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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there a way back from swinging, or is it a thing for life?

This is my second come back to Fab and swinging, after the first time I've said to myself "that's enough let's do a normal relationship and possibly building a family". But the excitement of swinging has overcome my normal life so here I'm again. I know some of you will say that I can find a partner here and swing together but that's not what I like, I don't want to be a part of a swinging couple, I feel zero satisfaction of having a swinger wife, I like the other side where I'm a single swinger having fun with someone's else wife.

So very often I'm questioning myself if it's a good or bad thing to be a single swinger for life?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't for me it's for life, but what has happened is it's open my eyes to the sheer volume of unfaithfulness that goes on in and out of the scene.

I ain't got room in my life or the energy to wonder or question whether I'm being taken for a cunt or not, whether they really got held up at work or whether that weekend away was really for a stag do.

Fuck that shit.

Maybe when I'm older and sex is a distant memory I may consider a companion to live out my days with, but other than that. I really don't think I could put myself through it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This definitely isn't a lifestyle for life for us.

We have a few more things to tick off from our to-do list then that will be our lot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah so maybe going with the flow is the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would sack it off no problem in a relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is there a way back from swinging, or is it a thing for life?

This is my second come back to Fab and swinging, after the first time I've said to myself "that's enough let's do a normal relationship and possibly building a family". But the excitement of swinging has overcome my normal life so here I'm again. I know some of you will say that I can find a partner here and swing together but that's not what I like, I don't want to be a part of a swinging couple, I feel zero satisfaction of having a swinger wife, I like the other side where I'm a single swinger having fun with someone's else wife.

So very often I'm questioning myself if it's a good or bad thing to be a single swinger for life?"

If you crave the excitement of swinging then stick with it or you'll be one of "those" men.

A normal relationship? Is there such a thing?

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

while i don't think swinging is for life i think the possibility is always there should the occasion arise

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Too early to tell for us. At the moment we're happy with what we are doing and still plenty we want to do. I suspect in time we will have had enough or maybe just pop back from time to time for the odd thrill. Who knows? It's definitely changed our whole attitude to sex and our relationship though

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely in for life! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there a way back from swinging, or is it a thing for life?

This is my second come back to Fab and swinging, after the first time I've said to myself "that's enough let's do a normal relationship and possibly building a family". But the excitement of swinging has overcome my normal life so here I'm again. I know some of you will say that I can find a partner here and swing together but that's not what I like, I don't want to be a part of a swinging couple, I feel zero satisfaction of having a swinger wife, I like the other side where I'm a single swinger having fun with someone's else wife.

So very often I'm questioning myself if it's a good or bad thing to be a single swinger for life?"

A great forum Question. I have a very full life and I'm into lots of different activities but in terms of my sex life it will never be a vanilla again.

I think I find swingers more interesting people as they have chosen an unconventional life and that's what attracts me. Fuck boring vanilla conventional conformity, and those who cling to it. That's my thruppence worth.

Again - great question!

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Ultimately I guess it is what you want from swinging. If it's an itch you need scratching you'll continue till either you do or get bored or circumstances change.

We'll continue but not actively looking, occasionally meet with friends we have made, drink wine and beer, nice meals, BBQs tour in our camper maybe have the occasional fun along the way while we can.

We are very happy in our relationship and do not need anything from the scene but it is nice sometimes have a little extra fun with people who are of the same mind

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By *icefella69Man
over a year ago

bristol

Interesting question, had to ask myself and can honestly say it's both, yes "single swinger having fun with someone's else wife" is a privilage and an intense pleasure, but when I'm in a relationship I start to fantasize about sharing my girlfriend in a threesum or more - glad to say that's been the story with a few girlfriends of mine, phew soooooooo exciting!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well in your case you can still have a partner and swinging at the same time. In my case is either swinging or relationship as I don’t find exiting sharing my partner or swinging together.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there a way back from swinging, or is it a thing for life?

