was that nervous I ended up not doing anything apart from a feel! even though I had a great looking nude lass sat in front of me, i was just to nervous.

Shaz got it on with the guy fine I might add! hehe

Anyway, since then we have only been meeting single guys and bi-females for Shaz to play with and i have done nothing but be a voyeur. ( I must add, i do love watching)

But now going to see if we can meet a couple that are a bit understanding of my nerves, i still wouldn't do penetrative sex with anyone but Shaz would.

Anyway, the question is, do you think we will be able to find a couple willing to understand our circumstances that i would be nervous as hell and Shaz wouldn't

And as its been soooooo long since we met a couple for swinging, any tips you think we should know that would be different from meeting singles?

Thanks for any help!

Tony

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

awwwww cookie

if your happy with your wife swapping fair enough!!

we get very nervous meeting new couples, but we both play, altho full penetrative sex with own partner only and everything else inbetween goes except the usual no no's lol!!!!

learn to enjoy sex, we say its fun and anything your not comfortable with dont do it!!

you will get over your nerves, and im sure you will find a couple/fem/male willing to play with you!!

all the best and remember this is for fun xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hehe oh don't get me wrong, I love sex, me and Shaz are always at it and real experimental!.. but to do things with someone I don't know to well..

Shaz has always wanted to see me playing with another female so I know I everything is cool there, its just doing it, the last time, I was trembling from head to toe!

I think it could be something to do with the fact I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 as was a bit of a geek back then lol then I was straight in a 9 year relationship with my x then after that with Shaz until now, so only actually played had sex with 2 women

god that sounds sad

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can't believe I just wrote that on a public forum

Tony

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By *ibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Cupar

"Can't believe I just wrote that on a public forum

Tony

If any of it really bothers you, there is always the delete post button or getting in touch with a mod to sort it out

We wont tell anyone! Promise.

Hope it works out for you. If you are ever up Edinburgh way, give us a buzz.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

LoL its cool, I did pause before hitting the submit button but clicked it anyway, it kind of shows why i might be a little nervous

Edinburgh lol, we are lucky to get to x-tasia, neither of us can drive.. Well Shaz has a forklift licence but thats not much good

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it could be something to do with the fact I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 as was a bit of a geek back then lol then I was straight in a 9 year relationship with my x then after that with Shaz until now, so only actually played had sex with 2 women

god that sounds sad

Tony

What is that sad? A lot of people never have more than one partner in their entire life!!!

Before I came out to play again in Aug 09 this year, I only had 2 sexual partners in the last 15y: my ex-hubby and my late partner.

The sexual encounters before them were not particularly memorable, as I was not particularly experienced.

I learned what I like and don't like in the past 8y or so.

It is never to late to experiment and broaden your knowledge and experience on anything, sex included.

So good luck, and I hope you'll find the courage to have some fun soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met a couple of very nervous first timers and they enjoyed themselves, as we dont put any pressure on and just go with the flow and make you feel at ease straight away and relax into the situation. One guy was just like you and he had trouble however he just sat and watched and relaxed and eventually he got into the swing of things (excuse the pun) and my Wife settled him and he eventually had a lot of fun, later said how accomodating and friendly we were and that we had made them feel very unrushed and comfortable. Its about meeting the right people and ust letting things happen slowly. I too was shaking my first time, so I sat and watched the girls play then they brought me into the play slowly and wow. Have fun and enjoy youll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get nervous meeting new potential playmates, so it affects everyone!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Wouldn't a man who was shaking be quite useful? Saves on batteries! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou for all your kind words!

When we meet singles, Sharon always prefers the guy to be a little nervous rather than to over confident as thats how she feels to start with but my nerves are a little more than that!

Have you ever felt your washing machine when its on spin ?

I didn't have no problem down there at all, it was just me. I have a real phobia of cows and it was similar to that, not the running of bit, but the trembling and not being able to touch one

I think we just have to spend time getting to know a couple, a few socials and see how it goes

I would make an ideal vibrator for a couple of lesbians!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wouldn't a man who was shaking be quite useful? Saves on batteries! Lol"

Snap! lol

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Tony,

We still get a little nervous with new people.

Here is a tip, try and focus on the SENSUAL and the EROTIC during play.

Which means don't rush to the normal "mileposts", of playing with boobs, then fanny, then licking, then shagging (if you go that far).

Enjoy each part of your new partner, slowly and fully. You'll find you'll have a load more fun (so will she) and any nerves disappear as your going at a much slower pace. Maybe involve a feather and an ice-cube, or other imaginative stuff.

John

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Tony,

We still get a little nervous with new people.

Here is a tip, try and focus on the SENSUAL and the EROTIC during play.

Which means don't rush to the normal "mileposts", of playing with boobs, then fanny, then licking, then shagging (if you go that far).

John

I am a very sensual person so priority to me is the sensual side., I'm not afraid because I don't know how to do it!! this is something a little deeper than that lol

Tony

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We don't think there was anything wrong with your little "admission" above! Mrs R had only ever had sex with me right up to three years ago! Nowt wrong with it at all... What you need is to meet a gentle couple and chat, move on to sitting with the other partner and just hold hands or stroke legs....

Have a little kiss and work it up to a snog.... BUT... Always stop where you feel comfy!. Like someone else said, don't go for the naughty bits straight away! And if you need help, mail us lol

Fully understand that you like to watch as I (Pete) do too, but I also love to play! Hope you work things out for however you want to play...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't think there was anything wrong with your little "admission" above! Mrs R had only ever had sex with me right up to three years ago! Nowt wrong with it at all... What you need is to meet a gentle couple and chat, move on to sitting with the other partner and just hold hands or stroke legs....

Have a little kiss and work it up to a snog.... BUT... Always stop where you feel comfy!. Like someone else said, don't go for the naughty bits straight away! And if you need help, mail us lol

Fully understand that you like to watch as I (Pete) do too, but I also love to play! Hope you work things out for however you want to play..."

oooo I went to look at your profile and it said we are blocked, checked and you was in our block list

no idea though, don't think we ever spoke

But yes, your suggestion sounds spot on! do it bit by bit but know I can stop then the pressure will be less!

I have come to the conclusion though that I think its a phobia of having sex with strangers.

I never had a problem when I first met Shaz or my ex, but then I did wait a while to get to know them before having sex.

But dam, what a phobia! afraid to get my leg over!.. now if someone had said that to me before we got into the scene, I would of been nooo never..

Thanks for your post! getting some good advise from this thread, was unsure if to hit submit at first but now glad I did!

Tony

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Oh dear!!! Shaz and Tony... We haven't blocked you, but we have found we have been blocked by people too! I will have to try and find a way to unblock you... I know, I'll mail admin!!

xxxx

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