FabSwingers.com forum: Dommes and Subs

By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a genuine sub so yes we do exist.

I am however very owned and happily so.

My Sir is my everything

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Your owner is a lucky guy.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

One of each here too

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them. "

And you? What are you??

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them.

And you? What are you??"

I’m a switch I’ve done both roles in the past. Happy in either as long as roles taken seriously

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them.

And you? What are you??

I’m a switch I’ve done both roles in the past. Happy in either as long as roles taken seriously "

And if you could do one right now what would it be? X

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Well that all depends. I do like a collard woman. But being stuck in lockdown would give someone time to train me too.

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By *ountrylad19Man
over a year ago

travel all over with work x

I’m after a sub too but also like to please a ma’am if I get one!!

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Ma’am’s are hard to find lol

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Well that all depends. I do like a collard woman. But being stuck in lockdown would give someone time to train me too. "

What sort of training? Photos, dares, teasing in public...x

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Dont do public. Guess it depends what they think is required to make me obedient.

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Dont do public. Guess it depends what they think is required to make me obedient. "

How about to start by making all 9 of your friends only photos public?

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol"

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I set a few to public.

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I set a few to public. "

Good boy xx

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Ty ma’am x

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Where are you what are you doing boy?

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Working from home ma’am

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Working from home ma’am "

Are your trousers down?

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

No ma’am they are not

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?"

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your owner is a lucky guy. "

Im the lucky one to have such a fantastic Dom

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By *aughtyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Like you said, each to their own. But thanks for the input.

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"Your owner is a lucky guy.

Im the lucky one to have such a fantastic Dom "

Does he have you well trained?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

This ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub here looking for female dom

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham

There are a few of us (Dommes) and plenty of subs

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I’m a sub unowned really miss my play party’s and pleasing a mistress even switched a couple of times to return the favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for a Domme if anyone is interested

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

Agreed. There's those that are and understand and those that don't that act like tbis

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

I absolutely agree with this. Intact I won't play with anyone that comes in with the I'm sub so I'll play with anyone and that includes you despite knowing nothing about if you a a good Domme or even safe.

I know we can only explore something real and deep that way (in my personal opinion)

But yes Domme here.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Question for you OP - how do you define "genuine" when it comes to a dominant or a submissive?

Surely one person's version of "genuine" may differ wildly from another's? Doesn't make either of them less "genuine", just they have different definitions and dynamics and aren't compatible.

The key to discovering what you call "genuine" is actually finding someone of a like mind and with similar definitions to yourself - nothing at all to do with being "genuine" or not.

Yes there are those out there, on both sides of the coin, who have very different ideas to what it means and some of them quite dangerous - but that's totally different from being "genuine".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are "genuine" and lovely Dommes and submissive on here

I've had the pleasure to chat with several and meet some too

Like always it depends on how you want to define "genuine" really

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own.

I know we can only explore something real and deep that way (in my personal opinion)

But yes Domme here."

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

Top TV here, looking for subs

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them. "

Well as it happens , that’s exactly the same question my partner and I asked each other when we met on this site nearly 2 years ago .. And as she is my Dominatrix and I her submissive whatever it is she wants to call me . Then yes , there must have been at least two ..

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I have been thinking over this point of "genuine" "natural" and "real" for a while, and I would put it like this. Let's remove the fetish words "dom/me", "sub", "master" and "slaeve" and use "father".

What is a real or genuine father if you move beyond the contribution of genetic material. A stranger cannot call you up and say they are your father. It needs some regular beneficial interaction. If someone says they are a father you would expect not only a relationship with a child but a positive relationship.

In the past fathers were seen as providing the discipline and the child's role was to obey and not question. Whereas in modern parenting the father is meant to be a positive figure, providing emotional support looking out for a child's well being, and being a stable figure in the child's life. Discipline may be an one aspect but one of many. Also it is more than the father turning up at the weekend doing some fun things together and disappearing for a month.

But the thing is a good father does necessary have to be dominant, or controlling, it is about creating the right environment and relationship for the individual child. A father does not have to be rich, good looking or wear leather.

Everyone has their own view of what makes a genuine or natural father. But the fundamentals (putting aside love) is being trustworthy, being caring and creating the right relationship.

