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Long profiles. Yes or no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

No, not at all. After reading through yours, it seems that you know what you want but there is a nice balance to it, informative with some humour in it too. Love the star trek baddie reference. Did chuckle at that lol

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Depends who is behind of the profile , like you say OP some they are sxy and with good description others have nothing that apeals .

In my case i just write what i found people needs know in public .

Is very personal how each individual/individuals they choose their profiles to be .

To me is indifferent if is short or long profile

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

"

We like a nice descriptive profile as long as there’s a point to it.

Yours in great, lots of little jokes in there !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

"

I don't read long profiles. But long isn't wrong, that's just my preference.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Ours is a bit lengthy and I’ve been tempted to delete most of it as the majority of people don’t seem to read it judging by some of the messages we have.

But, I like to read a profile and find a bit out about people before messaging and to get across what you’re looking for etc. often means the profile will be fairly lengthy.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

"

I thought I would take a look. Yours is pretty long and don’t really like long profiles, but yours is well written and flows so I found it easy and enjoyable to read. It was clear too and left a good impression of you and how you like to be treated. I will be taking tips, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I actually enjoy reading profiles, they give more of an insight than a photo.

I've read similar length profiles to yours and they all describe what they are looking for and just as importantly what they are not looking for. Humour is always good.

I've found many don't read long profiles, but I always think that says more about them. Mine is longish, although not your length. I think those that would be interested will happily read it, those that aren't won't, so maybe it can work as another filter.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

"

Its a personal choice but years experience here, very few people (speaking as our couples profile) ever read profile, so as used to say on our profiles - Why waste time writing a profile nobody reads.

Reading profiles unfortunately is a longstanding j goes with the territory. So as said its personal choice if you write a long or short profile. Pictures will get more attention than text

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

long profiles can be irritating often dwelling on what they don't want rather than what they like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see someone has bothered to take the time and it's good to learn the basics about someone before starting a conversation. But massive essays are off-putting xx

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Hardly anyone reads ours anyway haha

Long ranty profiles put us off really

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

For me it's best if they strike a nice balance of information and brevity.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

A few months ago I experimented with the theory that a single female can write pretty much anything at all on a profile & will still get plenty messages, because the vast majority of people don't read them.

I wrote a profile which included some really quite specific instructions and extremely 'niche' preferences. It made no difference to how many messages I got & most of them clearly hadn't looked at anything other than the pics on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too long ,it starts to get boring ,so we tend to think if you have over thought your profile ,youll over think our meet ,x

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Personally I always read profiles, I like ones that are long enough to give me an idea what the person that wrote it is like.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

"

Don’t think long is wrong as long as it holds my attention, yours is well written and I would rather see this than a profile that just says Hi or will fill in later

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We prefer short and sweet. I’ve been put of messaging people because the profile looks like a sociology essay. I always feel that long usually has specific requirements (ones we probably won’t meet) so don’t tend to bother.

Long isn’t wrong though, just what we prefer.

Lily

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Off not of

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"long profiles can be irritating often dwelling on what they don't want rather than what they like "

There is a lot of that.

But even being concise and succinct (Experience) about what you are looking for very few read.

Pet hate well more my OH is profiles that start "Been here before and know the score" What does that actually mean.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think it's totally up to the profile holder, they can run their profile anyway they want and others who appreciate their style will be drawn to them, and the people who find it too long, (or too short) will scroll on to the next one.

Personally I prefer a long profile I think it saves time as you can work out from what they are looking for and how they phrase things, if you are likely to be suited and if it is worth initiating conversation.

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By *ungleTemptressWoman
over a year ago

The Jungle

In a word... no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I just skip glance excessive long profiles. Usually the bottom part is the most prevalent part with what a person/s are not looking for I find .

Super short profiles like one line I wouldn’t even bother with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like really extensive profiles.....where the person is so picky about their preference, that I instantly lose interest!

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

I do like a profile which is informative and fun but some can be a tad repetitive which could probably be streamlined. Ours is short coz we’re still exploring and adding

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I look at profiles like CV's keep it short, sweet & to the point

Some of the long 1's are just people ranting which can be a turn off

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

I do like some info on a profile.. I get the idea that people RE not really that interested if its not filled out at all or says will do later and they have been on fab over a year.

If it's going to be long.. Then it needs to be interesting and or funny to keep me reading, I've had a proper laugh reading some which is great!

I have no problem with stating preferences.. It stops time wasting on both sides.. But I do then to see a fair few rants.. Then I just switch off.

But in the end its each to their own

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Personally I always read profiles, I like ones that are long enough to give me an idea what the person that wrote it is like. "

We/I always read profiles and never look at pictures, seen too many and taken many more (the profile picture gives a clue to what I do).

