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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.. Id like to know what was the last task you completed if sub.... or requested if Dominant

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I asked her to leave the back door unlocked

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

While at work, I sent him a task - send me a video of you hoovering the living room wearing nothing but your Cock cage...he complied good boy

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By *omethingDifferentMan
over a year ago

In the Wilderness of Beyond

Ah been a while since I’ve had a relationship like this.

I particularly enjoyed having an old playmate fuck herself silly right before being waxed down there. She almost came from the girl ‘brushing’ her clit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh i thought there would be more people doing this!

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By *eresa_cdslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Bodmin

I made "her" suck and rim me whilst I shaved the bits o could reach then made her shave he legs and pubes before I sent her home to her wife!

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By *isandhers691127Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Deepthroat training session, she did very well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone do daily tasks?

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

140 strokes of the cane yesterday

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yes, from diary writing of thoughts to exercise and alcohol comsumpton.

Edging and choosing what she can wear. Then giving her 10 minutes to do what ever she wants with me...that confuses the hell out of her..a little mindfcuk.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Luna spent friday wearing her kegal balls for me while she worked from home.

Mr H.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

He has to write me the top 5 kinks he wanted to try along with a paragraph about why he wanted to try them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, from diary writing of thoughts to exercise and alcohol comsumpton.

Edging and choosing what she can wear. Then giving her 10 minutes to do what ever she wants with me...that confuses the hell out of her..a little mindfcuk."

I'd be careful with the "mindfcuk"s. Is that really what you think being a Dominant is all about??!

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

New Years Eve,

Last full D/s night. Total submission and a quick drop into sub space for B..

Last command I gave B last night was that she was allowed to orgasm.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Today I’m of to Asda with a vampire flogger steel braids against my bum, and the handle , in the back of my bra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of belt meets pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was asked to do something last night... i bratted out instead.

so then i was told to do it.. and still i bratted out.

then i got a nasty punishment that i may or may not have thoroughly enjoyed, and my ass may or may not have taken a delicious beating.

moral of this story.. when he tells you to do something... start a RIOTTTTTT instead

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked him to do the washing up because I'm dom like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"140 strokes of the cane yesterday "

Wow! My ass needs retraining since lock down.... it is whimpering at the thought of that!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

We used to have more daily tasks when we didn't live together. Such as taking a photo of what I was wearing that day.

Kids and lockdown have prohibited a lot of our rituals as everything is all over the shop.

Airing on the bratty side at the moment, which I'm enjoying the funishments.

Actually miss the structure and routine of it. Something we probably need to reasses with current covid situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We used to have more daily tasks when we didn't live together. Such as taking a photo of what I was wearing that day.

Kids and lockdown have prohibited a lot of our rituals as everything is all over the shop.

Airing on the bratty side at the moment, which I'm enjoying the funishments.

Actually miss the structure and routine of it. Something we probably need to reasses with current covid situation "

I love the structure.. Its all I've got during covid

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"We used to have more daily tasks when we didn't live together. Such as taking a photo of what I was wearing that day.

Kids and lockdown have prohibited a lot of our rituals as everything is all over the shop.

Airing on the bratty side at the moment, which I'm enjoying the funishments.

Actually miss the structure and routine of it. Something we probably need to reasses with current covid situation

I love the structure.. Its all I've got during covid "

There is a lot to be said for the structure and routine which is reassuring that's for sure

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

What a wonderful idea for a thread x

I'm currently communicating online with a sissy who has her cock locked away x

I've been granting her release every 3 or 4 days and she has been collecting her cum in a little jar that she had to decorate with pink ribbon x

This week I was going to instruct her to make a cum popsicle by mixing her cum and 300ml of milk and storing it in her freezer

We would then arrange a video call and I would watch her suck it x insert it x and ultimately melt in her arse x

But she has annoyed me so she is currently doing some chores to get back into my good books or I'm going to turn my attention elsewhere to a submissive who can give me more of their time x

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"Yes, from diary writing of thoughts to exercise and alcohol comsumpton.

Edging and choosing what she can wear. Then giving her 10 minutes to do what ever she wants with me...that confuses the hell out of her..a little mindfcuk.

I'd be careful with the "mindfcuk"s. Is that really what you think being a Dominant is all about??! "

Being a Dominant is about meeting both parties desires. How do you know that it is not part of their agreed dynamic?

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

We have played with naughty dares.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Things like, go to the supermarket with a butt plug or a ball stretcher.

