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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested in causing pain. I don't need to hammer away like a piston engine for it to be enjoyable

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I personally love hard, deep, rough sex.

I also love soft, sensual sex.

i think if i went a long time without either, yes i would miss them.

But i dont think this is an issue on your part, probably he was to lazy to get you excited enough for some rough.

Gorgeous photos btw, sexy, classy and quirky.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

You are gorgeous.. no way would you disappoint me or most guys i would think.

Dont get too hung up on emulating porn sex ...

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Surely it’s what you like , not what’s expected or demanded of you

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Surely it’s what you like , not what’s expected or demanded of you "

Definitely, sex should be about what all parties involved enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘He couldnt fuck you as hard as he wanted’....

Erm are you a human or a wall? Who is the endless aggressive pounding for? To prove a point? Cant he feel anything?

Sex is something you do with someone else. Shared experience. When ppl say i want to pound you really hard, sex stops being about you both, and all about that selfish persons pleasure power trip.

I swear by communication. I ask soooo many questions before i share my body with someone. It doesn't fully suppress the feeling i might be a shit shag to them but it certainly helps me know if its going well.

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By *el and jayneMan
over a year ago

Gloucester


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "
you will never be a disappointment you doing great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like your ex played on an insecurity to excuse his behaviour. Sex isn't just about the other person, its about you too. Anyone worth sharing your bed would understand your limits and respect that

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By *obyorkMan
over a year ago

Keighley

I prefer gentle sensual fucking to rough hard sex. As has been mentioned, what you want is every bit as valid as what he did if not more so as you’re the one at risk of being hurt

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its always going to be subjective, however for me any sexual activity has to be fun and enjoyable for all involved - unless its agreed not to. If my partner found the depth, speed, force it anything else painful or uncomfortable I would adapt (even if that means turning out the lights or wearing a bag!).

I used to worry about my own sexual performance, but now my opinion is if someone wants to judge me based on that then fuck em.

I seriously doubt you are a disappointment to anyone you play with, however it can be hard to shake self doubt linked to breaches in trust.

Just remember that for most males as long as the peen is being stimulated its a good day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess like anything sexual it’s all about compatibility. If a man really wants hard and fast then it may well be an issue that can’t be escaped but there are many men who prefer soft and slow, not least because it can help achieve a delayed and more intense orgasm. Like many things in sex these days, porn had had a negative influence on what some men expect from women with hard and fast seen as the norm.

I imagine size is an issue as well, with perhaps smaller being more suitable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your ex had an insecurity and was projecting this onto you. Sex shouldn't be painful, it should be enjoyable. It sounds like you've had fun and the guys have had fun so try not to worry about it. Do what feels comfortable for you x

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"‘He couldnt fuck you as hard as he wanted’....

Erm are you a human or a wall? Who is the endless aggressive pounding for? To prove a point? Cant he feel anything?

Sex is something you do with someone else. Shared experience. When ppl say i want to pound you really hard, sex stops being about you both, and all about that selfish persons pleasure power trip.

I swear by communication. I ask soooo many questions before i share my body with someone. It doesn't fully suppress the feeling i might be a shit shag to them but it certainly helps me know if its going well. "

Over the years I've gotten much better at doing this and only engaging in sexual activities I actually enjoy rather than tolerating things for someone elses benefit. I still continue to do so but I still have that niggling feeling in the back of my mind that I'm dissapointing in that regard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Honestly, there are some things I couldn't give up. I diched one girl because she didn't let me go down on her and another because she would let me see her fully naked.

Being able to pound you really hard isn't one though. Maybe you could take a strapon to them instead

You look super sexy. I wouldn't worry too much. People like different things right? I mean some girls don't like anal or even swinging. Taking a pounding is low on the list in my perspective.

Maybe just pretend it's because they are so big guys fall for that kind of flattery!

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Lacey, Lacey, Lacey, I don’t think anyone could ever consider having sex with you a disappointment. If a guy can only get his carnal satisfaction from pile driving, balls deep until your cervix feels like it’s been pummelled by Connor McGregor then he lacks imagination and doesn’t deserve to put his winky anywhere near you.

Your ex sounds like a prized prick and was just using it as an excuse to get his dick wet and then come up with a way to make you feel like it was your fault.

