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By *orkie_one OP   Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

i just dont understand what they get out of it not only is it bad for them if they stay around (which most dont ) but it makes this site look bad too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve had our fair share over the years, we organised a gang bang, all were very keen, we invited 15 expecting 10 to show, only one did, and you wander why single guys have a bad rep on here

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan

Girls as well. Was meeting a girl who had given me her address to come to. Get there and its a flat on a buzzer. Guys answers and is oblivious as to who "Lucy" is.

Message her and she blocks me.

It was a new profile and it screamed fake. If it's too good to be true it usually is!!

But I've also been ghosted by couples before so it happens to us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve often found that the people that call others “time wasters” have unrealistic expectations or a sense of entitlement.

I’ve been called it a few times, mainly by people that I turn down, people I can’t meet at the drop of a hat, or at the point when I ask for a photo...

Seems unreasonable behaviour to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

If you reading this, I have wasted your time. You are welcome X

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan


"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

If you reading this, I have wasted your time. You are welcome X "

You've inspired me to keep messaging! Lol

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

It depends on why you think someone is a time waster.

If they dont turn up to arranged meets or give a false address then fair enough.

I have had men say I'm a time waster and even name me in their status because I tell them they are not for me after a few messages. This is not wasting time this is called being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Balboa springs to mind

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Hatfield

I think I would define a timewaster as someone who leads you along to think something is going to happen and then lets you down at the last moment - sometimes the very last moment. I know some people who have received the dreaded text message 30 minutes or more after the get together should have started to say cannot attend.

I would not regard someone asking for a phone number, photo, or saying "not for me" etc as a timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

If you reading this, I have wasted your time. You are welcome X

You've inspired me to keep messaging! Lol "

I failed again then

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I've had people call me a time waster as I won't play without a social first and won't go meeting random men in the early hours of the morning that I've not even spoken too before

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As we can't meet at the moment, it's impossible to find them.

As we won't be compatible with 99% of the people - and a similar number in reverse - we do have to communicate with many, many more people than we will ever be appropriate to meet with. That's investment, not time wasting, Time wasting is knowing that you want something but not investing enough to ever have a chance of getting it.

Each dead end is a life saver. You pick yourself up and put your energy elsewhere. Be grateful for clarity of being inappropriate

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"i just dont understand what they get out of it not only is it bad for them if they stay around (which most dont ) but it makes this site look bad too "

For curiosity, what is your definition of a timewaster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our definition of a timewaater would be someone who doesn't show up to an arranged meet. Or someone who pretends to be a couple, but turns out to be a single man.

Other than that, people can stop messaging for a multitude of reasons, all of which can happen, we wouldn't class someone going off the radar as a time waster.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’ve been called a time waster after replying to a message and saying ‘no thanks’ and also being ‘rude’ for not replying to a message.

Can’t win

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"As we can't meet at the moment, it's impossible to find them.

As we won't be compatible with 99% of the people - and a similar number in reverse - we do have to communicate with many, many more people than we will ever be appropriate to meet with. That's investment, not time wasting, Time wasting is knowing that you want something but not investing enough to ever have a chance of getting it.

Each dead end is a life saver. You pick yourself up and put your energy elsewhere. Be grateful for clarity of being inappropriate "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been called a time waster after replying to a message and saying ‘no thanks’ and also being ‘rude’ for not replying to a message.

Can’t win "

I think that says a lot more about the people being rude and calling you a timewaster than it does you!

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

No shows are time wasters plus poor excuses to cancel "the hamster just died" etc

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"I've had people call me a time waster as I won't play without a social first and won't go meeting random men in the early hours of the morning that I've not even spoken too before"

I've experienced the same.

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By *hamCouple30Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We must have been lucky as we have always had 100% real deal.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We have been called time wasters for turning men down, when we pointed out we have over 50 verifications, he seid no you haven't stop making thing up then blocked us lol all a bit strange if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

If you reading this, I have wasted your time. You are welcome X "

I love a good Rocky quote

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve had many time wasters from Fab and they were definitely time wasters.

It’s one of the reasons now I don’t meet from here.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"I’ve had many time wasters from Fab and they were definitely time wasters.

It’s one of the reasons now I don’t meet from here. "

Us too, we like to meet people at clubs, if they don't turn up you can still have fun

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve had many time wasters from Fab and they were definitely time wasters.

It’s one of the reasons now I don’t meet from here.

Us too, we like to meet people at clubs, if they don't turn up you can still have fun "

When it’s safe to meet and clubs are open, myself and my friend are going to meet people at clubs for the reason you have just stated

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"I’ve had many time wasters from Fab and they were definitely time wasters.

It’s one of the reasons now I don’t meet from here.

Us too, we like to meet people at clubs, if they don't turn up you can still have fun

When it’s safe to meet and clubs are open, myself and my friend are going to meet people at clubs for the reason you have just stated "

Normally when you suggest it most say clubs are not for them, get rid of loads of time wasters

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I don't get taken in by "fake profiles" or suffer from "time wasters" because I am realistic and apply common sense to anything on fab. 3 word messages or replies is an indication for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve often found that the people that call others “time wasters” have unrealistic expectations or a sense of entitlement.

I’ve been called it a few times, mainly by people that I turn down, people I can’t meet at the drop of a hat, or at the point when I ask for a photo...

Seems unreasonable behaviour to me "

I've had this too. I had a couple I was chatting with pre Covid that didn't want to send me a couple of recent clear face pics. When I politely declined their offer they called me a time waster. Have they read my veris? ..Lol I'm hardly a time waster or a fake account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive dealt with timewasters. Going silent when comes to meeting then block me. Another 1 rearranged and did the same. And another I listened to the lies and rearranged 3 (yes 3) times. I gave up chatting.

I have also been called a timewaster mainly by men who throw their toys out the pram when I say they are not for me, who hasn't made an effort to make conversation first and asks for pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no thanks or no interest does not = timewater

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