FabSwingers.com forum: Wife wants lover

By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

No not at all . Meet and move on without the risks of emotional attachment

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

But some do

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for lovers, I might look for a relationship with another female, but with men I wouldn't go any further than long term FWB with guys I like hanging out with, not dating. And I agree with the poster above, NSA one night stands keeps things very simple!

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I guess it would depend on your definition of 'lover'?

I wouldn't say it was a natural progression, but as someone who has been the 'extra' for several couples for 8 and 3 years respectively, I was never a lover. Initially playing mfm, it progressed to what would now be called hot wife. We would just meet for sex, sometimes weekly, sometimes more. Whether indoors or out. We never went out on 'dates' or publicly other than quiet discrete car park/woodland. Possibly that would venture into cuckolding.

I guess it's what works for all of those involved and if the dynamic works for all of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx"

It is for us but personally I’d say no it’s not a normal thing for a swinging couple!!!

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Each to thier own some do some dont. I prefer to build sexually loving relationships but not be in love, as in an emotionally binding relationship. We, the person I'm with and me, have found the sex to be much better and more satisfying for all parties. Thier husband has said that they can feel secure that I'm looking after thier wife and know its not going to go any further.

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

Actually seen some one in this situation leave her Husband for the guy. It takes a certain kind of woman to do this without getting Emotionally invloved I know I couldn’t be that woman, so if your thinking about it prepare or at least leave yourself open to the worst

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx"

You mean a regular guy ,who would meet her anytime without any worrying ?

I get your fantasy that your wife should have a lover but you both need to have tons of trust first .

Also it takes long time to find a suitable single guy without any baggage to commit regular time .

Most singles don't commit here.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I suppose it might happen but it’s definitely not a natural progression.Swinging for us is no strings fun where everyone walks away with a smile on there face.Think what your describing is a different type of dynamics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After hunting for three long years ,we managed to find a respectful gent who we can trust . Genuine single guy and he understands that its strictly NSA .

For me, I love to know about her sexcapades with him on her solo meets, he it coffee, drinks, outdoor walks or hotel meets . ( pre Covid)

Her adventures with him as indeed improved our already amazing sex life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only happen if your relationship is weak or o. Boarders of breaking down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had awkward situations where the wife has kept messaging and calling me after the meet..

Clearly wanting more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had awkward situations where the wife has kept messaging and calling me after the meet..

Clearly wanting more "

Did you wake up when the alarm went off then

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

"I’ve had awkward situations where the wife has kept messaging and calling me after the meet..

Clearly wanting more

Did you wake up when the alarm went off then

Ouch bit brutal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think there is such a thing as ‘normal’ on here, as everyone and every situation is so different.

It’s more about, are you happy, is she happy, is everyone consenting.

The most important thing would be open and honest communication for me.

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

O hell no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx

You mean a regular guy ,who would meet her anytime without any worrying ?

I get your fantasy that your wife should have a lover but you both need to have tons of trust first .

Also it takes long time to find a suitable single guy without any baggage to commit regular time .

Most singles don't commit here. "

Some singles

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

My wife really enjoys sex with one of the guys we meet so she’s allowed to see him when ever he is in our area , she doesn’t see him as a lover just as someone she feels really comfortable she enjoys sex with other guys , just this one ticks all the boxes every time , plus I can trust him 100% even had some all nighters . Wife always s comes home extra horny after the meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting topic and one I have no experience of, so I've just opened a bag of popcorn and will enjoy the ride.

However, I did have a thought without wanting to distract from the main thrust of the thread...

We've heard from some men about the wife having a lover, but what about where the husband's 'extra' (but consensual of course) antics develop in that way? Does that happen often? Any women with experience of this and how did you feel about it?

TLT

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx"

Interesting broad range of responses and judgements. I'm not an expert but have experience. And the beauty of this is that everyone is different, and there is something for everyone...and sometimes things evolve.

If it works for you both, then why not. But I don't think there is a path to follow for anyone particularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"O hell no "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had awkward situations where the wife has kept messaging and calling me after the meet..

Clearly wanting more

Did you wake up when the alarm went off then

Ouch bit brutal

Or harsh but fair

. Some guys on here are far to big headed and full of themselves.

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By *ere4areasonMan
over a year ago

leicester and Hove

As a single male on here playing with couples is a massive turn on. But OP, do you mean a lover in addition to the couple or in place of the couple. There are some incredibly hot couples on here but I'm not here to wreck homes just play in them from time to time. I was in a non fab relationship when a guy of fab started messaging the girl to tell her I had been swinging just to get me out the way. That kind of poo just doesn't sit well with me.