Now stop worrying and take some more pics so we can all have a good old perv.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I guess like anything sexual it’s all about compatibility. If a man really wants hard and fast then it may well be an issue that can’t be escaped but there are many men who prefer soft and slow, not least because it can help achieve a delayed and more intense orgasm. Like many things in sex these days, porn had had a negative influence on what some men expect from women with hard and fast seen as the norm.

I imagine size is an issue as well, with perhaps smaller being more suitable? "

It's not so much that I only enjoy soft and slow. I just can't do really deep, especially hard and deep. Somewhere in between is my limit.

Size can be an issue but I don't like to refuse someone just on this basis if I like them as you can work around it but I do have less doubts if they're smaller and aren't having to hold back as much.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Honestly, there are some things I couldn't give up. I diched one girl because she didn't let me go down on her and another because she would let me see her fully naked.

Being able to pound you really hard isn't one though. Maybe you could take a strapon to them instead

You look super sexy. I wouldn't worry too much. People like different things right? I mean some girls don't like anal or even swinging. Taking a pounding is low on the list in my perspective.

Maybe just pretend it's because they are so big guys fall for that kind of flattery! "

Good idea

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Intimate pleasure isn't about pain more about the enjoyment that each receive and given amount of positions available is enough to even avoid doggy if it makes you feel uncomfortably and sore always important to stimulate the mind which pushes the buttons around the sensitive parts around the body which makes the joys of sex more appealing for both it's never just about one

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Have you spoke to your GP about this?

A good chat with more than one medical professional, should help to identify WHERE the root cause is.

If it's in the mind, then therapy or the like might help.

If it's in the vagina/cervix then physio might be the best option.

Either way just say "Fuck it!" and get that appointment soon. You need great sex, not great big demons.

Hope that helps,

x

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Your ex sounds like a prized prick and was just using it as an excuse to get his dick wet and then come up with a way to make you feel like it was your fault.

"

Honestly logically I know this as he listed other reasons around how I fail as a person and a partner. I mostly know he was trying to make it my fault to avoid taking responsibility for his actions but it still stings and still leaves niggling doubts which is why I posted and reading some of the responses is helping .

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By *ivaniaMan
over a year ago

Cyprus / London


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Hi Lacey, there is nothing wrong with wanting what you enjoy. Its your body your choice.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Penises can tolerate more rough play than vaginas can.

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By *ivaniaMan
over a year ago

Cyprus / London


"‘He couldnt fuck you as hard as he wanted’....

Erm are you a human or a wall? Who is the endless aggressive pounding for? To prove a point? Cant he feel anything?

Sex is something you do with someone else. Shared experience. When ppl say i want to pound you really hard, sex stops being about you both, and all about that selfish persons pleasure power trip.

I swear by communication. I ask soooo many questions before i share my body with someone. It doesn't fully suppress the feeling i might be a shit shag to them but it certainly helps me know if its going well. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore what your cheating ex said - he said it to justify being a cheating arse and therefore it is meaningless.

Sex/making love is about two people enjoying themselves and each other; if it is painful and uncomfortable for my partner then I do not want to do it. If the only way a guy can enjoy sex is going at it like a Grand National winner on home straight then he is not for you.

Open and honest communication with your partner is key, if they are not willing to play within agreed boundaries they are not the type of person you want to be with.

If it happens again then grab a nice 12inch strap-on and offer to see if they like being pounded like a shed door slamming in a hurricane.

Mr HH

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Have you spoke to your GP about this?

A good chat with more than one medical professional, should help to identify WHERE the root cause is.

If it's in the mind, then therapy or the like might help.

If it's in the vagina/cervix then physio might be the best option.

Either way just say "Fuck it!" and get that appointment soon. You need great sex, not great big demons.

Hope that helps,

x"

I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Have you spoke to your GP about this?

A good chat with more than one medical professional, should help to identify WHERE the root cause is.

If it's in the mind, then therapy or the like might help.

If it's in the vagina/cervix then physio might be the best option.

Either way just say "Fuck it!" and get that appointment soon. You need great sex, not great big demons.

Hope that helps,

x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I can’t imagine it being a great time for anyone if the other is in pain that isn’t pleasurable for them.

For me , if I couldn’t give them something they wanted. I would try ask and focus on what I could do to make it as great as possible. Like most things in life , communication is key

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By *ivaniaMan
over a year ago

Cyprus / London


"Ignore what your cheating ex said - he said it to justify being a cheating arse and therefore it is meaningless.