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By *idnightTaskCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"What a wonderful idea for a thread x

I'm currently communicating online with a sissy who has her cock locked away x

I've been granting her release every 3 or 4 days and she has been collecting her cum in a little jar that she had to decorate with pink ribbon x

This week I was going to instruct her to make a cum popsicle by mixing her cum and 300ml of milk and storing it in her freezer

We would then arrange a video call and I would watch her suck it x insert it x and ultimately melt in her arse x

But she has annoyed me so she is currently doing some chores to get back into my good books or I'm going to turn my attention elsewhere to a submissive who can give me more of their time x"

Oh my gosh I'm glad this hasn't happened to me! I am very bad for my DD!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, from diary writing of thoughts to exercise and alcohol comsumpton.

Edging and choosing what she can wear. Then giving her 10 minutes to do what ever she wants with me...that confuses the hell out of her..a little mindfcuk.

I'd be careful with the "mindfcuk"s. Is that really what you think being a Dominant is all about??!

Being a Dominant is about meeting both parties desires. How do you know that it is not part of their agreed dynamic?

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True. Just because the mindfcuks didn't sit well with me as a submissive it might well be part of their agreed dynamic. I hope it is for her sake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a wonderful idea for a thread x

I'm currently communicating online with a sissy who has her cock locked away x

I've been granting her release every 3 or 4 days and she has been collecting her cum in a little jar that she had to decorate with pink ribbon x

This week I was going to instruct her to make a cum popsicle by mixing her cum and 300ml of milk and storing it in her freezer

We would then arrange a video call and I would watch her suck it x insert it x and ultimately melt in her arse x

But she has annoyed me so she is currently doing some chores to get back into my good books or I'm going to turn my attention elsewhere to a submissive who can give me more of their time x"

I don’t know what your dynamic is, but I would feel so insecure if I thought he was going to dump me for someone else if I annoyed him.

I wouldn’t be able to relax and feel safe, which for me is essential in a D/s relationship.

As I say, I don’t know your dynamic so it may be that it works for you two.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"What a wonderful idea for a thread x

I'm currently communicating online with a sissy who has her cock locked away x

I've been granting her release every 3 or 4 days and she has been collecting her cum in a little jar that she had to decorate with pink ribbon x

This week I was going to instruct her to make a cum popsicle by mixing her cum and 300ml of milk and storing it in her freezer

We would then arrange a video call and I would watch her suck it x insert it x and ultimately melt in her arse x

But she has annoyed me so she is currently doing some chores to get back into my good books or I'm going to turn my attention elsewhere to a submissive who can give me more of their time x

I don’t know what your dynamic is, but I would feel so insecure if I thought he was going to dump me for someone else if I annoyed him.

I wouldn’t be able to relax and feel safe, which for me is essential in a D/s relationship.

As I say, I don’t know your dynamic so it may be that it works for you two."

I thought the exact same as you, this to me feels manipulative but then I don't know the preagreed dynamics.

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By *skToShareCouple
over a year ago

High Peak

We do daily tasks.

Today AJ will wear leggings with pink lace thong.

The tasks will range from what she wears to flashing in public or making herself cum talking about a colleague.

PS she also has an “owned” anklet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some interesting responses!

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

OK OP, what tasks or dares do you do? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK OP, what tasks or dares do you do? X"

I have daily tasks.. One for the week and one for the weekend

The weekday task is to choose my pants, then video myself taking my dressing gown off, show my pants to the camera. Put pants on, show the camera the front and back view. Then take a couple of nice photos. Then i send a 'good morning' message and send the video + photos for approval

The photo in my profile is an example

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"OK OP, what tasks or dares do you do? X

I have daily tasks.. One for the week and one for the weekend

The weekday task is to choose my pants, then video myself taking my dressing gown off, show my pants to the camera. Put pants on, show the camera the front and back view. Then take a couple of nice photos. Then i send a 'good morning' message and send the video + photos for approval

The photo in my profile is an example "

What's the weekend task?

What happens if you don't meet the required standard? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

What's the weekend task?

What happens if you don't meet the required standard? X"

The weekend task, is to ask what colour pants my DD would like me to wear that day... And then do the video /photos and request approval

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"

What's the weekend task?

What happens if you don't meet the required standard? X

The weekend task, is to ask what colour pants my DD would like me to wear that day... And then do the video /photos and request approval "

I would choose purple with green spots!

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By *asterandGenieCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I was given the task to be a gd pig and video myself telling him who I belong to and what I would like him to do to me xx

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

A while back now but it was kneel and lick milk from a saucer while looking up into my eyes. for most people it’s quite a difficult task unless very flexible

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"A while back now but it was kneel and lick milk from a saucer while looking up into my eyes. for most people it’s quite a difficult task unless very flexible "

Messy too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A while back now but it was kneel and lick milk from a saucer while looking up into my eyes. for most people it’s quite a difficult task unless very flexible "

Oh i adored that photo.. Here kitty kitty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

What's the weekend task?