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By *ere4areasonMan
over a year ago

leicester and Hove

"As a single male on here playing with couples is a massive turn on. But OP, do you mean a lover in addition to the couple or in place of the couple. There are some incredibly hot couples on here but I'm not here to wreck homes just play in them from time to time. I was in a non fab relationship when a guy of fab started messaging the girl to tell her I had been swinging just to get me out the way. That kind of poo just doesn't sit well with me. "

By the way to add, the swinging was prior to the relationship not during!

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Absolutely not. What we do we do together for each other. It ceases to be a joint enterprise if one of us plays separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely not. What we do we do together for each other. It ceases to be a joint enterprise if one of us plays separate."

Exactly this. If jenny wanted this id walk away. Each to their own as we all have our own journey but when you both agree on your journey together and one then changes and wants a different dynamic i think your journey together is over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lover is more reliable than random guys especially on fabs. That's why some prefer a regular lover. Plus one off meets are always hit and miss. If you find someone you sexually connect with its great. The only thing is just don't fall in love with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby here and I don't think I'd ever be comfortable with the Mrs ever describing a partner as a lover as swinging is all about sexual fun for us no love or feelings involved

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I’ve had awkward situations where the wife has kept messaging and calling me after the meet..

Clearly wanting more

Did you wake up when the alarm went off then

Ouch bit brutal

Or harsh but fair

. Some guys on here are far to big headed and full of themselves. "

Best you cut them down to size then

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Interesting topic and one I have no experience of, so I've just opened a bag of popcorn and will enjoy the ride.

However, I did have a thought without wanting to distract from the main thrust of the thread...

TLT"

It happened to me and I was not best pleased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx"

You see quite a few threads and profiles on here where couples are looking for a regular guy, so maybe for them it is natural progress. I guess it may also depend on what 'lover' means. Is it the same as fwb and fuck buddy, or is there actually love involved, which of course changes things somewhat.

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I've had over twenty offers to be. Y lover

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

Still not get it right with meaning

Lover

Fwb

Fuck buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lover to me is purely sexual

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Female lover that could be a progression for my bisexual side and needs, but in general swinging is a no lover thing.

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

And it's best if both worlds I have a hubby but want a lover

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

"And it's best if both worlds I have a hubby but want a lover"

I would be free for an interview

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had awkward situations where the wife has kept messaging and calling me after the meet..

Clearly wanting more "

Me too. They deleted their couples profile then she reached out to me privately. Funnily enough, somehow my social media linked us as suggested friends and she’s married to another guy now! I can’t deal with that drama - I’m very upfront and straight to the point that I’m very interested in something regular with trust and respect but a relationship isn’t it.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Is it a natural progess for a swinging wife to end up with a lover

Lou xxx"

Not at all. Some might, but most couples seem to swing to share each other's sexual enjoyment and in many cases it brings them closer together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But some do"

Some split and some stop swinging, no rules or natural progression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby here and I don't think I'd ever be comfortable with the Mrs ever describing a partner as a lover as swinging is all about sexual fun for us no love or feelings involved "

This is how i feel. Catching feelings is not what we want. Sex yes bit feelings no. John

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By *bbott24Couple
over a year ago

Devizes

There's a big difference between lover and fbuddy, Jane's got a couple of fbuddys, it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a big difference between lover and fbuddy, Jane's got a couple of fbuddys, it works for us. "

Yes fuckbuddy sounds good more than a lover . Totally agree with this term

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But some do

Some split and some stop swinging, no rules or natural progression. "

Agree. If feelings get involved and the hubby gets fucked off and leaves it could all go tipside. As the old saying goes "you never know what you had until you lost it" big risk with regular single lovers is you both catch feelings and then everything gets messed up and others get hurt. We would never risk it so if we ever go the single guy/fem route it will be one off's for us and not regular.

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

I think we'd be open to having a lover as a trio, for us both to enjoy, but any single stuff would have to be NSA for us x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"I think we'd be open to having a lover as a trio, for us both to enjoy, but any single stuff would have to be NSA for us x"

Do i need a CV when applying

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

"I think we'd be open to having a lover as a trio, for us both to enjoy, but any single stuff would have to be NSA for us x

Do i need a CV when applying

Your profile is kinda proof enough that we'd enjoy you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex although didn’t fall for him had a regular she couldn’t get enough of, he was our regular partner. I think that turned me on even more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had over twenty offers to be. Y lover"

Lucky you guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And it's best if both worlds I have a hubby but want a lover"

Same here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proper lover for her please! xx

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"My wife really enjoys sex with one of the guys we meet so she’s allowed to see him when ever he is in our area , she doesn’t see him as a lover just as someone she feels really comfortable she enjoys sex with other guys , just this one ticks all the boxes every time , plus I can trust him 100% even had some all nighters . Wife always s comes home extra horny after the meets "

Exactly this

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