Sex/making love is about two people enjoying themselves and each other; if it is painful and uncomfortable for my partner then I do not want to do it. If the only way a guy can enjoy sex is going at it like a Grand National winner on home straight then he is not for you.

Open and honest communication with your partner is key, if they are not willing to play within agreed boundaries they are not the type of person you want to be with.

If it happens again then grab a nice 12inch strap-on and offer to see if they like being pounded like a shed door slamming in a hurricane.

Mr HH"

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If it happens again then grab a nice 12inch strap-on and offer to see if they like being pounded like a shed door slamming in a hurricane.

Mr HH"

Omg I'm crying laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it happens again then grab a nice 12inch strap-on and offer to see if they like being pounded like a shed door slamming in a hurricane.

Mr HH

Omg I'm crying laughing "

I can assure you he wouldn’t be laughing ... especial if you told him to “bite the pillow, I am going in dry”!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Over the years I've gotten much better at doing this and only engaging in sexual activities I actually enjoy rather than tolerating things for someone elses benefit. I still continue to do so but I still have that niggling feeling in the back of my mind that I'm dissapointing in that regard. "

I am a guy (obviously) and I don't particularly enjoy just hard fast deep sex. I do it but prefer slower, sensual sex, lots of teasing with the tip, different strokes, varying depths and pace etc... As for your ex, he would have cheated no matter what you did. So if you want to learn something so you can pleasure a partner more, do so but for yourself. And make sure you enjoy it.

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By *ick270Man
over a year ago

Here

An ex had been used, and was scared id want anal as her ex had used her,last thing id want,she even told me she had never been made love to until me, and she was very sexy loved a basque stockings etc,very smart lady but fizzeled out

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Make here. I knew a woman once, we were in a long term relationship, who had a similar issue in the same position - doggy. We just went careful in that position, and it wasn’t a problem. If we wanted to get energetic then there were other positions available for that. I seem to recall there have been others along the way who have maybe said to go careful in x or y position. so I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you, it just happens.

I think you are well shot of him with that attitude. Maybe, when the pandemic has subsided, it might put your mind at rest to have a physical at the doctor, but in the meantime try not to worry about what one ignorant and entitled man has said to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed. "

I also have a tilted uterus. It makes rough sex a complete no no and a large penis is very uncomfortable. It’s why I prefer girth to length.

My partner is understanding but it’s a pain (literally) having to explain to anyone else and a lot of guys are unaware of this condition,

V

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By *issmeteasemeCouple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

Much rather see a lady enjoying herself x

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By *witchRichMan
over a year ago

Southport

Surely in a relationship its about you both enjoying yourself! And by the sounds of it, its not like you didn't try.

I do enjoy rough sex but if my partner isnt then it stops being enjoyable for me. But thats when you try something else, something that both can enjoy.

Lets be honest theres plenty of things to try

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I enjoy myself by you enjoying yourself if doggy hurts you then I wouldn't make you.

And you are not a disappointment and never will be.

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By *ornypostyMan
over a year ago

newport tf10

He should only be interested in ur pleasure believe me he would enjoy being with you or he is no good to you xx

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


"I personally love hard, deep, rough sex.

I also love soft, sensual sex.

i think if i went a long time without either, yes i would miss them.

But i dont think this is an issue on your part, probably he was to lazy to get you excited enough for some rough.

Gorgeous photos btw, sexy, classy and quirky."

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how excited a women is. Painful is painful.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"If it happens again then grab a nice 12inch strap-on and offer to see if they like being pounded like a shed door slamming in a hurricane.

Mr HH

Omg I'm crying laughing

I can assure you he wouldn’t be laughing ... especial if you told him to “bite the pillow, I am going in dry”! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have likes, as we all do, but a turn off for anyone who cares would be to cause genuine pain, outside of some other scenarios that others wish to explore etc.

I also think even if two people say it’s perfect for them, it’s totally hard for another to 100% believe or feel that if that thinking exists.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees "

Scabs on your knees? You shagging in a car park or something?

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"

I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed.

I also have a tilted uterus. It makes rough sex a complete no no and a large penis is very uncomfortable. It’s why I prefer girth to length.

