FabSwingers.com forum: Coloured

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's such a shame that in 2021 some people still use the term "Coloured" to describe a black person. May aswell be the "N Bomb" or "Good Ole Boy"

I don't turn red when embarrassed, or blue when I'm cold, or green when I'm I'll so I don't quite understand why some are using this description.

Just thought I'd state this in case those who use the word didn't know it can be deemed offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a bizarre term, given that technically everyone’s skin has a colour.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My friend used the term coloured to describe a mixed race person. She's from Malawi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Take this thread with a pinch of salt...

I'm not the authority on how people want to describe others or how people may describe themselves... just my opinion, we all have em. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this.

However the older generation especially are set in their ways.

My Nan is almost 93 years old, she’s black and still uses the word “coloured” to describe black people. She doesn’t mean offence of course, but it’s a sign of her time!

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I saw a profile on here that says no coloured people

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"My friend used the term coloured to describe a mixed race person. She's from Malawi."

In most Southern African countries that is the term used for mixed race people, particularly a mix between black and white

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I get this.

However the older generation especially are set in their ways.

My Nan is almost 93 years old, she’s black and still uses the word “coloured” to describe black people. She doesn’t mean offence of course, but it’s a sign of her time! "

You'd sort of understand if it's a 93 year old but people in their 40s and 50s should know better,but then again there's nothing we can do about it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My friend used the term coloured to describe a mixed race person. She's from Malawi.

In most Southern African countries that is the term used for mixed race people, particularly a mix between black and white"

Yep.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw a profile on here that says no coloured people "

No people then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't. "

How about just treating people as individuals instead of looking for today’s “acceptable” term on race?

Because at the end of the day you will never please everyone with what you say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody has a divine right to not be offended, and frankly it’s only racist or prejudiced if it is used to define in a derogatory manner.

I would be quite happy to not use the term if the recipient was offended, as I’d hate to upset anyone, but similarly I’m not interested in going around adjusting myself in case I arbitrarily offend anyone without knowing. Christ, I’d never speak.

Incidentally, that’s in general, I don’t actually use the specific term the OP is referring to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Pal or mate never fails. Lol

I think it's a generational thing and only find the slightly older generation using that as a description.

I agree that people are not saying it to necessarily offend but say it through ignorance, and we are all guilty of ignorance sometimes so I don't take offence I just share my opinion and hope that it can make a change.

I do think that the more Cultures mix and try to understand each other and that breaks down the walls and brings a further understanding.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't. "

Why say people of colour in the first place? What colour are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a bizarre term, given that technically everyone’s skin has a colour."

My thoughts exactly. The term implies an otherness which is subjective in origin.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't.

Why say people of colour in the first place? What colour are they?"

He was asking why one seems to be an acceptable term and the other not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I personally think these "racial classifications" stem from a bad time in Human History.

In my opinion, it's only when talking about Black and White people that this issue comes up.

We don't say "Yellow" we say Chinese/South Asian, we don't say "Brown" we say Pakistani/Indian/Asian etc.

However the diversity within Europeans and Africans made the classification political and since this time we have tried to find political correctness, which I believe has made it get out of hand.

Not being able to sing "Ba Ba Black Sheep" is taking things too far... lol

All jokes aside, its things like that which make people unsure of what to say so as not to cause offence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't. "

This is political correctness gone mad. I don't think either is acceptable.

To me "People of Colour" doesn't make sense as every human has Colour...

Your guess is as good as mines

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't.

Why say people of colour in the first place? What colour are they?

He was asking why one seems to be an acceptable term and the other not"

It's the same thing,whether you say people of colour,coloured people,it's just moving words around

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't.

Why say people of colour in the first place? What colour are they?

He was asking why one seems to be an acceptable term and the other not

It's the same thing,whether you say people of colour,coloured people,it's just moving words around "

I agree. That was also his point. People of colour is a term widely used in the USA. I've even heard Obama use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black... "

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black... "

Same reason why you use "White" as you're not white.

My belief is that it's political construct that we've all become accustomed too.

I'm a very proud Englishman who has African/Caribbean heritage but that's somewhat of a mouthful so I just use Black I guess. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol"

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

I've also notice that irony too, however I respect anyone having a positive opinion on issues that may not directly affect them.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

As a person you just have to be confident of who you are and not worry about the labels that you're given. You can call me black or coloured and it wouldn't shake me one bit,partly coz I experienced a lot of racism when I was younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having the terms at all is definitely still creating divide, but then if you had a lost child for example it would assuredly help with a better description.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

What about now that you're older?

