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By *obblybits OP Couple
over a year ago

huddersfield

just wondering what you do if you bump into someone that youve swapped with- especially in a club environment- in a normal environment? do you wave and say hello?

also, were going to our first couples night where we havent really arranged to meet specifically with another couple whats the best way to try to get involved with other couples that have started and have an open door? do you knock and ask if its ok or go in and just surprise them?

martyn

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

depends if it's a club or a private party, but either way a polite" may we" wouldn't go a miss, at least you'll know how the land lie's, or the people your approaching lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just wondering what you do if you bump into someone that youve swapped with- especially in a club environment- in a normal environment? do you wave and say hello?

martyn"

If we bump into people we've played with we always speak but neither party takes it for granted that you'll play together again - just relax as you would in a normal environment.

In a club, just read body language, be friendly and chat but never assume that because some one talks to you that they'll play with you, again read body language, flirt, be a bit touchy etc. The best advice I can give is to relax, be yourself and you'll be fine. We go to clubs, parties and have meetings at home regularly but still get nervous! Have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, if i saw someone we'd played with in a normal environment, i wouldn't let on as you don't know who they're with - children, vanilla friends etc may ask who we are

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

"Oh, if i saw someone we'd played with in a normal environment, i wouldn't let on as you don't know who they're with - children, vanilla friends etc may ask who we are"

saw a cpl i had played with in asda the other week and just smiled and a small nod then got a wink back , at the check out found a note in me basket saying ring us tonight

never saw them drop it in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only met one lady in her work environment instead of my bed - we behaved like friends, just normal chat as freinds would no mention of sex but I was thinging of her naked......thats a bloke for you!

Frosty

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

"just wondering what you do if you bump into someone that youve swapped with- especially in a club environment- in a normal environment? do you wave and say hello?

martyn"

I reckon the right thing to do in an everyday environment is absolutely nothing. You can never be 100% certain about what's going on in the other person's life at that moment.

I had, amongst others, a single lady and a single guy at my home one evening. They'd met before (many times as it turned out) but neither acknowledged that fact because they didn't know everyone else at the meeting and couldn't be sure of each others situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just wondering what you do if you bump into someone that youve swapped with- especially in a club environment- in a normal environment? do you wave and say hello?martyn"

If I see a previous playmate, I would always prefer to say 'hello', rather than blank them. Yes, if it was outside of a club situation, it would be a vague hello, in a kinda "hello, I think I recognise your face?" kinda way. I.e. not mentioning swinging/sex at all. That way, if I'm saying hello to someone who DOESN'T want to be recognised, they can either blank me or politely say hello and move on, with the assumption that they might know me from some other walk of life (the gym, teachers of their kids, etc).

To me, ignoring previous playmates is not very polite, and I try not to do it.

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

I'd rather ignore someone and be thought impolite (as if anyone would think that of me

) than risk unintentionally placing someone in a potentially embarassing situation.

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