My partner is understanding but it’s a pain (literally) having to explain to anyone else and a lot of guys are unaware of this condition,

V"

It's nice knowing we're not alone though eh

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees

Scabs on your knees? You shagging in a car park or something? "

I didn't want to derail your thread, but was about to ask him if he was fucking in a sandpit or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passionate slow sensual connective lost in the moment intense sex can be just as for filling as a hard romp sometimes even more so , maybe find a partner that’s more I touch with a tantric side , sex would be so much more then just penetrative ego filling pumps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees

Scabs on your knees? You shagging in a car park or something? "

Clubs leather cushions/bed

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I have likes, as we all do, but a turn off for anyone who cares would be to cause genuine pain, outside of some other scenarios that others wish to explore etc.

I also think even if two people say it’s perfect for them, it’s totally hard for another to 100% believe or feel that if that thinking exists. "

Yep. They look like they're having fun and tell me the sex is great for them but the thought is always in the back of my head now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disappointing? Never!!!

Everyone is different and sex is never the same. Personally, although I like all types. Slow, sensual is a favourite as opposed to hard pounding. I would work around my partners needs. Her pleasure is my utmost pleasure.

J

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees

Scabs on your knees? You shagging in a car park or something?

I didn't want to derail your thread, but was about to ask him if he was fucking in a sandpit or something "

. I'm still confused after elaboration!

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I think most women maybe find it a tad painful when a guy rams that cock in so deep that you can feel it hit the top of your cervix...it's not nice! I think your ex fella was just finding some one else to blame for him being a 'dirty dick' and cheating on you...so don't let that weasel's comments get you down any more...your worth more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Hard fucking is not really my thing. I have done it, but much more when I was younger. If I have penetrative sex at all it tends still to be passionate but slower and more sensual. and doggy style is one of my least used positions. I prefer face to face so I can see my partner’s eyes. I find it gives a more soulful connection which is much more my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly wouldn’t find it disappointing my pleasure would be knowing you are having a good enjoyable time I’m more towards soft & sensual ... if that’s the word I’m looking for opposed to rough hardcore sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a tilted uterus too and had a similar ex when I was 20. Now, if someone were to be disappointed at not being able to do something that caused me pain they'd be out the door. I wouldn't spare a thought for their disappointment, I'd be angry.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees

Scabs on your knees? You shagging in a car park or something?

I didn't want to derail your thread, but was about to ask him if he was fucking in a sandpit or something

. I'm still confused after elaboration! "

Maybe he's just got awfully delicate knees

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"Lacey, Lacey, Lacey, I don’t think anyone could ever consider having sex with you a disappointment. If a guy can only get his carnal satisfaction from pile driving, balls deep until your cervix feels like it’s been pummelled by Connor McGregor then he lacks imagination and doesn’t deserve to put his winky anywhere near you.

Your ex sounds like a prized prick and was just using it as an excuse to get his dick wet and then come up with a way to make you feel like it was your fault.

Now stop worrying and take some more pics so we can all have a good old perv. "

Could not have said it better. He sounds like a porn obsessed dickhead. Better off without him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends how comfortable you are with the person, I know that most people want a connection to really enjoy sex, take it at your pace x

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

I think most women maybe find it a tad painful when a guy rams that cock in so deep that you can feel it hit the top of your cervix...it's not nice! I think your ex fella was just finding some one else to blame for him being a 'dirty dick' and cheating on you...so don't let that weasel's comments get you down any more...your worth more! "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ram my knob down your gob though

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I have a tilted uterus too and had a similar ex when I was 20. Now, if someone were to be disappointed at not being able to do something that caused me pain they'd be out the door. I wouldn't spare a thought for their disappointment, I'd be angry."

None of my current sexual partners express even an ounce of dissapointment but I think because its been said to me before I just worry they secretly are and are just being too nice to say.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I personally have all the sensation at the tip so I don't think depness affects me.

Also it's great when the lady takes over and is in control of the penetration because it gives me a break from getting scabs on my knees

Scabs on your knees? You shagging in a car park or something?

I didn't want to derail your thread, but was about to ask him if he was fucking in a sandpit or something

. I'm still confused after elaboration!

Maybe he's just got awfully delicate knees "

Bless. Knees with skin like ripe peaches.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Lacey, Lacey, Lacey, I don’t think anyone could ever consider having sex with you a disappointment. If a guy can only get his carnal satisfaction from pile driving, balls deep until your cervix feels like it’s been pummelled by Connor McGregor then he lacks imagination and doesn’t deserve to put his winky anywhere near you.

Your ex sounds like a prized prick and was just using it as an excuse to get his dick wet and then come up with a way to make you feel like it was your fault.

