FabSwingers.com forum: Question to couples

By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Couples who didn't meet in the swinging scene was it the male or the female that suggested trying it?

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

The male here.

What sort of split are you expecting OP?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Male. Not much persuasion mind ya!

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Met in the scene sorry can't help, might be an idea to see how many of each there is though, so how many men/ ladies suggested it and how many met in scene

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Not speaking for myself but it was male , but I'm glad that it was. Before the pitch fork bearers jump on the post she was already separated.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Caroline's idea - long story.

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By *erms and conditionsCouple
over a year ago

Alton

We were approached by another couple and both agreed instantly

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

Female, but male happily agreed with no great persuasion required.....

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By *izzie and VictorCouple
over a year ago

worcestershire

It was wanting to have sex in a pool that got us looking at places to safely enjoy sex in different settings and we attended clubs with no intention of swinging but where we would draw a line has become progressively fuzzier mutually

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By *extravagantWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I suggested it to hubby, he loved the idea even though it has always frightened the living daylights out of him

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Def him suggesting it - he'd talk about it during sex as a fantasy to me - the idea sort of set in my mind & grew to the point we thought why not???

He has some great ideas at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first swinging relationship. It was a way for her to explore the new idea she might have bi-curious leanings. Developed from there. Each relationship since it's been an open part of the "so tell me about yourself" while getting to know each other.

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By *bbott24Couple
over a year ago

Devizes

I (male) suggested it but from previous chats whilst watching porn I knew she would say yes.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Couples who didn't meet in the swinging scene was it the male or the female that suggested trying it?"

.me the female, I'm bi!

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By *ady and DjCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

DJ suggested as he had done it previously, and I started to get intrigued and curious.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"Couples who didn't meet in the swinging scene was it the male or the female that suggested trying it?"

Literally can’t remember, we both knew from the start we were both bi. So I guess it was inevitable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did, didnt take much convincing mind.

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By *exyredheadtattooCouple
over a year ago

Beaumont

"Couples who didn't meet in the swinging scene was it the male or the female that suggested trying it?"

Male suggested, not much encouragement needed from me, female.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Kinda mutual, maybe me (Mrs) first? Can't remember really.

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By *hezzie BikersCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Mrs arranged to meet a couple as a surprise never looked back

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By *aughtyDuetCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

We both talked about our sexual fantasies as teenagers but didn’t act upon them involving others. Took the plunge 6 years ago and have never looked back........ So to answer your question OP, it was very much a joint decision.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

He suggested it.... We were/are into other kinks. The more we explore kinks the further down the rabbit hole we go...

One day he told me a fantasy which involved me fucking another man it took about 18 months before i did.

Never looked back lol i think i have had sex more now with other men than with him (I've not met anyone during covid) since that first time.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Hubby here, its a fair cop guvnor, hands up - it was me!

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Male then she readily agreed

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Was Mrs that has suggested and made the move to bring other females home.

Was me(mr) that made the jump and found a club to go to.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Female was more open to chat, male forever the opportunist.

Final answer probably 50/50

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

"I (male) suggested it but from previous chats whilst watching porn I knew she would say yes. "

Very similar

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Was suggested to us on a Facebook group so we thought we'd give it a try

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not what I was expecting lol. The two couples I've met it was definitely the male

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

bit of us both

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Female half as I had done few threesomes and told him when I had few drinks

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By *onosplayCouple
over a year ago

banbury

Was my wife. With her ex the first time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was his idea that I try it. I was actually reluctant for years but when I eventually took the plunge I discovered my inner slut lol. I can't wait until we can meet again as I never really got into the clubs, spas, parties etc before lockdown. Xx

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern

Very much a joint thing for us after a dirty weekend away and lots of talk about fantasies

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

When I first met Paul he was very open that he was a swinger and I was intrigued and after a while wanted to discover more. It probably took around a year of talking and understanding before I persuaded Paul to take me to a club and have never looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were going to try a gay bar in Coventry as an experience and Cheryl suggested going to Chameleons on a Bi night instead.

The rest is history.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Female was more open to chat, male forever the opportunist.

Final answer probably 50/50"

My own experiences, been involved with the scene since my early 20s. Was invited to join, and made a huge difference to my career as a young guy.

If people were honest I'd say 60-70 if not a bit higher male initiated to female

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Female was more open to chat, male forever the opportunist.

Final answer probably 50/50

My own experiences, been involved with the scene since my early 20s. Was invited to join, and made a huge difference to my career as a young guy.

If people were honest I'd say 60-70 if not a bit higher male initiated to female

From our experience we would agree males are more receptive to the idea of swinging..but there is inner side in ladies that is more powerful but more challenging at the outset to draw out.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Female was more open to chat, male forever the opportunist.

Final answer probably 50/50

My own experiences, been involved with the scene since my early 20s. Was invited to join, and made a huge difference to my career as a young guy.

If people were honest I'd say 60-70 if not a bit higher male initiated to female

From our experience we would agree males are more receptive to the idea of swinging..but there is inner side in ladies that is more powerful but more challenging at the outset to draw out."

Agreed although my partner under duress (Sad But True, happens a lot) was introduced to the scene and went along to save marriage (failed), discovered something about her sexuality she had hadn't considered

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Female was more open to chat, male forever the opportunist.

Final answer probably 50/50

My own experiences, been involved with the scene since my early 20s. Was invited to join, and made a huge difference to my career as a young guy.

