FabSwingers.com forum: The mess in the background

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Yep definatly...the background can tell alot about the person..

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By *f579Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Yep

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

"Yep definatly...the background can tell alot about the person.."

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Huge turn off for me. As well as men sitting on toilets yeeww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

So off putting. I always think that their personal hygiene must be bad if their surroundings are dirty too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on, everyone enjoys a nose at what people houses look like. While you won’t want to meet them, their is a odd perverse joy in finding a messy room

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Come on, everyone enjoys a nose at what people houses look like. While you won’t want to meet them, their is a odd perverse joy in finding a messy room "

Yep.

Who cares about seeing genitals when we can gloat and feel better about the state of their living/bed/bathroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

Absolutely.. Sometimes it's so disgusting that I wonder how they don't even know?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be a messy sod at times but if I'm entertaining or taking a photo I always tidy up. I've gone to visit other people and felt v uncomfortable squeezing past piles of crap to climb the stairs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge turn off for me. As well as men sitting on toilets yeeww"

Yes the ole toilet pic ew..

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture.

Absolutely.. Sometimes it's so disgusting that I wonder how they don't even know?! "

Seems to be quite common unfortunately!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Randomly I’ve actually messaged someone on here and said they had lovely bathroom tiles and asked what colour were they. I now have the same colour and type of tile in my kitchen!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bits" all over the carpet always makes me think "get the fucking hoover out?"

Ash trays full of crap

Tins of special brew on the coffee table

Cock pics in a disabled toilet! WTF?

Dirty clothes on the floor

Wall paper peeling off

Dirty wall

Mould on walls, window sills, ceilings, in fact mould anywhere, except in cheese (and that stinks! lol)

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

I like to see what's on their bookshelves. What puts me off a bit is pics of family on display in the back ground, not deliberate but surprised it passes the admin

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

People with streaky mirrors shouldn't throw shade

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

No background for me, it's 99% neutral backdrop and where I can't get the shot its minimalistic and almost unidentifiable from clever edge blurring.

Unless any sharp eyed sleuths have spotted a rogue sock lying around whereas I'm mortified and deeply embarrassed and can't apologise enough.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Yep definatly...the background can tell alot about the person.."

Unmade bed, clothes on the floor, scissors on the couch, random ball of tinfoil.....

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

It is a real pet hate of ours... And just indicates laziness.

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By *awandBareWoman
over a year ago

Oxford

100% do this lol and yes swayed my agreement to meet many times lol

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By *hloe12Woman
over a year ago

york

Yes some people's houses are shit holes

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By *heerFlirtMan
over a year ago

Quite near Bath usually

Exactly this....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes some people's houses are shit holes "

This! I don't care how hot you are, if you can't structure your pics to at least convey that you're tidy, don't bother.

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By *eat and discreetCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

Ladies dirty nails is very off putting we find,,filthy fingertips playing with there pussy,,,erm ,,,,nop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that’s a snapshot into their lives, why would anyone want someone that lives like that anywhere near them sexually.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture.

People with streaky mirrors shouldn't throw shade

Glad I'm not the only one who got distracted by the streaky mirror

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Selfie photos taken in the bathroom are an indication that the person is in a relationship are'nt they ?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I always check the background first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh hell yes! Im a cleanaphobe anyway so cant stand mess.

Go on the cams... its scary

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

Yes for my dirty messy house represents dirty body. Yuck

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture.

People with streaky mirrors shouldn't throw shade

Glad I'm not the only one who got distracted by the streaky mirror

Bugger I was beaten to it

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By *avenTinaCouple
over a year ago

Southport

Check our profile

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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago

north tyneside

Always check the skirting boards.

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham

Gosh many a time I’ve witnessed a complete curtain disaster

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By *ewismixedbbcMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."
me 2

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"Gosh many a time I’ve witnessed a complete curtain disaster "

I've even seen dado rails.

The horror

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what may I ask is wrong with a dado rail?

A Malapropy friend always refers to them as dildo rails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

I notice background...always

and can be off putting.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

"Selfie photos taken in the bathroom are an indication that the person is in a relationship are'nt they ? "

Where else do you have a full length mirror?

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"And what may I ask is wrong with a dado rail?

A Malapropy friend always refers to them as dildo rails.

It would be like having pine furniture. One simply does not have these things in one's house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite so. Unthinkable. Shudders.

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By *ambo1450Man
over a year ago

Newport

Personally I think this is the worst homes under the hammer series I’ve seen yet. There’s always naked bloody people blocking the view. How can I judge the flock wall paper and shagged sofas when Doris has got her norks in the foreground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I laughed far to much at some of these comments

I was thinking I'm just harsh but this post proves it's not just me.

I hate seeing dirty plates and family pics in the background and when taking mirror selfies all the clothes by their feet. Like how did you even manage to not fall over

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm obsessed with making sure our photos are neat and tidy (not that our house is a tip). I forensically check what's in shot/reflection and adjust accordingly. I don't understand why people want to project a mucky image

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

It just shouts one word to us.

