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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

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By *incent switchMan
over a year ago

leeds

Quite funny, but I agree, always read a profile first before sending a message

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I'm totally with you on this, the other one is "will fill in later" on a profile that's been active for days or weks, no effort at all. I'm also getting frustrated with one, two and three word answers to messages and that's with some people I'm in conversation with already. I sometimes wonder why I put together a decent legible and in my opinion interesting message to keep a conversation going just to get less than a sentence back each time.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Thought about a photo with a condom behind my ear, classy or what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite funny, but I agree, always read a profile first before sending a message "

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Thought about a photo with a condom behind my ear, classy or what?"

That would work only if the condom was unused.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"I'm totally with you on this, the other one is "will fill in later" on a profile that's been active for days or weks, no effort at all. I'm also getting frustrated with one, two and three word answers to messages and that's with some people I'm in conversation with already. I sometimes wonder why I put together a decent legible and in my opinion interesting message to keep a conversation going just to get less than a sentence back each time."

Unfortunately short replies are part and parcel of much social media. So your frustration is understandable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always read the profile most of the time suitability isn't there for one reason or another but sometimes I like to send a message to say great profile and at least be civil and crack up a conversation, I would be lucky to get a reply back as I am sure my message is buried within 200 others but hey it doesn't bother me

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Couldn’t give a shit about mine any more.. when I tried I got the same results, very few, so why bother ... good luck to that believe the profile makes the person, that’s if it’s even telling somewhere near the truth

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Couldn’t give a shit about mine any more.. when I tried I got the same results, very few, so why bother ... good luck to that believe the profile makes the person, that’s if it’s even telling somewhere near the truth "

I would suggest that a well written profile helps after a Club meet to sustain interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iya op

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Iya op"

The cringe at "Iya" was swiftly nullified by your excellent and clear profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hah! At least I did something right. I agree, Iya isn't a great first message.

I have been guilty of a few one liners whilst hot under the collar but I'm yet to use Iya...

I might try it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people use it as a sex site. They don't want chat. They just want sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is this sex you talk of?

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We aren't looking for single guys and generally don't mind them messaging, but not when they've clearly not bothered to read our profile. We get a lot asking to meet without anything on their profile, no pictures no info no nothing.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Hah! At least I did something right. I agree, Iya isn't a great first message.

I have been guilty of a few one liners whilst hot under the collar but I'm yet to use Iya...

I might try it."

I responded to the guy with constructive criticism. They responded with "u need to shave ur pussy". They are now blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hah! At least I did something right. I agree, Iya isn't a great first message.

I have been guilty of a few one liners whilst hot under the collar but I'm yet to use Iya...

I might try it.

I responded to the guy with constructive criticism. They responded with "u need to shave ur pussy". They are now blocked."

Blimey.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"We aren't looking for single guys and generally don't mind them messaging, but not when they've clearly not bothered to read our profile. We get a lot asking to meet without anything on their profile, no pictures no info no nothing."

Fully agree with your perspective. It is annoying, a decent message and profile is more likely to get a positive response or at least stand out a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely agree with the lack of effort in profiles (writing and reading) and the first messages. I don't know many "hi, how are you" I get a day but it's ridiculous. I don't need a poem or an essay hit surely there's a middle ground. The "will fill in later" thing annoys me too and people who have one or two pictures only from years ago. What's the excuse? Doesn't sound good so I stay away from them too.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

There’s sparse, decent and war and peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah that's true some people really dont care much..but the people who actually care I guess they get the same response or no reply ..all the effort for the same no reply.

I guess people see that and dont bothers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm not trying and I have my reasons for that. I tried before and I come to the conclusion that without going to clubs(not my thing at the best of times) and without being a vwe good-looking gym rat I have zero chance of meeting a woman who I fancy. I could of met plenty who I didn't like but I'm a fussy bastard so I gave up on that.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"There’s sparse, decent and war and peace. "

That's a good point. Yours is very nicely presented and easy to read. I know ours is a bit wordy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people use it as a sex site. They don't want chat. They just want sex."

That's the impression I get from women. There's no getting to know them.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"There’s sparse, decent and war and peace.

That's a good point. Yours is very nicely presented and easy to read. I know ours is a bit wordy.

