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M/F Couples ...why are 90% of females bi?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a married hotwife who meets single guys. I have a regular that I've been seeing for a few years but he doesn't have much luck with the single ladies on here, so my hubby suggested I set up a couples profile with him to get us both a bit of action.

The thing is though, when I search M/F couples in my area, around 90% of couples (142) the woman are listed as bi-sexual/curious, but the vast majority of the men are straight. 90%-ish percent seems suspiciously high, I never know so many women like fanny!

So what's going on here? Are the guys pressuring the women into "performing" for their own amusement, or are most females really bi?

I know I'm not! lol x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I'd say in quite a few cases the husband is more keen for the wife to be bi than she is herself.

Id put money on there being far less women who are bi on here than is actually stated, same as I'd say there are actually alot less straight men on here than their profiles state.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I'd say in quite a few cases the husband is more keen for the wife to be bi than she is herself.

Id put money on there being far less women who are bi on here than is actually stated, same as I'd say there are actually alot less straight men on here than their profiles state."

This.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

The implication seems to be that most women only do what their men expect them to do. Are the men who claim to be bi only bi because their wives tell them to be?

When we played in clubs the majority of women were, like me, more than happy to enjoy girl on girl fun, with or without their partner watching. The boundaries of those that weren't were respected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say there are actually alot less straight men on here than their profiles state."

Tell me about it

I've resorted to ignoring all guys who hide their friends list. It's drastic, but I'm all out of options x

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

90 percent of men are bi too. They just don’t admit it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the men on here are bi for some reason yet pretend they are straight maybe due to pressure etc or still afraid to admit it in 2021. Quiet sad if you ask me. If you are bi why lie as no one cares nowadays unless they are scared of there wives leaving them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheila is straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The implication seems to be that most women only do what their men expect them to do. Are the men who claim to be bi only bi because their wives tell them to be?

When we played in clubs the majority of women were, like me, more than happy to enjoy girl on girl fun, with or without their partner watching. The boundaries of those that weren't were respected. "

Hi, no it's not the fact that some of the women are bi that I find suspicious, it's the percentage. Like 90% women, but only 20% men. It suggests coercion. x

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"The implication seems to be that most women only do what their men expect them to do. Are the men who claim to be bi only bi because their wives tell them to be?

When we played in clubs the majority of women were, like me, more than happy to enjoy girl on girl fun, with or without their partner watching. The boundaries of those that weren't were respected.

Hi, no it's not the fact that some of the women are bi that I find suspicious, it's the percentage. Like 90% women, but only 20% men. It suggests coercion. x"

It might well do, but it might also suggest that being bi is more socially acceptable for women, even in swinging circles, than it is for men.

There's probably several factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poppy is happy to play with a woman but openly admits she prefers cock. Best of both worlds.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sheila is straight "

Why the sad face, she's getting what she likes.

Go Sheila! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only speak for myself but my husband has very little interest in watching me with another woman. We used to just meet single men on here as he loves watching me with cock. When we started meeting couples I realized how much I love the female body and the connection I have with a beautiful woman. I don't know what there is not to like about women's bodies. That said, if I met a couple where the woman was straight I'd of course be fully respectful of that and would be more than happy to just play with the guys. I'm currently working up to asking my hubby if I can have a 1:1 meet with a woman....is that really selfish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The implication seems to be that most women only do what their men expect them to do. Are the men who claim to be bi only bi because their wives tell them to be?

When we played in clubs the majority of women were, like me, more than happy to enjoy girl on girl fun, with or without their partner watching. The boundaries of those that weren't were respected.

Hi, no it's not the fact that some of the women are bi that I find suspicious, it's the percentage. Like 90% women, but only 20% men. It suggests coercion. x

It might well do, but it might also suggest that being bi is more socially acceptable for women, even in swinging circles, than it is for men.

There's probably several factors. "

I dont really believe that. Why is it not socially acceptable for men to be bi? No one cares nowadays. Those who lie about being straight are only hurting themselves no one else. As long as they are not stringing women along in pretending to be straight i dont see why anyone would care if a guy is bi sexual in 2021

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter


"I'm a married hotwife who meets single guys. I have a regular that I've been seeing for a few years but he doesn't have much luck with the single ladies on here, so my hubby suggested I set up a couples profile with him to get us both a bit of action.

The thing is though, when I search M/F couples in my area, around 90% of couples (142) the woman are listed as bi-sexual/curious, but the vast majority of the men are straight. 90%-ish percent seems suspiciously high, I never know so many women like fanny!

