FabSwingers.com forum: Gifts

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

I'm not after any photos in return or anything but must admit its a massive turn on for me knowing a beautiful wife will be wearing sexy lingerie for her husband which I have bought. Anyon else done something similar?

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Nooooo I think that’s kinda weird but whatever floats your boat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nooooo I think that’s kinda weird but whatever floats your boat

Really? Some people might say swinging in general is weird (I personally don't think that)

But I respect your opinion, I was after opinions and I got one so I appreciate it.

Happy fabbing

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not something I would be comfortable with but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was offered money from a bloke on another site , he didn’t want anything in return just got off giving money away , I turned him down , and same site another man was offering to send you items from your Amazon wish list again I said no

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

Not for us. A guy bought me a gift once that he had heard me ask hubby for. He was ditched straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

That's such a lovely thing to do I hope they do send pics for u

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Appreciate the feedback guys.

I'm not into financial abuse or anything like that. Lol

There may be a potential meet once restrictions are lifted so just wanted to keep things interesting, without bombarding with messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

That's such a lovely thing to do I hope they do send pics for u "

They seem lovely and she has suggested she will, but that was not my reasoning for doing it. It was also to add a bit of excitement for them aswell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope ive walked away from meets because of gifts .. totally creepy

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Heels 4 me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"nope ive walked away from meets because of gifts .. totally creepy"

I think it may be slightly different buying a single female gifts as it would seem like I'm trying to buy her attention or possible meet.

However buying something for a wife to wear for her husband has an element of naughtiness

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Whether you mean there to be or not there is always a kind of obligation when someone gifts something to a stranger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope ive walked away from meets because of gifts .. totally creepy

I think it may be slightly different buying a single female gifts as it would seem like I'm trying to buy her attention or possible meet.

However buying something for a wife to wear for her husband has an element of naughtiness "

errm im a wife

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whether you mean there to be or not there is always a kind of obligation when someone gifts something to a stranger..."

Well maybe I'm just a genourous guy as I honestly do not expect anything in return just happy if I've added something in terms of excitement to a couples sex life.

Not that I assumed they needed it

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

How did you know where to send the stuff ?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

What's this thread about

Gifts

Buy yourself gifts

People will take advantage

Why you telling us?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I sent it to an amazon locker. I didn't expect their address.

It was nothing extravagant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's this thread about

Gifts

Buy yourself gifts

People will take advantage

Why you telling us?"

I wouldn't let people take advantage

They declined but didn't seem offended so didn't see the harm.

Why am I telling you??

It's a forum.

A conversation starter?

A thread?

Looking for opinions?

Did you want heels?

It's the first time I've done anything of this nature so was just looking for opinions.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"What's this thread about

Gifts

Buy yourself gifts

People will take advantage

Why you telling us?

I wouldn't let people take advantage

They declined but didn't seem offended so didn't see the harm.

Why am I telling you??

It's a forum.

A conversation starter?

A thread?

Looking for opinions?

Did you want heels?

It's the first time I've done anything of this nature so was just looking for opinions.

Ok hun xx

I buy my own heels xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's this thread about

Gifts

Buy yourself gifts

People will take advantage

Why you telling us?

I wouldn't let people take advantage

They declined but didn't seem offended so didn't see the harm.

Why am I telling you??

It's a forum.

A conversation starter?

A thread?

Looking for opinions?

Did you want heels?

It's the first time I've done anything of this nature so was just looking for opinions.

Ok hun xx

I buy my own heels xx"

I was being sarcastic. Lol

But I do appreciate the feedback as I don't want to offend the couple in question x

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I sent it to an amazon locker. I didn't expect their address.

It was nothing extravagant. "

Ah! That was going to be my question. A sensible option, although I’d be nervous about going to the locker in case I was being watched then followed. I’d have to send my husband and then he’d have to do a 50 mile round trip so it didn’t lead them to our home. ... Paranoid? Cynical? Me?

Lou x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"What's this thread about

Gifts

Buy yourself gifts

People will take advantage

Why you telling us?

I wouldn't let people take advantage

They declined but didn't seem offended so didn't see the harm.

Why am I telling you??

It's a forum.

A conversation starter?

A thread?

Looking for opinions?

Did you want heels?

It's the first time I've done anything of this nature so was just looking for opinions.

Ok hun xx

I buy my own heels xx

I was being sarcastic. Lol

But I do appreciate the feedback as I don't want to offend the couple in question x"

I know my dear xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I sent it to an amazon locker. I didn't expect their address.