What happens if you don't meet the required standard? X

The weekend task, is to ask what colour pants my DD would like me to wear that day... And then do the video /photos and request approval

I would choose purple with green spots! "

Lol.. He once chose yellow... I don't have any yellow pants, so I had to colour some in with a yellow felt tip.. Also in my gallery

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"

What's the weekend task?

What happens if you don't meet the required standard? X

The weekend task, is to ask what colour pants my DD would like me to wear that day... And then do the video /photos and request approval

I would choose purple with green spots!

Lol.. He once chose yellow... I don't have any yellow pants, so I had to colour some in with a yellow felt tip.. Also in my gallery "

You did a great job! What if you forget or fail to comply?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

You did a great job! What if you forget or fail to comply? "

Those words are not in my vocabulary

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Now I would definitely want to test that!

Possibly not very nurturing but too tempting on occasion! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone do daily tasks? "

I have a daily one. Sir is helping me believe in myself by having me recite daily affirmations. It's helping me a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a wonderful idea for a thread x

I'm currently communicating online with a sissy who has her cock locked away x

I've been granting her release every 3 or 4 days and she has been collecting her cum in a little jar that she had to decorate with pink ribbon x

This week I was going to instruct her to make a cum popsicle by mixing her cum and 300ml of milk and storing it in her freezer

We would then arrange a video call and I would watch her suck it x insert it x and ultimately melt in her arse x

But she has annoyed me so she is currently doing some chores to get back into my good books or I'm going to turn my attention elsewhere to a submissive who can give me more of their time x

I don’t know what your dynamic is, but I would feel so insecure if I thought he was going to dump me for someone else if I annoyed him.

I wouldn’t be able to relax and feel safe, which for me is essential in a D/s relationship.

As I say, I don’t know your dynamic so it may be that it works for you two."

I would feel insecure too. My Sir is forever reassuring me that he will never leave me for another. The threat; to me is not punishment for misbehaving, it's cruel, torturous, goes beyond any mind games I'd be ok with. I'd be the one leaving the relationship if Sir insisted on threatening me with him leaving for another better sub.

Sir, if you're reading this, thank you for being you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone do daily tasks?

I have a daily one. Sir is helping me believe in myself by having me recite daily affirmations. It's helping me a lot."

That is a great task!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone do daily tasks?

I have a daily one. Sir is helping me believe in myself by having me recite daily affirmations. It's helping me a lot."

That’s beautiful

I love that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks Midnight and Angel. I think it's something everyone could benefit from doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It completely sums up D/s for me too the desire of the D to help the s achieve their potential and yhe5 genuine depth and strength of the dynamic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It completely sums up D/s for me too the desire of the D to help the s achieve their potential and yhe5 genuine depth and strength of the dynamic "

I thank him every day for choosing me to be his sub and for being so wonderful with me and for me. I love the relationship we have.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


".. Id like to know what was the last task you completed if sub.... or requested if Dominant

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Stay locked and plugged for the whole night.....very frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cucky has to wear his chastity cage to work x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It’s been awhile, so miss it.

Start slowly, build trust.

Absolutely stunning when it comes together.

Tad jealous.

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


".. Id like to know what was the last task you completed if sub.... or requested if Dominant

"

I suggested that a friend might consider posting in the stories and fantasies section.

Her profile name is Justforfun8174

The unresolved question is whether her postings are stories, fantasies or something else, entirely.

Over to you.

Doctor Delerium

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today I’m of to Asda with a vampire flogger steel braids against my bum, and the handle , in the back of my bra "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last part of my fun with slut was over the knee spanking, hand and paddle followed by around 5 minutes of flogging before 20 minutes calm time together in bed.

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"Does anyone do daily tasks?

I have a daily one. Sir is helping me believe in myself by having me recite daily affirmations. It's helping me a lot.

That is a great task! "

This! It's a Dom's job to make his sub better!!?

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"Yes, from diary writing of thoughts to exercise and alcohol comsumpton.

Edging and choosing what she can wear. Then giving her 10 minutes to do what ever she wants with me...that confuses the hell out of her..a little mindfcuk.

I'd be careful with the "mindfcuk"s. Is that really what you think being a Dominant is all about??! "

I would be confused too.

Hmm 10 mins of pussy play

Or 10 mins washing and hoovering..