Now stop worrying and take some more pics so we can all have a good old perv.

Could not have said it better. He sounds like a porn obsessed dickhead. Better off without him! "

Well it was 5 years ago so well and truly rid .

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Can I ram my knob down your gob though "

You may

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ram my knob down your gob though

You may "

And they say romance is dead

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Can I ram my knob down your gob though

You may

And they say romance is dead "

Careful you don't chafe the end of your very sensitive member

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

douglas

The only disappointing thing in that scenario is you having come across a selfish absolute wanker that not only didnt care if he hurt you sexually for his own selfish needs but then hurt you mentally again for needs of his own. Not even having a thought on your feelings.

No, its not disappointing is my answere, we all have that rough hard side where we wanna go hard at it and there's more than one way of doing that instead of inflicting pain on a women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Hi Lacey, my own personal view is that IF I have to go hard and a pause pain by doing so then that’s a huge turn off....I don’t have to go hard as you say to achieve climax, but to turn on a lady and make them orgasm, by my actions to stimulate them, shows I am doing something right, and therefore I undoubtedly will cum with them or a t a pace suited to both.

Don’t beat yourself up you look bloody gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's nice knowing we're not alone though eh "

Absolutely! I like different and have become quite inventive in finding ways of managing

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Fuck him and the tree he fucking fell out of. Dick. Your life has way more going for it than being involved with a man baby like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Doesn't seem like a problem to me OP

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Have you spoke to your GP about this?

A good chat with more than one medical professional, should help to identify WHERE the root cause is.

If it's in the mind, then therapy or the like might help.

If it's in the vagina/cervix then physio might be the best option.

Either way just say "Fuck it!" and get that appointment soon. You need great sex, not great big demons.

Hope that helps,

x

I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed. "
I feel your pain on this one my uterus is twisted and tilted but my husbund is very understanding and doesn't want to cause me pain so he switchs positions so I'm comfortable as he doesn't want to cause me pain but he's very good at reading people's cues like he says it about both of our pleasure and shouldn't be one sided

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Your ex sounds like a dickhead

Don't listen to dickheads. Fuck any way you want.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Lacey, Lacey, Lacey, I don’t think anyone could ever consider having sex with you a disappointment. If a guy can only get his carnal satisfaction from pile driving, balls deep until your cervix feels like it’s been pummelled by Connor McGregor then he lacks imagination and doesn’t deserve to put his winky anywhere near you.

Your ex sounds like a prized prick and was just using it as an excuse to get his dick wet and then come up with a way to make you feel like it was your fault.

Now stop worrying and take some more pics so we can all have a good old perv.

Could not have said it better. He sounds like a porn obsessed dickhead. Better off without him!

Well it was 5 years ago so well and truly rid . "

Just my two cents - why still give him the power by which I mean why believe his manipulative comments and not everyone else who expressed since that they were perfectly happy? Human mind is a funny thing, so often focusing and remembering negative things. It is a challenge to fight that but so worth it in a long run. CBT techniques tend to be good for that sort of thing (no, I don't mean cock and ball torture - the other CBT) or even pausing and questioning those negative thoughts when they pop up.

Ultimately, it is great to care for the satisfaction of other people but surely your pleasure is a priority. I certainly am a strong believer in female pleasure and encourage it wholeheartedly! What makes you happy matters so much more than some pathetic words by a cowardly manipulator - take your power back.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Understandable that you'd take it to heart and it become hot spot. But there's plenty of ways of having amazing sexy fun and if one partner doesn't like or enjoy something... You kind of work around it together. A lot of women I've met don't like hard fucking especially that causes pain....

Hopefully the responses will boost your confidence a bit.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

A lot of people saying he was a dick for saying he couldn't have sex his way, but backing you up for wanting sex your way.

Seems to me you two just weren't sexually compatible. Doesn't excuse him going to get it elsewhere when he should have just told you that. Not everyone is sexually compatible and it's usually more like a venn diagram.

However, there's no need to be insecure about it because not everyone wants to jackhammer the life out of someone! Others have different strings to their bow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it soft and gentle ! So much more intense feeling!!

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By *arc 999Man
over a year ago

Tyrone

Yes I know soft and gentle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy hard sex but also have sensual sex which is just as full filling. Id never want to intentionally hurt jenny so if i do on times as we get carried away i appologise and take care. Nobody should was want to hurt a woman whilst having sex although some women do enjoy hard as and rough sex. Its about communication and showing respect for each other. In the opposite i have had women do blowjobs where they are pulling your foreskin down so hard you would swear they were trying to touch your nuts with it. So communication stops stuff like this continuing. To the op you are entitled to the sex that works fir you. Never settle for just what the other wants or forces for.

