FabSwingers.com forum: Keeping an erection

By *rMrs84 OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

So I have no serious trouble getting hard but can find keeping my erection while playing a challenge unless I’m 100% in the mood, receiving attention and stimulation. Trouble is if I get that stimulation there’s a tendency for things to go off and stop play

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!"

because of the joys of my my brain is wired, if I have to do too much at once I end up concentrating elsewhere.

So either stay as focused as I can a decent cockring, not those shitty to thin round things. and worse case cialis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing better than a woman rimming me... makes me so hard!!

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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago

London

Attraction and comfort for keeps me hard. Anxiety often prevents me from cuming too soon or at all for that matter, strange thing is I don't lose the hard on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing better than a woman rimming me... makes me so hard!!

That’s the solution bring an extra girl to rim you

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!"

This is EXACTLY the same problem I've got.

Thing is, you're 36, I'm 63, so was a bit shocked that you've got this problem too!!

Firstly OP, I would just rule out anything sinister with a visit to your GP, just to make sure the mechanism is all ok!

Then I'd try different types of blue pill, not just the V one. My mate gave me a different make, being cautious, I took half of it, and it worked a treat. Can't remember what it was called though!

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!"
blue pills don't really work but I have tried a pill called cobra tablet and that is really good

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

For me it’s a healthy change of positions that allow good visual stimulation.

Reverse cowgirl and from behind are good examples. I’ll also stop fucking and enjoy licking pussy to stop the slight desensitised feeling during super long session.

These are all great for keeping hard but a woman moaning in pleasure and telling me how I feel inside her and how she’s feeling really does give a rejuvenating surge of blood to my cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a bad solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!"
i find i get this problem sometimes. Its more if i concentrate on j with foreplay i get so in the mood to give her a good time i forget about myself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to exercise the kegel muscle good for your prostate too!

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By *rMrs84 OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!

This is EXACTLY the same problem I've got.

Thing is, you're 36, I'm 63, so was a bit shocked that you've got this problem too!!

Firstly OP, I would just rule out anything sinister with a visit to your GP, just to make sure the mechanism is all ok!

Then I'd try different types of blue pill, not just the V one. My mate gave me a different make, being cautious, I took half of it, and it worked a treat. Can't remember what it was called though! "

Nothing sinister I’m confident of that, I think this is just my own headspace and too much to focus on, performance under pressure and the like.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

For George it is simple - general fitness, zero alcohol, zero pharma, arousal and eagerness ... once hard it has a life of its own (wink) x Anne

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I was going to mention, if you are to concerned about keeping an erection, this might be the problem. Performance anxiety, it might just be in your head, pressuring youself too much.

If not that the I would suggest the doctors, just because you feel great doesn't mean that there could be some other problem.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're brave OP as it's a sensitive subject and one many guys don't like to talk about.

I've found being totally immersed in your partner helps. Do other stuff like oral, boob play, lots of teasing, and focus on her reactions. Take your time, try different strokes, different rythmns, like shallow for 9, deep for 1 and work that in reverse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!"

Horny Goat from Holland & Barrett is supposed to help, I have not personally tried it though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!"

Half a blue pill works well for me, but I also do kegel exercises (pelvic floor for men), which is basically tensing the prostate muscle that controls how you stop peeing. If you tense it for several seconds and then gently release, you may find that things improve. Other than that, healthy diet, don't smoke, watch how much you drink and probably the best advice is to try not to overthink it, which can be easier said than done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!

You can hold off your orgasms with a little practice too!

Good topic, I think Men should talk more about this. Men's health and the prostate is a surprise to most young Men.

Was to me.

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By *rMrs84 OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"You're brave OP as it's a sensitive subject and one many guys don't like to talk about.

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maybe, but there’s not a single guy out there who’s NEVER had a performance problem at some point. It may be nerves, mental health, fitness, booze or whatever, but it should definitely be talked about more than it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need my nipples played with to keep me hard... Then a finger in the bum to make me cum... ??

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

I find attraction is key, then dirty talk, following different positions and failing that a good quality cock ring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No erection needed to give pleasure. Hands and tongue are less likely to get tired. I'd say don't worry about it Let things develop and, if they go the right way, you'll be ready when the time comes.

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By *rMrs84 OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I find attraction is key, then dirty talk, following different positions and failing that a good quality cock ring."
any suggestions on a good quality ring?

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

As I've got older this happens with me, but hey relax, if you get hard as and when you need it for action what is the issue. I like to give sensual massage, at different stages my erection comes and goes but if my playmate asks for something more it stands to attention like a trusty soldier, poised to go over the top (not a good analogy now I come to think of it). Probably the worst thing you can do is worry about it, has to be an erection killer! Also spare a thought for the troubled souls who can't get one and revel in what you've got.

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over a year ago

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By *rMrsMorningstarCouple
over a year ago

near bridgend

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"I find attraction is key, then dirty talk, following different positions and failing that a good quality cock ring.any suggestions on a good quality ring?"

Lovehoney have a 3 pack which change colour with heat. They seem pretty good I got a pack to try the other week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you watch porn when you masturbate? I started with erectile dysfunction a while back that got gradually worse. First meeting couples, then single females. Total nightmare.