Similarly going back to fetish being a dominant is relationship based, anything else is role play or topping and bottoming.

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham

"I have been thinking over this point of "genuine" "natural" and "real" for a while, and I would put it like this. Let's remove the fetish words "dom/me", "sub", "master" and "slaeve" and use "father".

Everyone has their own view of what makes a genuine or natural father. But the fundamentals (putting aside love) is being trustworthy, being caring and creating the right relationship.

Similarly going back to fetish being a dominant is relationship based, anything else is role play or topping and bottoming.

‘ In the past fathers were seen as providing the discipline and the child's role was to obey and not question. ‘

. In the community in which I grow up in it was the Mothers whom administered the majority of the discipline . Fathers just let us get on with it . Best night of the week when Mother went to bingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are into the d/s lifestyle too. Male sub / fem switch....

fet is a better place to look tho a lot have profiles on each

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By *abybearandthebossCouple
over a year ago

COLCHESTER

We are a Dom and sub couple. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinky sub here

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Very much so. My role is very important to me. Being collared at the end of March and it will then be a 24/7 role. It will be a significant day

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By *ittlesub4uWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I’m a bratty sub and like others have said I think it’s far more about the dynamic we build with each other rather than levels of extremity, one person’s hard limits are another person’s entry level - it’s all subjective!

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By *assunach and CuimreachCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m a proud owned bratty subby princess. C is my everything.

Sass x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m Dom

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

"I’m Dom

Wow pics pics

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Switch ........ greedy i know lol !

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

depends what you define genuine?

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Love sub dom play and although i am usually sub i have switched during a session.

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By *istress B and BrookeCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

FemDomme and Sub here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FemDomme and Sub here!

Beautiful couple xx

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By *ady C and Mr TCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

We dabble.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Some very hot people posting on this thread - wow !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dom here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Submissive sissy slut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly sub but do like to switch at times ha ha it’s fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a switch and as genuine as they come!

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

I felt the same. So not just you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of each here. But jenny only wants the bdsm side between us unless we meet a cpl with a domme lady, Then i might let her dominate jenny as us guys watch. But she does not really want another guy to dominate her unless with another cpl where the lady is sub and he is dom then we might just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a switch and as genuine as they come!"

Be fun watching you domme jenny then

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By *oldenhCouple
over a year ago

Bath

Sub f here xx

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"There are a few of us (Dommes) and plenty of subs

True guess you get your pick of the bunch lol

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Im a switch , been a while since I was a sub

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"Im a switch , been a while since I was a sub "

Got used to having control have your?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a sub! But not to anyone who proclaims to be a Dom. I’ve been called a fake, snowflake, allsorts because I don’t drop to my knees when told. It’s all about control of the mind for me, effort, commitment and communication is paramount before I release my submissive side x

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"I’m a sub! But not to anyone who proclaims to be a Dom. I’ve been called a fake, snowflake, allsorts because I don’t drop to my knees when told. It’s all about control of the mind for me, effort, commitment and communication is paramount before I release my submissive side x"

That’s a good way to be. Being a sub doesn’t mean you just take orders. A Dom needs to earn submission

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I guess there are more dommes and subs on here then I realised lol. I’ll just have to keep looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them. "

Youight be better on a more specialist site

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I tried them. But they you get extremes. Be nice to find people who enjoy it but can also hold a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of people in the bdsm scene are into it very hard core and are some of the intelligent people I've ever met.. quite capable of holding a conservation

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I’m pleased that others are having a better experience than me on that front.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm a switch, it's more about the phycological effect ,the giving and receiving of power .

A real Dom never has to shout and is always cat least 2 steps ahead of the sub

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"a lot of people in the bdsm scene are into it very hard core and are some of the intelligent people I've ever met.. quite capable of holding a conservation

I absolutely agree with this. Some of my favourite kink friends happen to also be some of the most intelligent and interesting people I know

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By *napppaMan
over a year ago

London

"a lot of people in the bdsm scene are into it very hard core and are some of the intelligent people I've ever met.. quite capable of holding a conservation

I absolutely agree with this. Some of my favourite kink friends happen to also be some of the most intelligent and interesting people I know"

Ditto, so true.

