FabSwingers.com forum: Why’s it so hard to meet a lady

By *oodtime20181 OP Man
over a year ago

haselmere

Been trying so long and had no luck

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Gender imbalance on here. Will depend on your approach.

Maybe go to a club when they reopen.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here

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By *oodtime20181 OP Man
over a year ago

haselmere

Think a club is going to be the way to go

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

As long as it's hard when you eventually meet a lady!

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here"

That's just what I was going to day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's down to attraction, not luck

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

You are 27 and have 1 blurry pic in a dirty locker room. Not gonna attract the window shoppers . You should be able to be creative with your phone and take decent photos. If you can’t then you won’t have much luck with any meaaage you send regardless of how good you think the message is .

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Have you tried a tea-room?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because this site is for sluts, tarts, slags and nymphos. And long may it remain so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because we are in the middle of global pandemic

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Because the forestry commission, national trust and highways England have closed all the dogging sites

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

If you are relying on luck frankly you are a mug. Guys have to make things happen on fab, you have to be incredibly active on the site and your profile needs to market yourself to gain any attention whatsoever. Ask yourself this ! How better is your profile than the tens of thousands of other run of the mill guy profiles on here? Women rule this jungle so sooner you realise the better. Sorry to be so blunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

Possibly due the the whole lockdown/not being aloud to meet thing

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

How big is your dick ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How big is your dick ???"

Are you that interested in him you just go straight to that? Wow

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here"

Why laugh at this?

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Think a club is going to be the way to go "

They are even worse mate

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

"How big is your dick ???

Are you that interested in him you just go straight to that? Wow

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Nope, But if over 9 inches he'll do awite,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to try and sound like some sort of twat here.. But you have to give yourself the best possible chance. Have some nice photos.. Write a detailed profile.. Try and show who you are, and what you have to offer. People want to meet somebody because they relate to them.. (mostly!) And when you message people.. put some thought into it..

I';m saying that.. And I get plenty of knock backs.. But it's fine. I don't want to meet everybody who messages me.. So why should they?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

BBC news 5pm.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Motor way service station car park it seems.. From another thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How big is your dick ???

Are you that interested in him you just go straight to that? Wow

Nope, But if over 9 inches he'll do awite,lol"

I’d pass him by just for that.

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re in a lockdown... try a club when they reopen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop trying! We're in lockdown!

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By *uncouple.1965Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

Ever thought it might be your profile??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@goodtime ,

Work on your profile a bit more lad , use other people’s profiles to get a guideline of the information you would like to put out there.

Your wants , experience etc etc

Also you’ve also got one photo , add a few more. Do what you fancy but maybe a smart dressed photo , show a bit of your personality or do what you’re comfortable with.

Get on the forums and join the conversations you’re interested in.

Everyone here is interested in having fun but still remember to show respect and all that.

Also keep in mind some people are just sour and rude just like in everyday life so pay them no attention.

I’ve taken my message filter off so if you want to pm for more information give me a shout and I’ll help out if I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.

It needs to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides....."

You are brave.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

You are brave....."
you're popularity will sky rocket after that comment,you'll get loads of messages anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your popularity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahahah

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"How big is your dick ???

Are you that interested in him you just go straight to that? Wow

Right up there.with show me your t###s

Isnt it?

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.

A lot of people on this site need to learn the saying

If you have nothing boce to say dont say anything at all.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"over 9 months and he's not worked it out"

Right or wrong, he asked for advice.

There was o need for you to be unpleasant.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Stop trying! We're in lockdown!"

Have you considered he or anyone who answers you is t looking to meet you at this point of time?

Just wanting a conversation and getting to know you might be enough.

He isnt asking to meet maybe just get an answer to his posts?

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides....."

Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 05/02/21 17:30:39]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your popularity "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because women can be picky, should be careful and a significant number of men on here are arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.

A lot of people on this site need to learn the saying

If you have nothing boce to say dont say anything at all."

Unfortunately there are too many self righteous hypocrites on this site.

Swingers open minded about sex?

Don't make me laugh.

Some on here deliberately go out their way to make others feel shit and kink shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then. "

Glad I come Under the “fat” section then, that should say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

You're really not fat btw. You look incredible from your profile. What makes you think you are fat ? Have some more confidence in yourself You're incredible

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then. "

Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's

I feel honoured at that hahahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.

Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's

I feel honoured at that hahahaa"

Then you should tell them u ain’t no holler back girrrrl and pity about their loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has someone already said lockdown?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

took me a year to find someone I felt comfortable to meet. don't give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"@goodtime ,

Work on your profile a bit more lad , use other people’s profiles to get a guideline of the information you would like to put out there.

Your wants , experience etc etc

Also you’ve also got one photo , add a few more. Do what you fancy but maybe a smart dressed photo , show a bit of your personality or do what you’re comfortable with.

