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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion?" Op it’s ok to put a pic on I’m sure we can get past the ginger hair | |||
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"Do you mean as opposed to discussing them on profiles?" I mean as opposed to putting everything on the Forums, asking if people will meet despite the disability. I know it is a touchy subject, but only making this an open discussion. I would love to hear different opinions. | |||
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"Do you mean as opposed to discussing them on profiles? I mean as opposed to putting everything on the Forums, asking if people will meet despite the disability. I know it is a touchy subject, but only making this an open discussion. I would love to hear different opinions." I suppose some people need to know that someone somewhere will still find them attractive 'even if XYZ'. They just need to be aware that some people won't be attracted to them and not feel hurt by it. | |||
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"Some Disabilities wouldnt put me speaking as the guy half .. there was one disabled lass on here who was in a wheel chair.. super beautiful she was but the only thing I didnt like about her was her attitude towards her self . That bit rather stunk but defo eye candy " That’s the thing some people don’t get about most disabilities, they don’t change a persons personality so why should it affect the perception of them? Minnie is still the same person she ever was, just unfortunately doesn’t have the mobility she once had! She’s still as fuckable as she’s ever been | |||
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"I guess if it were me I would see if there is an interest/ spark initially and then introduce it. If someone likes you for who you are and how you come across it shouldn't matter if you come covered with blue polker dots and 8 legs x I do get it though. I had cancer 3 years ago and happy to answer questions and talk about it but I have heavy scarring which isn't something I lead a message with. I am conscious of it but if someone has an issue with what got me here then its probably not going to be the right match. " We once met a lady who had no nipples due to cancer. She hadn't mentioned it before the meet and it made it really awkward. We assumed she didn't want to talk about it or have them touched. She may have felt we were put off because we avoided touching anywhere near them. We weren't put off at all but if we had been given the opportunity to discuss it before the meet it would have been a much nicer situation. | |||
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"Do you mean as opposed to discussing them on profiles? I mean as opposed to putting everything on the Forums, asking if people will meet despite the disability. I know it is a touchy subject, but only making this an open discussion. I would love to hear different opinions. I suppose some people need to know that someone somewhere will still find them attractive 'even if XYZ'. They just need to be aware that some people won't be attracted to them and not feel hurt by it. " But are they really playing the emotional and sympathy string by saying that no-one wants me because.... | |||
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"I guess if it were me I would see if there is an interest/ spark initially and then introduce it. If someone likes you for who you are and how you come across it shouldn't matter if you come covered with blue polker dots and 8 legs x I do get it though. I had cancer 3 years ago and happy to answer questions and talk about it but I have heavy scarring which isn't something I lead a message with. I am conscious of it but if someone has an issue with what got me here then its probably not going to be the right match. We once met a lady who had no nipples due to cancer. She hadn't mentioned it before the meet and it made it really awkward. We assumed she didn't want to talk about it or have them touched. She may have felt we were put off because we avoided touching anywhere near them. We weren't put off at all but if we had been given the opportunity to discuss it before the meet it would have been a much nicer situation. " Agree totally. A discussion that should be had in a private discussion before meeting maybe? | |||
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"I don't do the whole 'I have xyz - do people still find me attractive?' thing because it feels a bit too much like attention seeking to me (don't care if others do it though.) But I will openly talk about my issues on public forums if it's relevant to the discussion because I don't feel that they are anything to be ashamed of. " My thoughts and fears exactly. Is it attention seeking and asking for a sympathy fuck?? We all have our diabilities, would we stop strangers in Tescos and tell them all? | |||
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"It is an odd one.. i only have limited sensation in one breast now so blokey type thing makes up for it with the less treacherous one. I do mention it when the times right as it would be awkward but its part of my story. Im a warrior, a survivor and im proud of that. " And so you should be! | |||
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"I don't do the whole 'I have xyz - do people still find me attractive?' thing because it feels a bit too much like attention seeking to me (don't care if others do it though.) But I will openly talk about my issues on public forums if it's relevant to the discussion because I don't feel that they are anything to be ashamed of. My thoughts and fears exactly. Is it attention seeking and asking for a sympathy fuck?? We all have our diabilities, would we stop strangers in Tescos and tell them all?" Well when I go shopping in the current climate, I wear a lanyard that says I am autistic. It stops people giving me grief if I do something wrong or need someone to come into the store with me. I'd probably say that we all have different levels of comfort when it comes to who/when/where we speak about our disabilities, but I don't think people should be shamed for being open. | |||