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By *witchRichMan
over a year ago

Southport

Love the whole BDSM lifestyle and started as a Dom but evolved to a Switch and I think that when I'm submitting to a Dom my experience beimg dom has made me a better sub. And vica versa

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By *ymo80Man
over a year ago

grimsby

Bi sub here looking

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm a domme in training and I have a great bratty sub, she keeps me on my toes!

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By *ower Couple - NorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Watton

We are a dominant couple, which makes for an intense dynamic. Only sexual with women, but have played with the odd sissy pain slut

We were quite active in the Blue Door, but will need to get back into the swing after covid

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By *roticusCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

We are an experienced and adventurous Ds couple (or more accurately Ms); Ross is 110% dom and Lucy is a collared and totally obedient submissive. For us, it's the core of our relationship and it works really well for us. We're always happy to introduce other couples and single women to a very satisfying lifestyle.

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"Love the whole BDSM lifestyle and started as a Dom but evolved to a Switch and I think that when I'm submitting to a Dom my experience beimg dom has made me a better sub. And vica versa"

I very much agree. I started dom but subbing improved my dom side

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By *asterslittlewhoreCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Your owner is a lucky guy.

Im the lucky one to have such a fantastic Dom "

Can i just say love your ic shoes xx

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By *eed AttentionMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I am a sub.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I’m a genuine sub, however I find that many on here are what I’d call “Plastic Doms” so I don’t put much detail about kink in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for a sub,new to this so looking for someone to learn with.Have joined Fet so hopefully meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them. "

I'm a domme. There are a few on here. You might want to try one of the BDSM sites more something more specific.

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"Are there any genuine dommes or subs on here? It’s hard to find them.

I'm a domme. There are a few on here. You might want to try one of the BDSM sites more something more specific."

Just had a look at your profile. I own the same dildo gag

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"I'm a domme. There are a few on here. You might want to try one of the BDSM sites more something more specific."

I would say hello but it appears I’m out of your age range.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Looking for a sub,new to this so looking for someone to learn with.Have joined Fet so hopefully meet someone."

Your best chance of meeting people is to go go socials, go to kink and cross over events when they are back on.

Most subs will want to get to know you as an actual person and not do online only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

munches will be back soon hopefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a sub, but only to my owner. Never been a sub for anyone else, was always Domme, so I would say I’m a switch, as I still Domme women, I don’t meet men.

I never had any desire to be submissive to anyone, but that changed when I met Inked. We built up the trust and I happily became his sub. I consider myself to be a very lucky lady, as he understands my needs and my mind, he tapped into something within me, nurtures me, and I feel completely safe in his hands x Viv xx

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I’m please that he was able to unlock that side of you and do it so well.

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By *ulgehunterMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

Sub bottom.here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love the whole BDSM lifestyle and started as a Dom but evolved to a Switch and I think that when I'm submitting to a Dom my experience beimg dom has made me a better sub. And vica versa"

I was a sub first before wanting to take on the dom role. It dwffo makes you more understanding of the submissives side during play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a sub, but only to my owner. Never been a sub for anyone else, was always Domme, so I would say I’m a switch, as I still Domme women, I don’t meet men.

Thats the way it should be viv. Same as jenny does not want another male dom but loves being dominated by a domme woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messaged by quite a few people here that I genuinely don’t think know the difference between a Dom and a top.

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Any more dommes on here actually looking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In sure there are, I know of one at least

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I’m sure there are too but very hard to find them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sure there are too but very hard to find them lol"

Its always hard finding local compatible play mates. I struggle finding pro subbies in the local area for when I just want to try something out

But over my time I have meet the most amazing play mates and I'm really glad of that.

Being active in the forums is a good way of driving interest to your profile and hopefully that'll be the start of something

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"Its always hard finding local compatible play mates. I struggle finding pro subbies in the local area for when I just want to try something out

But over my time I have meet the most amazing play mates and I'm really glad of that.

Being active in the forums is a good way of driving interest to your profile and hopefully that'll be the start of something

Thanks for the advice. I’ll stay on the forums and you never know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its always hard finding local compatible play mates. I struggle finding pro subbies in the local area for when I just want to try something out

But over my time I have meet the most amazing play mates and I'm really glad of that.

