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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’ve been on and off this site for a cpl of years and I’ve noticed that there those who choose looks and those who choose personality..

So I put to the forum, what would you choose

Personality or

Looks?

It would be interesting to see the spread pardon the pun!

Yes I have a face for radio

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Looks on here.

For me it’s a sex site based all about attraction.

In clubs, it’s a mixture of both. The cockiest hot guy is usually the one I’m after haha.

Dating/ vanilla world- both.

xx

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

If we had to choose solely for sex reasons then it would be looks... I know that sound shallow but if we HAD to choose and had no choice then definitely looks we Purely and simply couldn't have sex with someone we didn't find physically attractive

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

Well it would depend where.. on here looks:sex appeal but we ha e to get on. Outside of here personality plays a massive role on any sort of longevity so I prioritise it aloe more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be both

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

Hmm... personality.. But I think there has to be some attraction..

If someone can engage me with wit or conversation then I'm all ears! But for me there would have to be some form of attraction.. But that could be different in anyone.. The smile, twinkly eyes etc.. I'm not looking for the perfect man or woman physically.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Got to be sexual chemistry for me so definitely looks

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

Most definitely personality. There has to be a meeting of minds before sex and the best arousal is a great like minded personality with chat, tease, laughter etc.

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By *hesweetcheeksMan
over a year ago

hertfordshire

For fab it’s all about looks but I do like to get a good vibe from the guys I meet, it sounds so shallow as well but the reality is fab is a sex site and you want to be meeting people you’re attracted too !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes, as it is predominantly a sex site looks would be more important than personality which is kinda clear now it’s put on the table. clearly I’ve been thinking about this all wrong... I should try tinder for personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, sexually it’s looks but in a relationship looks aren’t enough and personality would win

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Yes, as it is predominantly a sex site looks would be more important than personality which is kinda clear now it’s put on the table. clearly I’ve been thinking about this all wrong... I should try tinder for personality "

Tinder is just the same people pretending they want to take you out once before they fuck you haha xx

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It will always be looks as I am here predominantly for a sexual meet and I suspect it’s my look that’s attractive to them as well. It’s nice if they’re interesting and intelligent as well. But if a hot guy, woman, couple or even Tgirl contacted for a sexual meet then I’ll enjoy their body over their mind.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Both.

I can afford at this stage on my life to be as fussy as I can be.

People worth meeting come once a year or so, but it doesn’t matter. And I am quite halpy atm with my gorgeous FWBs, having met them all on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it partly depends on what you are looking to get out of the site.

Attraction to someone comes in many forms

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

A bit of both for me ,wife says the same but I have seen her play with some guys . I would least expect her too , but she would say she felt comfortable or just horny when they chatted her up

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both regardless of being on here, looks would have to be attractive to me and he'd have to be a decent kinda guy too.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Both for me. In varying ratios.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for us as we like regular meets

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I say both but more towards personality really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks - how can u be sexually attracted to a personality. let's be honest......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both as I’m not looking for one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality. Because I have neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks - how can u be sexually attracted to a personality. let's be honest......"

"Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. The prefix “demi” means half — which can refer to being halfway between sexual and asexual."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality. Because I have neither."

I’m sure you’re a lovely lady x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me, love it when guys get into my head and need to match in the stuff we like and want to try. Not a great deal of guys are up for pegging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality all the way for me, looks are unimportant. It’s what’s inside that counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks - how can u be sexually attracted to a personality. let's be honest......"

Easily. Doesn't matter what someone looks like, if I dont have anything in common with them or can't have a conversation with them that isn't about sex, I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both to a degree but I'm definitely more attracted to personality than looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks give you whiplash, but personality is the neck brace!

A pretty face overrides almost every other physical attribute for me, and by that I mean if the lady is pretty, I couldn't care less if she a B-cup or K-cup, or size 10 or 28++++. And if that pretty face has lovely eyes, and a bright smile, so much the better.

But having to choose between the two, the personality gets me, and its for very simple reasons. Communication is the essence of great sex, and aligned or great personalities enhance communication and thus, increase the chance of the sex being greater still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In honestly, more looks. I'm not looking for a relationship, just sex, so I need physical attraction to jump into bed with a near strangers.

However, they need to have a decent personality too, if I can't engage with them and be comfortable in their company then I won't meet. I have no time for disrespectful people either. If we really get on I might then consider FWB xx

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Personality for me - I have to like someone to find them sexually attractive and they grow more attractive the more I get to know them. There's not a particular aesthetic I like but once I like talking to someone they are a modern day Aphrodite/Adonis to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation doesn’t it. I’m currently looking for a new partner so both would be a high priority. If it’s something more casual then looks would win that battle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality and height ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems to be quiet a mixed bag, for me it has to be both attributes, of course I love sexy hot women, but if there is no conversation going on then it kills the passion for me..

I do find intelligence hot though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here and the vanilla world, the same applies. You are drawn by looks.

You don't see a personality from across the bar and decide to go and speak. You have to be attracted first then you speak to see if you like the person to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personality and height ????"

Is height important? I don’t know if it is..

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By *nmgCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Of the looks aren't there, you're not likely to getto assess the personality.

Shallow (perhaps) but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality and height ????

Is height important? I don’t know if it is.. "

It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

a combination - personality can triumph looks but not other way round - imho x Anne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to find the person I’m fucking attractive in some way and usually this is physical if I’m window shopping on Fab.

PoF is different, I like a kind face and a an attractive personality.

Not sure why it’s different on either platforms but it is!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personality and height ????

Is height important? I don’t know if it is..

It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am"

Fair enough!

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Looks first as it's the first thing I notice on someone's profile but then the personality has to match ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personality. Because I have neither."

