FabSwingers.com forum: do females message first

By *lappy OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Just curious because we all know the make to female ratio is heavily weighted against males but do any of you ladies make the first move and message a guy first and if so what do you say ???? thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not from what we have found

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By *iablo soloWoman
over a year ago

over younder

I do!

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do. Usually if there is something on their status that has amused me, or they have posted something on the forum that has interested me.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

They do and more often than you would think if they know they're not going to get a random dick pic after 3 messages

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By *ogglesMan
over a year ago

essex and norfolk

Nope

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

In many months of being on here I think I have had 2 messages first from women and very nice it was too, made my day when I saw the messages in my inbox, simple things amuse simple minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do

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By *lappy OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I do!

good for you ..... very interesting answers so far thanks everyone

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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham, Gloucestershire

I do. I would usually comment on an update they've posted, their photos if they have some particularly sexy ones in their gallery, or the text in their profile...whatever it was that captured my interest enough to message in the first place.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very has done if we are looking and likes thier profile.

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By *arriet_JamesCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We’ve had messages from females with no prompting. Love to hear from everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done we’re all here for the same thing so why not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they do! I rarely message first I probably haven’t sent a first message for months, have no idea when I last sent one...

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I do for a variety of reasons. But a positive reason is if they have made me smile with their profile/status/forum thread. Pics tend not to catch my interest. But a genuine pic, with a great smile or arty are more appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few times.

Don't always get a response though.

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Yes it does happen occasionally. We've found single women are more likely to wink at us first rather than message first though

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

"I have a few times.

Don't always get a response though. "

World's gone mad

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I do sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious because we all know the make to female ratio is heavily weighted against males but do any of you ladies make the first move and message a guy first and if so what do you say ???? thanks "

I did few times...

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We have had first messages off females but it is rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a couple of ladies reach out with a first message

Both are now really good friends, so yes it does happen and its lovely when they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely do

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes they do.

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message guys first sometimes.

Usually in response to their photos, profile or status updates.

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By *man91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I very rarely get messages from single female. Sometimes from couples. However, get messages from single men pretty often, despite my profile stating not looking for single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a few times.

Don't always get a response though. "

Did they see it? Because I can't see why a man wouldn't reply

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I did when it was still worth doing and I will when I can start meeting again.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I have been known to message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a couple of winks, as opposed to messages

But will always respond to a ladies wink

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We have had introductory messages from single women.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes

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By *ove2lickJemWoman
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

I'm a quirk, I almost always stayed hidden and only messaged my targets

And I just messaged with what interested me about their profile/status/forum post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

I have had ladies wink first and message. It is nice when it happens. A bit of an ego boost I guess.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a few times.

Don't always get a response though. "

I didnt want to seem too easy

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By *entGent75Man
over a year ago

Dartford

I have but it is very rare. Usually it is a bland one liner and no personality behind the message, or ability to make conversation. No idea what to do with that but be polite and the conversation dies. So boring.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"I have but it is very rare. Usually it is a bland one liner and no personality behind the message, or ability to make conversation. No idea what to do with that but be polite and the conversation dies. So boring. "

I'd like to think not all are so bland!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I've sent the first message many times before and still not afraid to

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

I have done if I see something I really like or I’ve noticed someone looking at my profile a lot and not messaging and I’m interested.

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By *reemyspiritawakenmysoulWoman
over a year ago

coventry

"I do. Usually if there is something on their status that has amused me, or they have posted something on the forum that has interested me."
same if there is humour in there and it tickles my fancy,then yep message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a rule i dont send many messages as most ladies/couples are bombarded with 100s so if they are browsing and something catches there eye then great if i get a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes just not all the time.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Yes it does happen occasionally. We've found single women are more likely to wink at us first rather than message first though "

This

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By *lirt and funCouple
over a year ago

ilford

As a single I used to love to flirt first x

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I'm pleased to say "yes ladies do message first"

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By *olvesbigkMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I guess cause they get so many messages sent to them theres less need for them to message guys, but I get few making a first move usually responding to status updates

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Yeah they do.. its always a welcoming when us guys gets a message first. I always feel flattered when I get message first but then I always feel the same when I get a message back lol

It does wonders to our self confidence. Doesn't even have to be a message.. it could be one of those inspirational quotes. Someone that I talk to regularly (not on this platform mind) did this and to be honest.. it made my day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do 99% of the messaging on our profile.

