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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I wouldn’t over analyse it , think about what to have for lunch tomorrow instead

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

lol I wouldn't worry , as a guess they're not worth knowing ....

who in their right mind would block anyone for having a look at their profile twice ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t overthink it and move on xx

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Maybe change your settings OP so you are looking at profiles in "ninja" mode.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just plain weird.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent."

Honestly sounds like you’ve probably dodged a bullet there mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worth the hassle. If people don't want to be looked at hide their pics.

Oh and you can perve sorry I mean look in ninja mode

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

There are some nutters on here ...no rhythm or reason to there behaviour .but lots of nice people as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe change your settings OP so you are looking at profiles in "ninja" mode. "

Ninja mode is great u can lurk and perve without looking like a freak when u look at the same pics 412 times

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Our profile is completely honest, we don’t like wasting ours or yours time.

Sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet there.

If someone looks at us and we like them we will wink or send a message saying “caught you looking, wanna perv in person”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aye cheers all, was just venting really, shame as they looked lovely but you right prob dodged a bullet anyway.

I didn’t know about ninja mode, will have a look at that now, will stop me looking like a perv

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Maybe change your settings OP so you are looking at profiles in "ninja" mode.

Ninja mode is great u can lurk and perve without looking like a freak when u look at the same pics 412 times "

That must be how people are looking at me ..

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Not sure if silver allows you to stealth view but upgrade if that’s the case, it'll stop it, we did that, blocked left, right and centre for overlooking. Public pics are to look at but some folk just don't get that, cocks n fanny out but get upset if you fancy a look more than once or fifty, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if silver allows you to stealth view but upgrade if that’s the case, it'll stop it, we did that, blocked left, right and centre for overlooking. Public pics are to look at but some folk just don't get that, cocks n fanny out but get upset if you fancy a look more than once or fifty, lol."

Silver does allows you to into stealth mode xx

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We’d just be flattered if people kept looking at us.. although there’s a good chance they’re just looking and taking the piss out of us.

As others have said OP, go in stealth mode and you can perv as often as you like.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent."

Some people are just cunts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe change your settings OP so you are looking at profiles in "ninja" mode. "

heyhey now we talkin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if silver allows you to stealth view but upgrade if that’s the case, it'll stop it, we did that, blocked left, right and centre for overlooking. Public pics are to look at but some folk just don't get that, cocks n fanny out but get upset if you fancy a look more than once or fifty, lol."

I have a local guy who regularly checks my profile, always fabs my pics and has never messaged me. But I know he's there, like a little pet, and I love him and he doesn't even know...

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

[Removed by poster at 01/02/21 21:45:12]

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere


"Not sure if silver allows you to stealth view but upgrade if that’s the case, it'll stop it, we did that, blocked left, right and centre for overlooking. Public pics are to look at but some folk just don't get that, cocks n fanny out but get upset if you fancy a look more than once or fifty, lol.

I have a local guy who regularly checks my profile, always fabs my pics and has never messaged me. But I know he's there, like a little pet, and I love him and he doesn't even know... "

Never have I wished so much that fab had a crying laughing emoji button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t over analyse it , think about what to have for lunch tomorrow instead "

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Sounds like you've dodged a bullet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, mine is total bollocks, like most marketing...

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Yes.

My profile represents me.

The pictures and the descriptions are carefully chosen to represent my principles, my desire etc.

Some might see it, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if silver allows you to stealth view but upgrade if that’s the case, it'll stop it, we did that, blocked left, right and centre for overlooking. Public pics are to look at but some folk just don't get that, cocks n fanny out but get upset if you fancy a look more than once or fifty, lol.

I have a local guy who regularly checks my profile, always fabs my pics and has never messaged me. But I know he's there, like a little pet, and I love him and he doesn't even know... "

I had one like that for a while passed no heed till he messaged me saying he had seen me in the local shops car park. Blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t give it a second thought they clearly have too much time on their hands.

Not everyone means what they say in their profile. I can only speak for myself, mine is all honest!

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Never try and second guess couples..