SCUFFERS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what may I ask is wrong with a dado rail?

A Malapropy friend always refers to them as dildo rails.

I'll never walk around a National Trust property with a straight face again.

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By *onglegs888Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

Us!!! And being honest we are quite comfortable judging

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

Yep absolutely all the time.

This and dead cringey horrible veris haha x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Selfie photos taken in the bathroom are an indication that the person is in a relationship are'nt they ? "

My first thought

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By *wig1963Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not one to judge each to their own but cleanliness cost nothing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You clearly haven't seen the price of staff recently

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By *areasRockinghorsepooWoman
over a year ago

my happy place

Its very off putting. The most recent one i have seen was a filthy carpet,3some on the go on the sofa which was full of kids toys. Must of been uncomfortable but i guess the toys are wipe clean unlike the carpet

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By *jsantagCouple
over a year ago

Hfd/Shrop/Worc area

Hmmmm. Where do we sit on the background messiness scale?

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham

"Hmmmm. Where do we sit on the background messiness scale?

It’s all very worrying isn’t it .. having made a brash comment I had to dive of and check my own backgrounds !!!

There was an earlier thread entitled “ When to keep ones gob shut “ .. perhaps this was one of those moments .

I think yours are ok although I did pick up on a pine headboard .. sorry

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We need scratch and sniff pics, just to check we'd be comfortable in the environment, if it's a bag over the head meet

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think we do need to remember not everyone has a gloriously decorated house with oodles of storage space.

My house looked mega riffy before it was decorated.

I'm not lazy.

I'm not dirty.

My house was simply a shit hole that I couldn't afford to decorate and it didn't matter how much I scrubbed it it still looked rotten and left me feeling deflated.

So mess, yeah, move it out the way but as far as decoration goes, I know how hard that can be to sort out, and without the wonderful friends I have who carpeted my house for me for my Christmas present, well I'd still be walking on paint splattered floorboards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we hate this. Obviously everyone can't have a show home (us included) so we do try to tidy up a bit or at least move clutter out of shot when we take pictures.

There's nothing more distracting than an untidy room.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Come on, everyone enjoys a nose at what people houses look like. While you won’t want to meet them, their is a odd perverse joy in finding a messy room "

Ask Loyd Grossman.

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By *wig1963Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

On the throne not good

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Puts me off certainly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad I'm not this harsh! Yes I wouldn't meet someone who doesn't think much about their photos but I don't judge as harshly! Maybe their mental health isn't that great at that moment, maybe taking the photo maybe made them feel a little better ... there also are a couple of conditions where people can't actually see the mess! Plus not everyone does live in a show home, maybe their situation isn't very good at that moment in time, perhaps their landlord is a bit of a bastard? Who actually knows what is going on in another's life at that snap shot moment?

I just choose just to move on and hope life will improve for them!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Yep! It's the pics taken in the kids room that really freaks.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I tend not to judge people on how their house looks people have different standards to what others think are acceptable and not but as per fab is full of people who love to judge others because they are so perfect

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Oh yes. We're very observant people

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Yes and I’ve learnt that lesson a long time ago

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Ewwwww absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely do. Nothing worse than a messy bed, crap covered floor or heaven forbid the open toilet n the background!!

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

our place can be a organised mess at times. we go to meet peeps, not to decorate. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really one to judge but!! Who else on here can be put off by what they see in the background of a picture."

Yes, I read a lot of profiles that say "must be clean" and I am! I hoover, mop and tidy up on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys taking pics over toilets or against a sky remote as well as mess isnt good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge turn off for me. As well as men sitting on toilets yeeww"

God yes, the white toilet and tiles is awful

As well has clothes thrown everywhere xx

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Yes!! I hate it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% yes! Lol I get zooming!

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By *ho am IWoman
over a year ago

Mids

Oh we are such a judgemental lot aren't we

But I have to agree with the majority here, if they can't take the time and effort to present themselves in the best way for a photo, what makes you think they'll make the effort if you meet?

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Have to agree. Yes, ok, there are reasons people's houses might not be great, but even those who can't afford a posh house or who lead busy lives, if they can find time to pise for selfies I'm sure a few more seconds to straighten the duvet or pick up the washing strewn on the floor. If you're going to the effort of posing, I don't know why you wouldn't try to look good - or at least have enough self awareness to realise that a messy background reflects badly, whether they agree or not. It shows a willingness to make an effort, to be bothered. If they can't make that few seconds of effort for a selfie, it makes me wonder what they'd be like on a meet.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Yr meeting for fun not to Hoover up, but I would draw the line at dog shit behind the tv

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Yes, especially on straight dating sites. I look at the background, and often think, if that's the state of your home, when did your pussy last see soap and water. There's a couple around here are noted for turning up at meets, and the first thing that she asks is to use the toilet. If it's not up to her standards they leave. Fortunately mine passed the test.

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