FabSwingers.com forum: “100s of messages”

By *owcurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry, I don't get 100s of messages a day and have never graced the hot pic section either

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Does (or dose) it matter?

There are very few that are of interest.

Can you add ours to to that with some we send out.

If values/beliefs don’t align, like relationships, what’s the point.

It feels a little like some like to force fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends really if I post I can get 100 messages quick so it does happen

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By *owcurious OP Couple
over a year ago

I guess it doesn’t matter, but we are all here for attention, and it’s a shame it doesn’t seem to be spread around very evenly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

Oh and couples are less desirable than single women.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

Oh and couples are less desirable than single women. "

To some.

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By *owcurious OP Couple
over a year ago

"It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

Oh and couples are less desirable than single women. "

Really? Well, I desire a couple - several would be best!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

In a club once a woman showed me how many messages she had on her profile. It was in the 100’s so I can believe it, as I’ve seen it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

Oh and couples are less desirable than single women.

To some.

It's a fact. Single women are more popular than couples. My single profile gets way more attention than my couples profile. Just the way fab works.

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By *owcurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Guess so. Would be nice just once though. You lot are all sexy fuckers by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't worry about it. The quality of the 100s is probably dreadful anyway. I've filters set and I get a few messages no way near what some single women get. Does it bother me. Not really as by time someone finds me hopefully looks at my profile and messages me its more a hello how you doing message than a faf message or I'm in the area tonight

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

No, people do get hundreds. Not constantly but we’ve had the same issue. It all depends on the photos too. As soon as you get seen by enough people you’re hammered. Put a lot of effort into making sure the photos are nice and you get them.

That said, we don’t ramble on about it. It’s a bit crass to constantly brag about it we think. And some days we get zero messages. Swings and roundabouts we guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it doesn’t matter, but we are all here for attention, and it’s a shame it doesn’t seem to be spread around very evenly."

Stop worrying and just enjoy your journey on here. Lots of us dont get loads of messages. You are not alone

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

It’s pretty simple. If you want hundreds of messages you can get them. A few naughty pics, an open and inviting profile and some messages on the forum will get you there.

If you want to actually meet people, you’ll tighten your filters and get less messages. But the ones you do get should be worth pursuing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the current rate I should have '100s of messages' in about 450 years time

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'd say it'd pretty much be a ball ache to get that many unsolicited messages.

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By *iablo soloWoman
over a year ago

southside

We have a couples profile (but I'm playing alone now so I have a single profile...this one)..there are loooooots more messages on my single profile than on the couple one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s pretty simple. If you want hundreds of messages you can get them. A few naughty pics, an open and inviting profile and some messages on the forum will get you there.

If you want to actually meet people, you’ll tighten your filters and get less messages. But the ones you do get should be worth pursuing. "

Spot on. If we removed the filters for single guys we would get a lot more. But we want quality over quantity.

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By *owcurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Fair enough. Have flushed out the profile a little, hopefully that will help. We are strictly a couple, so can’t do a single profile, but surprised it makes such a difference. Thanks for the responses everyone!

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

We've also never had hundreds of messages, I think it's more common for single women. I can't say I care much lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a hot list woman as I am a BBW with wobbly bits , don't get me wrong I am happy with who I am, but the last time I put on a series of photographs I got around 500 message over the next 3 days. I am putting it down to lockdown cabin fever and hope it quiets down soon. X

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The only time I got that amount of messages was when I first joined. I found the filters pretty fast and set mine pretty tight. I don't want that many messages daily I couldn't be bothered going through them all. And trying to keep chats going would be impossible I think if I had to trawl through that many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with this.

I understand as a couple we aren't going to compete with sexy single ladies profiles but we get very little inbox activity even before covid.

The odd "hi" and "how are you" crap but nothing that constitutes any effort.

Kind of acts as another filter though as if that's the level of conversation then it's really not going to happen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have 1 quality message than the 100s of shite ones I get

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m a single woman but if lucky only get 2 messages a day. I’m happy with that and have filters set.

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By *errero RochelleWoman
over a year ago

Chocoville

This is why I blocked men from messaging me.

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By *hestyDrawWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"
we have a couples profile and I have a single. Post to couples, maybe 10 messages. post to single? Like 200 I shit you not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I put a cleavage pic as my profile pic

Tick Looking For men

Profile text can just say 'Fill in later'

... and I'll get around 50 messages in 24 hours.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

Oh and couples are less desirable than single women.

To some.

