FabSwingers.com forum: Copy & Paste Intros

By *mmixtape OP Couple
over a year ago

middle earth

One for predominantly the single guys, but we've obviously experienced this with couples too.

Why do you use copy and paste intros? Is it really difficult to type something out each time you are reaching out to someone? Also, do you send the same copy and paste to someone multiple times? If so, why? I'm really interested in the thinking behind it

As someone who receives them im really not a fan of them, I think it's the height if laziness but wanted to ask a few Q's because we get a few a day

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I can't speak for others but I normally start with introducing myself then maybe use some of the things they've mentioned in their profiles as a starting point for a convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it amusing when people resend the same copy and paste intro time and time again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair it’s just a tad better than “hi” or other such shit but we also hate C+P messages.

I do love to pull them up on it and see them deny deny deny and only once had someone put their hands up bless them.

Keep it up men as it really gets you no where but I guess you could catch the odd newbie out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The numbers game...lol totally get why they do it but its not something thats going to grab our attention,

The ones that do are from the guys who write a small message and a face and body pic attached ..."hint"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit, I basically use a short cut and paste message for first contact.

One of the reasons is that many profiles don't actually give you much to respond to.

Another reason is based on experience. I used to write a specific message for each profile I contacted, but the number of responses was low, and some people were just rude or offensive when replying. I found that having a standard form of initial contact didn't make much difference. I do usually attach a face and/or body pic though.

If there's something specific in a profile that I want to respond to then I'll adapt my message, but that's relatively rare.

I hate to reduce this to a numbers game as someone has said previously, but effectively that's the situation for single men on here. In my experience, the extra effort to write a specific response for each profile you contact doesn't make much difference.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"I find it amusing when people resend the same copy and paste intro time and time again

Yes, it always amuses me as well. I've called a few out on it and they've tried to deny it. Don't think they realise that site supporters can see the chain of messages

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We don't blame them at all, our initial reaction is usually based on their photo and profile. Subsequent messages are far more important to us than the first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It doesn't bother us, it's what comes after that counts.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Makes things easier for folks that try and write something original..tho it's hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for predominantly the single guys, but we've obviously experienced this with couples too.

As someone who receives them im really not a fan of them, I think it's the height if laziness but wanted to ask a few Q's because we get a few a day

I've never copied and pasted... although I'm not one to message loads of people.

I try to tailor my first message to their profile, that way hopefully they can see I have taken the time to read who they are and they've interested me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it amusing when people resend the same copy and paste intro time and time again

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same especially when its thier profile they send

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I don't mind them but it is annoying when i get a message saying "how are you both today".

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How many people copy and paste the same "thanks but no thanks" message?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

It makes me laugh to receive messages that say, hi, how are you both? makes them squirm when I ask are they seeing double or something.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't mind them but it is annoying when i get a message saying "how are you both today"."

Admittedly we do laugh a bit when someone forgets to change the name lol

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"How many people copy and paste the same "thanks but no thanks" message? "

We've used the same reply so many times that the middle word suggestion on my phone can just be tapped about twenty times and it types itself!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How many people copy and paste the same "thanks but no thanks" message?

We've used the same reply so many times that the middle word suggestion on my phone can just be tapped about twenty times and it types itself!"

Handy feature isn't it

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"How many people copy and paste the same "thanks but no thanks" message?

We've used the same reply so many times that the middle word suggestion on my phone can just be tapped about twenty times and it types itself!"

Every day's a school day

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I personally do not do it, but I can completely understand why people do.

You go through someone's profile, tease out all the things to talk to them about, carefully compose a personalised message, proofread it to death, pluck up the courage to hit send, and then... they never even open it.

Yes, there are legitimate reasons why messages don't get seen, but it's still always a blow to find out all that effort was wasted.

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

How mamy girls do they send that msg to on one day

Then resend it again weeks later

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

"I find it amusing when people resend the same copy and paste intro time and time again

This

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"One for predominantly the single guys, but we've obviously experienced this with couples too.

As someone who receives them im really not a fan of them, I think it's the height if laziness but wanted to ask a few Q's because we get a few a day

It can be proper annoying to receive them. But given how many times single guys are deleted I totally understand why they do it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never used a copy and paste approach

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By *heerymanMan
over a year ago

stoke

Whilst for some it will be pure laziness I suspect for others it is simple frustration that comes from being rejected or ignored if you have put real effort into a personalised message. Maybe I am an optimistic Robert the Bruce type and just keep trying to send unique messages meant for that one person.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"One for predominantly the single guys.

How is that different from women and couples stating that they get too much mail to reply with a no thank you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for predominantly the single guys, but we've obviously experienced this with couples too.

As someone who receives them im really not a fan of them, I think it's the height if laziness but wanted to ask a few Q's because we get a few a day

I don’t know or understand why this is a trait of some and it’s just lazy and very hopeful

I like reading a profile and composing a good message to hopefully catch the person/couples attention however no luck yet, as in conversations NOT meets

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

Just received one that started "just read your profile so I thought I would get in touch to see if you want to chat"

Our profile basically says "no point sending a message until it's safe to meet". Make of it what you will

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