Both get results

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been awhile, so miss it.

Start slowly, build trust.

Absolutely stunning when it comes together.

Tad jealous."

This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

Told my sub years ago dress as a school girl when I get home with arse in air ready for anal fuck walked in the door there it was I was balls deep in her arse in 10 seconds

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"It’s been awhile, so miss it.

Start slowly, build trust.

Absolutely stunning when it comes together.

Tad jealous.

This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s"

There are different D/s dynamics though and it takes a while to find what works. I have liked how lockdown has encouraged people to chat a bit more so you can get to know them more. Some like the structure of nurturing D/s but others find it claustrophobic and are looking for something entirely different as a release from their normal life. X

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s"

How do you make that determination?

I would say that surely that is a more informative topic as it has the potential to help new people to the scene avoid dangerous playmates!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been awhile, so miss it.

Start slowly, build trust.

Absolutely stunning when it comes together.

Tad jealous.

This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s

There are different D/s dynamics though and it takes a while to find what works. I have liked how lockdown has encouraged people to chat a bit more so you can get to know them more. Some like the structure of nurturing D/s but others find it claustrophobic and are looking for something entirely different as a release from their normal life. X"

Yes absolutely agree... We are all looking for different needs and different depths that we want or are prepared to immerse ourselves in. What i meant by my reply is that i can recognise the different types in my mail box and my response will differ accordingly. I don't think I'm explaining very well

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

As for the OPs question.

I never got into the idea of choosing my subs underwear, unless we are going to a club and they ask my opinion.

As well as the typical good morning and good night messages, she is also to send me a daily photo of something that makes her smile. This could be an image she found on the internet, her pets, her family etc.

She also has to list at least 3 positive things and 1 less positive thing she encountered during the day.

The purpose being to help her identify the good in her life as well as also help me identify those items that I can help her with, be that work to improve them to cutting them out of her life entirely.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Lots of these are like mindfulness exercises to ground a person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s

How do you make that determination?

I would say that surely that is a more informative topic as it has the potential to help new people to the scene avoid dangerous playmates!"

For me, it is generally in the language and approach. I don't know how to define it..ummm lets see

the tick box people are fairly straight forward... I like doing x/y/z, wanna play. Its generally respectful /playful. Mostly Dom + Sub 'role play' activities for the bedroom

The 50 SOG tend to immediately tell me what with great intensity what they are going to do to me and how are going to dominate me and how will i submit. I think mostly they are fantasists just looking to get their rocks off

Then the other type are harder to describe.. They are uber respectful, but in a quietly intentful way.. I can feel the quiet control in how they engage. Hmmm interesting i am talking about control so early in the interaction, but is is always evident .. not control of me, but of themselves. The is a quiet assurance about them. There are also similar ways that they approach the conversations .. measuring responses and gathering information.. But in a very subtle way. This to me signifies a potential gateway to a deep /strong D/s dynamic. What i have noticed also is that these people are not controlled by your response.. They are not waiting for you to reply.. That sounds weird... I mean they are not intensely ping ponging.. There is consideration and thought about information exchanged before the next contact...generally it is slower paced, non sexual, more exploring 'what makes you tick'..

.. And of course there are lots of other people on a sliding scale fitting inbetween

Its hard to be thoughtful on my phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always found that natural connection is everything and that trust can be had almost within the first meeting or very quickly developed once you’ve worked out who your with.

It’s like a subliminal harmony and it just grows

You just have to mine through the coal dust to find the diamonds but when you get one they really shine brightly.

Not being inconsiderate to anyone or calling them coal dust, it’s just a figure of speech.......before I get jumped on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone do daily tasks?

I have a daily one. Sir is helping me believe in myself by having me recite daily affirmations. It's helping me a lot.

That is a great task!

This! It's a Dom's job to make his sub better!!?"

Sir makes me much better than I think I am.

We also have an online journal for me to write into. That way, he can see it whenever he wants to, doesn't have to wait until he's with me and can leave ne a message or whatever he chooses to say.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s

How do you make that determination?

I would say that surely that is a more informative topic as it has the potential to help new people to the scene avoid dangerous playmates!