So what's going on here? Are the guys pressuring the women into "performing" for their own amusement, or are most females really bi?

I know I'm not! lol x "

This is exactly what me and the wife have thought.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Well as we are down as a Bi fem couple the fem is Bi and the main reason we joined the scene was so she could explore her Bi side more but we've explored and she now quite likes a added cock for fun ! and 100% agree on the straight men thing as met and know a few openly bi men who get messages from men who are mostly ( 90 odd % they reckon) down as straight ?? and we have also found that some couples who put down the fem is bi the male half then takes it as given that he'll have sex with mrs4 if the fems have fun ?.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I stopped looking for couples because of this. Most I spoke toit was all about me and the woman, and the man wasn't getting involved, just watching.

If I want a couple I want them both.

If I wanted just a woman I would look for one.

My ex used to go on about me with another woman but another man was a hard no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of men ( not all) are just liers and cheats etc so lieing about being straight when they are really bi wouldnt surprise me with a lot of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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it's not the fact that some of the women are bi that I find suspicious, it's the percentage. Like 90% women, but only 20% men. It suggests coercion. x

It might well do, but it might also suggest that being bi is more socially acceptable for women, even in swinging circles, than it is for men.

There's probably several factors. "

Or it might even suggest that it's unacceptable for women to be seen as straight in swinging circles.

I know which theory I'm leaning towards x

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well "bi" is an annoyingly wide range, and women are pretty. Boobs are soft... Whilst I'm not one, I've zero doubt it's far more appealing for an average woman to kiss a girl to see if she likes it than the male equivalent is. Indeed various couples we've met, the woman is significantly more appealing at face value than the man is...

Certanily plenty of shitty men and all that "putting a show on" grossness, but women are generally far easier to have a go with than men.

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By *ohn110474Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I’m bi. I think it’s less acceptable for men to be bi than women in general life and in the lifestyle. Lots of guys enjoy seeing the girls play together and accept that but how many women would like to see the guys playing together. I bet the numbers are far less

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We were married twenty years before we started swinging and I didn’t find out then that wife was bi after some group fun .and she said she didn’t realise herself .so we now prefer hotwife fun or ffm fun if we look for meets outside of club and party’s ,I can honestly say my wife is so much hornier after playing with a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It shouldn't be the case, but I do think there is still a stigma for men of being attracted to other men. Look at the stick openly gay sportsmen still get? Homophobic slurs are so widespread etc. I think a lot of men see it as a contradiction to their masculinity to be attracted to men. You'd think it wouldn't be the case on fab where hopefully people are more open minded, but I'm not sure?

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We are a straight couple ... have seen similar but not 90% level as you suggest. Suspect that women in this space are quite open minded and are looking into "other options" whereas husbands might be not. Respect is the key. At no stage have we met couples interested in us that insist on bi play either in Madrid or UK where we play.x Anne

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By *entCouple12Couple
over a year ago

south kent

We joined the site BECAUSE I’m bi (Mrs). Our hope was to find a woman to join us both. And play with us both but a lot we speak to want a woman for a show or to play with their guy. Just about finding the right balance for everyone and what people are comfortable with. I know I would enjoy myself if was a with a woman because her hubby has asked her to. No fun for anyone

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It shouldn't be the case, but I do think there is still a stigma for men of being attracted to other men. Look at the stick openly gay sportsmen still get? Homophobic slurs are so widespread etc. I think a lot of men see it as a contradiction to their masculinity to be attracted to men. You'd think it wouldn't be the case on fab where hopefully people are more open minded, but I'm not sure?"

I agree, BUT on the other side of that the average wife is WAY more immediately physically appealing that their other half here... and in life in general. Whilst it's all artificial, society rates womens physical appearance as far more important a part of attractiveness than men. This is "fine" when you get to know a new partner over days / weeks / years but for a "hey guys, fancy playing?" situation, it's very reasonable to find no reason to want to get with the guy, as this is much more about the physical side than in a normal relationship where he's valued for different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us cherry being bi is something that I knew before we came on here, however being in a relationship where we are involved in this life style has given me the confidence to explore urges I have had. Not sure I would have opened up to them without my amazing lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It shouldn't be the case, but I do think there is still a stigma for men of being attracted to other men. Look at the stick openly gay sportsmen still get? Homophobic slurs are so widespread etc. I think a lot of men see it as a contradiction to their masculinity to be attracted to men. You'd think it wouldn't be the case on fab where hopefully people are more open minded, but I'm not sure?"