It's a fact. Single women are more popular than couples. My single profile gets way more attention than my couples profile. Just the way fab works. "

This....

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single Lu used to get hundreds a day. Especially if she put up a new photo. It went berserk. But as a couple its wildly different. we can get between 0 and 100 messages a day on occasion. It's generally in the region of about 20 plus. Dependant on putting up new photos. Forum and chat room activity.

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By *aidtobespankedCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

Haha same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen to this. People saying they get too many to reply and we struggle to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amen to this. People saying they get too many to reply and we struggle to get a reply "

Yes pretty the same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I put a cleavage pic as my profile pic

Tick Looking For men

Profile text can just say 'Fill in later'

... and I'll get around 50 messages in 24 hours.

I updated my profile 11 minutes ago. Already got 24 messages.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If I put a cleavage pic as my profile pic

Tick Looking For men

Profile text can just say 'Fill in later'

... and I'll get around 50 messages in 24 hours.

I updated my profile 11 minutes ago. Already got 24 messages. "

11 minutes ago is very precise.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even I used to, when I was very active, with age preference filters up and I am old and fat, so yeah, it does happen

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Yes, some younger women in particular, do get hundreds of messages a day.

Just because it isn't something you have personally experienced, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Getting inundated with messages as soon as they join, may be one of the reasons there are so few ladies on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I put a cleavage pic as my profile pic

Tick Looking For men

Profile text can just say 'Fill in later'

... and I'll get around 50 messages in 24 hours.

I updated my profile 11 minutes ago. Already got 24 messages.

11 minutes ago is very precise......."

Because that was when I changed my profile to see what happened. Experiments need data.

Now less than 2 hours and 64 messages. Many asking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very true that single female profiles get lots of messages. If you post regular nudes, it escalates further. I don't want to block men from messaging as I'm here to meet men (not currently though) so when meets are allowed again I'll probably post fewer pics so I get fewer messages and can actually read them.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

Don't think we've had more than a few messages and never been near the hotlist photos but we don't mind.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

It is no different to social media likes, views, hearts etc.

Marketing driven.. content creation and validation.

You post an enticing picture a few times often and regular all most every other day. You gain hot listers, followers and Fabs.

You post in forums, chat rooms. Go live on camera. Your profile and celebrity status on FAB increases which equals more messages...

It depends on what you want to achieve out of FAB.

Celebrity or quality fucking with good friends....

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

Don't get that many but usually if we are on cam or posting on the forums it dramatically increases. After being on cam last night came on this morning to 48 messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get 25-200 a day xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get too many but our profiles is locked down to specific ages and no men.

If we opened it up and posted a few pics things would no doubt change. Maybe I'll experiment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That situation is real ,one of our Fab friend, single lady shown me her inbox with 215 odd pending messages. She bulk deletes them . Sorry single guys to disappoint you but single ladies can get tons of messages once a pic or status is posted .

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

We range from anything to 5 - 30 a day - we are strictly a couple profile. Our early days of 100's are long gone.

However the vast majority of these are ones we never reply to or at times even open. One liners or even those with just the one word are deleted or blocked. Unsurprisingly most of these are from single men & we suspect are block messages they send out to many in the hope of a response from one.

Those who make an effort always get a response even if it's say thanks but no thanks - we respect the fact that they've read our profile & have based their messages around it so we feel a polite message back is the least we can do

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Depends where your at too...

I live in the middle of nowhere so maybe like 50 a day....

When I go to a city and go on fab it is 100’s a day.

But please remember a good 70 out of 100 are just blank profiles asking “fancy a fuck” type and not people if converse with. xx

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By *ervousnewCouple
over a year ago

leicester

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

We don’t get bombarded regularly, surely quality is better than quantity.

Nice pics btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined and had all my images public as well as updating my status a fair bit. I had over 600 messages in 12 hours. Then, added more pictures/update my status and would easily get over 100 messages in a couple of hours.

Now I've changed it, so no one sees my pictures and limited information. I get about 15-20 new messages a day on top of the "replying messages".

But, quality is better than quantity. Rather the one decent message to the scripted copy and pasted message personally.

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By *winger coupleCouple
over a year ago

Reading Berkshire

Depends, when we post something then we get loads of messages and thr are times when we don't get any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very True. I have 1,347 unread msgs at this moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who court attention will get it, particularly if they're women or couples. I keep my head down, don't have public photos and set my filters high so I don't get 100s but still get way more than the average man.

I'm not here for an ego boost so I keep a fairly low profile and aim for quality over quantity. I've learnt the hard way.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I think a lot of it comes down to how you use the site.