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By *rive u crazyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not everyone enjoys the same things. A couple works when the 2 like to do something together no matter what no matter how weird. Find someone that respects you, your needs, your desires. I'm sure that there is a long queue at your door.

Your ex wasn't the right one for you. And he was an abusive idiot but that's another story

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By *mooth prickMan
over a year ago

Bridgwater

Has been painful in the past doing doggy with a partner but quite to go down and pleasure a woman with just my tongue. Nothing turns me on more than watching a hot women wriggle and scream as I lick her

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead


"Seems like your ex played on an insecurity to excuse his behaviour. Sex isn't just about the other person, its about you too. Anyone worth sharing your bed would understand your limits and respect that "

Here here!

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By *mooth prickMan
over a year ago

Bridgwater


"Has been painful in the past doing doggy with a partner but quite happy to go down and pleasure a woman with just my tongue. Nothing turns me on more than watching a hot women wriggle and scream as I lick her"

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Mutually satisfying sex should be a given, without someone inflicting you with their selfish wants.

Plus, there are loads of different positions that offer different levels of penetration. I know I don't accommodate VWE guys well in certain positions - no one likes a cervix bashing!

One thing that did cross my mind though, was getting yourself a gynae check up, just to make sure all is OK down there, if you're at all worried.

C x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Lacey you are one of the hottest women on here. Beautiful inside and out. Please don’t give your worthless worm of an ex any more thought. You do you and enjoy sex how you like it. Most guys get more turned on by seeing the woman really turned on than anything else.

If they really feel the need for it to be rough, they can have a wank!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't sex a two way thing where both people enjoy it ? And about being passionate and not just rough ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

With guys saying they have enjoyed having sex with you why not take their word.

I hope they certainly took their time in giving your orgasms.

Those of us that have a sexual issue it is always in our thoughts if those we play with have enjoyed.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I enjoy "hard, deep sex"... if that particular partner likes it.

I also enjoy gentle, shallow sex... if that particular partner likes it.

I've been with partners who could take the most savage pounding I can deal out and come back for more.

I've been with partners who could barely endure having me inside them, and who required all the patience and care and lubricant in the world... and they came back for more too.

Sex is something you do *together*, not something one person inflicts on another.

If someone wants something a particular partner can't give them, they should find an additional partner who can.

Nobody is anybody's everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed. "

The wife is/was the same and is also very tight to make things worse, sometimes when we had a play, not very rough, she would be in agony the next day.

She's just had a hysterectomy and loads of endo removed so is now loads better, don't know for how long though?

Your ex, as most have said, is just a dick and did the classic wanting to get the last shot in to hurt you and blame you for everything.

Have you been referred for your endo by the way? Arrowe park has got one of the top endo specialists there.

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By *hedark_knightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I think he cheated cause he was an arsehole. Nothing to do with you. I’m guessing you had sex before you both got together so he would’ve already known what your preference is. Anyone who doesn’t respect that, really doesn’t deserve to get between your legs. It’s easy for me to say that, being I’ve not been in that position, but as difficult as it is, try not to put too much stock into what he said and trust the men you’re getting with are actually enjoying themselves. The beauty of sex is variety. Dude just sounds like he should’ve been sticking his dick in a punching bag.

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By *pandjMan
over a year ago

Sparkford

I don't enjoy sex if the woman isn't into it so the only disapointment I'd feel is in myself. I'd want to know what you're into so we'd both enjoy it if it happened again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Sorry to hear this but try not to get a complex

All people are different, some like it rough some slow and sensual, some kinky and some vanilla so it’s just a matter of expressing needs before diving into the pleasure because if it’s not what “you” want it won’t be pleasurable

I personally like to start slow and sensually with lots of kissing and touching then slowly during sex and increase veri city depending if asked or moving together very very enjoyable but I can’t stand “banging away” it does nothing for me

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

Do you enjoy the sex your having? If yes then im sure your partners are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has been painful in the past doing doggy with a partner but quite to go down and pleasure a woman with just my tongue. Nothing turns me on more than watching a hot women wriggle and scream as I lick her"

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

The point of meeting a sexy lady like yourself is to make sure that she has the most amazing time that you can give her and to make sure that you don’t in anyway hurt her ? Maybe push her boundaries?

