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By *un4us2together OP   Couple
over a year ago

ebbw vale

we are new to swinging and desperately lookiing forward to our 1st meet, but the nerves take hold when we are offered a meet social and sexual, we have ruled out pushy we want to take your swinging virginity couples and have found a few that we really like,,,,HELP we dont want to look like no showers and not interested

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By *exyminxy111Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"we are new to swinging and desperately lookiing forward to our 1st meet, but the nerves take hold when we are offered a meet social and sexual, we have ruled out pushy we want to take your swinging virginity couples and have found a few that we really like,,,,HELP we dont want to look like no showers and not interested "

Don't worry we are in a similar situation, although there are other factors that make it difficult to arrange a meet for us. But likewise we are looking for a first meet with non pushy couples and go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was the same, then i said yes and decided to be nervous and take the plunge and see what happens and worry about it then. The meet went great, and i;ve been here since x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooo Ebbw vale! I was up there today!!!!! Hello!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

still not taken the plunge so know how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it guys!

We wanted to do a runner at first meet , we were so nervous.But we met a great couple and had some good fun.It's an amazing buzz and you will get addicted!

We just wished we could have started years ago.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

It absolutely scared the crap out of both of us going on our first meet! It scared the crap out of us when we went on our first play meet. It was only the fact that if we say we will be somewhere then we always show up but we could have so easily run away!

To this day (some ten or more years on) it still scares us a bit meeting people for the first time and playing for the fist time, and if it ever stops scaring us a little, we'll probably give it up.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Take it slow. Find the chilled out couples you are looking for. Just tell them your bricking yourself lol. Then laugh at yourself, be determined to have fun and laugh at yourself. If you pick the right couple and they are genuine and chilled out they will show you the way and the way is very sexy and lots of fun lol.

It is supposed to fun ... Remember that lol

Good luck Sexies xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are new to swinging and desperately lookiing forward to our 1st meet, but the nerves take hold when we are offered a meet social and sexual, we have ruled out pushy we want to take your swinging virginity couples and have found a few that we really like,,,,HELP we dont want to look like no showers and not interested "

You won't look like 'No show-ers' or uninterested, but you could put people off by appearing rather too keen. One word in what you have said bothers me..... 'desperately' looking forward to first meet.. ? Why are you desperate? And are both of you 'desperate'?

Got to ask the question - have you talked about this enough between the two of you? Do you both know EXACTLY what the other is looking for from swinging? Have you agreed your boundaries? Etc etc etc.

The more you understand what each other is looking for and what each of you is prepared to try, the less nervous you will feel....

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

having read the profiles and messages of the first 2 posters in this thread, Fun4us2gether and Sexyminx111, here's 2 pieces of advice from me.

1) You both seem to be in the same shoes and have the same desire ie female/female fun and both couples wanting their first meet. Suggest you both have a look at each others profiles and if there's a click go for it with each other....

2) There's several versions of meets, obviously theres the one on one meet which is arranged privately, but which you seem to be nervous of. The other approach would be to go to a club and meet and chat with people there. You might turn that into fun either at the club or by having booked a local hotel on the night, or it might simply break the ice and you then arrange a private meet for the followingt weekend, thus helping sort out your nerves...

Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are new to swinging and desperately lookiing forward to our 1st meet, but the nerves take hold when we are offered a meet social and sexual, we have ruled out pushy we want to take your swinging virginity couples and have found a few that we really like,,,,HELP we dont want to look like no showers and not interested

Don't worry we are in a similar situation, although there are other factors that make it difficult to arrange a meet for us. But likewise we are looking for a first meet with non pushy couples and go from there "

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most people on here, we also get very nervous on a first meet, especially if some play may happen or if you think you are expected to play. Why don't you make it clear you just want a social meet at first, and hopefully you will be able to relax a little more without the anxiety of the thought of playing. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every normal person/couple will be nervous about their first meet. Nervous, Excited, maybe even a little fear in there (of if you don't like it but your partner does etc.)

But one thing i would say, (which i'm just taking from you post, i may have taken the wrong inferrence) Is that, you really shouldn't mess people around, don't say your going to be at a meet, then drop out, that is quite rude in itself, if you know you are a nervous newbie couple and not sure of wanting to meet.

There is nothing wrong with chatting alot with people and getting to know them well first. or meeting for just a social, in a public place, where play cannot happen so you won't feel under any pressure at all.

We as a couple work on a no pressure rule, for us and for the other people we play with,,, because as soon as you start putting pressure on, people can feel uncomfortable, men under pressure very often can't perform, and it generally makes for shit sex anyway.

We would much rather meet for a drink and enjoy a good conversation/fun relaxed evening than meet for a drink, pressure someone into some shit sex and end up having a crap evening...

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

totally agree with you there 2hunters its okay to meet people sociably and say hey we are new to this and we are so nervous if they are experienced they will probably tell you about their first time and how nervous they were if they are new like you then the fact that you are nervous aswell will put them at ease honesty is the best policy xxx

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

only you know when you are ready or not, but you really should make your first meet a purely social thing with no expectations either way, then, if the hormones take over on the night and you all decide you want to take it further afterwards, then all power, but if you go out with no pressure either way, you can relax into it and enjoy the evening for what it is

a drink with nice company.

enjoy the experience.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Every normal person/couple will be nervous about their first meet. Nervous, Excited, maybe even a little fear in there (of if you don't like it but your partner does etc.)

But one thing i would say, (which i'm just taking from you post, i may have taken the wrong inferrence) Is that, you really shouldn't mess people around, don't say your going to be at a meet, then drop out, that is quite rude in itself, if you know you are a nervous newbie couple and not sure of wanting to meet.

There is nothing wrong with chatting alot with people and getting to know them well first. or meeting for just a social, in a public place, where play cannot happen so you won't feel under any pressure at all.

We as a couple work on a no pressure rule, for us and for the other people we play with,,, because as soon as you start putting pressure on, people can feel uncomfortable, men under pressure very often can't perform, and it generally makes for shit sex anyway.

We would much rather meet for a drink and enjoy a good conversation/fun relaxed evening than meet for a drink, pressure someone into some shit sex and end up having a crap evening..."

That's good advice to that

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