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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My inbox normally has messages from women and couples, so does my “who’s viewed my profile list”. In the last 3 months I’ve noticed that my “who’s viewed my profile” list is mostly full of males. I’ve also had lots of messages from bi, gay and even straight males requesting to interact with me.

My profile is quite clear that I’m straight and not looking for Male attention.

I have previously blocked males from messaging me in the past but I found that if I allow males to message me it’s quite often a Male that has a female to meet with and wants me to join, obviously with the pandemic I haven’t had any request like that recently. I’m thinking of turning this filter back on for a short time.

So, have I missed something or has this site had a massive influx of male members or am I suddenly a magnet for bi and gay men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly the same thing has happened to me. Usually get a few views per day by in the past week or so I've had nearly 40 males view and a dozen messages. Maybe its this lockdown or something in the water atm lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Exactly the same thing has happened to me. Usually get a few views per day by in the past week or so I've had nearly 40 males view and a dozen messages. Maybe its this lockdown or something in the water atm lol"

Atleast it’s not just me

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By *ountrylad19Man
over a year ago

travel all over with work x

It’s me aswell don’t know why

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Same, thought it weird as well, no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing..if reading a forum post..I sometimes get noisy and will click on a profile to see more about them..so would show as a view..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Surely this new influx of males looking to meet bi or gay males would be better using the sister site Fabguys?

It’s just turning this site into something it is not

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By *ountrylad19Man
over a year ago

travel all over with work x


"Surely this new influx of males looking to meet bi or gay males would be better using the sister site Fabguys?

It’s just turning this site into something it is not "

I totally agree with you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guessing..if reading a forum post..I sometimes get noisy and will click on a profile to see more about them..so would show as a view.."

Yes I can understand that for the profile views but not with the inbox messages, I’m having a lot of guys that have selected “straight” on the profile option that want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message filters and edit profile to not looking for single men.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Vast amount of males don't read profiles so the fact that you state straight won't even reach their eyeballs.

Large amount of males are "fab straight" anyway, so orientation doesn't really carry much weight due to the volume of fibbers.

Sexual frustration is running wild, I'd be shocked if there are any warm apple pies left in the country that haven't been violated. There's definitely a vibe of "i wouldn't normally, but at this stage I'm willing to try anything"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you block single males from messaging it alters search filters so wont show up on male/male searches therefore they dont view you.

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

If you block messages from single men they they are removed from your ‘who’s seen me’ list as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you block single males from messaging it alters search filters so wont show up on male/male searches therefore they dont view you. "

Thanks but I assume you didn’t fully read my first post

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By *eoMan
over a year ago

Sutton-In-Ashfield

End of the day they’re probably just looking for a few cock pics and Eye candy. You can’t stop them from viewing what they want and it does no harm. But t I understand what you’re saying, if only 10% of my weekly views were women I’d be lucky.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Just delete the messages if your not interested

It won’t turn you gay just by having the invitation in your in box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just delete the messages if your not interested

It won’t turn you gay just by having the invitation in your in box "

Nobody is worried about being turned gay its just a query about why the sudden influx of men viewing and messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just delete the messages if your not interested

It won’t turn you gay just by having the invitation in your in box

Nobody is worried about being turned gay its just a query about why the sudden influx of men viewing and messages "

Well you do have a nice ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always amuses me when guys mail me. It's hardly arduous to delete the messages, and tbh I'm flattered if folks of any gender do a 'phwoar' at my profile. Fill yer boots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabguys and swingers is open to all. To suggest all bi and gay men just stick to fabguys is erroneous. I could argue that all bi guys stick to swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you block single males from messaging it alters search filters so wont show up on male/male searches therefore they dont view you.

Thanks but I assume you didn’t fully read my first post"

Yes fully read it and i answered as per - The reason why theyre showing.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"My inbox normally has messages from women and couples, so does my “who’s viewed my profile list”. In the last 3 months I’ve noticed that my “who’s viewed my profile” list is mostly full of males. I’ve also had lots of messages from bi, gay and even straight males requesting to interact with me.

My profile is quite clear that I’m straight and not looking for Male attention.

I have previously blocked males from messaging me in the past but I found that if I allow males to message me it’s quite often a Male that has a female to meet with and wants me to join, obviously with the pandemic I haven’t had any request like that recently. I’m thinking of turning this filter back on for a short time.

So, have I missed something or has this site had a massive influx of male members or am I suddenly a magnet for bi and gay men

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You have our sympathies. We too keep getting messages from bi/bi-curious guys and those whose profiles say they're straight but whose interests etc. indicate that they're not. I think most of these people just don't read profiles to be honest. They scour the site fabbing pics and firing off one-liners to anyone regardless. For some reason it's not possible to to block bi/bi-curious guys but even if it was, that wouldn't stop the fake straight guys making contact under false pretences.

Over the years it's surprising how many supposedly straight guys we've chatted to who've let slip that they're not straight at all - sometimes after months of keeping up the pretence. We'd been chatting to one such for a good while when we noticed he was spending more and more time asking about Mr Flirty, would he be wanking, what was his cock like, would he be naked etc. etc. etc. Communication with him ceased at that point because he clearly wasn't what he said he was.

We don't have a problem with anyone here being what they want to be but it'd be nice if they were just honest about about it and respected other peoples' choices. There's no solution to this problem sadly so we just delete their messages and block them.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

As others have said, you're not alone in this - and it's not just on this site, either...

....I can understand guys 'Fabs' of my pics, as they're mostly 'action' shots - but not the messages from bi, bi-curious, and TV/TS profiles when the opening line of my profiles states that I'm straight...

....nor the "I want to watch you fuck my wife (or girlfriend)" type messages from single male profiles which give no indication that the wives/girlfriends mentioned even exist...

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton


"If you block single males from messaging it alters search filters so wont show up on male/male searches therefore they dont view you. "

I don't this is the case. We don't get any single males show up on our "who's viewed you" list, yet we know they do view us as there are a lot of Fab's of our pictures from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have noticed since March there are far more guy on guy pics and alot more single men who seem to think as your on a swingers site you must want sex with them regardless of what they look like or how old they are

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

we took our photos off a couple of years ago as we are not looking to meet now but still get random people message us to meet despite their being 300 miles away and 40 years age difference

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