For me, it is generally in the language and approach. I don't know how to define it..ummm lets see

the tick box people are fairly straight forward... I like doing x/y/z, wanna play. Its generally respectful /playful. Mostly Dom + Sub 'role play' activities for the bedroom

The 50 SOG tend to immediately tell me what with great intensity what they are going to do to me and how are going to dominate me and how will i submit. I think mostly they are fantasists just looking to get their rocks off

Then the other type are harder to describe.. They are uber respectful, but in a quietly intentful way.. I can feel the quiet control in how they engage. Hmmm interesting i am talking about control so early in the interaction, but is is always evident .. not control of me, but of themselves. The is a quiet assurance about them. There are also similar ways that they approach the conversations .. measuring responses and gathering information.. But in a very subtle way. This to me signifies a potential gateway to a deep /strong D/s dynamic. What i have noticed also is that these people are not controlled by your response.. They are not waiting for you to reply.. That sounds weird... I mean they are not intensely ping ponging.. There is consideration and thought about information exchanged before the next contact...generally it is slower paced, non sexual, more exploring 'what makes you tick'..

.. And of course there are lots of other people on a sliding scale fitting inbetween

Its hard to be thoughtful on my phone "

Self control and the ability to carefully choose your responses to events abs words rather than just reacting, I say pretty essential things.

I think an experienced Dom appreciates the commitment and effort in these types of relationships so isn’t in a hurry just for some sex .... Choose badly and it’s major stress !!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"This is very true... And its how i can read my mailbox and recognise a 50 shades of grey D vs someone with a checklist vs someone who really knows D/s

How do you make that determination?

I would say that surely that is a more informative topic as it has the potential to help new people to the scene avoid dangerous playmates!

For me, it is generally in the language and approach. I don't know how to define it..ummm lets see

the tick box people are fairly straight forward... I like doing x/y/z, wanna play. Its generally respectful /playful. Mostly Dom + Sub 'role play' activities for the bedroom

The 50 SOG tend to immediately tell me what with great intensity what they are going to do to me and how are going to dominate me and how will i submit. I think mostly they are fantasists just looking to get their rocks off

Then the other type are harder to describe.. They are uber respectful, but in a quietly intentful way.. I can feel the quiet control in how they engage. Hmmm interesting i am talking about control so early in the interaction, but is is always evident .. not control of me, but of themselves. The is a quiet assurance about them. There are also similar ways that they approach the conversations .. measuring responses and gathering information.. But in a very subtle way. This to me signifies a potential gateway to a deep /strong D/s dynamic. What i have noticed also is that these people are not controlled by your response.. They are not waiting for you to reply.. That sounds weird... I mean they are not intensely ping ponging.. There is consideration and thought about information exchanged before the next contact...generally it is slower paced, non sexual, more exploring 'what makes you tick'..

.. And of course there are lots of other people on a sliding scale fitting in between

Its hard to be thoughtful on my phone "

Most sense I’ve heard since I stopped using another site.

Disagree with the 50 shades bit, agree on the surface structure, the underlying holistic meaning has a little more depth, well to me.

Great post lady.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Kind of starting something. I'd like more structure, tasks, rewards, check ins, goals etc

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Kind of starting something. I'd like more structure, tasks, rewards, check ins, goals etc"

Kind of agree, when the scene is explored, boundary consent agreed..... oh and earned.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I would love to explore this more with someone.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Someone special though. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Self control and the ability to carefully choose your responses to events abs words rather than just reacting, I say pretty essential things.

I think an experienced Dom appreciates the commitment and effort in these types of relationships so isn’t in a hurry just for some sex .... Choose badly and it’s major stress !! "

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Most sense I’ve heard since I stopped using another site.

Disagree with the 50 shades bit, agree on the surface structure, the underlying holistic meaning has a little more depth, well to me.

Great post lady."

Thank you

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"As for the OPs question.

I never got into the idea of choosing my subs underwear, unless we are going to a club and they ask my opinion.

As well as the typical good morning and good night messages, she is also to send me a daily photo of something that makes her smile. This could be an image she found on the internet, her pets, her family etc.

She also has to list at least 3 positive things and 1 less positive thing she encountered during the day.

The purpose being to help her identify the good in her life as well as also help me identify those items that I can help her with, be that work to improve them to cutting them out of her life entirely."

Wow immense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As for the OPs question.

I never got into the idea of choosing my subs underwear, unless we are going to a club and they ask my opinion.

As well as the typical good morning and good night messages, she is also to send me a daily photo of something that makes her smile. This could be an image she found on the internet, her pets, her family etc.

She also has to list at least 3 positive things and 1 less positive thing she encountered during the day.

The purpose being to help her identify the good in her life as well as also help me identify those items that I can help her with, be that work to improve them to cutting them out of her life entirely.

Wow immense "

I like this. A lot

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By *iratedave2Man
over a year ago

dartford

There are some great ideas on this thread.

I was starting to run out of inspiration with the clubs being shut for so long now.

And interesting profiles to add to my hotlist, for contact in the future.

One Day!

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