It was nothing extravagant.

No I fully understand that paronia and rightly so because their are so e crazy people out there.

But my profile is verified and I have plenty of face pics on public so hope I Come across as genuine.

But like I said, this thread was about feed back so from this comment I'm going to offer a bit more reassurance to the couple, but Id like to think that trust is already there x

Lou x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all different, and thankfully so....makes the world a far more exciting place .....I’m not being judgmental, just to say this sounds so creepy it makes me cringe, I would not even contemplate doing this....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are all different, and thankfully so....makes the world a far more exciting place .....I’m not being judgmental, just to say this sounds so creepy it makes me cringe, I would not even contemplate doing this...."

Appreciate your opinion.

Alot of people wouldn't contemplate letting the person they love have sex with someone else. But here we are on a swinger s site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think gifts would make me very uncomfortable personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Appreciate your opinion.

Alot of people wouldn't contemplate letting the person they love have sex with someone else. But here we are on a swinger s site...

Good point....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the problem i have is ..why ? .. is it so you think they want you more so you buy them gifts to keep them interest or is it entitlement as in ive given you a gift so what am i getting ? and yes i do believe some give gifts for no reason other than being generous but as the person getting the gift i would not know there intentions hence no from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"the problem i have is ..why ? .. is it so you think they want you more so you buy them gifts to keep them interest or is it entitlement as in ive given you a gift so what am i getting ? and yes i do believe some give gifts for no reason other than being generous but as the person getting the gift i would not know there intentions hence no from me"

I understand the concept of a relationship where the husband gets sexual satisfaction of seeing his wife play with another man..

Also the excitement from the woman feeling desired by another man.

And then the reclaim sex after.

I do not expect anything from buying the £14 gift.

But if on the way to collect the gift either of them get a rush of excitement, or when returning home either of them get excited. Or once she is wearing it, they both feel excited and naughty, I've played a part in someone's sexual fantasy.

If then they decide to send me a picture they are doing it because it makes them feel naughty and I hope to god its not because they feel obliged too. X

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Advise for which lingerie to get I'll say yes but to buy it.. probably not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Plus I think for some people it's about more than just receiving a big dick while there husband is in another room, I'm assuming it's the build up, the excitement the intimacy, the involvement of there husband.

Again I'm just assuming was just after opinions so it's all appreciated x

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

Can I just say now if anyone wants to send me gifts or money.

Id take it faster than roadrunner

With absolutely no shame at all.

Any Skiddy underwear is considered bit I'd advise against.

Thank you for your time.

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By *ampolCouple
over a year ago

Stevenage

I love gifts ?? (pol) but that’s me..

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"Heels 4 me"

Me too xx

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

I get this, i don't do it on here though, away from fab if i happen to be flush & see some thing that someone will not only like(often needs)and would appreciate i'll buy it, often just randomly leaving it for them to come across in their house or posting it without prior notice.

I don't need or want thanks for it, actually quite like the mystery of where it came from & by whom & unless someone thinks its from a 'lover' when its not, I'll usually play along with the I don't know until I've forgot i've bought it or convinced myself it wasnt me lol

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

Gifts for me=no likey

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

It all depends on the context.

We’ve had offers of gifts (usually lingerie) as first messages from people here. That’s not our thing and feels too close to paying for sex or services.

We’ve also had people we’ve met a few times ask if they can buy Lily some lingerie. They didn’t ask for pictures, they just liked the idea of her wearing something they’d bought. We quite liked the naughtiness of this and the memories it would invoke if she wore the items.

However we declined these times too, but mostly because of the address thing. We didn’t think of an Amazon locker!

So. OP, if both of the couple are aware and are up for it I don’t see the harm, so long as they don’t feel obligated to meet because of it.

- John

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Only you OP know the full details of the build up to you buying the gift. So it's hard for others to have an informed opinion, but if they were happy to collect your gift from the locker, then they must have been happy with the concept. I would suggest you do you and not worry about other people's opinions

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

If it works for you and you're happy doing it, then go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt have a problem with someone buying something sexy for my wife to wear as long as we was asked but any other gifts are wierd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with a gift - but it depends on what they want in return.

It's never about giving here

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

To be honest it’s not really one of the weirdest things that happens in Dudley. Spend a morning walking around Dudley market and you will start to think that buying lingerie for strangers will seem like a tame pastime.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think I get it.

I enjoy just knowing I've put a smile on someone's face. It doesn't mean you want anything in return.