Being active in the forums is a good way of driving interest to your profile and hopefully that'll be the start of something

Thanks for the advice. I’ll stay on the forums and you never know lol "

Exactly, trust me, I've had more conversations etc etc since being active in the forums than I had previously. Some are going somewhere, others have been fun chats. The key thing is, it only takes one chat to fire that spark

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

It really does. Would be great to find some local people on here. Especially living alone during lockdown chatting to like minded locals helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There bound to be local people, I know Hornchurch well

grew up just down the road.

I know there's a few dogging spots not far away

In better times lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only ayy,

Be great if I could find someone

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"There bound to be local people, I know Hornchurch well

grew up just down the road.

I know there's a few dogging spots not far away

In better times lol"

If you know any Hornchurch ladies feel free to send them my way lol

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I'm a sub, it's the only "role" I've ever been good at and truly happy with.

But finding the right dom on here seems near on impossible, all the best ones seem to be taken and the ones that aren't think it's all about spanking hard and having me gag on there cock...

I've given up trying to find my dom after 4 years of looking. X

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over a year ago

"I'm a sub, it's the only "role" I've ever been good at and truly happy with.

But finding the right dom on here seems near on impossible, all the best ones seem to be taken and the ones that aren't think it's all about spanking hard and having me gag on there cock...

I've given up trying to find my dom after 4 years of looking. X

50 shades has rather a lot to answer for

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"50 shades has rather a lot to answer for

It really does. Not only does it create fake doms but those fake doms ruin good subs.

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I'm a sub, it's the only "role" I've ever been good at and truly happy with.

But finding the right dom on here seems near on impossible, all the best ones seem to be taken and the ones that aren't think it's all about spanking hard and having me gag on there cock...

I've given up trying to find my dom after 4 years of looking. X

50 shades has rather a lot to answer for

It definitely does.. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"50 shades has rather a lot to answer for

It really does. Not only does it create fake doms but those fake doms ruin good subs. "

I've worked with the director of the first film several times, she was loveky and I think had a really good understanding of kink, however the author seemed less keen on directorial input mores the pity.

But hey what are you going to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sub, baby, princess to daddy and owned

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By *ellsuitedMan
over a year ago

Elstree

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

I could not agree more.

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Genuine sub also.... but I guess I find the term rather judgey lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch here. Bookmarking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

Well said.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I'm a sub, it's the only "role" I've ever been good at and truly happy with.

But finding the right dom on here seems near on impossible, all the best ones seem to be taken and the ones that aren't think it's all about spanking hard and having me gag on there cock...

I've given up trying to find my dom after 4 years of looking. X

If you haven’t already I would seek out local kink groups, munches and the like.

There are other web sites more suited to finding prospective kinky partners looking for LT dynamics.

I would never give up, but I also wouldn’t compromise your own needs, wants and desires just to fit in with an available person.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"50 shades has rather a lot to answer for

It really does. Not only does it create fake doms but those fake doms ruin good subs. "

Its not just the Dom(mes) that are responsible for “ruining” people.

While there is SSC and RACK, I prefer PRICK; Personal Responsibility in/informed Consensual Kink.

Everyone has a personal responsibility to educate themselves about the lifestyle, considering the potential it has for physical and mental harm.

Dominants should want to understand mundane things like medical history, medication, any physical impairments, triggers, limits etc. before finding out what size butt plug a sub can take.

Submissives should want to ensure Dominant play partners are not fixated on just the sex or play but on the mundane things also.

Sadly, erotica like 50 shades and its ilk, while brining kink into the mainstream, helps foster a romantic ideal of what kink is and how its all hot billionaires with red rooms, and there is little discomfort or pain.

If that is all you use as your entry point or education then you stand to be a risk to the people you play with regardless of their side of the /.

This is where you have a responsibility to educate your self, to learn more about what it is you want, to spot predators, pretenders, dangerous players etc.

But sadly, people will continue to jump in with both feet and my only hope is they do not become yet another consent violation statistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a while back a Hornchurch munch, im guessing the London munch is still going in some form or another. There were lots floating around before lockdown and there is the LAM looking to do some open air shopping in April

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

" LAM looking to do some open air shopping in April "

They've set 2 dates now

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By *oungJayyMan
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

Sub yes, there is loads on here including myself, not sure about Dommes but I feel that it's a major struggle to find them on here.