They’re a bloody minefield..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours is completely honest and we accept that not everyone reads it though

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By *atexbisexTV/TS
over a year ago

Central London

Mine is carefully thought out. It's evolved over time and may appear a bit long winded, but I do mean every word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind anyone looking at my profile - surely that’s what they are for and at the moment it doesn’t say anything due to Covid. However I never monitor to see who does and I only keep a few pics public - the rest are for friends only. I have a short friends list that changes all the time as it only contains people I chat with and are interested to meet and if that changes then I delete them. I’m not interested in collecting random people on my friends list or checking who has fabbed my pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often click onto profiles by mistake lol

Sounds like you avoided drama in honesty!

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By *_91Man
over a year ago

huds


" Honestly sounds like you’ve probably dodged a bullet there mate!"

^^ this hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love everything about men but, mine clearly says I am looking for an experience with another woman x

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes I do why put it if you don't mean it

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By *napppaMan
over a year ago

London


"Maybe change your settings OP so you are looking at profiles in "ninja" mode. "

Clearly this must be used by 99% of women viewing my profile, it the only explanation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That just sounds bizarre OP. The meet could have been odd so probably just as well they showed their hand early on.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I'm not so sure. I'm not exactly the best at describing myself to be fair but at least you write something. The ones I enjoy is those profiles that haven't got anything written so my favourite game is just making up my own lol

For example, ideal date scenario:

"We go for drink and as a suprise.. taking on a flight trip past the moon where we would be wined and dined by trying to chomp on the food as it floats past and ending with a night of hot passionate sex due to the reentry into the Earth's atmosphere" lol

OK maybe I'm way too deep into this now haha

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent."

Wouldn’t stress about it.

We block members local to us, males, females and couples that continually look but never message in case they’re trying to figure out who we are.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Our profile is us.

Written by both of us and put as simply as we can.

Happy if people look once or a hundred times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol I wouldn't worry , as a guess they're not worth knowing ....

who in their right mind would block anyone for having a look at their profile twice ...."

This!!

Weapon

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

sounds a bit simplistic to say this but im not sure what the point is of putting stuff on your profile that you dont mean, worst thing to be on fab is a hypocrite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent."

The blocked you for NOT sending a message?

What a couple of pricks hahahaha

And yes,we mean what we say on our profile, otherwise why say it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you've had a negative experience, OP. Sites like this can be a minefield, just tiptoe through carefully.

My profile is straight down the line. What's the point in writing untruths?

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

The profile write ups that amuse me most are the ones that state if you can't hold a decent conversation or write a literate message don't bother, then after sending a polite and literate couple of paragraph message they send one liners back, after getting two or three one liners back I figure they themselves either can't be bothered or don't know how to converse.

Your profile is essentially your bait on the hook, what's the point of not saying exactly what you are about and what you seek, I don't like having to drag information out of people, might as well work for the FBI.

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE


"More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent."

We have found it scales.

Some people just tick that they like everything, want everything, open to everything to maximise visibility I suppose.. also some simply don't have the knowledge TO refine their wants/needs lists!

For us, our profile has been a labour of love, we enjoy updating it, AND making it a bitch to read! that way the people who take the time to do so, get replies often! and those who don't get autoscrapped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my profile is true.

I once sent a message to a serial profile viewer of mine and promptly got blocked.

People of Fab blow my mind sometimes.

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By *uietly torturedCouple
over a year ago

walkden

We definitely mean what we say on our profile if only people would bother reading it first before messaging or sending a friend request.

As others have said you've dodged a bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of my profile is bullshit. It's not the end of the world.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford


"I have a local guy who regularly checks my profile, always fabs my pics and has never messaged me. But I know he's there, like a little pet, and I love him and he doesn't even know... "

We have a few of these! Sometimes their usernames change slightly but their profile pic remains the same. It’s creepy, but in an endearing way.

- John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They sound like a bit of a crank tbh OP. Try not to worry about it!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Personally I do yes

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

If you are genuine why wouldn’t you mean what you put in your profile.

Others might not like it but that’s their problem.