Single females definitely get far more attention because of the ratio of males to females on here.

Profiles that post pics regularly (some post many every day) are a more visible presence & , if the pics are appealing, they then often get added to hot lists/friend invites, which means when they add anything it shows in updates sections & that in turn often results in more fabs etc etc.

Posting regular status updates also increases your visibility in your local area. If I post a status update it usually results in a flurry of messages.

Being actively involved in the forums increases visibility to some extent as well, but only a relatively small percentage of the Fab members use the forums.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Generally I choose to keep a low profile & keep message filters tight so that there are fewer messages to deal with and in the hope that those I do receive might be better quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know people that have thousands I’ve seen it definitely not bullshitting

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By *reakfastCouple
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

It would be nice just to get the occasional message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined and had all my images public as well as updating my status a fair bit. I had over 600 messages in 12 hours. Then, added more pictures/update my status and would easily get over 100 messages in a couple of hours.

Now I've changed it, so no one sees my pictures and limited information. I get about 15-20 new messages a day on top of the "replying messages".

*** But, quality is better than quantity. Rather the one decent message to the scripted copy and pasted message personally.

*** Definitely agree about that! 123 now. I will reply to all the *decent* ones tonight when my experiment is over. I don't think it will take long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

My other profile receives 100's of messages and my pictures do on occasion make it to the first page it's annoying and hard to manage

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I do get over 500 views a day , but messages is around ten , but do have a lot of filters on to stop the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this can be a big ego boost to some people.....

I had someone on the forums reply to me , that they get more messages in a day... than I get in a year....

I had to scratch my head on that one , because in my view... That’s like saying you get more fliers on your car than I do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno about hundreds. But as soon as I post a new photo or even update my status I get bombarded even through my filters. Regularly have over 500 views of my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

600+ messages a day until I filtered out single men.

Now its maybe less than 60 x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters, ‘boring’ pictures, a decent profile bio and block keeps things peaceful for me. No 100’s of messages here

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying. "

The struggle is real....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real...."

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection....."

You do understand!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

You do understand!!!"

Hey , I’m more than a pretty face..... btw tell Clem what’s up for me....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection....."

Literally never said anything about rejection and I do do my own "hunting" as you call it but thanks for your sarcastic bullshit

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By *ussex-steveMan
over a year ago

brighton

Surely all you need to do is to hide your profile when you're not on here, then re-open it when you are....

or to make it easier... be a straight single male !!....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say when I joined i didnt filter at all,set profile up added a picture and went off to do uni work.

Came back 2 hours later to 276 messages. now had to block single men to keep it down,shame as I like to chat with some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is true, we unblocked single men once just to see what happened, and within half an hour the messages were in the hundreds and the fabs and winks went fucking haywire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

Literally never said anything about rejection and I do do my own "hunting" as you call it but thanks for your sarcastic bullshit

Ohh I’m sorry for offending you....

I’ll rewrite my comment to make it forum friendly....

If a single man on the forums complains he is getting too many messages from bi/straight men and the LGBTQS community ... he is told , he should use his filters and block all men from messaging.. His problems will be solved...

If he continues to complain about it , he will be accused of attention seeking....

If a single woman on the forums complains about the volume of messages and abuse from replying with a polite “ No thank you “ The community will recommend that she use her filters and block men and new unverified accounts from messaging....

If she continues to complain about it , she will be told to block anyone she is not interested in because they will hurl back abuse.....

If a male points out the fact that she can still just use her filters and do the hunting herself... he will be accused of victim blaming.......

Hugs , I hope that helps...

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

Literally never said anything about rejection and I do do my own "hunting" as you call it but thanks for your sarcastic bullshit

Ohh I’m sorry for offending you....

I’ll rewrite my comment to make it forum friendly....

If he continues to complain about it , he will be accused of attention seeking....

If she continues to complain about it , she will be told to block anyone she is not interested in because they will hurl back abuse.....

If a male points out the fact that she can still just use her filters and do the hunting herself... he will be accused of victim blaming.......

Hugs , I hope that helps..."

I've seen a few of your posts the last few days. I must say, I'm disappointed at the 'anger' that you seem to have towards women.

Mr.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

How true

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

Literally never said anything about rejection and I do do my own "hunting" as you call it but thanks for your sarcastic bullshit

Ohh I’m sorry for offending you....

I’ll rewrite my comment to make it forum friendly....

If he continues to complain about it , he will be accused of attention seeking....