This is my second come back to Fab and swinging, after the first time I've said to myself "that's enough let's do a normal relationship and possibly building a family". But the excitement of swinging has overcome my normal life so here I'm again. I know some of you will say that I can find a partner here and swing together but that's not what I like, I don't want to be a part of a swinging couple, I feel zero satisfaction of having a swinger wife, I like the other side where I'm a single swinger having fun with someone's else wife.

So very often I'm questioning myself if it's a good or bad thing to be a single swinger for life?

If you crave the excitement of swinging then stick with it or you'll be one of "those" men.

A normal relationship? Is there such a thing? "

I was referring to a relationship with no swinging involved.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Once you are out of the box it's very hard to get back in, you are corrupted lol.

Having said that we will retire at some near point as age dictates.

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Swinging is something we enjoy for now but it’s unlikely that we will do it forever.

It’s fun, exciting and definitely gives us a buzz but not to the extent where we couldn’t live without it.

Jxx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Nobody has to make any commitments other than to the present but it's worthwhile knowing the consequences of our choices. If you will not have regrets, when you have chosen what you wanted as you went through life, then you are fine. And you will remain free to do something differently at any point. You’ll not be hurting others, just ensure that you don't hurt yourself

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

For us, once the good boat swing sailed and we got our sea legs, the thrill and excitement of the adventures have kept us here.

No doubt will head back to port at some point

Ps seas are rocky at the moment.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

the ideal would be a kink dynamic as a relationship which would involve others together, and then swing seperately. no interest in settling down with a 'vanilla' partner...cant think of anything more horrific..id rather be on my own..so i guess its scene life or nothing for me..

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

There's a fair chance that I'll be in it for life. I don't however swing when I'm in a relationship. It's just about finding the right one to settle down with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder if theres a retirement home for swingers????

Lol

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Wonder if theres a retirement home for swingers????

Lol

"
possibly an 'up and coming' investment opportunity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wonder if theres a retirement home for swingers????

Lol

"

Good idea

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Wonder if theres a retirement home for swingers????

Lol

"

If you live in America or else where you move to Tampa Bay, Geriatric swinging capital

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Have you tried a swinging relationship?

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Have you tried a swinging relationship?"

Who's post were you referring to, asking

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Have you tried a swinging relationship?

Who's post were you referring to, asking "
The OP.

If it was another post I would of used the quote and reply button.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Have you tried a swinging relationship?

Who's post were you referring to, asking The OP.

If it was another post I would of used the quote and reply button."

OP had already stated that didn't want a swinging relationship, I was simply asking to which post were you referring nothing more. Thats all not need for an aggressive answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you tried a swinging relationship?"

I don’t get existed at all sharing my partner or swinging together. Hotwife scenario is the thing I like the most or simply having different female sexual partners.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Have you tried a swinging relationship?

I don’t get existed at all sharing my partner or swinging together. Hotwife scenario is the thing I like the most or simply having different female sexual partners."

Yes I understand that. You're in a quandary then. Not an easy choice. Hope it works out for you whichever way you choose

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Have you tried a swinging relationship?

Who's post were you referring to, asking The OP.

If it was another post I would of used the quote and reply button.

OP had already stated that didn't want a swinging relationship, I was simply asking to which post were you referring nothing more. Thats all not need for an aggressive answer."

Confused as to where you think aggression was used

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Lifer here. I am simply not wired for monogamy, not have I actually ever slept with anyone who was not interested in seeing other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if you would never consider "swinging" while in a relationship, then you are not in fact a "swinger". You are simply taking advantage of the freedom your single life brings you. Fair enough. But don't confuse the two.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely if you would never consider "swinging" while in a relationship, then you are not in fact a "swinger". You are simply taking advantage of the freedom your single life brings you. Fair enough. But don't confuse the two."

I don’t mind what is called, I like what I like but I think going in a swinger club as a single, makes you swinger as well.

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