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

What about now that you're older? "

I'm a confident person and I still experience racism and i try my best to not let those who are racist feel like they've managed to belittle me. Just the other day I wanted to buy something on Facebook market place and I messaged the lady,she said it was already sold but I could tell she was lying then I asked a colleague of mine to try and buy the same thing and guess what? She replied and said it was available. My colleague is Caucasian lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

What about now that you're older?

I will never know how that feels, I'm sorry some people in this world are so narrow minded x

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

What about now that you're older?

I will never know how that feels, I'm sorry some people in this world are so narrow minded x "

It's the world we live in. On the bright side my colleague told her that her partner was coming to pick up the item and when she opened the door she almost dropped it and the smile on her face disappeared lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

We didn't invent the English language so we have no say lol

Its all very frustrating isn't it.

And the irony is it's often middle upper class white people that usually take offence to racial things on black people behalfs

What about now that you're older?

You're quite right and although it my OP may of come across like a rant, it was more just an observation and to create a discussion around it.

Like yourself racism is something I've experienced directly and indirectly but due to my positive upbringing I never let it affect me negatively.

It's the World we live in which doesn't make it right, but I guess it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hijack the thread, but can you forsee a future where racism isn't a thing? I feel it will mainly be passed parent to child and continue for a long time to come.

The term 'coloured' should hopefully fade out in the next generation or two though.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't.

How about just treating people as individuals instead of looking for today’s “acceptable” term on race?

Because at the end of the day you will never please everyone with what you say. "

Yes that is true to be fair. I do find it intriguing though that 'coloured' is frowned upon but 'people of colour' is not.

I'm sure that by the time we reach pension age, there will be a whole new set of words we are expected to use and ones we've learned as younger individuals will no longer will be acceptable.

Language and political correctness evolving together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get confused with what we should or should not say, Should not say coloured, ok. But we can say "person or colour" or can we?

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

What I never really understood, when I was young, people were people then as we got older and supposidly better educated and worldly wise. There seemed to be a change in the tide, maybe u was lucky growing up in a multi cultural area no one looked at each other differently we got on, then I'm educating myself now reading a book a guy I vaguely knew wrote, title, why I font talk to my white friends about race! I understand lots now. It's colour and class intertwined, wrong completely wrong, I just like genuine nice people as a whole, the rest can go educate thereselves

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

"Sorry to hijack the thread, but can you forsee a future where racism isn't a thing? I feel it will mainly be passed parent to child and continue for a long time to come.

The term 'coloured' should hopefully fade out in the next generation or two though. "

I personally have high hopes for the future. We live in a more integrated society and the younger generation are more accepting of each others cultures. Further more, white folk are more aware of our colonial past and the negative impact on todays society. An example of how society has changed is the pulling down of the Carlton statue and the universal BLM movement. Events that would have been unthinkable only a decade ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White people need to do a lot more sitting back letting those from minority ethnic groups lead the way on how they want to be described/addressed.

Race often comes up on here and the discussions are always dominated by white people "whitesplaining", I understand this is largely due to Fab being predominantly white but still, some self awareness and active listening wouldn't go amiss.

And yes, the irony of me being white and contributing to this thread has not ben missed by me

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"People of a certain age were encouraged to use the term 'coloured' which at the time was not deemed offensive.

What I find very confusing is that we are allowed to say

"People of colour" but not "coloured" is there a difference?

I'd like to know why one is acceptable and one isn't.

Surely either both are or both aren't. "

Mate, you hit the nail on the head and I like you for it. I hate both terms. What does “person of colour” even mean?

I am not a person of colour. I am a person, full stop. And I say this because every human has a colour and saying I am a person of colour is redundant! Everyone on this planet has a skin hue or tone and that’s it. I don’t have to be described as a person of colour, just to distinguish me from others described as white (even though they aren’t) who incidentally have more of a colour than I have, if you look at the colour spectrum.

But then again another work I absolutely abhor is “race”, that 300-year old regressive term that we use today without actually thinking about what it even means.

How are there different races of Homo sapiens?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black... "

yes! Definitely chime with you on this.

