FabSwingers.com forum: Im entitled to see your face because i said so

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Messages from people who expect/demand face pics in the first message boil my piss, ‘got a face pic?’ It’ll never go anywhere but theyre demanding a face pic. Why? Doesn't matter how attractive you are if your personality is messy. Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost as bad as those who've been an absolute wonder to chat to for several days, you brave sending a face pic then get abused and blocked

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yup. There's several local users who do this and make new profiles regularly. I block them before they can message me now

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana

Exactly this.. we find it rude normally the ones with blurred or no pics.

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Not a rant at all that’s disgusting to hear that you are getting messages demanding a face pic. A face pic is a personal choice in my opinion and it’s the choice on the account holder if they wish to make their pictures public or private and it’s no one else’s business, you have every right to be annoyed as I know I would be too in the same situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Almost as bad as those who've been an absolute wonder to chat to for several days, you brave sending a face pic then get abused and blocked"

Im sorry to hear that but always check. Just say to ppl how do you feel about swapping face pics? To be nasty to someone for sending a face pic is wrong.

Granted someone has to go first and the other person may renege on the agreement to send a picture back. Physical attraction is important but an entitled attitude will also get you a knock back.

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Honestly I completely agree. I understand that people don't want to waste their time, but come on. First message, do you have a face pic? Yes, we do, hello to you too

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost as bad as those who've been an absolute wonder to chat to for several days, you brave sending a face pic then get abused and blocked"
this is why i can't even be bothered making conversations on here anymore think they expect me to be a model but sadly I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing how many profiles demand you send your face pic first. When they are not verified by the site, no verifications and one picture on their profile. Yeah OK ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been abused but blocked or meassge deleted. Ona rare occasion they reply with sorry you're not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been sent face pics from men and women in their opening message.A couple of times I have gotten abusive messages back as I didn't reply with my face pic. It really annoys as me as I'd not asked them for one.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

It absolutely is personal choice. I am happy to share a face pic when requested by persons of interest but I always insist it is reciprocated unconditionally whether I’m there cup of tea or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will happily send a face pic when the profile asks for one etc, I don't ask for a face pic, unless I'm very suspicious of the person as I have been recently. Something just didn't feel right, and yeah I get pictures are stolen etc but well! That conversation didn't last long!

People can be vile and it's sad that that's the only way they can think to have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had that a few times lately, and earlier today I had one send his address in the first message and then demand I give him my address.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I never ask to see a face pic or for friend request. I always wait until it's offered.

Nobody has got any obligation to anyone else.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm one of the picks your talking about lol... I always ask for a pic withing a few messages because I like to see who I'm talking to, I dont do it to be pushy or make anyone uncomfortable I just think fair is fair, you have access to what I look like so I should have the same

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Amazing how many profiles demand you send your face pic first. When they are not verified by the site, no verifications and one picture on their profile. Yeah OK ha ha"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m one of the people you are talking about lol

To be honest I have it listed on my profile to send a face pic with the first message. I very very rarely will private message anyone first and I just go through my inbox when looking for a new meet.

I don’t want to waste my time or their time chatting to someone I’m not physically attracted too. It’s pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm one of the picks your talking about lol... I always ask for a pic withing a few messages because I like to see who I'm talking to, I dont do it to be pushy or make anyone uncomfortable I just think fair is fair, you have access to what I look like so I should have the same "

Fir me its the ones without a face pic who put in their profile that they exoect a face pic. Double standard and entitled.

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By *acial giverMan
over a year ago

hull

Mostly women and couples I find. Read profile no face pic no chat yet they don't have one or won't send one bizzare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always expect a facepic within a couple of messages. If there’s no attraction then there really isn’t much point in wasting time.

I do however share mine though.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I get this, wind's me up too

I have lots of pics and those who ask me, 1st message for a face pic usually only have 1 or 2.

I'm of the belief if you want to see my face, send yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a couple that wanted to meet me that wanted a face pic. I sent it and asked for one in return which is only fair.

I was told they don't give them to people they have not met. They got pissed off when I then said I wouldn't meet them without seeing them first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this. I get a message out of the blue: “Hi babe. What are you up to? Got a face pic?”

I mean...really? You look on their profile and see that they put ‘no face pic,instant block’ or ‘don’t ask me/us for face pics’.

The double standards are terrible.

I’d rather chat for a bit before swapping pics-and that’s only if we are going to possibly meet.

It maintains privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the private message @superflash

Could of just wrote it on the forum though

Honestly couldn’t care if you don’t think my inner self is attractive or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree. Cant stand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messages from people who expect/demand face pics in the first message boil my piss, ‘got a face pic?’ It’ll never go anywhere but theyre demanding a face pic. Why? Doesn't matter how attractive you are if your personality is messy. Rant over. "
I'm with you on your rant (apart from the boiled piss bit!)... I have been asked to share face pic from people I have never spoken to before... And they have said if want talk to them then it non negotiable!!