"

Thankyou, but being a couple you’ve got twice as much info to get out.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I definitely agree with the lack of effort in profiles (writing and reading) and the first messages. I don't know many "hi, how are you" I get a day but it's ridiculous. I don't need a poem or an essay hit surely there's a middle ground. The "will fill in later" thing annoys me too and people who have one or two pictures only from years ago. What's the excuse? Doesn't sound good so I stay away from them too. "

If even I get 1 or 2 "Hi" or "How you doing" messages a day, it must be a tidal wave for you!

And, inevitably, the one line (word) message generally has a one line profile.

Does it work 1 in 10 or something, so they don't bother changing it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a winner!!! Just got this message now: asking me to meet NOW (already hitting rock bottom with that one but then it keeps coming):

- to take drugs

- with his mate

- can I come and pick them up

no shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a winner!!! Just got this message now: asking me to meet NOW (already hitting rock bottom with that one but then it keeps coming):

- to take drugs

- with his mate

- can I come and pick them up

no shame "

Well what are you waiting for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I wonder do those kind of offers ever work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I wonder do those kind of offers ever work"

And also I wonder if I said yes, would it actually happen? Or is it all talk? Very happy to never find out lol.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"I've got a winner!!! Just got this message now: asking me to meet NOW (already hitting rock bottom with that one but then it keeps coming):

- to take drugs

- with his mate

- can I come and pick them up

no shame

Well what are you waiting for "

Did he mention sneaking out with out his mum noticing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a winner!!! Just got this message now: asking me to meet NOW (already hitting rock bottom with that one but then it keeps coming):

- to take drugs

- with his mate

- can I come and pick them up

no shame

Well what are you waiting for

Did he mention sneaking out with out his mum noticing?"

Cos he hasnt done his chores

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol mum, girlfriend or wife!

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I think it shows an attitude. If someone has a profile that doesn't say a lot, it gives a clue to their attitude to the lifestyle. The same goes for a message. If they can't catch your imagination with the first they aren't going to get very far. That applies to couples, single females and obviously single males. I can't really comment on male profiles as I never search or read them.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Some men have great profiles which clearly show effort. These are the ones i pay attention to whereas the dull ones i just ignore.

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By *laction manMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

"

The irony of making a rant post about spelling and grammar while misspelling “their”

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By *umptuous DuoCouple
over a year ago

Teesside

It does make us wonder why single guys have a profile on here without any pics and with fill in later then get upset when they can’t get any responses from their 3 word messages, to us it shows total laziness or boredom.

We’re not actively looking for men but don’t mind receiving messages and we do appreciate a well written one which would make us check out his profile but for us to be interested his profile including pics would have to be top notch and not just full of dick pics.

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

Women and couples can be just as bad, it's not just men. I swear trying to get a conversation out of some of the people local to me is like trying to draw blood from a stone.

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By *laction manMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It does make us wonder why single guys have a profile on here without any pics and with fill in later then get upset when they can’t get any responses from their 3 word messages, to us it shows total laziness or boredom.

We’re not actively looking for men but don’t mind receiving messages and we do appreciate a well written one which would make us check out his profile but for us to be interested his profile including pics would have to be top notch and not just full of dick pics."

True but there is little incentive when guys do put effort both in profiles, pics and messages only to get ignored in return.

Honestly, how many couples/ladies can say they reply to every well written message?

(I know that’s the nature of the odds but please see it from our perspective)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my profile short, sweet and straight to the point in a bid to get men to actually read it... Yesterday, I received a message from a married money with a money offer. Two things, I say no to on my profile are cheats and offers.

I did have a message a while back, not face pic attached that just said 'oh?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hah! At least I did something right. I agree, Iya isn't a great first message.

I have been guilty of a few one liners whilst hot under the collar but I'm yet to use Iya...

I might try it.

I responded to the guy with constructive criticism. They responded with "u need to shave ur pussy". They are now blocked."

Did you take offence to his constructive criticism

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

I’d like to think I’m trying with mine hooe you all see that I am too x

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By *hongman1Man
over a year ago

Mansfield


"It does make us wonder why single guys have a profile on here without any pics and with fill in later then get upset when they can’t get any responses from their 3 word messages, to us it shows total laziness or boredom.

We’re not actively looking for men but don’t mind receiving messages and we do appreciate a well written one which would make us check out his profile but for us to be interested his profile including pics would have to be top notch and not just full of dick pics.

True but there is little incentive when guys do put effort both in profiles, pics and messages only to get ignored in return.

Honestly, how many couples/ladies can say they reply to every well written message?

