FabSwingers.com forum: Top tips for MMMF?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the off chance that the covid restrictions ever end, we are looking to plan a MMMF.... K’s first step into multiple guys so may as well jump in at the deep end!

Do any couples have a practical tips?! Obvs communication is the massive one, but is the anything you’ve found works well/was waaay trickier than you thought?!

I (J) would like it to be as nerve free and fullfilling for K as we can make it, so any advice from couples who’ve tried the same sort of thing welcome!

Cheers!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Hope you like organising and being let down time and time again.

Best bet would be to find a MM couple, or meet 2 single men several times to build the relationship and ensure they aren't flakey.

Having a first meet with a guy, be with another strange guy can put them off when it comes to it regardless of how they come across in messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss limits prior to fun and have a stop means stop rule

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We have had this in the past quite few times , we got 2 Guys we knew That works ,also got 2 we didn’t but they had plenty of verifications and that worked as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following for tips if you don’t mind op

Mrs HH

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By *otwife and Him 69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

Keeping an eye on this one

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"On the off chance that the covid restrictions ever end, we are looking to plan a MMMF.... K’s first step into multiple guys so may as well jump in at the deep end!

Why not try a MMF first ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to do this for my wife too had fair few mfm but adding another one or two guys would def make things interesting. Mind you who knows when we can even another mfm been a long boring year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite more guys than you want double or more give them the location last as most people don't end up coming or make up a excuse

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

This is the next step for me. We will probably ask guys we have previously played with. I don't think I would want it to be with someone I didn't know.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We have used guys we've known for film shoots and also guys from various couples we've met if their partners don't mind.

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By *leasure zoneCouple (MM)
over a year ago

oxford

As an experienced mm profile we’ve been lucky enough to share in others mmmf fantasies

I think us two knowing and being comfortable and confident in each other company is a big help

Also making the focus on the lady with a massage definitely breaks the ice and improves everyone’s confidence

But probably the most important is making it fun and relaxed and involving the 3 rd guy be it just making him appreciate watching or allowing him to set the time etc

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

The simple answer, though not necessarily everyone's cup of tea, is go to a club, if and when they reopen. I love the attention of several guys, and we usually end up in a threesome, foursome or moresome. It has plenty of advantages: It doesn't require any planning, no risk of no shows, plenty of guys to choose from, you get to see who you're going to play with before committing and it's safe.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I attended a mmmmf meet and the couple who organised it invited 3 guys and we all turned up.

They started by picking about 10 or so guys and invited us all to chat and get to know them in a group chat.

As the short few weeks went by they removed the guys they didn't feel they wanted or they felt wasn't genuine and then ended up with the 3 of us.

One of the guys they had met before.

They let us know the hotel the morning of the meet but had told us the general location.

The day of the meet they booked in , left a key card at reception for the guys they met before.

The 3 of us met in the bar for a drinkn or two and then headed up to the room for what was one of the best meets I have had.

It worked well for them, maybe they go lucked with picking 3 and 3 turning up as I know plenty of people have had let downs, perhaps the time spent getting to know everyone helped.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"This is the next step for me. We will probably ask guys we have previously played with. I don't think I would want it to be with someone I didn't know.

Kx"
A good idea. You will feel a lot more comfortable with guys you have already played with.

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

Joined FAB for exactly this. After a few attempts (and failing) to arrange it, Covid arrived. I think that we will go back to clubs for multiple guys when they open

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

We have had several meets with single guys where S trusts me to arrange our visitor with her tied and blindfolded.

This a precursor to trying the same with 2 of those guys and having a degree of reliability and trust

Having had experience of no-shows I would say this is the way forward. You need a couple of reliable people that have enjoyed themselves, want to repeat the experience and more with another guest.

If you try and just arrange first meets then you will be disappointed with one or both as no-shows. Everyone is up for it until it comes to the crunch and then they have all sorts of excuses:

Car broke down

Mum fell over

Had to go to work

Don't feel well

Decided to try and get back with ex-wife

Divorce papers came and not 'feeling it's

Etc

Another option would be to attend a club, when it is possible again,and just randomly invite the two guys you like into a room. Be brazen, they are there hoping for exactly what you are offering. Your male half will need to keep a closer eye and it might be harder to ensure any boundaries are adhered to if they get carried away.

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By *amigos321Couple (MM)
over a year ago

leeds

Had many many meets spoiling and entertaining ladies,hotwives and cpls seeking multiple guys..The advantage of established trio for many years now and even gone up to be a team of four, that would save cpls and ladies the hassle and passing it to us to arrange..which takes a lot..but well worth it.

Can't wait to get back into it

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

south west

"The simple answer, though not necessarily everyone's cup of tea, is go to a club, if and when they reopen. I love the attention of several guys, and we usually end up in a threesome, foursome or moresome. It has plenty of advantages: It doesn't require any planning, no risk of no shows, plenty of guys to choose from, you get to see who you're going to play with before committing and it's safe. "

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Order double the amount of guys.

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By *eauNaturelMan
over a year ago

Mortonhampstead for a few days

A hybrid solution would be to invite 3 guys but arrange to meet at a club, any no-shows could be substituted by suitable men at the club.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

We've done a fair few MMF and just the one MMMF. It was with two guys that we'd met individually before so we knew them both and knew they were reliable. Don't think we'd have tried it with two new guys as we know that we get a 50% no show generally.

