FabSwingers.com forum: Rude couple rant

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We’ve had chats with couple who are new to the lifestyle (not all admittedly) recently.

There seems to be a lack of understanding that the couple they are speaking too also have needs and fantasy and arnt solely there to please them.

We think that all people involved need to have there need met.

Has anyone else had interactions similar to this and how did you handle it ?

Did you try and steer them in the right direction or leave them to it. ?

There seems to be an odd power struggle of who is the “alpha couple” we don’t care for it lol.

FYI if there is any spelling or grammar mistakes apologise we are both hugely dyslexic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been speaking to a few couples that like single women and are having the same issue with them as you are with couples. It’s such a shame isn’t it and something which I struggle to understand. Fingers crossed you find yourselves a nice couple soon though.

Happy Weekend guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah it’s a bit sad tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have those kind of interactions

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Yes! I wasnt sure if it was just an individual thing, but we have lots of couples messaging us looking for us to fulfill their fantasies. Kinda annoying honestly especially when they have an attitude about it. We also get it alot from single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female, it happens alot, hence I no longer have looking for couples on my profile (yes it is a new profile, but took a break). I don't need the drama. It's suppose to be fun for all involved and not just about what a specific person wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had similar issues, I the Mrs have had a few messages from female halfs of couples wanting to challenge me.

One was a teasing contest to which the other lady said she would be better and win so I just replied good for you.

The other was to see who could make them cum the most, my reply was you win as I'm not interested.

Just don't get why they do this as its totally off putting x

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"We’ve had chats with couple who are new to the lifestyle (not all admittedly) recently.

There seems to be a lack of understanding that the couple they are speaking too also have needs and fantasy and arnt solely there to please them.

We think that all people involved need to have there need met.

Has anyone else had interactions similar to this and how did you handle it ?

Did you try and steer them in the right direction or leave them to it. ?

There seems to be an odd power struggle of who is the “alpha couple” we don’t care for it lol.

FYI if there is any spelling or grammar mistakes apologise we are both hugely dyslexic. "

It’s one advantage being a single male on here, we get so little interaction that we don’t have these kind of issues lol .... we should all be here for the same reasons... more than likely another fake profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As per our profile we have no interest in couples but surely if a couple are not a good fit for then they are just not a good fit for you and you move on and just forget them as it’s really no biggie is it!!!!

It’s your adventure so enjoy it your way.

Best of luck.

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS
over a year ago

Notts

It's a modern #myneedsaremoreimportant issue and it not just swinging it impacts

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

There are some couples who are like this. They treat other people like accessories to their sex lives. We just don't engage with them. They're a lot worse with single men and women though, they almost dehumanise them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some couples who are like this. They treat other people like accessories to their sex lives. We just don't engage with them. They're a lot worse with single men and women though, they almost dehumanise them.

Yeah I stay away from those that do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah we don’t enjoy it. It happened last night still left a sour taste today. It was also as if you needed to pass there test. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We’ve found single males by in large to be very respectful. Admittedly we dont have a great deal of experience with single ladies as it’s not really our jam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah we don’t enjoy it. It happened last night still left a sour taste today. It was also as if you needed to pass there test. Xx"

Don't engage with people like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman who meets couples I have this alllll the time, seems like they forget I'm an actual person with my own wants and needs and not just a toy they can pick up to help them fulfil their fantasy, I like tok think there just wrapped up in the excitement of it rather than just being rude and selfish but I'm probably a bit nieave haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like I'm not the only one who gets treated as a toy

But on the other hand it just makes other couples stand out so much more

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We're choosey and only reply to about 2% of winks and messages. We've never had chats with such couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys reading this are thinking shit we don't even get a message, let alone demanding ones!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We have been lucky so far in that while a lot of people contacting us want us to fulfil certain fantasies of theirs, they soon stop messaging when we make it clear what we will or wont do.

We did have one couple where the other female half wanted to wrestle the Mrs, and we have had the odd few “she can’t Domme me!” comments to which we wish them well ad explain we don’t have fo do anything we don’t want to.

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By *agicMike81Man
over a year ago

York

"We’ve had chats with couple who are new to the lifestyle (not all admittedly) recently.

There seems to be a lack of understanding that the couple they are speaking too also have needs and fantasy and arnt solely there to please them.

We think that all people involved need to have there need met.

Has anyone else had interactions similar to this and how did you handle it ?

Did you try and steer them in the right direction or leave them to it. ?

There seems to be an odd power struggle of who is the “alpha couple” we don’t care for it lol.

FYI if there is any spelling or grammar mistakes apologise we are both hugely dyslexic. "

you see this is the problem with so called called self acclaimed swingers they dont understand what it really is about.