If she continues to complain about it , she will be told to block anyone she is not interested in because they will hurl back abuse.....

If a male points out the fact that she can still just use her filters and do the hunting herself... he will be accused of victim blaming.......

Hugs , I hope that helps...

I've seen a few of your posts the last few days. I must say, I'm disappointed at the 'anger' that you seem to have towards women.

Mr."

Everything comes back to men vs women doesn’t it lol.

No need to bring others forum posts into it is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

Literally never said anything about rejection and I do do my own "hunting" as you call it but thanks for your sarcastic bullshit

Ohh I’m sorry for offending you....

I’ll rewrite my comment to make it forum friendly....

If he continues to complain about it , he will be accused of attention seeking....

If she continues to complain about it , she will be told to block anyone she is not interested in because they will hurl back abuse.....

If a male points out the fact that she can still just use her filters and do the hunting herself... he will be accused of victim blaming.......

Hugs , I hope that helps...

I've seen a few of your posts the last few days. I must say, I'm disappointed at the 'anger' that you seem to have towards women.

Mr.

Everything comes back to men vs women doesn’t it lol.

No need to bring others forum posts into it is there

It appears that way. I'm not sure why though. Seems a bit over the top to me

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It doesn’t matter how many messages you get as long as there is at least 1 or 2 quality ones.

100 messages probably means 95 of them are crap anyway...

If you send decent messages out then you are likely to receive decent messages back...

It’s hard on here at the moment to maintain conversations though as no ones doing anything...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

Depends on who you are looking for.

If your profile is attractive to men you won't get many messages from women. Etc

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"It's down to bad management and a desire to be wanted. There are tools provided so they can avoid this. Desperate Guys go for the easy target.

Oh and couples are less desirable than single women. "

I avoid single women on here so not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't win. If you open your inbox and complain about hundreds of messages, you're annoying but then if you put up your filters so you don't get them, you're also annoying.

The struggle is real....

Oh you've no idea how hard it is being a woman on here

I can imagine..... if you turn your filters off you will get arthritis in your fingers from deleting messages.....

If you turn your filters on and do the hunting yourself.... You might get told no and face rejection.....

Literally never said anything about rejection and I do do my own "hunting" as you call it but thanks for your sarcastic bullshit

Ohh I’m sorry for offending you....

I’ll rewrite my comment to make it forum friendly....

If he continues to complain about it , he will be accused of attention seeking....

If she continues to complain about it , she will be told to block anyone she is not interested in because they will hurl back abuse.....

If a male points out the fact that she can still just use her filters and do the hunting herself... he will be accused of victim blaming.......

Hugs , I hope that helps...

I've seen a few of your posts the last few days. I must say, I'm disappointed at the 'anger' that you seem to have towards women.

Mr.

Everything comes back to men vs women doesn’t it lol.

No need to bring others forum posts into it is there

It appears that way. I'm not sure why though. Seems a bit over the top to me

Wow I thought the forums were for debate...

I’m not angry at all.... I was just trying to point out the hypocrisy I see on the forums.....

Kinda like Diogenes.......

Ok I’ll fall back in line........ you can have your forum back.... Enjoy

Carry on

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

"I guess it doesn’t matter, but we are all here for attention, and it’s a shame it doesn’t seem to be spread around very evenly."

You can have some of mine if you like. I hardly ever read them anyway

How would it be spread around evenly? Should it be done on a rotating basis rather than by choice?

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Sick of seeing statuses like “sorry guys, have hundreds of messages”. Wtf? We never have even 10 at a time, and never been anywhere near the hotlist photos.

Are people just bullshitting? Or having way more luck?"

Quality is better than quantity, isn't it?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"It is true, we unblocked single men once just to see what happened, and within half an hour the messages were in the hundreds and the fabs and winks went fucking haywire

Same thing happened to us when I ticked the meet single guy box

Will left it to me to deal with it, took me days to get through the messages, chatty bunch the guys on here

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By *amesycotterMan
over a year ago

telford

"Those who court attention will get it, particularly if they're women or couples. I keep my head down, don't have public photos and set my filters high so I don't get 100s but still get way more than the average man.

I'm not here for an ego boost so I keep a fairly low profile and aim for quality over quantity. I've learnt the hard way."

Definitely this, there are some who court attention, Others just on for a mooch and a browse through the forums,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters, ‘boring’ pictures, a decent profile bio and block keeps things peaceful for me. No 100’s of messages here

Same.. . Focussed profile, non-sexual pics, filtered out newbies

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