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Shy do us 1% of decent guys get the shit

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Surely you can tell ,when looking

We arnt all the usual fabdickheads

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

travel around a lot.

Women are as bad. If not worse. Runs and hides again......

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street


"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?"

Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

Is someone slagging other members off even if it is other males really a decent guy? you have to question this in reality.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Are you saying 99% of males on here are dickheads?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?

Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "

Maybe there is no conversation to have / not interested...

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

is this another "im genuine every other is a dick post"??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Genuinely decent guys don't need to tell everyone how decent they are

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

On here all we have to go on are profiles, pics and messages.

I don't have the time (or inclination) to enter into an in depth conversation with everyone who sends a "hi" message, so I look at their profile and make a decision about whether there is anything there that sparks my interest. If the profile doesn't stand out in any way whatsoever, & the best they can do in an introductory message is "hi", then I generally move on. That doesn't mean I think they are a dick head, it just means that they haven't captured my interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely you can tell ,when looking

We arnt all the usual fabdickheads "

We can tell....

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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago

south west


"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?

Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "

It’s frustrating when a message just gets deleted but when women get literally hundreds of messages per day, there is no way they can be expected to reply in detail to each one.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I have a couple of points I’d like to make..

1. OP is right in respect to the fact there are genuine nice guys on here that aren’t like the “fancy a fuck” while sending a dickpic type crowd that seem to be a growing faction on here.

2. Moaning about how you’re being overlooked despite being a “nice guy” actually shows that you’re actually not... nobody is entitled to a meet on here and acting like you are but are hard done by actually shows that you’re far from nice.

If you treat people with respect and dignity on here you will get success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?

Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "

Why should they chat if they know by looking at your profile that they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s caught not cought* op.

Best of luck.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a guess I’d say the ability to spell and string a sentence together is a good start

Then being genuine and Taylor individual messages rather than a numbers game.

I could be wrong?!

(Reads back carefully to check spelling....)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been here from the beginning of fab and the pther big site before this so think i can have a say in this lol.... 1% of decent guys is way off id say 70 to 80% of guys are decent but because of sheer numbers and people wanting to go with whom there's some attraction is where no guys success rate plummets..

blaming others for your getting nowhere is another mistake ''those'' so call dickheads are responsible for their own downfalls not others so you guys moaning that others ruin it for you is utter crap you ruin it for yourself ..

swinging is a rejection game its that simple because the numbers of each sex / sexual orientation massively out weight each other..

so those that put the effort in and dont expect it on a plate are the winners those that try clubs and socials come off with the rewards rather than those who think a porn script message or a hi hows you hun is going to get pussy for your dick on a plate.

so guys please stop moaning that other guys ruin it for you because they dont you ruin it for yourselves and alot of us women find it a real turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would confer myself a decent guy, and the ladies I meet are far from shit!

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"been here from the beginning of fab and the pther big site before this so think i can have a say in this lol.... 1% of decent guys is way off id say 70 to 80% of guys are decent but because of sheer numbers and people wanting to go with whom there's some attraction is where no guys success rate plummets..

blaming others for your getting nowhere is another mistake ''those'' so call dickheads are responsible for their own downfalls not others so you guys moaning that others ruin it for you is utter crap you ruin it for yourself ..

swinging is a rejection game its that simple because the numbers of each sex / sexual orientation massively out weight each other..

so those that put the effort in and dont expect it on a plate are the winners those that try clubs and socials come off with the rewards rather than those who think a porn script message or a hi hows you hun is going to get pussy for your dick on a plate.

so guys please stop moaning that other guys ruin it for you because they dont you ruin it for yourselves and alot of us women find it a real turn off "

Exactly this

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Fab has been hugely successful for me but you have to make things happen. It doesn’t fall in your lap

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Well, they say first impressions matter and I can't realistically see many bothering to go much further on the strength of your post, unfortunately. Even using words like 'dickheads' to describe your competition puts you in a poor light from the word go.

That's friendly advice from someone who isn't competition.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I can't even tell by looking at someone.

Anyone can turn into what I would think is a dick head at any stage of any relationship.

I had a man, many years ago, slap me across the face during sex because he realised I was submissive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a couple of points I’d like to make..

1. OP is right in respect to the fact there are genuine nice guys on here that aren’t like the “fancy a fuck” while sending a dickpic type crowd that seem to be a growing faction on here.

2. Moaning about how you’re being overlooked despite being a “nice guy” actually shows that you’re actually not... nobody is entitled to a meet on here and acting like you are but are hard done by actually shows that you’re far from nice.

If you treat people with respect and dignity on here you will get success"

Bashing others to try and make yourself stand out is never a good look and its certainly not something the nice guys we have met before would do.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?

Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "

You're the pink boxers guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is someone slagging other members off even if it is other males really a decent guy? you have to question this in reality. "

God the humanity....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is probably a higher percentage of decent guys than 1%... What shit have you got and how do you know your taking it on behalf the the other 99%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a dickhead, no point whatsoever chatting to me.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"been here from the beginning of fab and the pther big site before this so think i can have a say in this lol.... 1% of decent guys is way off id say 70 to 80% of guys are decent but because of sheer numbers and people wanting to go with whom there's some attraction is where no guys success rate plummets..

blaming others for your getting nowhere is another mistake ''those'' so call dickheads are responsible for their own downfalls not others so you guys moaning that others ruin it for you is utter crap you ruin it for yourself ..

swinging is a rejection game its that simple because the numbers of each sex / sexual orientation massively out weight each other..

so those that put the effort in and dont expect it on a plate are the winners those that try clubs and socials come off with the rewards rather than those who think a porn script message or a hi hows you hun is going to get pussy for your dick on a plate.

so guys please stop moaning that other guys ruin it for you because they dont you ruin it for yourselves and alot of us women find it a real turn off "

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

*Grabs popcorn*

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"At a guess I’d say the ability to spell and string a sentence together is a good start

Then being genuine and Taylor individual messages rather than a numbers game.