It is a lazy description as you will find all ranges from very light brown to rich brown to almost obsidian black (the Nilotic South Sudanese people) on the continent of Africa, which happens to be one of the most biologically diverse continents today.

But somehow someone in the last 100 years or so change the term to black and no one batted an eyelid.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I was talking to a man on a train, he was talking about how he met his now wife. She told her friends she dreamt of a coloured man and he was going to be the man she married. I asked if he was offended by the word coloured, he said no, his birth certificate had coloured on it (non British). He said he didn't get offended by what people referred to his skin colour, as long as it wasn't used in an intentionally offensive way.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"What I never really understood, when I was young, people were people then as we got older and supposidly better educated and worldly wise. There seemed to be a change in the tide, maybe u was lucky growing up in a multi cultural area no one looked at each other differently we got on, then I'm educating myself now reading a book a guy I vaguely knew wrote, title, why I font talk to my white friends about race! I understand lots now. It's colour and class intertwined, wrong completely wrong, I just like genuine nice people as a whole, the rest can go educate thereselves "

Very interesting book, I must say. Read it and it just describes our experience completely.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

yes! Definitely chime with you on this.

But somehow someone in the last 100 years or so change the term to black and no one batted an eyelid."

I went on courses by my local county council in the early nineties. We were told that people of colour had been asked how they preferred to be described. We were told that the majority said they preferred to be called black. Living in a statistically high percentage of white people, that's what we believed to be right at that time.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"White people need to do a lot more sitting back letting those from minority ethnic groups lead the way on how they want to be described/addressed.

And yes, the irony of me being white and contributing to this thread has not been missed by me

Actually, it’s people like you who should be contributing to this thread as the introspection should be predominantly done by whites. So good on you for doing so.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"Why do we even use the term black though? You're not black...

yes! Definitely chime with you on this.

But somehow someone in the last 100 years or so change the term to black and no one batted an eyelid.

The thing is, as black” people, we form part of the very society that defines us this way. We internalize some of these labels and we sometimes don’t see past it. And that’s expected.

Humans are so diverse that trying to show horn us into boxes doesn’t work well. The Inuits from Greenland don’t really look like anyone else so, where do they fit into the neat little boxes we create?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"Sorry to hijack the thread, but can you forsee a future where racism isn't a thing? I feel it will mainly be passed parent to child and continue for a long time to come.

The term 'coloured' should hopefully fade out in the next generation or two though. "

Have to say I don’t see a world where racism doesn’t exist. Humans are tribalistic by nature and we socialize according to the us and then mentality. It’s part of who we are. What we need to learn to do is recognise the differences in a positive way but most importantly see the commonality of being human.

It takes a real conscious effort to treat others who don’t look like us as the same, if we realize that most people want the same things in life - security, a chance to contribute and contentment.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"White people need to do a lot more sitting back letting those from minority ethnic groups lead the way on how they want to be described/addressed.

And yes, the irony of me being white and contributing to this thread has not been missed by me

Actually, it’s people like you who should be contributing to this thread as the introspection should be predominantly done by whites. So good on you for doing so."

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I get this.

However the older generation especially are set in their ways.

My Nan is almost 93 years old, she’s black and still uses the word “coloured” to describe black people. She doesn’t mean offence of course, but it’s a sign of her time! "

Hell I know I’ve said things of various groups (not necessarily ethnic groups) where I’ve said the wrong thing not out of malice but ignorance or naivety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My grandfather was from the Grand Cayman isles my mum half caste ( a term frowned upon by is what it is) would chastise people for using 'coloured ' her usual response was for Christ's sake he / she is not pink with yellow polka dots.....#proudofmyheritage

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I get this.

However the older generation especially are set in their ways.

My Nan is almost 93 years old, she’s black and still uses the word “coloured” to describe black people. She doesn’t mean offence of course, but it’s a sign of her time!

Hell I know I’ve said things of various groups (not necessarily ethnic groups) where I’ve said the wrong thing not out of malice but ignorance or naivety. "

At one point I worked with two women, one preferred to be referred to as black, the other preferred coloured, stating black didn't reflect her mixed race parents. It can be like walking on eggshells sometimes.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"It can be like walking on eggshells sometimes."

As you've experienced, people have personal preferences. It is up to them how they self define, but it is important not to take offence when none is meant.

The thing is to be informed.