Its not just couples, alot of men women and couples are guilty of forcing there own way on things, me and my ex met our fair share of these too.

Swinging is about mutual social/sexual fun, when every one participating sharing in the fantasy/event to the fullest. Its likeminded views on a lifestyle not a hook up site. Thats the problem people just assume swinging is just hooking up when in reality its a lifestyle choice with mutual respect between all parties involved.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes so much so that i stopped looking. The arrogance was astounding in most of my interactions with couples.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

A lot of our conversations with couples end due to them not asking any questions, so it’s us who have to carry on the conversation. They are a useful filter for us as if you can’t interact via messages, then we aren’t interested in meeting.

We will always ensure that everyone’s needs are met during play, within reason! We are hedonistic in our play so it’s much more about everyone getting pleasure than just us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100% agree with this. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats s solid take on it guys. It’s nice to know there are nice couple out there. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found couples really rude lately and disrespectful. I’ve stopped messaging back at the min. Single guys are actually on the whole more respectful!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Selfish people make selfish lovers. I have no desire to meet these type of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve had chats with couple who are new to the lifestyle (not all admittedly) recently.

There seems to be a lack of understanding that the couple they are speaking too also have needs and fantasy and arnt solely there to please them.

We think that all people involved need to have there need met.

Has anyone else had interactions similar to this and how did you handle it ?

Did you try and steer them in the right direction or leave them to it. ?

There seems to be an odd power struggle of who is the “alpha couple” we don’t care for it lol.

FYI if there is any spelling or grammar mistakes apologise we are both hugely dyslexic. "

You mean they’re demanding that YOU help them live THEIR fantasies and not interested in what you guys want?

Had some of that when we first started about 2/3 years ago. Not seen so much of it now but then we don’t tend to get a lot of couples message us. They’ll either come to terms with the fact they won’t get just what they want and leave the site or they’ll realise how it works and embrace it

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Know exactly what you mean. We’ve had a couple of interactions with couples where it seemed like they were just trying to pick us off a menu for whatever they wanted to do.

It does generally seem to be newer couples though, so can only assume they’ve put so much thought and effort into agreeing between themselves that they’d do something, that by the time it come to actually acting on it the 3rd/4th party is just a formality.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

The way I see it, unless it's planned out to be one sided then any meet with anyone should be for everyone's pleasure... Well that's how my meets are anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this in 95% of messages from women / couples. They then get shitty when I ignore or reply with it’s a no from me chief

Such is playing the great game of fab , ever onwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find most men have this attitude too...

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

As a guy who’s met a few couples over years..

You’re always made to feel the outsider and expected to fit around their agenda ..

Little looks they give eachother, directing eachother to do the things they’ve obviously chatted or fantasised about ..

It’s just how couples are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the same, and usually find they arent a couple at all just a single bloke! Or they think J must be cuck we just delete them and move on as we already do have some great friends on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve had chats with couple who are new to the lifestyle (not all admittedly) recently.

There seems to be a lack of understanding that the couple they are speaking too also have needs and fantasy and arnt solely there to please them.

We think that all people involved need to have there need met.

Has anyone else had interactions similar to this and how did you handle it ?

Did you try and steer them in the right direction or leave them to it. ?

There seems to be an odd power struggle of who is the “alpha couple” we don’t care for it lol.

FYI if there is any spelling or grammar mistakes apologise we are both hugely dyslexic. "

Gorgoeus pics by the way and never apologise for being dyslexic xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We’ve had chats with couple who are new to the lifestyle (not all admittedly) recently.

There seems to be a lack of understanding that the couple they are speaking too also have needs and fantasy and arnt solely there to please them.

We think that all people involved need to have there need met.

Has anyone else had interactions similar to this and how did you handle it ?

Did you try and steer them in the right direction or leave them to it. ?

There seems to be an odd power struggle of who is the “alpha couple” we don’t care for it lol.

FYI if there is any spelling or grammar mistakes apologise we are both hugely dyslexic.

Gorgoeus pics by the way and never apologise for being dyslexic xxxx"

Thanks and we feel it’s better to explain rather stops the grammar police. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a guy who’s met a few couples over years..

You’re always made to feel the outsider and expected to fit around their agenda ..

Little looks they give eachother, directing eachother to do the things they’ve obviously chatted or fantasised about ..

It’s just how couples are"

That’s gave us a bit of insight into being a single guy on here. Xx

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

The majority of couples who contact me, have a general fantasy they want to play out. So I’m generally fine with it, if it’s something I’d like to also do.

However I’ve had so called ‘couples’ where I have to meet the guy on his own first and play. I doubt those meets would end up in a threesome so I just ignore those requests.