Our only real tip, is maybe see of any are bi-. I am and one of the guys were so it meant there were plenty of opportunities for Char to have a but of a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a mmf with another guy. It was kind of last minute thing and we were lucky I surpose, he turned up and a great night was had. Bi mmf would be good fun.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Start with MMF with a few different guys. Once you know each of them, sound them out to see if they were up for MMMF. Think about the chemistry between them too (will they get along).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my own experience.. I think it's good to start with MMF... Then build the guys.. If you have met one guy before, then the three of you have a dynamic/understanding, so it's easier to introduce an extra.. I once met a couple, along with another guy for MMMF, and neither of us had met them before, and neither did we know each other.. So it was a bit awkward for a while.. It's easy to forget that guys have feelings, anxieties, and aren't just a cock

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"From my own experience.. I think it's good to start with MMF... Then build the guys.. If you have met one guy before, then the three of you have a dynamic/understanding, so it's easier to introduce an extra.. I once met a couple, along with another guy for MMMF, and neither of us had met them before, and neither did we know each other.. So it was a bit awkward for a while.. It's easy to forget that guys have feelings, anxieties, and aren't just a cock

Exactly this

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

we have heard every excuse under the sun for guys not showing, we have found best to play with guys on their own and see if they are comfortable in a group situation with other guys, now have 4 or 5 trusted guys who will show if they say they will but it took time to find them. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask many more to attend than you actually want as you will find many love the idea but will cry off at the last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask many more to attend than you actually want as you will find many love the idea but will cry off at the last minute.

P.S. You would have far more chance of this if at a club.

Fingers crossed for you as it can be great fun.

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Watford

Set out the limits, what you like and what is a no-no.

Invite 10 guys and you might then get 2 or 3 turn up.

I don't know why, but if you would think that if you are not happy in a group situation then you wouldn't enquire about getting an invite.

Numerous times I've turned up to see a couple who had arranged a group of guys to turn up and I've been the only one. That said, it was always their loss, not mine as a MMF always followed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the off chance that the covid restrictions ever end, we are looking to plan a MMMF.... K’s first step into multiple guys so may as well jump in at the deep end!

Why not try a MMF first ?"

Can highly recommend ?? a MMF

Cant wait for more, as for MMMMF

Maybe in a club when we can would be easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the route we shall go down for sure ?? to build of previous MMF sessions

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Also following as we are looking for 2 older men for wife for soft swing. Wifes first time.

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

1st time I did mmmf I'd never met either of the men and didn't realise I'd previously met the woman until I arrived there, it was a cracking night all round!

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By *oodgirlbadboyCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Our first MMMF was in a club, was having such a good night and somehow it just happened,, probably best that happened the way it did as nerves never came in to it,, and have done it a few more times since,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a practical point of view when have a group fun, make sure you clear the area around the bed as when things start to heat something a accidentally limb can knock over the bedside light.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many letdowns and fakes on meets as others have said

We just go to a club and take the pick of who’s there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done this a while back... the 2 guys we knew separately were great, but under mmmf couldnt perform..

Good luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done this a while back... the 2 guys we knew separately were great, but under mmmf couldnt perform..

Good luck op"

Good comment sexy

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Following

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

We had a couple of MMMF meets where the guys turned up but both times one of them struggled to perform.

On the last one we arranged we actually met bi guys who were both very able to perform for ages. Maybe a couple of bi guys, even if they don’t play together when you meet might be better as well.

Good luck and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has given great advice and their views.

The key aspects are:

Agreeing the time and location

An icebreaker so everyone feels relaxed.

I arrange several when I was married. The best response was always daytimes.

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By *ohn n jodieMan
over a year ago

warrington

We are 3 guys who specialise in meeting couples ( 2 of us if work only allows it) what we offer- we are polite, respectful of any boundaries , priority is the ladies ultimate pleasure, we are not in it just for our own satisfaction , at any time a no is a no , no pressure to play , will happily stop at ANY time !, we insist on daytimes , quick phone chat with both parties , recieve as much information as possible as to what your looking to happen at the meet , complete discretion before and after xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any given Sunday I'd communicate with all parties involved about your own personal expectations & limits beforehand so that there's no secrets and lies.

Definitely don't try to force anything and run 8 mile if they rely on heavy handed and unnecessary film references or even worse use Star Wars puns when talking.

As a general rule, no rogue one's are allowed in any of my fantasies.

Never carry on with any unknown quantities either...!; meet people separately first to get a basic instinct of who they are, find out first hand if that's as good as it gets and whether they've the demeanor & patience to handle a possible group situation. Boogie nights are not for everyone!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your advice is As Good As It Gets

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By *hefinchesCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Somethings we're definitely wanting to try soon, so will keep an eye on this thread x

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By *ubiaWoman
over a year ago

Manchester/ Portugal

Find someone who loves watching you being fucked. My FB chooses the guys and it's always amazing. We don't have a problem with no shows. Usually more show up than we planned for which is fine with me! Then he gets to fuck me when they've all gone.

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

Will participent here, will travel .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Invite more guys than you want double or more give them the location last as most people don't end up coming or make up a excuse "

I will second this. You always get half dropping out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our first MMMF was in a club, was having such a good night and somehow it just happened,, probably best that happened the way it did as nerves never came in to it,, and have done it a few more times since, "

Had MMF but never more and never at a club, cant wait to try more.

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

In the years I’ve been trying, I’ve been invited once and showed up! Hubby seemed to be very offish with everyone, so the vibe wasn’t great.

I live in eternal hope of another invite but it seems less likely by the year lol

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By *inkyisfunukMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Speaking as a single guy who *really* loves MMMF fun/gangbangs - for the love of god guys, if you say to a couple you’re gonna turn up, so.

Not sure it’s what you’re into? Don’t say yes. Don’t let people down.

Guys not turning up is so frustrating for all involved, must be doubly so for the couple organising.

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