"Coloured" is old fashioned and have links to slavery - this is best avoided.

POC or "People of Colour" is an Americanism which is gaining traction here, especially among internet savvy youngsters. This is not same as "coloured". When you put "people" first, it emphasises the person. Like "Person with Disability", rather than Disabled.

"Black" is a political term, not describing how dark someone's skin is. It groups people who feel discriminated because they are not "white".

We (UK) did move away from "Black" as it excludes Asians, so we then had BME (Black and Minority Ethnic). Then this evolved into BAME (Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic) - which is the official term currently used by public services like NHS or Councils.

However the political "Black" is still the most popular amount all "non whites" and like Amy Winehouse, I'd like to go back to Black...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pal or mate never fails. Lol

I think it's a generational thing and only find the slightly older generation using that as a description.

I do think that the more Cultures mix and try to understand each other and that breaks down the walls and brings a further understanding."

Im in the older generation and love Black guys would never use coloured at any time

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Here's a question? Why do we need to try and describe the colour of someone's skin in intricate terms? I'm pretty sure that when I'm seen out and about, people don't go "oh look, there's a white woman tootling along in her wheelchair". They're more likely to say/think "there's a woman with short hair and a black hoodie on, tootling along in her wheelchair". Is it necessary to say "the black gentleman over there?" or "the gentleman wearing the blue pullover, and glasses?"

Very occasionally, it's helpful to describe someone's skin colour out loud, for example if you've witnessed a crime and in which case, I WOULD expect my skin colour to be relevant. But in general, skin colour shouldn't be an everyday way we label people.

It's like the discussion us wheelchair users like to joke about:

"Do you prefer us to say you have spina bifida* or person with spina bifida?"

"I prefer to be called Steve**"

*Other disabilities are available

**Other names are available

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

A friend of mine told me about 35 years ago that she's black, not purple or blue when I referred to her as coloured. I've never used that term since!

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By *ete le MeatMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire/ Notts

How is the term 'coloured' offensive but 'a person of colour' not?

Both make me cringe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terms that in the past where acceptable aren’t now. I think people get to caught up in words. People who aren’t very nice just aren’t very nice. The skin colour or religion of that person is immaterial. Why get annoyed by someone who doesn’t deserve your respect?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Terms that in the past where acceptable aren’t now. I think people get to caught up in words. People who aren’t very nice just aren’t very nice. The skin colour or religion of that person is immaterial. Why get annoyed by someone who doesn’t deserve your respect?"

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here."

We can only make judgements on how our life’s are or have been. I’m open minded enough to understand that some people through no fault of their own get it difficult. On the other hand it’s not anything I can change. Life is tricky for everyone

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

Nothing you can change?

A story.

A man was walking his dog on the seashore after a violent storm.

Thousands of starfish had been washed up.

A lady who was walking along the beach was constantly bending down picking up a starfish and throwing them in to the sea.

The man approached and said, “why bother, you are not going to make a difference?”

She bent down picked one up and threw it into the sea.

“Made a difference to that one.”

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over a year ago

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

Nothing you can change?

A story.

A man was walking his dog on the seashore after a violent storm.

Thousands of starfish had been washed up.

A lady who was walking along the beach was constantly bending down picking up a starfish and throwing them in to the sea.

The man approached and said, “why bother, you are not going to make a difference?”

She bent down picked one up and threw it into the sea.

“Made a difference to that one.”"

I meant I can’t change other people I can only change myself.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

Nothing you can change?

A story.

A man was walking his dog on the seashore after a violent storm.

Thousands of starfish had been washed up.

A lady who was walking along the beach was constantly bending down picking up a starfish and throwing them in to the sea.

The man approached and said, “why bother, you are not going to make a difference?”

She bent down picked one up and threw it into the sea.

“Made a difference to that one.”

I meant I can’t change other people I can only change myself. "

Kinda wished Hitler felt that way.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here."

The thing with us 'Black' people calling each other nigga is mostly found in America and is influenced by Hip hop ,mos black Americans will even use the word when reffing to someone who's not black .

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

The thing with us 'Black' people calling each other nigga is mostly found in America and is influenced by Hip hop ,mos black Americans will even use the word when reffing to someone who's not black ."

Is that okay?

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

Nothing you can change?

A story.

A man was walking his dog on the seashore after a violent storm.

Thousands of starfish had been washed up.