(I know that’s the nature of the odds but please see it from our perspective) "

Never going to happen mate. Just another thread of a female/couple having a go at men for not reading the profile or not making an effort. I always read the profile, I’ll point out in any initial message things that are in the profile where we would match and still get ignored for the majority of the time (not everyone ignores thankfully)

Top and bottom of it is, these blokes that speak like shit to women and couples expecting to get their dicks wet makes me completely get why women/couples come to the forums to air their grievances with it. Paints a bad picture unfortunately doesn’t it.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield


"

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this

"

Iya? Clearly from Yorkshire. Probably sat at 'ome wondering if you 'ad time to 'ave a few 'ours of fun in an 'otel with 'im.

I don't get why people don't even try to make an effort in messages or profiles but can see the frustration from a guy's point of view. I could have the most perfect profile and ideal first message and the chances of getting a reply and that conversation keeping going would still be minimal.

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

"

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Hah! At least I did something right. I agree, Iya isn't a great first message.

I have been guilty of a few one liners whilst hot under the collar but I'm yet to use Iya...

I might try it.

I responded to the guy with constructive criticism. They responded with "u need to shave ur pussy". They are now blocked.

Did you take offence to his constructive criticism "

That is a fair point. Possibly if not, hoisted by our own petard at least maybe spanked with it.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Some people use it as a sex site. They don't want chat. They just want sex."

The mind some what boggels at the idea of consensual sex with a person you don't know out side of a swingers club or gay sauna setting with out chat.

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By *umptuous DuoCouple
over a year ago

Teesside


"It does make us wonder why single guys have a profile on here without any pics and with fill in later then get upset when they can’t get any responses from their 3 word messages, to us it shows total laziness or boredom.

We’re not actively looking for men but don’t mind receiving messages and we do appreciate a well written one which would make us check out his profile but for us to be interested his profile including pics would have to be top notch and not just full of dick pics.

True but there is little incentive when guys do put effort both in profiles, pics and messages only to get ignored in return.

Honestly, how many couples/ladies can say they reply to every well written message?

(I know that’s the nature of the odds but please see it from our perspective) "

We do feel for the guys that do put the effort into their profiles and are totally genuine, and for these guys we understand it’s a struggle to get a response from the people they message but unfortunately they are competing against thousands of other guys, it must be very frustrating, similarly it’s the same for couples as we frequently send messages that are ignored or deleted so it’s not just single guys that struggle.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"Couldn’t give a shit about mine any more.. when I tried I got the same results, very few, so why bother ... good luck to that believe the profile makes the person, that’s if it’s even telling somewhere near the truth "

As Homer Simpson said, if we try and then fail, the lesson is not to try

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

"

We've been here a few years and don't think it's changed much really. 9/10 messages we get are from guys who haven't read our profile and/or have put very little effort into their own. Many of those who complain about a lack of response here have profiles which frankly don't deserve any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people use it as a sex site. They don't want chat. They just want sex.

The mind some what boggels at the idea of consensual sex with a person you don't know out side of a swingers club or gay sauna setting with out chat."

Why? They want sex, they find people who also want sex.

Their limited profile puts off people who want friendships and sex.

I don't know why shagging strangers off a website is considered 'better' than shagging strangers in a Swingers club.

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By *ajandrose2Couple
over a year ago

tamworth


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

The irony of making a rant post about spelling and grammar while misspelling “their” "

“Whilst” , Please don’t sharpen your cudgels ! Was just meant to be a light hearted quip

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By *ajandrose2Couple
over a year ago

tamworth


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

The irony of making a rant post about spelling and grammar while misspelling “their”

“Whilst” , Please don’t sharpen your cudgels ! Was just meant to be a light hearted quip "

And yes we’ve got loads of mistakes on our profile as well!,It’s what makes us human

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

"

Think the clue there is "Read Profiles", it is chicken and egg - People Don't Read Profiles, so Why bother? - Not agreeing or disagreeing - We have a couples profile which we took time to write - the top line says "We prefer messages to winks" we only get winks.

Solo males are filtered simply because - she is not interested in solo males either single or part of a couple.

Again she did say that but nobody paid any attention so filters in place.

Unfortunately it is just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. No effort put in at all. Like they think opening a profile writing nothing and sending an awful photo will work. Nope sorry

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

Nope no effort at all mines just full of cock pics

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

I like to think I've put some effort into my profile.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Getting the lighting right on a sky remote is not easy. I just think we are misunderstood artists!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty I’m not sure a profile makes a huge difference. I’ve adapted this and previous profiles based on advice from forums but my luck has never improved so I’m just doing my own thing now. At least I’m true to me, lucky or not

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

The second sentence on my profile states, if you have nothing on your profile don’t bother messaging. As the guys who message me generally don’t read profiles, it’s not surprising that their profiles are scant with information about them or what they’re offering.