If people were honest I'd say 60-70 if not a bit higher male initiated to female

From our experience we would agree males are more receptive to the idea of swinging..but there is inner side in ladies that is more powerful but more challenging at the outset to draw out.

Sad and sorry to hear that but at least something positive came out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was hubby who suggested it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We was chatting and Why asked me if I had a 3sum . Yes I answered . The look of shock on her face . Nearly dumped me . Chatted over a few weeks and went to a club . Stayed 45 mins

. Then a few months after she wanted to try again and not looked back . Now love hols to GC . Beach no 4 hut sunbathing and clubs at night ...... can’t wait till can meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples who didn't meet in the swinging scene was it the male or the female that suggested trying it?"

For us it was me (the female) that wanted to try

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By *andi-n-RandiCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Both of us.... discovered we both wanted to get filthy with others while talking about our fantasies on night

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Female was more open to chat, male forever the opportunist.

Final answer probably 50/50

My own experiences, been involved with the scene since my early 20s. Was invited to join, and made a huge difference to my career as a young guy.

If people were honest I'd say 60-70 if not a bit higher male initiated to female

From our experience we would agree males are more receptive to the idea of swinging..but there is inner side in ladies that is more powerful but more challenging at the outset to draw out.

Sad and sorry to hear that but at least something positive came out of it. "

Thank you. A lot of positive did come out of it, we could enjoy the scene, she could enjoy the way she wanted to, met some good friends, and had some great times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was me...but only because he had tried it before and I wanted some of the action and he was all for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was hubby and when I knew he was serious. I knew that I would enjoy it xxxx

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By *unny ValentineCouple
over a year ago

Crewe

We met on a vanilla dating site. We found we had both been to clubs before in past relationships (actually her that bought it up, but in a way that if you'd not known about clubs you'd have missed the reference!). So it was a joint decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We decided together after a friend mentioned he was on FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The husband but glad he did.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Both together. Evolved from boudoir photography we did together, getting naked in front of the photographer and getting turned on by it. Then trying a naturist club which happened to have play rooms. It was all a gradual transition together after being open with each other. It's been a great journey.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

We always spoke about it but not in the sense of wanting to try it to start with, then the subject came up again...and we decided together that we would like to try a 3sum...but unfortunately the swinging community is very sparce up this end of the country.

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By *ilky_CocoPuffsCouple
over a year ago

Luton

"Couples who didn't meet in the swinging scene was it the male or the female that suggested trying it?"

In our relationship it was a discussed joint decision.

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

It was me that suggested it and it took June 2 years to come around to the idea.

For once she actually wishes she’d listened to me earlier lol

Mark

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We always fantasised about having a threesome and exploring Jo’s curiosity but it was always just that, a fantasy

We had absolutely no idea about this lifestyle until a swingers club opened in our area. It was Jo who highlighted the club opening so I went and got us a membership

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"We always fantasised about having a threesome and exploring Jo’s curiosity but it was always just that, a fantasy

We had absolutely no idea about this lifestyle until a swingers club opened in our area. It was Jo who highlighted the club opening so I went and got us a membership

D."

And we hope to see you guys there sometime in the post Covid era, D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started dating. Though open chats we both admitted to playing the swing scene in here as singles and that we were both bisexual which really turned jenny in knowing i was bi. We both sort of suggested coming on here as a cpl. Jenny created this profile for us and now we are excited when safe yo start our journey of meeting other cpls and then maybe singles. Although we do have one bi guy lined up to play with as soon as we are allowed to meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She did.

A few years later it was my turn to be the girl

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By *indy777Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

It was the drink!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"We always fantasised about having a threesome and exploring Jo’s curiosity but it was always just that, a fantasy

We had absolutely no idea about this lifestyle until a swingers club opened in our area. It was Jo who highlighted the club opening so I went and got us a membership

And we hope to see you guys there sometime in the post Covid era, D

And fingers crossed it will be before 2025!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met outside the scene and both of us entered the swinging scene completely unexpected and by accident!!!!!

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

The whole threesome idea we talked about and fantasized about for years. One particular day we very unexpectedly got the chance to act upon it

this kind of brought us out of or shell and gave us the taste for it (pun intended)

so we started actively seek out other women

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By *indy777Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

How did that first time come about?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"We always fantasised about having a threesome and exploring Jo’s curiosity but it was always just that, a fantasy

We had absolutely no idea about this lifestyle until a swingers club opened in our area. It was Jo who highlighted the club opening so I went and got us a membership

And we hope to see you guys there sometime in the post Covid era, D

And fingers crossed it will be before 2025!!

D."

We will have to renew our membership

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Technically hubby, but we had been talking about the best way for me to explore my bisexuality for a while.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

A close friend who knew about my fantasy and she pretty much had the same one,

a bbq at ours and a cheeky naughty comment from her about my Mr late on when people are leaving,

After being alone in the garage having a chat a snog happens between us and soon after and hands start wandering,

Everyone expect her leaves, we tell My Mr what happened in the garage,

We all go up to bed and have a great time which continues for the next 8 months until she gets into a relationship of her own

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By *randMrsJones500Couple
over a year ago

london

we met on here so 50/50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Def him suggesting it - he'd talk about it during sex as a fantasy to me - the idea sort of set in my mind & grew to the point we thought why not???

He has some great ideas at times

This exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C introduced me to swinging scene as a cuck but we had met in the bdsm scene.. so female in this couple

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