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Your 1st experience sharing your wife/GF or watching her with another man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How did your first meet go? Being one of those situations where really you dont know how youll feel about it until its done how did your meet go?

I absolutely love the idea, me and my partner watched only adults where 1 ep was about threesomes/cuckolding. Weve been on here before as a couple but never had anyone join. Mostly cam play.

I do love the idea of seeing her being fucked and joining but after its done did you ever get that feeling of it maybe made you feel like you shouldnt have done it? We both have only ever been with eachother sexually so to let someone in will be our first experiences with anybody else.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We didn't feel we shouldn't have done it. We'd discussed it at length beforehand though.

I know a lot of people talk about swinging as "sharing"their wife or girlfriend but we've never thought of it that way. If your mindset is one of you both sharing an erotic experience, you feel it's less about one person lending something they own and more something to be enjoyed as a couple.

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By *hared_GFCouple
over a year ago

Andover

The way we deal with having sex with another man is to see it as an extension to the sex toy box. Sometimes we get a dildo out, sometimes a butt plug, sometimes another man. It's just an object brought into the bedroom to enhance our sexual experience. If there is emotion added into the mix then that wouldn't work for us.

That's how we deal with it anyway, YMMV

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way we deal with having sex with another man is to see it as an extension to the sex toy box. Sometimes we get a dildo out, sometimes a butt plug, sometimes another man. It's just an object brought into the bedroom to enhance our sexual experience. If there is emotion added into the mix then that wouldn't work for us.

That's how we deal with it anyway, YMMV"
That makes me just another butt plug

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The way we deal with having sex with another man is to see it as an extension to the sex toy box. Sometimes we get a dildo out, sometimes a butt plug, sometimes another man. It's just an object brought into the bedroom to enhance our sexual experience. If there is emotion added into the mix then that wouldn't work for us.

That's how we deal with it anyway, YMMV"

Yes for me/us if there was absolutely any emotion innthe connection then no it wouldnt work. As i said in the post weve not played with anyone else, and only woth ourselves so as you all know sex with your partners is emotion and all that so to us its like, how do you have sex with someone, and not have a connection, OR how do you have sex woth someone you dont have a conection with lol

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By *inkyisfunukMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"The way we deal with having sex with another man is to see it as an extension to the sex toy box. Sometimes we get a dildo out, sometimes a butt plug, sometimes another man. It's just an object brought into the bedroom to enhance our sexual experience. If there is emotion added into the mix then that wouldn't work for us.

That's how we deal with it anyway, YMMV"

I think it's very important as a single bloke to remember this. You are (usually anyway) there to help enhance the couples experience, it's primarily about them, not you.

That opening up of their intimate life is what I enjoy about meeting couples. I view it as a great privilege to be given that role.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"The way we deal with having sex with another man is to see it as an extension to the sex toy box. Sometimes we get a dildo out, sometimes a butt plug, sometimes another man. It's just an object brought into the bedroom to enhance our sexual experience. If there is emotion added into the mix then that wouldn't work for us.

That's how we deal with it anyway, YMMV

Yes for me/us if there was absolutely any emotion innthe connection then no it wouldnt work. As i said in the post weve not played with anyone else, and only woth ourselves so as you all know sex with your partners is emotion and all that so to us its like, how do you have sex with someone, and not have a connection, OR how do you have sex woth someone you dont have a conection with lol"

Any body you bring into your sex life is another flesh and blood human. Don't treat another human as an object.

Move away from the idea that your partner is your property and that you'd be "sharing" them and understand that sex and love are not the same thing. If you don't think that way it will be difficult for you.

It's perfectly possible to have a brief, friendly connection with somebody and never see them again or only see them occasionally.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"The way we deal with having sex with another man is to see it as an extension to the sex toy box. Sometimes we get a dildo out, sometimes a butt plug, sometimes another man. It's just an object brought into the bedroom to enhance our sexual experience. If there is emotion added into the mix then that wouldn't work for us.

That's how we deal with it anyway, YMMV

I think it's very important as a single bloke to remember this. You are (usually anyway) there to help enhance the couples experience, it's primarily about them, not you.

That opening up of their intimate life is what I enjoy about meeting couples. I view it as a great privilege to be given that role."

Do you really? Blimey, we try to ensure that any man who joins us has equal input and feels equally valued. I'd hate it if a man felt he was no more than an accessory

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By *inkyisfunukMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


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Do you really? Blimey, we try to ensure that any man who joins us has equal input and feels equally valued. I'd hate it if a man felt he was no more than an accessory"

"Accessory" isn't quite how I think of it. I guess it's more that (again, usually) it me who's responded to a couples ad, therefore it's me putting myself forward as someone who can help with whatever desire/fantasy/wants they have. As such my main role is be a part of that. Which is in itself a turn on for me.

Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We just found that when we looked for a male to join us a few years ago the males just had the attitude they wanted a free escort, they wnated her dressed super sexy and slutty, and a fuck. We wanted someone a bit more respectful towards her than just a fuck but also didnt want that emotional connection if that makes sence.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"

Do you really? Blimey, we try to ensure that any man who joins us has equal input and feels equally valued. I'd hate it if a man felt he was no more than an accessory

"Accessory" isn't quite how I think of it. I guess it's more that (again, usually) it me who's responded to a couples ad, therefore it's me putting myself forward as someone who can help with whatever desire/fantasy/wants they have. As such my main role is be a part of that. Which is in itself a turn on for me.

Does that make sense?"

Yes, it does.

I really don't like the idea of the people we meet being almost disposable

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"We just found that when we looked for a male to join us a few years ago the males just had the attitude they wanted a free escort, they wnated her dressed super sexy and slutty, and a fuck. We wanted someone a bit more respectful towards her than just a fuck but also didnt want that emotional connection if that makes sence."

It does.

I can't form a proper emotional connection with somebody over a few hours or days but I can connect on a very superficial level. That superficial connection isn't something that is going to threaten our relationship. You do need to be secure, not compare yourself physically to other people and understand that sex is well, just sex.

I would say that if you have doubts, don't do it

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By *x3anteexxCouple
over a year ago

NW Cheshire

It was mind-blowing, seeing how soaking wet she got made me cum quick like a 16yo!!

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We both find it quite easy to seperate what we do with other people to our real life together. What we have together is so much more than just the sex. Meeting other people is a bit like a hobby that we share together. We build friendships and connections with the people that we play with but that never comes close to what we have as a couple. It helps that we are both very secure in our relationship and not jealous people.

Kx

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