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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Curious what people's preferences are

If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?

Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Curious what people's preferences are

If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?

Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?"

I've really only met single men in my years here and we decide what we want beforehand.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

A night in a hotel. Always take a bottle of wine with me and happy to pop out for a pizza or sandwhich if hungry. I am not into fancy meals and would rather spend the time together in the bedroom.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If it is a first meet after a social then it will vary according to what we have discussed.

Usually its a club meet or occasionally a hotel. I generally only do an all nighter with someone I've established a connection with, think only once has a first meet resulted in me staying over & that was with a couple.

I don't expect to be wined or dined, it's not a date. Sometimes we meet for a drink or coffee first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of hours of fun. I don't have drinks or food with meets. I meet for fun, not to be paid for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know "

This....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know "

I agree. Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's incredibly rare I'd meet a man purely for sex.

If we enjoy each other's company, I like spending some time doing other things too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married but play alone. I always prefer the first date to be half social and half sex. I like to chat and chill, maybe get something to eat and drink. But then sex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married but play alone. I always prefer the first date to be half social and half sex. I like to chat and chill, maybe get something to eat and drink. But then sex xx"

Drinks then sex is all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would meet at my place or theirs for sex....

Sitting through a meal takes away from the time would could be having sex.....

Sleeping over is a big no no......

I really don’t like idea of someone sleeping over the first time.... Then they might think it’s perfectly acceptable going forward and start coming over with overnight bags.....

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

As others have said.

If I arrange to meet someone from this site or others, usually after a previous social where we would have met for a coffee or such, we would have discussed what next. Usually by message or text if we have got on. Then it would be meeting for sex, not going for a meal. Very often time can be short. If we have met several times I have taken girls out for a meal, but not had sex after. Personally I think going for a meal etc is more boyfriend/girlfriend. Not what I'm here for. But for many I know they think the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I stay the night maybe a quarter of the time, depends on circumstances xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to eat or have a drink and chat, then back to accomm or hotel, and I do like to spend the night.

I like it to be a date - and that doesn't mean with any expectation about who's paying the bill - I like the social aspect.

It's a date with no particular expectation of a 2nd date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ideally like to meet for a coffee or a drink etc first just to make sure things click etc

Then all systems go for fun haha

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I always prefer a date type meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said.

If I arrange to meet someone from this site or others, usually after a previous social where we would have met for a coffee or such, we would have discussed what next. Usually by message or text if we have got on. Then it would be meeting for sex, not going for a meal. Very often time can be short. If we have met several times I have taken girls out for a meal, but not had sex after. Personally I think going for a meal etc is more boyfriend/girlfriend. Not what I'm here for. But for many I know they think the opposite. "

You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards "

Fuck first, as Dan Savage always says x

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

Dinner first, build up the tension, maybe room service incase you can’t wait. Lol

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"As others have said.

If I arrange to meet someone from this site or others, usually after a previous social where we would have met for a coffee or such, we would have discussed what next. Usually by message or text if we have got on. Then it would be meeting for sex, not going for a meal. Very often time can be short. If we have met several times I have taken girls out for a meal, but not had sex after. Personally I think going for a meal etc is more boyfriend/girlfriend. Not what I'm here for. But for many I know they think the opposite.

You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards "

I'd already had the sex! At previous meets. The meal would have been as friends. Then meets again for just sex.

A bit like a sandwich.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.

Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.

Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.

"

Why assume you're paying for it?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.

Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.

"

Only if you are daft enough to pay the bill. Any cost involved i always go half wherever we go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming we have already met for a casual social such as a coffee, I would probably favour an evening "date" of a drink in a nice bar somewhere then off to a hotel for a few hours. I wouldn't spend the night. With people I'm more familiar with then dinner or even getting straight to it, depending on time constraints and mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first to see how we get on and then the next time would be fun.

Either at mine or theirs.

I’ve had one guy who stayed over but purely because he lived over an hour and half away and we had spent most of the night enjoying each other. I think we crashed out around 4am.

I’m not into meeting guys for meals out.

Fab is purely for fun, not dates

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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So going with we've met for a social, it's gone well blah blah.

I'd rather not go for food beforehand, it will make me feel a bit sleepy and I want to be bringing my A game to their cock, not tiredly slurping at it. I wouldn't mind drinks or a walk first, something to build the tension a bit. Food can happen in the interval/after we're both spent. I don't really have any expectations - some form of sexual contact, kissing, laughter? That would be about it.

As far as staying the whole night, I'd like that but I'd have to be able to put up with them as a person. I wouldn't mind a few hours to be honest, as long as I didn't feel like a hole after it and we were both happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.

Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.

"

No way my friend.... it’s all about safety for women.. lol

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

If I am arranging to meet we would already be friends, I like the whole shebang, drinks, dinner, dancing. Holding hands and kissing throughout, then I am ready to rip his clothes off as soon as we get to the hotel

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

You sound and look amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s interesting to see that for the most part, a coffee/drinks is considered enough of a ‘social’.

I wouldn’t really be onboard with anything more involved than that; as someone mentioned, it’s not a date.

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By *unanytimeMan
over a year ago

derby

Swinging and dating are very different! Meeting for a date will involve drinks, meal and then maybe sex or maybe not. But a swinging meet is only for sex so if we like each other enough for sex then go for it. If not go home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy I would prefer a hi hello introduction social perhaps a coffee in a neutral place and if it goes well a second meet as a social followed by sex

The social can be either a drink or dinner this just gives either person a chance to say no without being in a compromising situation

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Curious what people's preferences are

If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?

Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?"

All and equally nothing from above.

It simply comes down to each person I meet. Sometimes I'll be invited for food and on to an event/club/home. Sometimes just a few hours for sex and home to shower and sleep. Even done 2 nights in a hotel together

It varies depending on many factors affecting both parties.

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By *n080971Man
over a year ago

Billericay

A coffee or a glass of something makes for a nice starter and adds to the sexual tension of what may follow but beyond that I prefer meets to be about mutual sexual enjoyment then a return to real life. Obviously with a few laughs and some conversation during. I’m not really a social swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex First. Struggle to have sex on a full stomach! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured "

Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen."

Let’s book a week then

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen.

Let’s book a week then "

No-one is that brave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen.

Let’s book a week then

No-one is that brave "

After a few drinks .... game on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured

Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance "

What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on some lovely meets, where we’ve had dinner and drinks, we enjoyed each other’s company.

I found it relaxed me and it made the sex even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured

Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance

What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me "

Candles and dinner

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I love dinner and a couple of drinks but there’s no hard rule , it would depend on circumstances, I often host at home but out is nice too.

However there’s always a social of sort prior in order to ascertain if there will be any play

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't expect anything.

I prefer no food though

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"Curious what people's preferences are

If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?

Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?"

Probably a question for another thread but is a single meeting another single really classed as swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards

Fuck first, as Dan Savage always says x"

Agree. Nothing worse than fucking with a belly full of food. Food definately after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured

Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance

What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me

Candles and dinner "

With you I'd definitely have dinner x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely depends on the guy. If he seems cool and interesting, definitely some dinner and drinks beforehand. If he’s gorgeous but not much going on upstairs it would be straight to the bedroom.

Win win either way

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I’m looking to date single lady’s but never that lucky

I do wonder where I’m going wrong

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I’m looking to date single lady’s but never that lucky

I do wonder where I’m going wrong local would be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured

Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance

What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me

Candles and dinner

With you I'd definitely have dinner x"

and three glasses of wine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured

Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance

What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me "

You might have missed the sarcasm

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Definitely depends on the guy. If he seems cool and interesting, definitely some dinner and drinks beforehand. If he’s gorgeous but not much going on upstairs it would be straight to the bedroom.

Win win either way"

I'll bang ya but don't want to listen to ya. I like this approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do an initial social meet which is coffee or a drink.

But after that, I like to keep it simple - meet for sex and then go our separate ways. No dinner, no hanging around afterwards, no overnights. Just an hour or two of mutual fun.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Social brink, a couple of cocktails to see if the chemistry is there,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been on some lovely meets, where we’ve had dinner and drinks, we enjoyed each other’s company.

I found it relaxed me and it made the sex even better. "

Exactly this

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

Nothin worse tgan just goin to fuck soneone in a hotel for a quicky

Then leave

So cheao n tacky

More like prostitution

Payin somewere just for a quick fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before joining here, it was abit different chatting women up. Talking over phone then you just get comfortable. Then you get some women who just want the pleasure and not the greeting as I like to call it

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I would more like going out for a meal drinks chat and then maybe more if both felt that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood and depends on the guy.

I've enjoyed lunchtime quickies, weekends away (and everything in between).

I like to mix it up

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I always do an initial social meet which is coffee or a drink.

But after that, I like to keep it simple - meet for sex and then go our separate ways. No dinner, no hanging around afterwards, no overnights. Just an hour or two of mutual fun. "

Yep that’s it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do an initial social meet which is coffee or a drink.

But after that, I like to keep it simple - meet for sex and then go our separate ways. No dinner, no hanging around afterwards, no overnights. Just an hour or two of mutual fun.

Yep that’s it "

Great response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think from male perspective the build up and seeing the woman arrive is part of the massive thrill... Where that happens is less important but seeing the woman's body and dress choice is so hot

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

I'd prefer meet for a social, if it's a play meet then play.

But unless it's been offered, discussed or suggested. Falling asleep or assuming you're staying runs the risk of outstaying your welcome and the other person not knowing how to turf you out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never "expect" to be taken anywhere but sometimes we might go for a drink first and generally there is food after (and no the bill doesn't all land on him) I like the social side too, I'm not in to fuck and go's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to be wined and dined preferably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know "

True. A meal= committment. After a social meeting just for sex is a far more straight forward approach.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

As she prefers, although, mischief, it is one the menu, x

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Single here. I do meet quite a few (at least was before COVID LOL). I spend a long time talking to someone I eventually sleep with and do a social (coffee mostly) before meeting - just to make sure everyone's gen, make sure he looks and sounds what he did online and allay many blokes' fears that the girl is a fake. Then meet mostly at mine for sex. No dinners hate them. After sex I prefer overnight meets but some guys don't want to stay overnight. Morning sex is amazing in most cases when that happens.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"I like to eat or have a drink and chat, then back to accomm or hotel, and I do like to spend the night.

I like it to be a date - and that doesn't mean with any expectation about who's paying the bill - I like the social aspect.

It's a date with no particular expectation of a 2nd date."

Girl after my own heart, and if all goes well on the first meet, and we do have that WOW factor, second meet could be somewhere like Tortworth Manor in your neck of the woods, or The Hundred House Hotel near Telford which actually has four poster beds, and love swings in all the superior rooms.

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