I agree with this, for me it's not even male or fake but I am attracted to the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be interesting to know what percentage of bi women are here on their own for bi experiences. I suspect that's a fairly low percentage

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It would be interesting to know what percentage of bi women are here on their own for bi experiences. I suspect that's a fairly low percentage "

What is reasonable to take from the fact that that's what *you* suspect? You're listed as straight, so it's fair to say your own view of the situation is going to be significantly influencing it, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It shouldn't be the case, but I do think there is still a stigma for men of being attracted to other men. Look at the stick openly gay sportsmen still get? Homophobic slurs are so widespread etc. I think a lot of men see it as a contradiction to their masculinity to be attracted to men. You'd think it wouldn't be the case on fab where hopefully people are more open minded, but I'm not sure?"

I see this with bi friends and struggle to see why in 2021 so many men pretend to be staight when they are not. I think like you say its dents there masculity to admit they fancy men too and also dont want to be labelled "a puff" even tho no one cares i think they feel they would get shame from friends and family. If soneone is married and they have found out over the years they are bi i think if they admit it then they would lose there wives etc so have to pretend they are straight. Dont agree with lieing but i understand why they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be interesting to know what percentage of bi women are here on their own for bi experiences. I suspect that's a fairly low percentage

What is reasonable to take from the fact that that's what *you* suspect? You're listed as straight, so it's fair to say your own view of the situation is going to be significantly influencing it, no?"

Well since it's only my view then it would be absolutely reasonable to take that from it

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Without going too deeply into it, there are a few reasons for this; performative, expectations, stigma, societal influences and male sexual gaze.

Female bisexuality is sexualised by the male gaze whereas male bisexuality is seen as dirty and emasculating. This means that women that are bisexual are ‘accepted’ but their sexuality is seen as performative, whereas men are derided and shunned.

I’ve had experiences of being abused and told that bisexual men are less masculine, mainly because of these opinions, many guys won’t admit to being bisexual.

I could go into it far deeper but that’s the short of it

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"I'm a married hotwife who meets single guys. I have a regular that I've been seeing for a few years but he doesn't have much luck with the single ladies on here, so my hubby suggested I set up a couples profile with him to get us both a bit of action.

The thing is though, when I search M/F couples in my area, around 90% of couples (142) the woman are listed as bi-sexual/curious, but the vast majority of the men are straight. 90%-ish percent seems suspiciously high, I never know so many women like fanny!

So what's going on here? Are the guys pressuring the women into "performing" for their own amusement, or are most females really bi?

I know I'm not! lol x "

Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Maybe on here the ladies are more open experimental to girl girl ,,,, bi curious etc.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise I was bi until I started swinging. I always suspected, then played with a couple including the female and enjoyed it, then started meeting single women. I would say that more women are bi than men, and in the swinging community I'd go as far as saying the majority of women are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be interesting to know what percentage of bi women are here on their own for bi experiences. I suspect that's a fairly low percentage "

I agree. Many are 'pretend bi' to attract or please men. Or only play bi when men are around and wouldn't have a 1:1 with another woman.

Some are truly bi.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"The implication seems to be that most women only do what their men expect them to do. Are the men who claim to be bi only bi because their wives tell them to be?

When we played in clubs the majority of women were, like me, more than happy to enjoy girl on girl fun, with or without their partner watching. The boundaries of those that weren't were respected.

Hi, no it's not the fact that some of the women are bi that I find suspicious, it's the percentage. Like 90% women, but only 20% men. It suggests coercion. x

It might well do, but it might also suggest that being bi is more socially acceptable for women, even in swinging circles, than it is for men.

There's probably several factors.

I dont really believe that. Why is it not socially acceptable for men to be bi? No one cares nowadays. Those who lie about being straight are only hurting themselves no one else. As long as they are not stringing women along in pretending to be straight i dont see why anyone would care if a guy is bi sexual in 2021"

People do care and it influences their choices, to the extent that guys who aren't straight are still perceived as not as good or attractive to many.here and in the wider world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella."

Almost correct yes, I haven't set an account up yet. While researching the other couple's profiles in my area I realised that in 86% (I've done the exact math now) of the couples aged 30-50, the female was listed as bi-sexual or bi-curious.

Of course, it's none of my business whatever someone is bi or not, there's room for everyone here whatever their desire. I was simply pointing out that 86% of women in a M/F couple relationship identifying as "bi" does seem rather high, especially when so few men do.

You'd think that with all these bi females out there the'd be more bi-female profiles, but there really aren't that many in my area. Out of curiosity, I searched for F/F couples in the same area and age group, and I got ZERO results!