A lady who was walking along the beach was constantly bending down picking up a starfish and throwing them in to the sea.

The man approached and said, “why bother, you are not going to make a difference?”

She bent down picked one up and threw it into the sea.

“Made a difference to that one.”

I meant I can’t change other people I can only change myself.

Kinda wished Hitler felt that way."

Not sure what point you are making but there are billions of rope on the planet. I’m lucky to be brought up where I’m from, roll of the dice. I’d my life was different I’m sure my views would be different. I just don’t generalise people. I don’t like people who aren’t nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People on the planet

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

The thing with us 'Black' people calling each other nigga is mostly found in America and is influenced by Hip hop ,mos black Americans will even use the word when reffing to someone who's not black .

Is that okay?"

I didn't say it is,but it's the same asss a circus bear being made to tide a bike,he ends up seeing it as something normal even though it's not

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

Nothing you can change?

A story.

A man was walking his dog on the seashore after a violent storm.

Thousands of starfish had been washed up.

A lady who was walking along the beach was constantly bending down picking up a starfish and throwing them in to the sea.

The man approached and said, “why bother, you are not going to make a difference?”

She bent down picked one up and threw it into the sea.

“Made a difference to that one.”

I meant I can’t change other people I can only change myself.

Kinda wished Hitler felt that way.

Hey, your values are what makes a person, you are, you did unfortunately generalise.

Your values around not nice people, I agree with.

If your values support you, hang onto them.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

The thing with us 'Black' people calling each other nigga is mostly found in America and is influenced by Hip hop ,mos black Americans will even use the word when reffing to someone who's not black .

Is that okay?"

And the most brutally honest people on the planet 'Stand up comedians ' will tell you that just because some people pretend not to use the N word in public ,they sure do in their homes.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

As a child growing up in London i remember being told it was rude to say black and more polite to say coloured.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

As a child growing up in London i remember being told it was rude to say black and more polite to say coloured. "

That of course was by grandparents and old aunts and uncles. I know different now.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Equally I don’t respect people who use semantics as a weapon.

I had an amazing black friend who was great to be around, no edge.

Had a early relationship with a black girl, who’s brothers called each other nigger and threatened me.

People who use semantics as a threat might just might be in a better place if they opened their mind.

And can I generalise that to a lot of ladies on here.

The thing with us 'Black' people calling each other nigga is mostly found in America and is influenced by Hip hop ,mos black Americans will even use the word when reffing to someone who's not black .

Is that okay?

And the most brutally honest people on the planet 'Stand up comedians ' will tell you that just because some people pretend not to use the N word in public ,they sure do in their homes."

Take your word on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where I’ve been brought up religion was the issue. Now I’ve worked out that it’s just as bad on the side I thought got it right. The world is full of people who use something as an excuse to be disrespectful. I just wish that the rest of us ignored them.

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By *hite russianWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Blame the American culture. It is sad that your country does not differentiate between yourselves and USA a lot of times.

Racism is an American disease Britain has become obsessed with and embroiled in. ((

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"Blame the American culture. It is sad that your country does not differentiate between yourselves and USA a lot of times.

Racism is an American disease Britain has become obsessed with and embroiled in. (("

Racism is not an American disease,if it was then it would only exist in America. Most countries like the Britain tend to hide it better than the Americans do. Just because you hide something it doesn't mean it's non existent

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine. "

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun.

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over a year ago

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun."

Try not to forget that some people find it harder to communicate than others. So until we understand people we shouldn’t judge

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I am from Southern Africa *Without mentioning where I actually come from* Mixed race people are called Coloureds , black people are Blacks or we call each other the * n!gga * word White People are Whites

My children are mixed race me and my clan call them Coloured

....The only time I get offended is when profile that says no 'Blacks ' wink at me

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"I am from Southern Africa *Without mentioning where I actually come from* Mixed race people are called Coloureds , black people are Blacks or we call each other the * n!gga * word White People are Whites

My children are mixed race me and my clan call them Coloured

....The only time I get offended is when profile that says no 'Blacks ' wink at me

My home girl x

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

guess we all get judged and have people say offensive stuff. could be race, I get sexism and sizeism if that's a word and they don't get bollocked, i just move on, they don't deserve me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why get offended it’s obviously someone not worth getting annoyed by? We can call it racism or ignorance. Life is too short to worry about people who aren’t worth worrying about