So I don’t bother answering if they can’t be bothered why should I ?

It takes 10-20 minutes to do a basic profile and then add or subtract some information occasionally to keep it updated.

Maybe the photos should be at the bottom of your profile, so the text is seen before them

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"I like to think I've put some effort into my profile. "

In all fairness it's an excellent profile. Very well written.

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth


"I like to think I've put some effort into my profile.

In all fairness it's an excellent profile. Very well written."

Thank you

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Some people use it as a sex site. They don't want chat. They just want sex.

The mind some what boggels at the idea of consensual sex with a person you don't know out side of a swingers club or gay sauna setting with out chat.

Why? They want sex, they find people who also want sex.

Their limited profile puts off people who want friendships and sex.

I don't know why shagging strangers off a website is considered 'better' than shagging strangers in a Swingers club. "

I have found that in club and gay sauna orgies or open play then few words of any are needed. But surely from a propotional perspective their must be a greater exchange of words in an ecounter orginating in an online contact?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Changed my profile 2 or 3 times now to varying degrees.

I always read someone's profile and if I'm not what they are looking for then just move on. Saves wasting anyones time.

On a personal level is when you message someone and you get the 2 or 3 word reply. Hard to build a convo of that really.

Perhaps one day I'll get lucky

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By *unichMan
over a year ago

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Erm, I realise I'm highlighting the (admittedly large) gaps in my knowledge of the vernacular, so I'm almost embarrassed to ask, but what does "iya" mean?

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Erm, I realise I'm highlighting the (admittedly large) gaps in my knowledge of the vernacular, so I'm almost embarrassed to ask, but what does "iya" mean?"

I think it was a contraction of "Hi ya" or Hello, or Greetings and salutations. But, then nothing followed it. It was as brief, yet even less engaging as the nod of thanks when giving way, when driving.

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

This frustrates me too. I personally don't understand the answer of I've tried both and it doesn't make much difference.

There are people here saying it does for them and how long does I take to write a simple profile?

I like to be able to get the idea of I'm compatible play wise with someone before jumping into stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know.. I think a lot of people join on a whim.. and just want to get on with browsing.. So don't write a profile..

I, on the other hand, take pride in a very long profile, that is designed to stop anybody from every messaging me (you'd have thought )

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By *unichMan
over a year ago

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"Erm, I realise I'm highlighting the (admittedly large) gaps in my knowledge of the vernacular, so I'm almost embarrassed to ask, but what does "iya" mean?

I think it was a contraction of "Hi ya" or Hello, or Greetings and salutations. But, then nothing followed it. It was as brief, yet even less engaging as the nod of thanks when giving way, when driving. "

Oh I see - much obliged to you. Getting back to your original question, I had a stab at writing something I thought might make a positive impression but it doesn't really seem to get me anywhere...

I wonder if the likes of Dostovesky, Shakespeare, or Tolkein were to script a single male profile, what sort of response it would receive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women and couples can be just as bad, it's not just men. I swear trying to get a conversation out of some of the people local to me is like trying to draw blood from a stone."

Agreed. Then there's those, often couples who engage in a pleasant bit of messaging, then suddenly they're gone, deleted without a word as to why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

"

Chances are they were wanking with their writing hand and were typing with the other when they messaged you. Hence Iya lol

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I don't know.. I think a lot of people join on a whim.. and just want to get on with browsing.. So don't write a profile..

I, on the other hand, take pride in a very long profile, that is designed to stop anybody from every messaging me (you'd have thought )"

Your profile is nicely written.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"Erm, I realise I'm highlighting the (admittedly large) gaps in my knowledge of the vernacular, so I'm almost embarrassed to ask, but what does "iya" mean?

I think it was a contraction of "Hi ya" or Hello, or Greetings and salutations. But, then nothing followed it. It was as brief, yet even less engaging as the nod of thanks when giving way, when driving.

Oh I see - much obliged to you. Getting back to your original question, I had a stab at writing something I thought might make a positive impression but it doesn't really seem to get me anywhere...

I wonder if the likes of Dostovesky, Shakespeare, or Tolkein were to script a single male profile, what sort of response it would receive?"