Got tested for all sorts. I was hoping testosterone would be low, but it was borderline high. No joy

Performance anxiety maybe? Not that either as I had trouble even getting myself hard to knock one out

Although self diagnosed, it turns out it was PIED. Porn induced erectile dysfunction. I was using porn to knock one out every time. Completely screws your dopamine does porn, so gave it up and gave masturbating up. It’s already made a huge difference

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The fact you have no problem getting hard suggests the issue is more likely in your head than a physical one OP but seriously still consider a visit to your GP to talk it over and rule out anything underlying (in spite of your confidence there is nothing) - if nothing else he may be able to recommend an alternate to the blue pill that might be better suited to you.

The beat thing you can do though, and this is the tough part, is try not to let it worry you, try and take an "if it happens it happens" approach and not get flustered about it - if it happens just move on to pleasuring your partner in other ways for a while - you'd be surprised how once you relax and take the focus away from you, that he springs back to life so to speak.

Obviously things like cock rings and PE medication can also help, but you may have to try a few before you find one that works for you - we're all different and find different things work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its more common than you think. Weve had 4 meets and each time man failed to rise and left high and dry.

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I don’t have problem staying hard

But I tend to mix it up a bit changing positions and tactics

Giving her oral seems to keep me really hard so I go down as often or as long as needed

But I never think or dwell on it

Good luck with all advice

Find what works for you

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By *wan47Man
over a year ago

Gourdon, SW France

Half a blue pill works every time

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

My problem is I get bored with just fucking, so the fore play, the build up, the anticipation and consequence play.

Can last hours, that is were the fun is for me.

Don’t want to shag for hours

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

On the rare occasion that this has happened to me, I’ve found the best remedy is to maybe indulge in some oral or other foreplay for a while, it soon comes back to life when you’re not worrying about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you start thinking about it then it becomes worse. It’s like anything our heads dictate how big an issue it is.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"As soon as you start thinking about it then it becomes worse. It’s like anything our heads dictate how big an issue it is. "

Tend to disagree, our mind can be our worst enemy.yet it is a stunning asset.

Use for the positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As soon as you start thinking about it then it becomes worse. It’s like anything our heads dictate how big an issue it is.

Tend to disagree, our mind can be our worst enemy.yet it is a stunning asset.

Use for the positive."

We are saying the same thing, our head either makes it an issue or shrugges it off. At points we look at things negatively and other times positively we are just human beings after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's got to be a full on wet snog. It soon gets the mojo back.

Like someone suggested earlier further up. It wouldn't hurt to go get checked out or it could be just performance anxiety. Either way they will talk to you about your options.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try Pomegranate Juice .

150ml glass daily.

Are you on any medication ?

This can cause Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

A good healthy diet with a bit of exercise will soon having him standing to attention.

Just try to relax & good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's got to be a full on wet snog. It soon gets the mojo back.

Like someone suggested earlier further up. It wouldn't hurt to go get checked out or it could be just performance anxiety. Either way they will talk to you about your options.

Good luck OP

Feel ya on this one mate... a good passionate song can get the motor up and running again haha

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By *iveralandssklpMan
over a year ago

Turkey

"Try Pomegranate Juice .

150ml glass daily.

Are you on any medication ?

This can cause Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

A good healthy diet with a bit of exercise will soon having him standing to attention.

Just try to relax & good luck

You have just started "panic buying" of Pomegranate Juice in the supermarkets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sensitive subject here but I want to raise this one as I’m sure a lot of guys would love to get some input on this.

What’s the key to keeping hard for you?

Now I’m not for a moment aiming for porn star endurance but I often find if I lose it it’s hard to get my engine going again

So guys what’s your trick? I’ve tried blue pills but find they don’t agree with me, rings can help but I would rather not use them if there a better answer.

Answers on a postcard please!

Horny Goat from Holland & Barrett is supposed to help, I have not personally tried it though..."

Tried Horny Goat very expensive unless on offer. Didn’t find it did much at all apart from made me feel dizzy apparently this is a normal side effect of this stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep im in that place now .doc says stress . Which he is probably right about .5.30 am cant fucking sleep .tell me about it even a whole blue one i need a least 8xhours before to make it work .on the blue tab after you take it dont drink a lot of mineral are water .mixes in the bladder and delutes its effect .tried ging sing tablets from h/b bloddy expensive. Worked for a week and then nothing .stress stress bloody stress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to have the same problem recently and changing positions makes it worse sometimes. Even the blue pill doesnt have much effect if im not 100% in the right frame of mind.

Interestingly the guy who mentioned about porn, i also find that watching porn doesnt do anything for me sometimes and i get the same problem.

I will be keepimg an eye on this thread for furthur advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop wanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL

Oh shit ! You could be right there I'd best stock up now .

Shopping list for today

** Hand sanitiser

** Toilet rolls

** Pomegranate Juice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop wanking for at least two weeks, get out and do some exercise, avoid coffee and alcohol, get some cialis daily and slowly come off... its in your head bud, need to beat that demon and you'll be fine.. good luck

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By *itguy21066Man
over a year ago

leicester

I sometimes go a little semi hard but I think it’s an age thing, if I take a pill not the blue ones but a vitamin pill lol from the sex shop I’m rock hard for ages but next day have an headache

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