Get on the forums and join the conversations you’re interested in.

Everyone here is interested in having fun but still remember to show respect and all that.

Also keep in mind some people are just sour and rude just like in everyday life so pay them no attention.

I’ve taken my message filter off so if you want to pm for more information give me a shout and I’ll help out if I can"

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

Not a clue... But we can think of at least 2 different reasons, and we're sure both have been mentioned somewhere in this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here

Why laugh at this?"

We're all ears? .

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.

Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's

I feel honoured at that hahahaa

Then you should tell them u ain’t no holler back girrrrl and pity about their loss! "

I'm never going to holla back unless they have boobs and a vagina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !

Runs and hides.....

Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.

Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's

I feel honoured at that hahahaa

Then you should tell them u ain’t no holler back girrrrl and pity about their loss!

I'm never going to holla back unless they have boobs and a vagina

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.

A lot of people on this site need to learn the saying

If you have nothing boce to say dont say anything at all."

I agree. There are a few forum users at the moment who seem to be going out of their way to be as sarcastic and unpleasant as they can when replying to threads. It’s unnecessary and unkind.

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By *errero RochelleWoman
over a year ago

Chocoville

You've met a lady a year ago. Was it hard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says you are straight,only meet is a TV

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By *errero RochelleWoman
over a year ago

Chocoville

"Says you are straight,only meet is a TV

I'm sure OP saw a lady in that person

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Have you tried a tea-room?"

Dam good idea , but they are closed except for take away, but of course that may work too.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Because this site is for sluts, tarts, slags and nymphos. And long may it remain so. "

O dear..

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By *iptoptottyWoman
over a year ago

Watford, Herts

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

Although this doesn’t apply to you, some usernames just turn your stomach. Names like Pussy Destroyer or Pussy Smasher. Eurgh!

A good tip though is when you send a message to someone, as well as making it interesting, try and make sure you’ve used punctuation. There’s nothing worse than getting a string of words without so much as a full stop. Re-read your message before you send it.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. There is a pandemic and some people aren't meeting.

2. You need to show what you can offer, look at other profiles and get an idea for pics

3. Women are visual creatures you need to entice us in.

Enjoy the forums and get to know people and hopefully when the clubs open up you will have a few ladies to meet with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.

Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.

You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.

Top stuff mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been trying so long and had no luck

Although this doesn’t apply to you, some usernames just turn your stomach. Names like Pussy Destroyer or Pussy Smasher. Eurgh!

Good luck!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here

That's just what I was going to day

Pair of twats

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Targeted high levels of effort are more inclined to get better results, when things are supportive of meeting healthily. This is against a huge level of competition from the huge volumes of single men and others, exacerbated by new users joining for almost a year and everyone having priorities on their health, income, families and overall chaos around.

Look for all the tip posts in the forum, including for profiles, how to message and get to know people, which are the topics that often hold people away from the results that they could maybe achieve

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By *r Fox 22Man
over a year ago

slough

What i posted on my status..covid has changed our life completely just like working from home.You only have one chance to approch the woman correctly and peak her imtrest.not easy lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how much your wiling to pay

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Been trying so long and had no luck

Pretty much spot on.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here

That's just what I was going to day

Pair of twats "

Any idea why they found it funny? I honestly have no idea

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

Have a pair of cuff links with a picture of Yoda that says.

“Do, or do not: there is no try.”

Old mentor of mine once said, “you never try to jump between two buildings, you do it or fall.”

Try, gives you permission to fail.

Think attitude sometimes has a lot to play in this.

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Agree with most of the above and will add .... probably half the ladies on here get enough from dirty chat and have no intention of meeting. You need to quickly identify wasted chats and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with the basic understanding that 95% of people on here have no intention of meeting anyone. They are largely fantasists, keyboard wankers and attention seekers. Then factor in that as a guy you are massively outnumbered. Organise your profile as best you can and then the magic ingredient, stay online !!!!!!! A reality that is massively overlooked. Online profiles get looked at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here

That's just what I was going to day

Pair of twats

Any idea why they found it funny? I honestly have no idea

Sadly some people (usually the same ones) spend their time on the forums belittling other users for their own entertainment.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"ladies ...

pissing myself laughing here

That's just what I was going to day

Pair of twats

Any idea why they found it funny? I honestly have no idea

Sadly some people (usually the same ones) spend their time on the forums belittling other users for their own entertainment.

Pity they don't realise it just backfires

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pity they don't realise it just backfires

Indeed. It’s just a shame the block button doesn’t hide any future comments from them on the forums x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Because this site is for sluts, tarts, slags and nymphos. And long may it remain so. "

Bitter much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been trying so long and had no luck "

Try putting bi in your profile....

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

You need a BBC at least 9 inches...

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