I’m sure that’s not true... we have qualities that we do not see in ourselves...

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Personality and height ????

Is height important? I don’t know if it is..

It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am

Fair enough! "

5ft9 gal I get this vibe! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends.....you can't fuck a personality. But you probably won't want to fuck someone again if they don't have one.....AND....some people who look like a bag of spanners can charm/laugh you into bed.

All depends on where you are in life

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

It's quite easy really.

Looks are great but we're all attracted to different looks.

However, for me, its a person's personality that makes them attractive. Ugly personalities make ugly people.

Photos aren't always an accurate representation of what someone really looks like as they don't generally capture personality. Not everyone takes a good picture either. Your personality affects how people see you.

I identify as demisexual and it's personality for me and being able to stimulate the mind with things like full sentences, having things in common, a connection.

We're all different though. And that's OK

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personality and height ????

Is height important? I don’t know if it is..

It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am

Fair enough!

5ft9 gal I get this vibe! Haha "

An inch makes all the difference as I wish I was 6ft, but alas 5ft 11 is all I can manage

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By *ew aged adventurerMan
over a year ago

swansea

Personality over looks ... does anybody look at the mantelpiece when they poke the fire ?????..... :-

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

It has to be both for me, I wouldnt take one over the other just to get sex, I have to fancy someone and have that certain chemistry with them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....you can't fuck a personality. "

Actually, you can... I've fucked women who were not immediately attractive to me, but once I got to know them they were absolutely amazing.

I once had a particular sports car that for most people, wasn't attractive. In terms of driving experience and satisfaction, it was unrivalled. People can be like that too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Another question which falls under this category..

If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Another question which falls under this category..

If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet? "

Yeah.

I’m not here to date them.

As long as they aren’t an arsehole and like what I like in bed absolutely.

I don’t believe communication helps with a good fuck If you just want a one time good fuck haha!

Communication is for relationships haha xx

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

There will be a difference of course for those who are looking for one offs and those who want a friend with benefits type of 'thing'. The latter is where personality will be the deciding factor.

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

For us anyways we like to be able to get along and chat before meeting but ultimately if there isn't an attraction of some sort it won't really work. Exchanging pics fairly early on in the conversation is best so noone gets their time wasted

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Looks if we're going to be getting sexual together although I have to like a person superficially. Socially personality is very important although it helps if you're at least clean and tidy

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Another question which falls under this category..

If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet? "

No , done this a few times in my early days and I really didn't like it .

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It has to be both, but personality is more important.

A personality we like can overcome issues of looks to some extent. Looks can never overcome us not liking somebody's personality.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

There has to be a combination of the two as far as I'm concerned, if I'm going to have sex with them.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"Another question which falls under this category..

If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet? "

No, definitely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always say chemistry and laughter above everything else.

However once had a threesome with some guy at a club and didn't know his name.

Oh yes and the sex was good.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's definitely got to be a combination of both. Personally is by far the presiding factor when it comes to attraction for me though. It doesn't matter how classically beautiful they are, I'f there is no connection nothing going to happen.....

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

The initial atrtraction will be on looks, but if you can't connect with someone then the attraction goes. For me, I need a connection of physical attraction, metal attraction and emotional connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect !

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"So I’ve been on and off this site for a cpl of years and I’ve noticed that there those who choose looks and those who choose personality..

So I put to the forum, what would you choose

Personality or

Looks?

It would be interesting to see the spread pardon the pun!

Yes I have a face for radio "

Can't we have both

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By *onathan14Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm as ugly as sin with no personality..

What do I do??

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I'm as ugly as sin with no personality..

What do I do??"

Introduce your self to your right hand and hope that it's not to fussy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer long term fabs so for me personality is really important. I won't fuck a douchebag.

But I wouldn't engage in the conversation in the first place if there was no attraction physically. So I'm going to be fussy and say I require both lol

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By *louWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think it’s about looks to begin with, I need to be attracted to get as far as having a conversation with someone. Although they would need to have a decent personality too or it would never get past first few messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality for me. The worst meet I ever had was with the most attractive woman - pert everything, but no joy, no passion and no fun.

A zest for life is a bigger turn on.

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

other

Personality over looks but that doesn’t mean looks aren’t important. Fab is an odd little world of men desperate for sex and the subsequent verification. Women are essentially the winning lottery ticket to most men and can understandably afford to be much pickier. A number of ladies on here may physically be rated as a 3-4 in the outside world but on fab they get to experience guys who they may not get a look in with in a bar etc... and ultimately that’s one of the glorious things with Fab, if it helps a small % of women increase their confidence in this way then power to them.

I wouldn’t fuck somebody I thought was a dickhead, equally somebody has to physically be an approximation of what I like. Otherwise aren’t I just using them as a hole?!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Initially looks I'd say to get me interested, but having a great personality also helps!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Also if someone's hot, but boring or rude, I soon go off them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither. Just wanting sex nothing else, don’t even have to like the person haha

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Initial attraction is important but if your all muscle with no brains or ability to have a conversation then it quickly puts me off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be attracted to someone to contact them and then see what personality is like...you can't judge someone's personality just by a naked picture

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

My bar for looks is much lower than my bar for personality/intelligence but they would have to clear both for it to be successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks come after personality in my opinion. I like having a connection with a woman first. Id rather laugh with a woman who has great personality than be sad with a woman who looks stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deffo Looks first then over a couple of messages to see if an idiot or not..

Personality comes into play if you want to have fun with that person more than once or as a regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My bar for looks is much lower than my bar for personality/intelligence but they would have to clear both for it to be successful. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got to be attracted to the person on here 100%.

Personality is just a bonus after that

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