Call me a cynic, but it's as though the majority of the females are only bi/curious when there are male eyes watching! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We was surprised when we came into the scene. I think the men can't get erection until they see some lesbian action ,so the wives have to abide by it. We have witnessed couple of times , when the bifem starts, the husband starts wanking and making strange noises . We never enjoyed bifem show and always request to keep the girl on girl play to minimum,infact there won't be any pussy play between the girls at all .

Sorry for females who are genuine bisexuals but rest just want a live lesbian porn show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella.

Almost correct yes, I haven't set an account up yet. While researching the other couple's profiles in my area I realised that in 86% (I've done the exact math now) of the couples aged 30-50, the female was listed as bi-sexual or bi-curious.

Of course, it's none of my business whatever someone is bi or not, there's room for everyone here whatever their desire. I was simply pointing out that 86% of women in a M/F couple relationship identifying as "bi" does seem rather high, especially when so few men do.

You'd think that with all these bi females out there the'd be more bi-female profiles, but there really aren't that many in my area. Out of curiosity, I searched for F/F couples in the same area and age group, and I got ZERO results!

Call me a cynic, but it's as though the majority of the females are only bi/curious when there are male eyes watching! x"

Don't forget there are plenty of other sites to meet sexual partners. If I (female) was looking to meet a female partner I wouldn't use fab. I don't think fab is representative of all society.

Also I really struggle with the assumption that so many women are only pretending to be bi for men's enjoyment. Maybe cos I just couldn't be sexually intimate with someone if I wasn't sexually attracted to them. Actually before we started meeting couples I liked the idea of kissing a woman and playing with her breasts but couldn't imagine myself licking pussy. Turns out I'm a biiiiiiig fan

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

We are both bi, however, we don't go looking for it. We are happy for some same sex fun if it happens but more than happy with sticking to our usual roles.

ST loves a good pair of boobs as much as me, but she's more than happy with watching me enjoy them. She doesn't need to get physical with another girl to enjoy her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without going too deeply into it, there are a few reasons for this; performative, expectations, stigma, societal influences and male sexual gaze.

Female bisexuality is sexualised by the male gaze whereas male bisexuality is seen as dirty and emasculating. This means that women that are bisexual are ‘accepted’ but their sexuality is seen as performative, whereas men are derided and shunned.

I’ve had experiences of being abused and told that bisexual men are less masculine, mainly because of these opinions, many guys won’t admit to being bisexual.

I could go into it far deeper but that’s the short of it

"

The most spot on genuine reply i have read. Thank you that poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are both bi, however, we don't go looking for it. We are happy for some same sex fun if it happens but more than happy with sticking to our usual roles.

ST loves a good pair of boobs as much as me, but she's more than happy with watching me enjoy them. She doesn't need to get physical with another girl to enjoy her. "

May i ask then how come its ok for her to enjoy fun with another woman but you wont enjoy cock for her? Just curious no hate

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

When we started out neither were even curious, then out the blue Mrs and another woman kissed just on the moment.

As the song goes I kissed a girl and I liked it!!

Guessing she is more bi friendly than curious but it is only in the moment thing not a must and always her choice never a males either me or any other!

Bi males are a complete turn off for us both and remain so.

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"We are both bi, however, we don't go looking for it. We are happy for some same sex fun if it happens but more than happy with sticking to our usual roles.

ST loves a good pair of boobs as much as me, but she's more than happy with watching me enjoy them. She doesn't need to get physical with another girl to enjoy her.

May I ask then how come its ok for her to enjoy fun with another woman but you wont enjoy cock for her? Just curious no hate "

I haven't said that at all. I'm happy to enjoy a nice cock. The original post was about female bisexuality, so just giving our perspective on that.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Scarlet is most definitely bi and not something I have pushed her into for my enjoyment. She likes the feel and touch of a female body and vice versa she loves to be felt and touched by a female. She has had female lovers before I met her.

I on the other hand have no interest in a male, not homophobic but have no desire whatsoever to suck a guys cock or have penitrative sex with him. Happy to be naked in a room with other men and to share a lady or 3 lol

We have met both bi and straight people of both sexes and boundaries have always been respected.

