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By *istressdandsubt OP   Couple
over a year ago

caterham

This is more so for guys , we as many couples get winks messages freind request from guys who obviously just look at pics.

So we thought we would put a few simple steps , and you may get a better responce, couoles feel free to add anymore

1. Read the profile , read the profile

2. See what the couple are looking for not what you are looking for.people are allowing you into their most intimate side of their not your their relationship, so respect that

3.adress them as a couple , not in the area.want to bang you into next wedesday

4.you only get one first impression, make the best one possible

5.if their profile say message with a pic then send one , it's not blind date

6 check age requirements if your 20 or 60 and the couple want 30 to 40 then respect that

Finally this may seem bolshy of us but we as many are just tired of being contacted by people who just not suitable and trust me if you do use the points above you will probably get a better responce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very informative wish they would listen

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth


"very informative wish they would listen"

Some of us do, we're not all the same.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We like to think that any man who joins us is of equal importance. We get a fair few messages that make us go but it helps us decide who we're compatible with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us spend thr time to read profiles and formulate a polite message based on the profile text, more often than not it ends up being deleted anyway or a message asking have I read the profile.......yes and now for a 3rd time to make sure I'm not missing something. Alas no it seems a standard response from a lot of women / couples

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By *istressdandsubt OP   Couple
over a year ago

caterham


"Some of us spend thr time to read profiles and formulate a polite message based on the profile text, more often than not it ends up being deleted anyway or a message asking have I read the profile.......yes and now for a 3rd time to make sure I'm not missing something. Alas no it seems a standard response from a lot of women / couples"

Can only speak for us , we are clear what we are looking for if we get a message from someone who has read profile is into the things we are , then he is at least on the right wavelength, If they are miles away we at least say so and pity so far away , what gets me is our first line says what we are and what we are looking for , it's not cryptic but people think that because they are , younger , bigger cock, in the area, that we will suddenly change what we want just to suit them , it's just wasting theres and our time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I just try to come across as genuine as possible, gotta be hard shifting through all the bad eggs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems pretty straightforward and just checked out your profile so ppl should just read it (it's not too long tbh) and adhere to it.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Regarding your point 5, we would suggest that you always include a face picture, irrespective of whether a profile requested one or not. You're looking for a meeting so it's not going to happen until they've seen what you look like. It will negate unnecessary protracted messages if you're attractive to couple or not at the start.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This is more so for guys , we as many couples get winks messages freind request from guys who obviously just look at pics.

So we thought we would put a few simple steps , and you may get a better responce, couoles feel free to add anymore

1. Read the profile , read the profile

2. See what the couple are looking for not what you are looking for.people are allowing you into their most intimate side of their not your their relationship, so respect that

3.adress them as a couple , not in the area.want to bang you into next wedesday

4.you only get one first impression, make the best one possible

5.if their profile say message with a pic then send one , it's not blind date

6 check age requirements if your 20 or 60 and the couple want 30 to 40 then respect that

Finally this may seem bolshy of us but we as many are just tired of being contacted by people who just not suitable and trust me if you do use the points above you will probably get a better responce "

Makes sense, 1 in 10 will follow it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many women/ couples who message first......they are few and far between but they exist..... send a face pic with their first message. In my experience never. They usually send a message asking for a face pic with nothing else. Let's not brand all single men with the same brush. Its a blanket thing across fab its just a fact that men outnumber other pronouns. Unfortunately the numbers work against us single men.

Just for the record its not difficult send should be followed im not disagreeing

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore


"This is more so for guys , we as many couples get winks messages freind request from guys who obviously just look at pics.

So we thought we would put a few simple steps , and you may get a better responce, couoles feel free to add anymore

1. Read the profile , read the profile

2. See what the couple are looking for not what you are looking for.people are allowing you into their most intimate side of their not your their relationship, so respect that

3.adress them as a couple , not in the area.want to bang you into next wedesday

4.you only get one first impression, make the best one possible

5.if their profile say message with a pic then send one , it's not blind date

6 check age requirements if your 20 or 60 and the couple want 30 to 40 then respect that

Finally this may seem bolshy of us but we as many are just tired of being contacted by people who just not suitable and trust me if you do use the points above you will probably get a better responce "
good points but we've found after passing the social meet,and chatting on here and texting by phone to phone their ideas of what we wanted changed to what they wanted,unprotected sex etc,

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

OP, we have to agree with you but it’s not just guys.

We get as many messages from couples, girls and TV’s that also haven’t read our profile.

Yes, we know it’s long but it talks about us and who we are.

A well considered introduction will always catch our interest first.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Great advice, thanks for taking the time to put that together

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

I do the same and sometimes get rude responses as well lol

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore


"very informative wish they would listen"

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

I always do all of the above and still get maybe 1in50 that reply and more often than not they chat in monosyllabic messages.....

Can't win lol

X

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"This is more so for guys , we as many couples get winks messages freind request from guys who obviously just look at pics.

So we thought we would put a few simple steps , and you may get a better responce, couoles feel free to add anymore

1. Read the profile , read the profile

2. See what the couple are looking for not what you are looking for.people are allowing you into their most intimate side of their not your their relationship, so respect that

3.adress them as a couple , not in the area.want to bang you into next wedesday

4.you only get one first impression, make the best one possible

5.if their profile say message with a pic then send one , it's not blind date

6 check age requirements if your 20 or 60 and the couple want 30 to 40 then respect that

Finally this may seem bolshy of us but we as many are just tired of being contacted by people who just not suitable and trust me if you do use the points above you will probably get a better responce "

Great advice however ours says message with a pic but you sent a wink .

We don’t really check winks as most of the profiles that wink have no info or photos. We prefer a message with a photo before messages go any further .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is more so for guys , we as many couples get winks messages freind request from guys who obviously just look at pics.

So we thought we would put a few simple steps , and you may get a better responce, couoles feel free to add anymore

1. Read the profile , read the profile

2. See what the couple are looking for not what you are looking for.people are allowing you into their most intimate side of their not your their relationship, so respect that

3.adress them as a couple , not in the area.want to bang you into next wedesday

4.you only get one first impression, make the best one possible

5.if their profile say message with a pic then send one , it's not blind date

6 check age requirements if your 20 or 60 and the couple want 30 to 40 then respect that

Finally this may seem bolshy of us but we as many are just tired of being contacted by people who just not suitable and trust me if you do use the points above you will probably get a better responce "

Great advice!

One thing we would add though is use correct English and punctuation. Tired of receiving messages that look like a 15 year olds Snapchat with questions like “how r youse doin 2day” . One of our pet hates!

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Agree with your steps, its very frustrating when we have straight men message us and says they have read our profile, which the clearly haven't otherwise they would have out our "word" in the subject box...and they would know we are not looking for straight men. Everything we are looking for is in our profile so their really is no need to ask...it would be nice if some of the men would do us the decency of of sending a face pic....and when they get arsy because we have said no thankyou...well it really isn't going to get you anywhere messaging us when there is no pictures on their profile...and like you said...they would get far more responses with just that little bit of respect.

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