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"Yes Sir" or "Don't you dare!!!"

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By *annyT1966 OP   Man
over a year ago

Derwentside

So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?

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By *ichie Rich 93Man
over a year ago

Wild S.West

I'd love to see the response to this . Often wanted to be thought it might not go down well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why a meet is prearranged and the activities agreed to before hand xx

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By *annyT1966 OP   Man
over a year ago

Derwentside

Does it change the situation if it's more gentle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont. You. Dare.

I’d be rather cross if someone suddenly started pulling my hair.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

It would be wtf, and leave now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would have been discussed /agreed in advance... Otherwise dicing along the line of abuse !

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would be throughly peed off if he was rough with me.

The only person I am ever remotely sub with is my husband. Anyone else taking liberties will most likely find the session comes to an abrupt end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm likely to get dressed after pulling his bollocks equally hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"

Consent is sexy, without it is assault.

This ain't no 50 shades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm likely to get dressed after pulling his bollocks equally hard"

I was thinking a knee in the bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"

You understand consent OP? Do you?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Pre agreed makes it consenting and very hot, not previously discussed makes it very much an end scenerio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love it xx

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

As long as it wasn't a violent tug that nearly breaks my neck I would be more than happy.

No Sir though.

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By *ransistersTV/TS
over a year ago

Dover

Would a smack in the gob offend sir.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I would be happy for him to reach around and squeeze my boobs too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love I adds to the fun, wish more men did.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I would be throughly peed off if he was rough with me.

The only person I am ever remotely sub with is my husband. Anyone else taking liberties will most likely find the session comes to an abrupt end."

I don't consider some hair pulling as being dominant, or me submissive.

It's part of sex for me.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i would love it, yes Sir for me.

k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask first.... I’ll probably say yes if we’re going at it hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely 100% Yes Sir.....followed by fuck me harder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Immediate kick in the balls with the sole purpose to damage

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By *ust_FlynnMan
over a year ago

St Neots

Don't you dare

It would be interesting to see how quickly some one would be .... Removed .... By Flynn if someone did that without prior agreement/permission lol

E xx

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Definitely "don't you dare", and possibly, if he does not get the hint and insists on going Dom on me, "the exit is over there". As hair pulling is one of my hard limits.

I do normally discuss the "do's" and "don'ts" before a meet, so anything where they go against my wishes/limits is the end of the meet and instant block. Hard limits exist for a reason, and not every single woman is a sub.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Depends on the pull, as long as he was being sensible its a yes sir from me. I don't see hair pulling as something I need to discuss in advance

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By *ichie Rich 93Man
over a year ago

Wild S.West

The general consensus is what I thought yeah glad I never did.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth


"Definitely "don't you dare", and possibly, if he does not get the hint and insists on going Dom on me, "the exit is over there". As hair pulling is one of my hard limits.

I do normally discuss the "do's" and "don'ts" before a meet, so anything where they go against my wishes/limits is the end of the meet and instant block. Hard limits exist for a reason, and not every single woman is a sub. "

Oh yeah this for sure! Funny to see we posted our comments at the same time, I'd say that as a general rule things should be discussed and obviously it depends on the situation, people involved and their personal preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be throughly peed off if he was rough with me.

The only person I am ever remotely sub with is my husband. Anyone else taking liberties will most likely find the session comes to an abrupt end.

I don't consider some hair pulling as being dominant, or me submissive.

It's part of sex for me."

I have to agree I don't consider hair as a dominant submission act x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean I don't think I have done this with asking before, but then again Im not agressive with it.

Run your hand up their back, put your hand in their hair, grab some, flick of a wrist kind of pull.

Do not try to yank her hair out!

Common sense people!

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Odd one this? I was meeting a girl for ages and having lots of bdsm quite rough sex and then saw her profile on another site that it was on her 'like' list. Oddly it had never occurred to me but when asked and tried. She loved it! Now another equally kinky lady I knew absolutely hated it! No accounting for individual lady's tastes? That's why I find them constantly fascinating! Now I ask...

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By *otel PlaymatesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have had it a few times where its not been agreed but it wasn't hard pulling, however pain is a big no no for me I'm here for pleasure. I get the dom kink side but I play as an equal I want pleasure not pain.

PS; Are balls susceptible to pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without warning" and "on a first meet"....

You've got to be joking, OP.

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Definitely a "yes sir" from me and probably pull it tighter/harder as well

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Oh my god, she’d snap his dick off lol

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By *randMrsJones500Couple
over a year ago

london


"Would a smack in the gob offend sir. "

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't you fucking dare followed by a smack!

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By *amesleonard12345Man
over a year ago

heathrow/feltham/sunbury

What if a guy said to you women How a about a little slap on the arse

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

OP may be a really nice principled guy who is merely seeking clarification.

But to me the answer to the question is obvious, some women do and some women don't. For a person to pull hair, slap butt, or ch@ke without asking or knowing beforehand it is acceptable (in my books) makes that person a rough sex chancer (of which there are many) or a dangerous dominant (of which there are many).

However, for good or ill, it is fact in the real world, some women find attractive in the moment and arousing, the stereotype of alpha manly male behaviour of being self assured, self confident in taking control in rough sex that pushes towards the boundaries.

In all things education is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would a smack in the gob offend sir. "

Hymmm lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often find those who try to pull my hair hard, tend to be offended by me pulling their cock hard...funny that..

So dont you dare...