Of the bi people we have met I have never had the feeling they were pushed into it by their partners.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

90%? Wow! About 50% of profiles who contact us have a bi/bi-curious Lady, about 50% have a bi-Man. Many Ladies are just bi-playful, so are not very Bi at all. So, genuine bi-sexual Ladies would probably be no more than 10%.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

I think it’s a bit of a stereotype that men are turned on by lesbians. I’ve always seen it as two women who aren’t interested in me, and there are enough of them anyway

That said; K is bi, but there’s no pressure from me, I enjoy watching her with other guys more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the point still stands that many men are afraid to admit they are bi so pretend they are straight. Also a some men ( not all!) Are happy to get the women to do stuff with another woman yet wont do stuff with another man. Double standards in my book

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


" Also a some men ( not all!) Are happy to get the women to do stuff with another woman yet wont do stuff with another man. Double standards in my book"

Well I can’t speak for every couple, but I’m not “getting” her to do anything with either sex. We are here for fun, and if it’s fun we’ll do it, coercion isn’t fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Also a some men ( not all!) Are happy to get the women to do stuff with another woman yet wont do stuff with another man. Double standards in my book

Well I can’t speak for every couple, but I’m not “getting” her to do anything with either sex. We are here for fun, and if it’s fun we’ll do it, coercion isn’t fun."

Totally agree and thats why i stressed not all couples but sadly a lot are forced to stroke the ego of the man.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"I stopped looking for couples because of this. Most I spoke toit was all about me and the woman, and the man wasn't getting involved, just watching.

If I want a couple I want them both.

If I wanted just a woman I would look for one.

My ex used to go on about me with another woman but another man was a hard no.

"

Exactly this.

Why would I want to meet a couple if I am straight? I am much better off meeting single guys.

I am quite happy to meet couples with a straight fem socially, but sexually, she has to be bi. And there has to be all round attraction etc-

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


" Also a some men ( not all!) Are happy to get the women to do stuff with another woman yet wont do stuff with another man. Double standards in my book

Well I can’t speak for every couple, but I’m not “getting” her to do anything with either sex. We are here for fun, and if it’s fun we’ll do it, coercion isn’t fun.

Totally agree and thats why i stressed not all couples but sadly a lot are forced to stroke the ego of the man."

Do you really think that? I’d be surprised if that was the case. I can’t imagine anyone indulging in sexual activity with someone of the same sex if they weren’t attracted to that sex.

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By *umptuous DuoCouple
over a year ago

Teesside

We got into the scene by the wife saying she was curious to play with another woman, I always thought she was straight until this point, so we started visiting clubs to try and facilitate this happening, well several years and numerous experiences later has confirmed she is definitely bi sexual.

I’m happy she had the courage to admit to her desires as not only has it enhanced our sex life but it has made her more comfortable with her sexuality which in turn makes me more content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likely there are a lot of bi single women on fab but being expected to put on a show for guys or if you find a lady to play with alone, its not long before a boyf watching is mentioned, thats very off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Also a some men ( not all!) Are happy to get the women to do stuff with another woman yet wont do stuff with another man. Double standards in my book

Well I can’t speak for every couple, but I’m not “getting” her to do anything with either sex. We are here for fun, and if it’s fun we’ll do it, coercion isn’t fun.

Totally agree and thats why i stressed not all couples but sadly a lot are forced to stroke the ego of the man.

Do you really think that? I’d be surprised if that was the case. I can’t imagine anyone indulging in sexual activity with someone of the same sex if they weren’t attracted to that sex. "

Sadly i think you would be surprised what some will do to please the other. Also i find women lie about being bi to please the man and men lie about being straight because admiting they fancy men dents there ego and masculinity ( in my opinion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of confirmation bias going on in this thread. If you want to believe there's widespread coercion of wives then no doubt you'll find the 'evidence' to support your view. It's hogwash of course, but don't let that stand in your way

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Because heteexible or sapiosexual are not available preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a lot of confirmation bias going on in this thread. If you want to believe there's widespread coercion of wives then no doubt you'll find the 'evidence' to support your view. It's hogwash of course, but don't let that stand in your way "

Tbf, you don't really need to look too far to find confirmation

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"I stopped looking for couples because of this. Most I spoke toit was all about me and the woman, and the man wasn't getting involved, just watching.

If I want a couple I want them both.

If I wanted just a woman I would look for one.

My ex used to go on about me with another woman but another man was a hard no.

Exactly this.

Why would I want to meet a couple if I am straight? I am much better off meeting single guys.

I am quite happy to meet couples with a straight fem socially, but sexually, she has to be bi. And there has to be all round attraction etc- "

I suppose we're the other way. We, as a couple, like to meet ladies. There's no pressure for girl on girl, but is an option if there's an all round attraction. ST is a voyeur as much (if not more) as she is bi, she's happy to watch and enjoy and being involved if it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't speak for everyone else but as for me I'm bi-curious and have played with 2 women and loved it, I like the girl on girl play when we meet a couple as much as playing with the male.