The thought of the Fab profiles for each of those gentlemen is certainly fun to contemplate. Shakespeare written with an iambic petameter (as I understand it every fith line rymes). Tolken with sweeping imagery. Dostevesky's style I am unfamiliar with.

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Sadly there are a few guys who are simply after a legover. Me personally I'm here exploring and making new friends, I have tried with my profile to reflect that and I'm always open to advice. I have to say though the swinging community helped me with my shyness with how friendly and welcoming most if not all the people have been. Cupid's events nights have made me come on in leaps and bounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly there are a few guys who are simply after a legover. Me personally I'm here exploring and making new friends, I have tried with my profile to reflect that and I'm always open to advice. I have to say though the swinging community helped me with my shyness with how friendly and welcoming most if not all the people have been. Cupid's events nights have made me come on in leaps and bounds. "

You joking guys are looking for a legover!

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Hi wot u up 2. Fancy a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people use it as a sex site. They don't want chat. They just want sex.

The mind some what boggels at the idea of consensual sex with a person you don't know out side of a swingers club or gay sauna setting with out chat.

Why? They want sex, they find people who also want sex.

Their limited profile puts off people who want friendships and sex.

I don't know why shagging strangers off a website is considered 'better' than shagging strangers in a Swingers club.

I have found that in club and gay sauna orgies or open play then few words of any are needed. But surely from a propotional perspective their must be a greater exchange of words in an ecounter orginating in an online contact?"

Not necessarily. I know women who are just looking for a fuck so the messages are very brief.

I agree online it's different to a raised eyebrow and a nod to a room in a club or sauna.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

"

Some people amaze me. When we get messages on our couples profile of Just a cock on their profile picture and a fancy a fuck? Message . Erm no thanks mate.

It doesn't take much to put a little thought into a message and pictures

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By *unichMan
over a year ago

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"I wonder if the likes of Dostovesky, Shakespeare, or Tolkein were to script a single male profile, what sort of response it would receive?

The thought of the Fab profiles for each of those gentlemen is certainly fun to contemplate. Shakespeare written with an iambic petameter (as I understand it every fith line rymes). Tolken with sweeping imagery. Dostevesky's style I am unfamiliar with. "

Noted for it's psychological profundity.

Much like my profile........hah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read a profile, I don't message a lot of people I come across on here simple because we are clearly not compatible going by the profile.

Some treat it as a numbers game, which is a shame.

I've been lucky to meet amazing people on the site and that's through reading and understand a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes trying ssssso hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you would think with the lockdown they would have spare time to polish a good profile...but many are so lazy...they are not going to turn up anyway!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"I'm totally with you on this, the other one is "will fill in later" on a profile that's been active for days or weks, no effort at all. I'm also getting frustrated with one, two and three word answers to messages and that's with some people I'm in conversation with already. I sometimes wonder why I put together a decent legible and in my opinion interesting message to keep a conversation going just to get less than a sentence back each time."

Agree. Hard to even get a decent conversation going on messages sometimes and that’s after they initiated contact in the first place! Think it boils down to laziness brought on by forgetting the art of taking the time to communicate with people,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's like putting Ikea furniture together ! Chuck the instructions and her on with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very trying, but I've given up on a profile. I have a silly one now, and I get exactly the same level of response as when I had a well structured, comprehensive one.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"I'm totally with you on this, the other one is "will fill in later" on a profile that's been active for days or weks, no effort at all. I'm also getting frustrated with one, two and three word answers to messages and that's with some people I'm in conversation with already. I sometimes wonder why I put together a decent legible and in my opinion interesting message to keep a conversation going just to get less than a sentence back each time.

Agree. Hard to even get a decent conversation going on messages sometimes and that’s after they initiated contact in the first place! Think it boils down to laziness brought on by forgetting the art of taking the time to communicate with people,"

I have to say that your profile is one of the most eloquent I have read in a while. Beautifully crafted.

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By *etnetWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"We don't mind getting messaged by guys. Recently there has been a lock down surge in numbers. Fair enough that is to be expected.

But in so many cases they clearly don't seem to read even the first paragraph of the profiles. While the level of grammar presentation spelling within there own profiles makes them as appealing as a "Proud to have Syphilis" T shirt.

Recently we had a message that said "Iya". Please pray tell what level of degenerate, gramatical and communicative fuckwittery is this?

Yes, this is probably a rant but if profiles are intended to be the basis for meetings or post club encounter continuation of contact. This is not the way forward.

Well said!!

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