Consensual and discussion is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love having my hair pulled but I would be taken aback a bit if it was somome new where there wasnt like a foundation of trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love having my hair pulled but I would be taken aback a bit if it was somome new where there wasnt like a foundation of trust "

Lots of girls like their hair getting pulled but i know what you mean by your comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve read the whole thing and lots of valid points have been made. However, not one lady has questioned being ‘funked’ hard from behind!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

If im letting a guy fuck me hard from behind then absolutely yes..

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I’ve read the whole thing and lots of valid points have been made. However, not one lady has questioned being ‘funked’ hard from behind! "

Hahaha well this made me chuckle....how does it feel getting “funked” not had that before.

Oh and answering OP question -it wouldn’t end well

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I love having my hair pulled but I would be taken aback a bit if it was somome new where there wasnt like a foundation of trust "

Totally agree with your comment.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

A lot of people struggle to pull hair safely and think you just grab the end and yank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’d just melt into it like a good little sub

But that sort of thing really does it for me with the right guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people struggle to pull hair safely and think you just grab the end and yank."

I know that a lot of people struggle to pull hair safely and don't understand the meaning of it. That's guys who think that they know it all and think that makes them macho kinda doms .

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

With my kind of girl, it's likely to part company with her scalp en masse and reveal a different layer.

Embarrassment all round!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I’d just melt into it like a good little sub

But that sort of thing really does it for me with the right guy! "

Will you marry me?

We can drink red wine, have orgies, raise kittens and watch Disney for the rest of our lives!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd love it with the right guy, if it's discussed and I'm not too bothered about my hair getting messed up. I'll still want to look and feel great with the next guy, after he's kicked out.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Spontaneous fun is an odd concept, difficult to plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck.

Mine will come off in his hand!

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By *wistedbambi69Woman
over a year ago

Somerset


"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"

Omg yes...pull it harder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a big no no for me, my hair is not to be touched or pulled but I always make this clear early on so if it was tried after that conversation, he'd swiftly get a smack in the face and a knee to the balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a big no no for me, my hair is not to be touched or pulled but I always make this clear early on so if it was tried after that conversation, he'd swiftly get a smack in the face and a knee to the balls. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, Sir!

Though only my Master Mowgliboy gets to do this to me these days.

Unless he’s there to direct any men and women fucking to pull my hair just how I like it of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C loves it rough, however this is made clear before hand so should be no unexpected surprises for either party.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton


"I'd love it xx"
good gurl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't go down well with me at all. Nor would smacking/spanking. I tend to have a social/chat beforehand about what I'm into. And find out what they're into. See if we're compatible

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Depends how long was spent doing said hair !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as it wasn't a violent tug that nearly breaks my neck I would be more than happy.

No Sir though."

This.

I'm going to assume you understand consent and that things like this need to be discussed ahead of trying it randomly.

Dominance is an attitude to me, not an act, so simply pulling my hair is not going to get 'yes Sir' out of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mrs would love it!

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By *annyT1966 OP   Man
over a year ago

Derwentside


"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?

You understand consent OP? Do you?"

I certainly do. This is a general genuine discussion about the scenario, not me finding out if I could get away with abuse. Apologies if it came across that way.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

Certainly wouldn't be calling him Sir! But hairpulling when fucking is a big yes from me! Increases the primal feeling and sends me wild!

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"This is why a meet is prearranged and the activities agreed to before hand xx"
Exactly. I wouldnt dare try that unless it was something we had discussed beforehand and she liked a guy doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I’d just melt into it like a good little sub

But that sort of thing really does it for me with the right guy!

Will you marry me?

We can drink red wine, have orgies, raise kittens and watch Disney for the rest of our lives!

"

A marriage proposal?! Oh my I’m flattered! That’s an offer hard to say no to

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I wouldn't call him sir in any situation . But with the right person hair pulling (not yanking) can be hot. But in saying that on a first meet I don't know as it hasn't ever happened. I suppose it would depend on the person if I didn't like it though I'd have no issue telling them I didn't and vis versa.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"

1) If by “funking you hard from behind” you mean “jackhammering you painfully” like most men seem to, then I’d have already told him to stop.

2) Pulling my hair at all is a no-no except from someone I really trust. Doing it “without warning” at all, never mind on a first meet, would get a swift backwards kick.

3) Sir? On a first meet? Not a chance in hell. If I thought the man was someone who would expect to be called Sir on a first meet, I wouldn’t be meeting him.

If this happened to me on a first meet, I’d be leaving as soon as possible and blocking the consent-violating creep as soon as I got home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes sir!!!! And harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sir!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely yes Sir

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

from me ( kitten) its likely to be a do that again and you will become a eunoch!!!!!!!!! lol

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

It's please sir not yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be Yes sir

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

and please sir I want some more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sir. Spit in my mouth

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

My boy friend likes it when I say please sir I want it up my arse I been a very naughty girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Sir whatever you say Sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met with a woman who asked me to pull her hair but I wouldn't do it without being asked

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By *ikkiHbiWoman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

When i first met with my fwb there was no planning bus as we were going through the foreplay he just put it out in open and said

If I do anything you don't like or enjoy give it a chance and if its not for you just say and we'll stop, I won't be offended

Was a little bit weary after that as wasn't sure what to expect but glad I gave the stuff a chance as it opened alot of new avenues of pleasure and excitement for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing like being fucked by someone who knows how to take control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why a meet is prearranged and the activities agreed to before hand xx"

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sir for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be stupid and disrespectful and bloody well out of order unless it was pre discussed

You can normally check boundaries with chat and gentle exploration but not jumping in with both feet

Surely you get a feeling for what's acceptable through chat and play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Sir! Love hair pulling during rough doggy style fucking. Mrs x

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