Very rarely meet with solo females usually established friends, usually looking for guys not couples.

Viewpoint:

Lot of couples profiles are written by the male and its more about what they want than their partners and what they want their partners to want. Ladies have a different subtle way of expressing and articulating who they are and what they are actually looking for. Couples specifically you can tell in the first line if its a male or female author. So profile by female do get more attention cos we only interested in profiles where the couple relationship is not dominated by one partner.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

If it has the public trading disclaimer or the Sydney Uni thing on the end, it's too long a profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Too much too read.

Less to talk about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like other things, it's not the size but what you do with it.

It need not be long to give a flavour of the person, but if it is, make every word count, and be worth reading. Your profile is your brochure, your trading statement, and is an opportunity to garner interest from those you're interested in meeting.

Emphasis your positive points, the things you like, what you're looking for, and avoid ranty, negative views and opinions. Oh, and if you have a reference to Sydney University or incorrect claims about fab being publicly traded, you're undoing any good work you may have done on your profile.

Mine is quite long, but I have taken my time with it. While I have been complimented on it, my profile won't be for everybody, but as I state on it, I'm not looking for just anybody. And those I have met, though few in number, have been exceptional people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think yours is informative and well written definitely prefer it to one line.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"If it has the public trading disclaimer or the Sydney Uni thing on the end, it's too long a profile!"

They are meaningless statements cos you pretty much waver you rights when you put your pictures on FAB T&Cs accept no responsibility for pictures on the site and you put them on at you own risk, they are not protected and downloadable, can end up on others profiles. If you want to exercise what rights you have and (oh not likely to be protected by EU privacy laws anymore and criminal case is unlikely unless you can prove malicious use intent) then you''ll likely need deep pockets.

So the only way to protect your privacy and your pictures is to not put them on or put in friends only for trusted people, not make statements in profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like a long profile. I prefer to know about the person/couple before we start talking or arrange a meet.

Plus it sets people apart from the rest for me, its nice to see bios with some thought and effort behind them.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I think a clear profile with personality thrown in is great. That is hard to do in a short profile. What I don't like are repetitive pages of profile. Saying the same thing in the same way about 10 x

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Definitely no !!

Says to me that people think so much of themselves..

I just skip to the next..

There’s lots to choose from..

In everyday life, I don’t have time for people who talk about themselves or are self obsessed..

So same rules apply here

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I like reading a well written profile it means the person has out some thought into it and you can usually get a bit of an idea of what they are. Even ranting ones are handy in that respect.

Short one one saying fill in later and they have been on a good while or just ask if you want to know just make me move on. If someone can't be bothered making an effort then I can't be bothered either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep mine, short ish and straight to the point and still very few actually read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t mind a bit of detail but when they’re rambling on and slagging groups of people off then I ignore and move on. As for those who copy/paste that rubbish about Sydney University then that’s a complete turn off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few months ago I experimented with the theory that a single female can write pretty much anything at all on a profile & will still get plenty messages, because the vast majority of people don't read them.

I wrote a profile which included some really quite specific instructions and extremely 'niche' preferences. It made no difference to how many messages I got & most of them clearly hadn't looked at anything other than the pics on my profile. "

Last week my profile had 1 close up cleavage pic and 'fill in later' as text. I got 186 messages in 10 hours.

Over 500 views, so some did read and not message. But still.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer short profiles. Long ones put me off.

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By *man_4Man
over a year ago

London

I prefer at least mid-length (a paragraph or 2), helps me get a better feel for if I'd be a fit

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"I personally like a long profile. I prefer to know about the person/couple before we start talking or arrange a meet.

Plus it sets people apart from the rest for me, its nice to see bios with some thought and effort behind them. "

Fair point we used to have very succinct profile and a view that if people can't be bothered to read the profile nor can we, nobody could be bothered so I guess we kept to our view.

We also say we prefer messages to winks cos again we feel winks are lazy and usually get deleted. We still get winks rather than messages which clearly shows people do not read profile. We do not have public pics which shows that people are not interested and a long profile is pretty pointless.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Like to read a good profile but some are more of a rant. They don't have to be long to be good but theres usualy more info in a slightly longer profile, this can help people to judge if there may be a spark/connection and result in a message.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"Personally I always read profiles, I like ones that are long enough to give me an idea what the person that wrote it is like.

We/I always read profiles and never look at pictures, seen too many and taken many more (the profile picture gives a clue to what I do).

Very rarely meet with solo females usually established friends, usually looking for guys not couples.