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"I have had major operations for cancer but unfortunately it has not worked and that’s how things are unfortunately. But people should not Judy people by their looks, body shape, scars, disability’s of any kind we all need support sometime or another in life. So we should all get to know each other before disregarding each other you don’t need to be sexually attracted toe someone just to talk to them " Totally agree x | |||
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"I have had major operations for cancer but unfortunately it has not worked and that’s how things are unfortunately. But people should not Judy people by their looks, body shape, scars, disability’s of any kind we all need support sometime or another in life. So we should all get to know each other before disregarding each other you don’t need to be sexually attracted toe someone just to talk to them " You and many others have come through life-changing times, and I take my hat off to all of you. However, you do not put this in your profile and that is a strong thing to do. I agree totally, we should get to know the person before we consider their diability. For me, I certainly don't want sympathy, just a fair chance to talk as an equal. | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion?" No having a disability is nothing to be ashamed of | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion? No having a disability is nothing to be ashamed of" Of course not. But does it look to some that it is like looking for sympathy sex? " I don't have much else going for me, but...." | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion? No having a disability is nothing to be ashamed of Of course not. But does it look to some that it is like looking for sympathy sex? " I don't have much else going for me, but...."" How is it looking for a sympathy fuck any more than the “am I too ugly” or “am I too old” threads? Why shouldn’t people talk openly about their disabilities if that’s what they want to do? | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion? No having a disability is nothing to be ashamed of Of course not. But does it look to some that it is like looking for sympathy sex? " I don't have much else going for me, but...." How is it looking for a sympathy fuck any more than the “am I too ugly” or “am I too old” threads? Why shouldn’t people talk openly about their disabilities if that’s what they want to do?" All examples of the same thing. If they are too old, or too ugly in the opinion of the person looking, they will be passed by until they find someone who finds the same people attractive or of a good age. | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion? No having a disability is nothing to be ashamed of Of course not. But does it look to some that it is like looking for sympathy sex? " I don't have much else going for me, but...."" No, it's a way of letting people know if you have limited capability. | |||
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"you don't judge a book by it's cover so why do people judge people by there looks, size, shape,and there disabilities we all need friends and have needs it takes nothing to just talk to others you never know you might like them" Do you mean on this site? With respect, it's mainly a sex site not a friendship site. | |||
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"Yes but there is no need to not to talk other then judge people how they look even if it’s just sex" Agree with this, however there are profiles on here that are using their diabilities for a sympathy vote. No offence intended to any one person, but there are profiles that do exactly that. Should someone take sympathy and offer sex to someone else just because they have a disability?? | |||
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"Yes but there is no need to not to talk other then judge people how they look even if it’s just sex Agree with this, however there are profiles on here that are using their diabilities for a sympathy vote. No offence intended to any one person, but there are profiles that do exactly that. Should someone take sympathy and offer sex to someone else just because they have a disability??" People are allowed to create and manage their profile as they wish to, within site terms and conditions. You may perceive them as getting sympathy shags but that's your view. If they aren't for you, there are lots more people here. | |||
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"Very few of us are physically perfect !" Agree with this totally. | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion?" Should people expect a sympathy fuck because of what they have been through? Genuine question! | |||
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"I know this is a controversial subject, but are disabilities something that should be kept for private discussion? Should people expect a sympathy fuck because of what they have been through? Genuine question!" No one is entitled to or should expect anything. There will always be attention seekers and people who try to manipulate others, but I feel like they are pretty obvious and most people see through them. | |||
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"What are we all on about this is a joke my husband has a storma bag’ he well we had a very active sex life now he is so depressed that I don’t know what to do we are both suffering and that ! happened with out us knowing anything about it he refuses to let me see him naked and a lot more we been swinging for 20 years even before the internet when it was blind dates from books ? Only thing I can say we all grow old but still love the lifestyle xx " | |||
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"I have MS I don't mention it unless asked. It's not a problem we'll not to me and doesn't effect play Oh and I can park on double yellow lines " I have MS too (female) i actually don't mention it to many as so far I've been fortunate enough that it hasn't affected me in a way that impacts our swinging. However it does stop me doing anal so if that's requested i will explain.. And I've yet to get the blue badge! X | |||
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"How insulting to ginger people!!" Hence why so many have black & white photos. | |||
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