When I've been in a position to I've got people gifts purely because I can. Saw this and thought of you kinda thing. I've also made people gifts too. It can totally make someone's day knowing they've been thought about.

I know it's not the same but putting cakes in a food bank donation.

People don't NEED cakes, but it's a nice treat. You're never gonna see the person enjoy them but ya feel good knowing someone will.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Just putting this out there but, I would like a Tesla car.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In an immediate Fab context it's weird and I'm not interested.

Friendships develop and things happen outside of that - that's normal.

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By *ornyJ3000Man
over a year ago

Near you

Who wants my wish list? All gifts gratefully accepted!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I get it.

I enjoy just knowing I've put a smile on someone's face. It doesn't mean you want anything in return.

I know it's not the same but putting cakes in a food bank donation.

People don't NEED cakes, but it's a nice treat. You're never gonna see the person enjoy them but ya feel good knowing someone will."

Exactly this. I hope they don't feel obliged to meet because of the gift. There was a mention of meet before I offered the gift. It was purely to put a smile on two people's faces. Get a bit of a thrill out of it and carry on with there lives as they please...no expectations of pictures or meets on my behalf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's an unusual thing to do but weird or creepy... No.

You and they were OK with it so carry on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest it’s not really one of the weirdest things that happens in Dudley. Spend a morning walking around Dudley market and you will start to think that buying lingerie for strangers will seem like a tame pastime.

Maybe I should of chose a different name haha. People may have a misconception of me already haha.

I've not longed lived here was previously from Birmingham alot more upmarket haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heels 4 me"

And me

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

In a D/s relationship I had guys buying stuff for me and Bradley, but there was also another Man who just enjoyed spoiling me.

One of my previous subs used to get off on the teasing and knowing that Hubby (Alpha to him) was reaping the benefits, but the other guy just enjoyed the thrill of buying me gifts with no expectations.

He was actually very thoughtful and we remained good friends.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have gifted friends from here. not because I wanted anything in return. I went round often for just a coffee. On one occasion just before Christmas they were struggling for cash. I anonymously dropped an envelope round with a gift card for a supermarket. On another occassion the female of the couple expressed an interest in getting a Lovehoney wand but could not afford. A few weeks later one was magically delivered...it was a wand after all lol. I denied it was me but a few weeks later her husband said for her to show me how good the wand was.

I have also on occasion left money in Vending machines. Pleasant surprise for someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not weird. I think it depends on your relationship with the couple!

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Not weird. I think it depends on your relationship with the couple!

Definitely. From someone I didn't have an agreement with, I would question their intentions. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

I’ve had a friend on here do this for me. No skin off my nose. As long as they’re not a prick or demanding anything else, if it turns them on knowing they’ve gotten me something I’ll wear then I don’t see an issue with it. But then I’ve been accused of being brutally pragmatic before

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

You may think it’s innocent but actually it sounds controlling and an ego trip for you to be honest. If someone did that to us - except they wouldn’t even know our nearest Amazon locker anyway - we would drop them immediately. You said it all - they didn’t hint at it or expect it. It’s intrusive. The only exception is in the kind of D/s relationship someone has mentioned above, in which case it’s actually consensual.

My advice - get a long term partner to spoil.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

That’d be overstepping the mark a bit with us.

Just to be clear, you are speaking to them ? Be very odd to order undies for the couple four doors along the road out of the blue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've recently ordered a couple a few gifts for the wife to wear for her husband. They did not ask or even hint at it.

That’d be overstepping the mark a bit with us.

Just to be clear, you are speaking to them ? Be very odd to order undies for the couple four doors along the road out of the blue. "

Yes I am speaking to them daily.

And we have not set anything in stone about a meet but it's been mentioned and I'm sure it will eventually happen after covid.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

I like the idea of little gifts especially lingerie, to me it’s just a kind gesture. I’ve met people before who like to buy others gifts or treat them so I don’t see it as a problem.

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello I think the gift thing is kind and not to ask for anything in return is very rear yes I can see why people can think its pod but if I had cash to spear and could help some1 out I would even if its in a controversial way xxx

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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago

London

We had a guy buy my wife, a bodysuit and wand. He asked us to create a Lovehoney Account and asked us to put his picks in a wishlist, he could then buy them, and Lovehoney sent them, he never got to see our address.

She dressed up and played on cam with them with him. Found it quite horney that he had some input and it was his choice of lingerie and toy.

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