Most people are very polite even if chancing their arm a little but there are some real nut jobs on here lol

Mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The profile write ups that amuse me most are the ones that state if you can't hold a decent conversation or write a literate message don't bother, then after sending a polite and literate couple of paragraph message they send one liners back, after getting two or three one liners back I figure they themselves either can't be bothered or don't know how to converse.

Your profile is essentially your bait on the hook, what's the point of not saying exactly what you are about and what you seek, I don't like having to drag information out of people, might as well work for the FBI."

We can't stand that either... So many have a million and one conditions to talking to them but then don't have the decency to apply it to themselves when they contact us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like people you probably dont want to meet.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’m confused as to why they went to the trouble of telling you why they were blocking you.

If they didn’t like the fact that you hadn’t introduced yourself, they could’ve just blocked you without saying anything.

People are odd sometimes.

My profile and info is 100% accurate btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like they’d invite you over then ask why you turned up at their door. I’ve learnt to be grateful for all the snooty people who reveal their colours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is definitely me ... and I'm unlikely to deviate from what's on it!

I also pay attention to what I read on other profiles - if someone says they don't want a particular kind of person messaging them, then generally I don't message or wink. Bit like consent really!

That doesn't stop me visiting those profiles, fabbing the pics, adding them to the hotlist. To be fair, I don't think I've ever had the reaction described by the OP. But there's always time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't stand that either... So many have a million and one conditions to talking to them but then don't have the decency to apply it to themselves when they contact us... "

Ah yes, profiles with many contradictory conditions are my absolute favourites... or not.

"Must have own accom and transport, live locally, have a job, be available during the day, spend most of their waking hours in the gym, be between 5ft 11 and 5ft 11.5 in height, be hung" etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been blocked several times for unknown reasons.Can only imagine for fabbing photos or returning to their profile.But generally look at pics before profile and trawl through hundreds of profiles pics in a week so can’t remember who I have looked at .But plenty more fish as they say

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By *anther and gothic angelCouple
over a year ago

fairy land

?? lol how far up their own backsides are they? Omg you'd think they're royalty or something! Blocking someone because they looked at their profile TWICE and didn't send a message....how dare you lol

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill

Yes. Heart on sleeve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this thread a oxymoron?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile is us. As truthful as we can be.

If we blocked everyone who looks at us twice or more and not bother to message our block list would be mahoosive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I really do mean I’m not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't give it another thought

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Its pretty much as it says on the tin on ours.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No issue with anyone looking at my profile without getting in touch.

If they do it every day for a couple of weeks without even so much as a fab I'll block them because they can't be that forgetful and it's just creepy.

I mean what I say on my profile. Conversation is two way and pre and post covid I don't meet anyone that isn't interested in a social first and proper conversation.

I've had the entitled types who think their reputation overrides my wishes so they probably aren't happy when they get blocked but hey ho I'm sure lots will fall for their bull.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London


"Maybe change your settings OP so you are looking at profiles in "ninja" mode.

Ninja mode is great u can lurk and perve without looking like a freak when u look at the same pics 412 times "
haha yes we love it.

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

I wouldnt worry, I myself am a serial window shopper, lot of free time on my hands and not meeting so pointless to message people, but if you live with in 10 miles, and am into similar stuff to me I have probably viewed your profile, and multiple times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant, I looked at a profile a couple of times, first time I loved the pictures and second time I forgot I looked the first time, although loved looking at the pictures again.

Just had a snotty message saying the are blocking me as I didn’t send them a message, I was very tempted to send them a message on the first look, but on their profile it says “no single males”, if it says no single males then I’m not going to message you absolute weapon.

Does everyone mean what they say in their profiles, I am always respectful if I don’t match what someone states on their profile and don’t message them. I’m just a bit confused really and wanted to vent."

I mean, I think it’s more of a guideline. But don’t understand why they would go all the way to block you just because you didn’t message them.. weird!

I put on my profile my preferred age (18-35 I think) but I’ve replied to guys who were 42 that caught my eye cos they were handsome! So... also if I see someone winking or even looking at my profile that might interest me I’ll try and message in case.

Sometimes it’s like you said, they thought not to message as maybe thought I wouldn’t reply..

Also sometimes if I don’t reply it’s because I get too many messages

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