... Yeah i will share my face pic with a random stranger on a swing site who i have no idea whether I can trust or not!!... Get outta town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my rule is plain and simple if you message me first then you send face pic first if i message you then ill sen first ...i stick to my rules no matter what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost as bad as those who've been an absolute wonder to chat to for several days, you brave sending a face pic then get abused and blockedthis is why i can't even be bothered making conversations on here anymore think they expect me to be a model but sadly I'm not

so your saying because your talking and getting on then a face pic should not change things ?? i agree no one should be abusive but ill not carry on chatting if theres no visual attraction at the very least...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This, exactly. I’m always polite about it though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people moan too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we ask for a face pic and are happy to send one, we'd have to find some attraction to the person we talk to as they would with us, its not just hey this is a sex site you should fuk anyone no matter what they look like for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people moan too much

Thanks for your insight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my rule is plain and simple if you message me first then you send face pic first if i message you then ill sen first ...i stick to my rules no matter what"

100% This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this demand regularly on profiles and in the updates. What makes me chuckle are the profiles that don’t actually have any photos just a fab silhouette.

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By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Its the ones without a single pic and less than a week on the site who demand face pics and then hurl abuse when turned down that do it for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this demand regularly on profiles and in the updates. What makes me chuckle are the profiles that don’t actually have any photos just a fab silhouette. "

As above, I send mine then usually all goes quiet, no surprises as no Adonis which is a shame but then if you're that shallow tough titties, I'm actually a nice bloke....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this demand regularly on profiles and in the updates. What makes me chuckle are the profiles that don’t actually have any photos just a fab silhouette.

As above, I send mine then usually all goes quiet, no surprises as no Adonis which is a shame but then if you're that shallow tough titties, I'm actually a nice bloke...."

I feel your pain man

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By *.k.2019Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

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By *.k.2019Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

We find it a little rude if people ask for a face picture without sending one.

Not a big deal, but if we were to ask to see someone, we would send a face picture first.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

What bugs me is when they message asking for a face pic but don’t send one, then when I suggest they do they get coy about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant stand it when they ask for a face pic, you state you dont like sending them straight away and they then kick off and call you fake for it... without having sent one themselves..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see this demand regularly on profiles and in the updates. What makes me chuckle are the profiles that don’t actually have any photos just a fab silhouette.

As above, I send mine then usually all goes quiet, no surprises as no Adonis which is a shame but then if you're that shallow tough titties, I'm actually a nice bloke...."

It doesn’t make someone shallow because they don’t find you attractive. You can’t be everyone’s type. It Doesn’t matter that you’re a nice bloke

People need to feel sexually attracted to you as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps there could be a website feature where you can swap face pics, instead of one person sending first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that demanding?

Or simply asking?

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

I agree not the first message but certainly within the first half dozen is appropriate.. Either that or you talk straight to phone or on webcam..it's too suspicious otherwise just to talk to a torso . Particularly given all the fakes and dreamers on here these days.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Hey ....nice body !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly women and couples I find. Read profile no face pic no chat yet they don't have one or won't send one bizzare "

What's bizarre about it?

If their profile says no face pic no chat,and that's not to your liking,don't message them,nothing bizarre about it.They are being clear and up front.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is that demanding?

Or simply asking?

For me asking is: ‘we’ve exchanged a few messages could we exchange face pics?’

For me demanding is ‘i need to see a face pic before continuing to talk to you, you should send pictures so i can decide’ (on message one or 2)

Asking i can cope with, but the implication that i should send a face picture in order to continue communications that I didnt initiate rankles a lot. Im not desperate. Contact someone who has face pics on show or states in their profile bio theyre liberal about sending them. Attraction is mutual and not just physical.

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By *acial giverMan
over a year ago

hull

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By *acial giverMan
over a year ago

hull

"Mostly women and couples I find. Read profile no face pic no chat yet they don't have one or won't send one bizzare

What's bizarre about it?

If their profile says no face pic no chat,and that's not to your liking,don't message them,nothing bizarre about it.They are being clear and up front."

They want pic but won't send one after you send one is bizzard to me maybe not you

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I may have to start hiding my ugly mug, it doesn't do me any favours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here. Ironic that on social media it's the unrequested cock shot, herr it's the unrequested face pic with the demand to see yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly women and couples I find. Read profile no face pic no chat yet they don't have one or won't send one bizzare

What's bizarre about it?

If their profile says no face pic no chat,and that's not to your liking,don't message them,nothing bizarre about it.They are being clear and up front.

They want pic but won't send one after you send one is bizzard to me maybe not you"

Have they said they won't send?

On their profile or when you asked them?

If so,and it's not to your liking,don't send yours

Nobody is being forced to do anything they don't want

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

I understand that a face is important, it's obviously part of the attraction ( among having a GSOH like Peter Kay and a 9 inch cock, sadly neither I have) so I personally only give photo of face once I have conversed a few times and if requested. I have sent messages in the past and if I'm not their type from my body photos and profile, I doubt my face will be a game changer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that demanding?

Or simply asking?

For me asking is: ‘we’ve exchanged a few messages could we exchange face pics?’

For me demanding is ‘i need to see a face pic before continuing to talk to you, you should send pictures so i can decide’ (on message one or 2)

But you don't have to send,people can demand whatever they want, likewise others can decide wether to comply or not

We all have choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly women and couples I find. Read profile no face pic no chat yet they don't have one or won't send one bizzare

What's bizarre about it?

If their profile says no face pic no chat,and that's not to your liking,don't message them,nothing bizarre about it.They are being clear and up front.

They want pic but won't send one after you send one is bizzard to me maybe not you"

I would imagine if you sent yours and they don’t send one back it’s because they are not attracted to you.

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