I could be wrong?!

(Reads back carefully to check spelling....) "

tailor not Taylor, which is a surname.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At a guess I’d say the ability to spell and string a sentence together is a good start

Then being genuine and Taylor individual messages rather than a numbers game.

I could be wrong?!

(Reads back carefully to check spelling....) "

You didn't check well enough

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

What I can ascertain from my dealing with 'other guys', including from my old account is, most seem to be helpful in giving advice and having a laugh on the forums. I'm sure women get lots of the same type of message:, faf, dic pics, etc...If I send a woman who either doesn't respond, deletes without reaing then, that is her choice. The same choice I have when getting messages or deciding where I want to stick my dick in the first place.

If I have a convo and they change their mind, again, their choice and I respect that. So caling other men on her for your lack of success is a failing on your part and say more about you then the other guys on here. Do you have the same attitide towards your career?

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"is this another "im genuine every other is a dick post"??"

Apparently so

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


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Bashing others to try and make yourself stand out is never a good look and its certainly not something the nice guys we have met before would do.

KJ"

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Being nice is unlikely the reason you arent getting replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get a message, I first click on the profile and look at pics, if they are ok then I read the profile.

The current status update would put me off alone, whinging status updates don’t do it for me.

If I wasn’t interested in you based on your profile, then I wouldn’t chat with you, because I could be making connections elsewhere.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Surely if a woman or couple get 100 messages a day from men and 99 of those are from dickheads then it shouldn't be too difficult to make your message stand out as the 'decent' 1%? I'd have thought anyone looking for a decent man would have been beating a path to your door.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Being nice is unlikely the reason you arent getting replies."

I like this answer a lot

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By *apachinMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Everyone has what they like or kink

Age size colour or sex we advertise ourselves using the median of pictures and videos but are tastes don't change

on line it how respectful are on the approach and the rejection.

Guys in real life are getting worse so I take it couples and girls are getting the brunt online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if a woman or couple get 100 messages a day from men and 99 of those are from dickheads then it shouldn't be too difficult to make your message stand out as the 'decent' 1%? I'd have thought anyone looking for a decent man would have been beating a path to your door."

I got 186 messages yesterday and only about 6 of them were what I'd consider decent. So yes they did stand out and I thanked them too.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Surely if a woman or couple get 100 messages a day from men and 99 of those are from dickheads then it shouldn't be too difficult to make your message stand out as the 'decent' 1%? I'd have thought anyone looking for a decent man would have been beating a path to your door.

I got 186 messages yesterday and only about 6 of them were what I'd consider decent. So yes they did stand out and I thanked them too. "

This reflects my experience... I’m polite and friendly in my messages, sometimes I get a reply simply because of that!

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"On here all we have to go on are profiles, pics and messages.

I don't have the time (or inclination) to enter into an in depth conversation with everyone who sends a "hi" message, so I look at their profile and make a decision about whether there is anything there that sparks my interest. If the profile doesn't stand out in any way whatsoever, & the best they can do in an introductory message is "hi", then I generally move on. That doesn't mean I think they are a dick head, it just means that they haven't captured my interest.

"

Very apt. Would add there a lot more than 1% but better marketing may be reqd.

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Sorry if I've upset or offended anyone ,that wasn't my intention, enjoy your evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've chatted with the OP and for what it's worth, he's funny, engaging and respectful. Maybe he's just had a bad day... We've all had them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a couple of points I’d like to make..

1. OP is right in respect to the fact there are genuine nice guys on here that aren’t like the “fancy a fuck” while sending a dickpic type crowd that seem to be a growing faction on here.

2. Moaning about how you’re being overlooked despite being a “nice guy” actually shows that you’re actually not... nobody is entitled to a meet on here and acting like you are but are hard done by actually shows that you’re far from nice.

If you treat people with respect and dignity on here you will get success"

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Just sent a nice message to a 62 year old lady with a face picture, her reply “I wouldn’t fuck you with my neighbours dick”

I tell you the WI isn’t what it used to be

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street


"I've chatted with the OP and for what it's worth, he's funny, engaging and respectful. Maybe he's just had a bad day... We've all had them. "

Thank you Aimee yes we've chatted previous on many occasions, had some great chats ,I didn't mean anything personal to any one on here ,just trying to understand it which is one hefty task xxx glad you like the I sent you ,,pinky

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street


"I've chatted with the OP and for what it's worth, he's funny, engaging and respectful. Maybe he's just had a bad day... We've all had them.

Thank you Aimee yes we've chatted previous on many occasions, had some great chats ,I didn't mean anything personal to any one on here ,just trying to understand it which is one hefty task xxx glad you like the I sent you ,,pinky "

Back on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is this another "im genuine every other is a dick post"??"

Looks like

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By *andystick72 OP   Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Keyboard shaggers are out in force lol ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the other 99% of decent guys aren't then?

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