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By *olidOak85Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I do. Usually if there is something on their status that has amused me, or they have posted something on the forum that has interested me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do....generally off the back of a nice pic, profile or curiosity from things they’ve said in the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often do - usually forum related , eye catching pic /video

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By *willMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Never !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never. They spend their entire time on Fab to scrounge through 100s of messages they get everyday .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have, I do tend to wink 1st, but do send the 1st message J.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

If someone really interested me then yes I would.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Some do some don't. Some will some won't.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

I can comfirm i have received messages first from ladies. In addition, females from couples profile have also message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few but as others have said, it's a rarity.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I have had one or two tasty message from some gorgeous ladies.

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By *heeky wiggles2020Man
over a year ago

near the seaside

Not in my experience

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By *ouge and blueCouple
over a year ago

Cork

Not that we've seen.

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I do....generally off the back of a nice pic, profile or curiosity from things they’ve said in the forum. "

I'm the same and usually wink or fab a pic first to show interest. I wouldn't just send first message to everybody and anybody. Since I have a fair amount of people blocked through my settings I tend to be the first messager like 90% of the time.

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By *urpeesandwineCouple
over a year ago

Hove

We have had a few messages from lovely women. Always great when it happens - but not that common. Maybe we simply dont appeal !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once every 3 full moons by my maths

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

In our experience yes they do but it is the genuine swingers rather than the “instagram crowd” ie those just wanting their pics fabbed.

Over the years some very nice ladies have messaged us (though being honest about 95% of our adventures have been with people we met first at a party or club rather than through a swinger website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever happened once to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if I like their pictures and after I've fully read their profile. No point messaging if we're not looking for the same

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By *rOralMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Unlikely.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

The rules are their are no rules ..some do ..some dont ..depends

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

Would be nice to get one now and then but there's no need for them to, besides by the time they've scrolled through the loads they receive every day there's probably no time left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often do if I am having a search for a fwb.

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Not had one from a lady first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they do then the internet must be redirecting my mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do message first if I stumble across a profile that interests me. I usually just say that I enjoyed their profile and mention things we have in common or something similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message from women once, told me to duck my head back in during a forum chat. How disappointing was that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, was a very flattered chappy too after she gave me a very nice compliment too..she then threw her toys out of the pram over a nothing comment I made..I wonder if she will read this..haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message from women once, told me to duck my head back in during a forum chat. How disappointing was that!!!"

Lol the same but twice....telling me not to join in any forums she was on....lol

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I prefer to, usually acknowledging a well crafted profile and inviting further conversation, assuming they want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message from women once, told me to duck my head back in during a forum chat. How disappointing was that!!!

Lol the same but twice....telling me not to join in any forums she was on....lol"

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yep I messaged first. 3.5 years later we live together and are getting married so I guess it worked

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By *iss selectiveWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'll message 1st if there hot ?? lol

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Yes, I will if I want to talk to someone.

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By *elvet_OrchidWoman
over a year ago

Banbury

I do sometimes but then I end worrying that I will just get ignored or they send a copy paste in reply!!

It can be a bit unnerving for ones confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the genuine ones

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By *eamondeauxMan
over a year ago

ny nj

Definitely

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Yes they do, which is always welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do. Usually if there is something on their status that has amused me, or they have posted something on the forum that has interested me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YeH few females have messaged us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been known to.

Why not? I'd hate to think I missed an opportunity due to outdated conventions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn it which sarcastic answer do I use... screw it I’ll do both!

Sure they do OP! I mean tbh I’m surprised you’re not as sick as the rest of us are with unimaginative one line messages and unsolicited clit pics....

I’d try holding your breath. One should be along shortly.

Glad I got that out of my system. No seriously I’m sure it does happen, but I can’t say it’s ever happened to me... yet. Fair play to those women who do.

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By *iss selectiveWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I do if there hot haha

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say rare as dinosaurs

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Dunstable

Yes they do, all of our ffm meets have came about this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a fair few meets from ladies that have messaged me first. Even had dates on Facebook from this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually received a message from a female for the first time today.

I thought it would never happen lol.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I do sometimes if a profile or status catches my attention

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I do

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Yes

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been fortunate to receive the odd first message. It’s rare but it does happen

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I never do. I get so many messages each day I trawl through those x

Mrs N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never do. I get so many messages each day I trawl through those x

Mrs N"

If only us guys had that luxury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, they do.

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