Her x

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By *imandLiz14Couple
over a year ago

Needham

Opposite way round for us, fem 100% straight, male 100% bisexual

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By *weedeldumbCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Leeds & Harrogate

It's an interesting observation and one that I've come across too. In fact both of us have and have often discussed it.

My theory, after many years of doing this, is this...

Swinging is a niche market as it were. Only a specific minority of the demographic indulge but in your question you are applying your percentages to the whole of society. That I believe is incorrect to do as it distorts what the actual figures are.

You're right. The vast majority of couples are straight male with bi female. Why this is I'll leave to the psychologists (like you say there could be yielding to a dominant partner and all that... prob way too deep to simplify here in a few words) but its a fact.

It is also a fact that there are 1000's of men for each woman/couple on here. Its a fact. We ALL know this to be true. And this is also a clear distortion of the 'swinger' demographic of a ratio of say for examples sake 3000:1 when compared with the 'real life' one of 51:49

So yes the ratios and balances are - on the face of it - out of sync. But like I say its because we're not comparing apples for apples. All you can do is keep the perspective that it is niche, select groups on here. They're not the 'mainstream' as it were.

Another example of this is anal sex. We've found quite a few ladies on here who are very much fans and love to indulge. I'd say overall way, way more than over 50%. Yet I'd say when I compare 'real life' and I think of ex girlfriends and partners and the like the % who enjoy anal is way, way down

most likely in single figures and they're very much the minority.

So I guess what I'm saying in a round about way is that it could also be the case that its couples with a straight male and bi female who are attracted to meeting the same so therefore take the plunge to try swinging. I think it needs to be considered from both those angles.

Hope this makes sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella.

Almost correct yes, I haven't set an account up yet. While researching the other couple's profiles in my area I realised that in 86% (I've done the exact math now) of the couples aged 30-50, the female was listed as bi-sexual or bi-curious.

Of course, it's none of my business whatever someone is bi or not, there's room for everyone here whatever their desire. I was simply pointing out that 86% of women in a M/F couple relationship identifying as "bi" does seem rather high, especially when so few men do.

You'd think that with all these bi females out there the'd be more bi-female profiles, but there really aren't that many in my area. Out of curiosity, I searched for F/F couples in the same area and age group, and I got ZERO results!

Call me a cynic, but it's as though the majority of the females are only bi/curious when there are male eyes watching! x

Don't forget there are plenty of other sites to meet sexual partners. If I (female) was looking to meet a female partner I wouldn't use fab. I don't think fab is representative of all society.

Also I really struggle with the assumption that so many women are only pretending to be bi for men's enjoyment. Maybe cos I just couldn't be sexually intimate with someone if I wasn't sexually attracted to them. Actually before we started meeting couples I liked the idea of kissing a woman and playing with her breasts but couldn't imagine myself licking pussy. Turns out I'm a biiiiiiig fan "

It's funny you mention this because Mrs Shorter is always on the lookout for a bi fem, for herself. There's very very few on here in our area and other sites pretty much seem missing.

She had a single profile on here where she had a small amount of success but mostly other fems would 'introduce' a husband or boyfriend so gave up with that account

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Could be considered gay for my love of pussy, more women are carpet bi rather than bisexual, I want to fuck mot put a show on, so have to bottom out the real deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella.

Almost correct yes, I haven't set an account up yet. While researching the other couple's profiles in my area I realised that in 86% (I've done the exact math now) of the couples aged 30-50, the female was listed as bi-sexual or bi-curious.

Of course, it's none of my business whatever someone is bi or not, there's room for everyone here whatever their desire. I was simply pointing out that 86% of women in a M/F couple relationship identifying as "bi" does seem rather high, especially when so few men do.

You'd think that with all these bi females out there the'd be more bi-female profiles, but there really aren't that many in my area. Out of curiosity, I searched for F/F couples in the same area and age group, and I got ZERO results!

Call me a cynic, but it's as though the majority of the females are only bi/curious when there are male eyes watching! x

Don't forget there are plenty of other sites to meet sexual partners. If I (female) was looking to meet a female partner I wouldn't use fab. I don't think fab is representative of all society.