Viewpoint:

Lot of couples profiles are written by the male and its more about what they want than their partners and what they want their partners to want. Ladies have a different subtle way of expressing and articulating who they are and what they are actually looking for. Couples specifically you can tell in the first line if its a male or female author. So profile by female do get more attention cos we only interested in profiles where the couple relationship is not dominated by one partner.

"

Totally agree. The same generally applies to messages, I've had a few messages, supposedly from a female member of a couple, which it is blatantly obvious by the way they are worded are actually written by a male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find them informative and can be sexy.

Some seem to say almost nothing

Is long wrong?

"

Some are very long and says nothing about them as such... only requests,off putting.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It depends what people are saying...

A long list of do’s and don’ts isn’t appealing

We intentionally haven’t moaned in our profile as we find whinging in profiles a bit off.

If the profile is informative and gives a good impression of the person/people then they are fun to read and get a good understanding of them.

K

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Tried to do ours as a hello, this is us, this is what we look for and a few finishing bits n bobs.

We are hoping it gives an insight to us and dont think it’s demanding in anyway but kind of figure if you give some information your more likely to strike a match with people that message than if you only have a couple of lines but we’re big on personality not just the way somebody looks.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't mind a long profile at all providing it's got decent punctuation.

I'd rather take the time to have a read and find something in it that would make us incompatible than talk for a while and have something come up that would have put me off to start with.

You can also guage humour, values etc and those things are important to me.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not at all, it gives people a good idea of what you like and are looking for

If people can't take 2 mins to read, shows you're not compatible with them really.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I generally prefer long to short, unless it is ranty or mostly the ridiculous disclaimer/warning thing.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

It is interesting the diversity of opinions, women seem to prefer longer profiles so.does this mean size really does matter?

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By *ricoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

We wrote our profile based upon the information we like to see in other profiles, the same for our pictures. A lot of thought went into what we said and tried to make it positive with what we are looking for and not a list of what we don’t want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours aims to be summise and be to the point not intending to be too long.

We feel a well written profile shows people have made a good effort.

Sometimes we receive what appears to be a decent opening message we go to check out the profile and sometimes find nothing more than a sentence so inevitably we don’t respond thinking if they can’t be arsed to write a good profile what are they going to be like on a meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my profile works for me i get plenty of messages per day ... its my profile if someone dont like it the tuff titties too many other profiles look samey to many getting advice rather than being themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my own profile, I tend to put put what I'm looking for rather than lists of what I'm not. Along with recent and clear pics, so that people can see what I look like. Not that many bother to read my profile though lol. It's easy enough to tell who's bothered to read my profile.

I don't mind a long profile as long as it's informative. Ranty profiles with lists of do's and don'ts are a massive turn off for me. Anything negative really or putting other's down for their appearance/lifestyle choices. I get that everyone has their preferences, I'm only really interested in what people ARE looking for.

If I'm messaging someone, I always take time to read through their profile.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

each to their own but we have come across one or two that seem to say more about ego than what the person actually wants.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Funny thing is i had a long informative profile before & still got asked 'so what you into?' haha

Why I think short, sweet & to the point works but again each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't like long profiles don't read them, simples. X

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I struggled with war and peace, so a long profile isn't as daunting.

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By *uppyandtabbyCouple
over a year ago

Prestatyn

We prefer a profile to have something rather than nothing.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I prefer profiles that tell me something about the person. So I don't mind longish profiles .I always look at a profile before I answer a message and a short one of a couple of lines just seems lazy to me and would put me off replying.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If I have seen something I like then I'll read the profile. There's a perfect balance, too little info or so long is off-putting

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I like to see a little personality in a profile, that way I have an idea of who they are before messaging x

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By *REYTIMBERWOLFMan
over a year ago

reading

No. Im looking to understand. Short on info helps nobody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes no difference. I've tried all kinds of lengths.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to read profiles not just look at the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind a paragraph or two but I don’t like really long profiles and won’t ready them 99% of the time.

Short and sweet is key for me.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It's more about whether it's interesting or not. Long profiles that are dull are not good, ones which are relevant and entertaining are good.

As they say, it's not what you've got, it's what you do with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a long profile if it's positive and informative. Long rants, bitching about others or anything else negative just puts me right off though.

As long as I know a little bit about what someone's into or looking for, I'm happy. It's a good starting point anyway. Anything else I want to know, I'd ask

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If someone can't be bothered to spend 3-5 minutes reading a profile then they're probably not worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like as much info as poss..always read them..can then rule out anyone who sounds like a dick.

Also means we can find all those lovely people we have more in common with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Longer the better to out those pesky time wasters and cum dumpers!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a profile with a good amount of information makes it easier to see if we click

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

Mine may be long, but it's the way I like it ,

Xx

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