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over a year ago

My children are mixed race me and my clan call them Coloured

....The only time I get offended is when profile that says no 'Blacks ' wink at me

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"guess we all get judged and have people say offensive stuff. could be race, I get sexism and sizeism if that's a word and they don't get bollocked, i just move on, they don't deserve me"

I only have one word 'WOW'

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

My children are mixed race me and my clan call them Coloured

....The only time I get offended is when profile that says no 'Blacks ' wink at me

My home girl x"

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

My children are mixed race me and my clan call them Coloured

....The only time I get offended is when profile that says no 'Blacks ' wink at me

My home girl x

Even on official paperwork when you're filling out an application the term coloured is there . And I'm from a predominantly coloured province lol

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun.

Try not to forget that some people find it harder to communicate than others. So until we understand people we shouldn’t judge"

Lost me, you generalised, judge what?

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over a year ago

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun.

Try not to forget that some people find it harder to communicate than others. So until we understand people we shouldn’t judge

Lost me, you generalised, judge what?"

Not sure how I generalised but I think we are saying similar things. Only saying that it’s difficult to understand people until we really know them. Especially on a website like this.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun.

Try not to forget that some people find it harder to communicate than others. So until we understand people we shouldn’t judge

Lost me, you generalised, judge what?

Not sure how I generalised but I think we are saying similar things. Only saying that it’s difficult to understand people until we really know them. Especially on a website like this. "

Appreciate your comments and agree.

Yet communication is the only insight into people’s perspective on life.

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over a year ago

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun.

Try not to forget that some people find it harder to communicate than others. So until we understand people we shouldn’t judge

Lost me, you generalised, judge what?

Not sure how I generalised but I think we are saying similar things. Only saying that it’s difficult to understand people until we really know them. Especially on a website like this.

Appreciate your comments and agree.

Yet communication is the only insight into people’s perspective on life."

True but I can tell the difference between someone using the wrong words unintentionally and someone meaning the wrong words. I get the feeling you can as well

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Really past caring if anyone is offended by the use of any term I use. It's only offensive if used in a derogatory way. If it's not and you are offended then that's your issue, not mine.

Doffs my cap.

If people get hung up in words, use them as poison to belittle people, says more about them than you.

Model operators of necessary (linguistic closed minds) are rife on here.

Thanks to those who make the forums fun.

Try not to forget that some people find it harder to communicate than others. So until we understand people we shouldn’t judge

Lost me, you generalised, judge what?

Not sure how I generalised but I think we are saying similar things. Only saying that it’s difficult to understand people until we really know them. Especially on a website like this.

Appreciate your comments and agree.

Yet communication is the only insight into people’s perspective on life.

True but I can tell the difference between someone using the wrong words unintentionally and someone meaning the wrong words. I get the feeling you can as well "

Difference between incongruent and congruent.

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over a year ago

The word colored has not been used in the USA since the 80’s and is offensive today....

We do not use the words person of color in 2021 to describe a black person....

The acceptable terms to describe a black person are African American , Black , or a person of African decent.....

If you would like to get historical you can use the term Nubian or Moor....

Honestly the only day you will see racism end , is the first day aliens land on earth....

Then it’s either you are human or alien.... But I’m sure we will find other ways to class and separate ourselves.....

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over a year ago

"The word colored has not been used in the USA since the 80’s and is offensive today....

We do not use the words person of color in 2021 to describe a black person....

The acceptable terms to describe a black person are African American , Black , or a person of African decent.....

If you would like to get historical you can use the term Nubian or Moor....

Honestly the only day you will see racism end , is the first day aliens land on earth....

Then it’s either you are human or alien.... But I’m sure we will find other ways to class and separate ourselves....."

The last sentence explains it perfectly. There will always be something that separates us. It won’t end so let’s try and make it manageable by not being the minority

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over a year ago

"The word colored has not been used in the USA since the 80’s and is offensive today....

We do not use the words person of color in 2021 to describe a black person....

The acceptable terms to describe a black person are African American , Black , or a person of African decent.....

If you would like to get historical you can use the term Nubian or Moor....

Honestly the only day you will see racism end , is the first day aliens land on earth....

Then it’s either you are human or alien.... But I’m sure we will find other ways to class and separate ourselves....."

Very well put Sir. Respect

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