One because of pandemic and 2 because they're hard to find x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" LAM looking to do some open air shopping in April

They've set 2 dates now "

That have indeed

hoping we might see the BBB again at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the person who was demanding profile picture, is clearly a bloke wanting to see images. I don't like that kind of dom/sub role.

If for real in the bedroom, there are many psychological ways one can obey.

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"There was a while back a Hornchurch munch, im guessing the London munch is still going in some form or another. There were lots floating around before lockdown and there is the LAM looking to do some open air shopping in April "

Love to find some dommes local to hornchurch. Or even just 1 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a switch but would rely like to let my submissive side loose as it hasn't had chance to be out much

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

"I'm a switch but would rely like to let my submissive side loose as it hasn't had chance to be out much"

I know the feeling

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham

"I'm a switch but would rely like to let my submissive side loose as it hasn't had chance to be out much

I know the feeling "

I admire your tenacity , you even started another thread ..

A couple of points if I may ..

Singular focused Dominant women , ie , Dominatrix , Domme , whatever title you want to go give . Generally don’t in my experience don’t like “ switches “ , One of Miss Ruth Deans first instructions was “ Don’t you fucking dare switch on me “ I never have and I never will .. Remember a man can do physical harm to a woman if he is not tied tightly enough and his” don’t want to submit now gene kicks in “ .. It does happen .. And don’t think for one minute your above it .. Because actually you never know until it happens ..

Now obviously you may not want to go that far down the road , and just want play , which is fine , in fact it’s great , Miss Ruth Dean and I still play .. We are not so serious even if our roles are clearly defined .. which ever route you take don’t look for a Dominatrix . Look for woman first , because that is what she will be first and foremost ..

Good luck in your endeavours

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Thank you very much for your advice

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By *ullman1Man
over a year ago

Aldershot

100% Bi Black dominate male here

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By *aughty_tonyMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

I a submissive guy

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

Seems to be sub and Dom guys but no Domme women. They are a rare find.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Seems to be sub and Dom guys but no Domme women. They are a rare find. "

No, they are here, they just tend not to advertise to avoid being pounced on

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I’m sure they are here. But I for the life of me can’t find a local one lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I’m sure they are here. But I for the life of me can’t find a local one lol"

As I often say, you can't go looking for a Domme, you find each other through mutual interaction that leads to doors being opened as you go

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By *ssexSwitch OP Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

I agree but doesn’t mean I won’t still try a little lol

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By *lut and sirCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Sub and dom here and love the lifestyle.

Is hard finding other locals to play with though. We mostly meet men but would be nice to mix it up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

Good advice,so true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m submissive (male).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a sub, I found my Dom on here, and he’s amazing, I am so lucky I found him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

I agree. Consent and boundaries are the most important part of the D/s relationship, and shouldn’t be abused.

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By *umbrian_lover69Man
over a year ago

carlisle

"Haha nice try. As it says they are for friends lol

Not a sub today then? Not even on me or two?

I don’t like this. In my mind identifying as a submissive does not mean being submissive to everyone that comes along and makes demands of you.

Being a dominant person should mean you also understand and appreciate the following:

You may be sub but you are not my sub;

I may be Dom(me) but I am not your Dom(me).

But each to their own."

Completely agree I am more dom and have had multiple subs before and wouldn't tell random people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub to my Sir and love it.

Queen to my prince and although that's relatively new, I'm liking it so far.

I'm finding I can switch when I never thought I could. Watch this space huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub in waiting. Myself and my Mistress are ready to go, waiting for blasted Covid to go. Can't wait to lose my submissive virginity (and my anal virginity hehe).

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By *ellsuitedMan
over a year ago

Elstree

I have found a magnificent older switchy lady on here....yes. I am extremely lucky!

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Nice to see some kink folk and dates for events emerging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see some kink folk and dates for events emerging "

Us kinky ones are out there

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By *eybabe567Man
over a year ago

perth

Sub here looking for Miss,......

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme