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By *rhuges OP   Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

When a single guy messages you what is the process you go through to decide whether you want to meet up and how long does it usually take before you message home back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was part of a couple we wouldn't usually reply to many inbox messages, we relied on making the first move ourselves. The thing to bear in mind is that both will have to see the profile and a discussion would need to be had and routines and life can slow that down...its best not to hang on for a reply but just crack on with doing your own thing and making new connections.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

Tbh... The same as any other message. It depends on the sender. If the message is articulate and humourous, and the sender is what we perceive as good looking, they may get a reply within a few hours (usually when the kids are in bed!).

The message does have to stand out though, as like couples we get quite a few in any given day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each couple would be different but this is how we approach it:-

I read check profile reply and if I think they may be a good fit for my wife leave the message for her to read when she comes on line and then she will either reply and start up a chat or not.

If I feel they are not a good fit then I will either delete the message or sometimes block them to save them wasting their time again.

This works well for us and makes my wife’s time on fab much more enjoyable therefore making my time on here also better.

T

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Mostly I Mrs N make the decision about whether to continue chatting. This will depend on the guys profile and his approach.

There are certain things that put me off.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

One of us will read the message. If it’s well written, personable and not an obvious copy and pasted message (we’ve received messages with other peoples names at the top!) we’ll have a look at the profile.

If they’ve bothered to fill in a profile and it reads along the lines of what we’re looking for, then we’ll check the pictures.

If the pictures pass muster then we’ll leave replying to the message until the other of us has done the same checks. If we both like the look then we’ll message back in our own time, but as soon as we are able to do so, usually in 24 hours.

We’ve had people message us two or three times and then block us because we’ve not replied straight away, when in reality we’re waiting for the other one of us to check things. Some of these people we would have been interested in chatting to as well!

If at any point one of us decides we’re not keen for what we reason, we’ll message and tell the guy a polite no, letting him know why we’ve declined him.

So Message, Profile and then pictures.

One liners or abusive messages tend to just get deleted straight up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at age. Their pic is important and then we chat to see if we click

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