Also I really struggle with the assumption that so many women are only pretending to be bi for men's enjoyment. Maybe cos I just couldn't be sexually intimate with someone if I wasn't sexually attracted to them. Actually before we started meeting couples I liked the idea of kissing a woman and playing with her breasts but couldn't imagine myself licking pussy. Turns out I'm a biiiiiiig fan

It's funny you mention this because Mrs Shorter is always on the lookout for a bi fem, for herself. There's very very few on here in our area and other sites pretty much seem missing.

She had a single profile on here where she had a small amount of success but mostly other fems would 'introduce' a husband or boyfriend so gave up with that account "

What a shame we don't live closer, she's stunning C x

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

I'm Bisexual. It's nothing to do with my husband. Ive known since I was probably about 12, maybe younger. He's bi curious, but I fully enjoy sleeping with men and women (sometimes at the same time! Bonus!)

I would hate to think someone has been pressured into claiming they are bi. What a horrible thought.

My husband completely supports my sexuality, and would never pressure me into something I wasn't comfortable with. Im secure in my sexuality and so is he, it's the basis of a happy marriage!

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi always have been, was bi before I met my husband. But hubby is 100% straight and might be controversial but just how I like him and also how he likes it as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella.

Almost correct yes, I haven't set an account up yet. While researching the other couple's profiles in my area I realised that in 86% (I've done the exact math now) of the couples aged 30-50, the female was listed as bi-sexual or bi-curious.

Of course, it's none of my business whatever someone is bi or not, there's room for everyone here whatever their desire. I was simply pointing out that 86% of women in a M/F couple relationship identifying as "bi" does seem rather high, especially when so few men do.

You'd think that with all these bi females out there the'd be more bi-female profiles, but there really aren't that many in my area. Out of curiosity, I searched for F/F couples in the same area and age group, and I got ZERO results!

Call me a cynic, but it's as though the majority of the females are only bi/curious when there are male eyes watching! x

Don't forget there are plenty of other sites to meet sexual partners. If I (female) was looking to meet a female partner I wouldn't use fab. I don't think fab is representative of all society.

Also I really struggle with the assumption that so many women are only pretending to be bi for men's enjoyment. Maybe cos I just couldn't be sexually intimate with someone if I wasn't sexually attracted to them. Actually before we started meeting couples I liked the idea of kissing a woman and playing with her breasts but couldn't imagine myself licking pussy. Turns out I'm a biiiiiiig fan

It's funny you mention this because Mrs Shorter is always on the lookout for a bi fem, for herself. There's very very few on here in our area and other sites pretty much seem missing.

She had a single profile on here where she had a small amount of success but mostly other fems would 'introduce' a husband or boyfriend so gave up with that account

What a shame we don't live closer, she's stunning C x"

She says thank you

It's one of those things. She is free to do her own thing whenever she pleases but just grew bored of it. She still wants it but doesn't seek it anymore which is a shame.

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Mrs Brum is bi. It was her who got us into the scene as she was bi curious. I never asked her to perform ( not a phrase I like) with other ladies. There as also been times when at a club she has played with ladies and I have had no involvement what so ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard of any other sites for NSA and if there is i imagine tgey be flooded with sex pests and timewasters

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

My wife is bi.

Its something she likes no pressure from me. Shes liked ladies before we met and used to wank over lesbian porn.

Him

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By *randmrsc30Couple
over a year ago

East Riding

Most don’t know they are Bi until they have the chance to be with another woman and it’s absolutely incredible. If you have enough confidence to be a swinger I recon you can hold your own and be honest if your Bi or not I won’t put on a show for anybody if I look like I’m enjoying it it’s because I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly never knew I enjoyed going down on women and have women going down on me until a few times trying. I now love making other women cum and love when they do it to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know. I couldn’t do something I wouldn’t want to do, and I don’t think I could (Or would want to) pursued Someone to be something they are not. So I just think it is a thing in here.

I did hear a phrase on here once ‘taking on for the team’ which made me laugh.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Most don’t know they are Bi until they have the chance to be with another woman and it’s absolutely incredible. If you have enough confidence to be a swinger I recon you can hold your own and be honest if your Bi or not I won’t put on a show for anybody if I look like I’m enjoying it it’s because I am "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I reading it correctly, you set up a couples account, with someone other than your husband? So he can get more action? Fb / fwb couple, your find lots including us will stay away from this dynamic.

As to bi fem. I'm pansexual, so in noway doing it for my fella. There are lots, that only do it for a show for their fella.

Almost correct yes, I haven't set an account up yet. While researching the other couple's profiles in my area I realised that in 86% (I've done the exact math now) of the couples aged 30-50, the female was listed as bi-sexual or bi-curious.

Of course, it's none of my business whatever someone is bi or not, there's room for everyone here whatever their desire. I was simply pointing out that 86% of women in a M/F couple relationship identifying as "bi" does seem rather high, especially when so few men do.

You'd think that with all these bi females out there the'd be more bi-female profiles, but there really aren't that many in my area. Out of curiosity, I searched for F/F couples in the same area and age group, and I got ZERO results!

Call me a cynic, but it's as though the majority of the females are only bi/curious when there are male eyes watching! x"

I list myself as bi curious, not because I have not had bi experiences - I have.

I enjoy sex with a woman if we are both attracted to each other but it’s an occasional pleasure, as are fmf experiences. It has nothing to do with male pressure for me as I make independent choices of who I play with.

90% of the time I’m a straight f-m woman.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Others have said this but when it comes to sexuality and kink preferences we don’t think Fab or any other “swinger site” is representative of society as a whole.

Can only speak for ourselves but Mrs B loves having sex with other women but would not (if she were single) really consider a full on relationship with another woman. There is absolutely no coercion from Mr B (Mrs B would cut his cock off if he tried). Mrs B also loves having sex with men too so swinging is about debauchery rather then any one aspect.

Mr B is straight and has never found the idea of sex with another man a turn on. Been in very close proximity (DP, DV, double BJ) and not remotely phased but zero interest in going further. It isn’t that it is a turn off (having been active on fetish scene for many years have been exposed to most things) just not a turn on either!

So we prob fit the cliche of a St8 male Bi female couple.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Others have said this but when it comes to sexuality and kink preferences we don’t think Fab or any other “swinger site” is representative of society as a whole.

Can only speak for ourselves but Mrs B loves having sex with other women but would not (if she were single) really consider a full on relationship with another woman. There is absolutely no coercion from Mr B (Mrs B would cut his cock off if he tried). Mrs B also loves having sex with men too so swinging is about debauchery rather then any one aspect.

Mr B is straight and has never found the idea of sex with another man a turn on. Been in very close proximity (DP, DV, double BJ) and not remotely phased but zero interest in going further. It isn’t that it is a turn off (having been active on fetish scene for many years have been exposed to most things) just not a turn on either!

So we prob fit the cliche of a St8 male Bi female couple. "

Writing about both of you in the 3rd person is so confusing, or really sexy... can't work out which...

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have wondered about this too,

I'm straight, but most of the couples in our area want a single bi fem or bi fem in a couple, only seen a few with a straight female.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Others have said this but when it comes to sexuality and kink preferences we don’t think Fab or any other “swinger site” is representative of society as a whole.

Can only speak for ourselves but Mrs B loves having sex with other women but would not (if she were single) really consider a full on relationship with another woman. There is absolutely no coercion from Mr B (Mrs B would cut his cock off if he tried). Mrs B also loves having sex with men too so swinging is about debauchery rather then any one aspect.

Mr B is straight and has never found the idea of sex with another man a turn on. Been in very close proximity (DP, DV, double BJ) and not remotely phased but zero interest in going further. It isn’t that it is a turn off (having been active on fetish scene for many years have been exposed to most things) just not a turn on either!

So we prob fit the cliche of a St8 male Bi female couple.

Writing about both of you in the 3rd person is so confusing, or really sexy... can't work out which..."

Ha ha really? Hopefully sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is to turn guys on. I am not bi but often when we meet another couple I would play with girl at some point. Often at start to get temperature raising.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Without going too deeply into it, there are a few reasons for this; performative, expectations, stigma, societal influences and male sexual gaze.

Female bisexuality is sexualised by the male gaze whereas male bisexuality is seen as dirty and emasculating. This means that women that are bisexual are ‘accepted’ but their sexuality is seen as performative, whereas men are derided and shunned.

I’ve had experiences of being abused and told that bisexual men are less masculine, mainly because of these opinions, many guys won’t admit to being bisexual.

I could go into it far deeper but that’s the short of it

"

Very well articulated - after reading various forums I definitely noticed some really messy attitudes which as well as making me uncomfortable also don't make a lot of sense and definitely more messy judgement than I would have expected from a community which is supposed to be all about consent, sex positivity and liberation. At least this is what I had hoped.

Assumptions and expectations might not be coercion but they do tend to affect our behaviour in some way. Maybe not everyone all the time but at least some of the time.

There might also be other factors, such a safety. A single woman is likely to be safer meeting a mixed couple than meeting one or more men so I wonder how much this might have an effect.

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