So I think you just need to make sure the guys know what you like don’t just do as they please?

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

I take my pleasure from the womans enjoyment, so if you are having fun then I would be, everyone is different and that's what makes this life style fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a tilted uterus too and had a similar ex when I was 20. Now, if someone were to be disappointed at not being able to do something that caused me pain they'd be out the door. I wouldn't spare a thought for their disappointment, I'd be angry.

None of my current sexual partners express even an ounce of dissapointment but I think because its been said to me before I just worry they secretly are and are just being too nice to say. "

You have more than one sexual partner- presumably because they all give you something different. They won't all be carbon copies, they will enjoy different things and some may have things they don't like to do.

Does it disappoint you that they can't or won't do that thing? Or do you respect their wishes and enjoy all the other things you can share and enjoy?

Perhaps they are disappointed that your ex was such a dick that you now feel this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lacey, you look like a lot of fun so I wouldn’t pay it to much attention, anyone lucky enough to meet you would have a wonderful time

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Can I ram my knob down your gob though

You may

And they say romance is dead "

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Have you spoke to your GP about this?

A good chat with more than one medical professional, should help to identify WHERE the root cause is.

If it's in the mind, then therapy or the like might help.

If it's in the vagina/cervix then physio might be the best option.

Either way just say "Fuck it!" and get that appointment soon. You need great sex, not great big demons.

Hope that helps,

x

I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed. I feel your pain on this one my uterus is twisted and tilted but my husbund is very understanding and doesn't want to cause me pain so he switchs positions so I'm comfortable as he doesn't want to cause me pain but he's very good at reading people's cues like he says it about both of our pleasure and shouldn't be one sided"

Sorry you're suffering too and glad you have an understanding and considerate partner .

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Lacey, Lacey, Lacey, I don’t think anyone could ever consider having sex with you a disappointment. If a guy can only get his carnal satisfaction from pile driving, balls deep until your cervix feels like it’s been pummelled by Connor McGregor then he lacks imagination and doesn’t deserve to put his winky anywhere near you.

Your ex sounds like a prized prick and was just using it as an excuse to get his dick wet and then come up with a way to make you feel like it was your fault.

Now stop worrying and take some more pics so we can all have a good old perv.

Could not have said it better. He sounds like a porn obsessed dickhead. Better off without him!

Well it was 5 years ago so well and truly rid .

Just my two cents - why still give him the power by which I mean why believe his manipulative comments and not everyone else who expressed since that they were perfectly happy? Human mind is a funny thing, so often focusing and remembering negative things. It is a challenge to fight that but so worth it in a long run. CBT techniques tend to be good for that sort of thing (no, I don't mean cock and ball torture - the other CBT) or even pausing and questioning those negative thoughts when they pop up.

Ultimately, it is great to care for the satisfaction of other people but surely your pleasure is a priority. I certainly am a strong believer in female pleasure and encourage it wholeheartedly! What makes you happy matters so much more than some pathetic words by a cowardly manipulator - take your power back. "

It's not really a conscious choice. Part of my reason for posting this was that seeing and reading more objective opinions is helpful. I appreciate I'm never going to get 100% objective and honest opinions but I felt that other fab members would be more so than the men I sleep with who like me and care about me. Part of me worries that because that they won't be fully honest as they don't want to hurt me but strangers may be more likely to be so. Maybe a strange thought process but hey.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

It's about what you want too. Not just about what he wanted. Never feel that you're a disappointment. There are hundreds of men on here that would be pleased to have a chance with you.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

With guys saying they have enjoyed having sex with you why not take their word.

I hope they certainly took their time in giving your orgasms.

Those of us that have a sexual issue it is always in our thoughts if those we play with have enjoyed. "

I try but it isn't always as easy to believe the positive stuff as it is the negative . They certainly did, the ones I go back for more with anyway .

Yes I think you're right, it always niggles in the back of your head a little.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I enjoy "hard, deep sex"... if that particular partner likes it.

I also enjoy gentle, shallow sex... if that particular partner likes it.

I've been with partners who could take the most savage pounding I can deal out and come back for more.

I've been with partners who could barely endure having me inside them, and who required all the patience and care and lubricant in the world... and they came back for more too.

Sex is something you do *together*, not something one person inflicts on another.

If someone wants something a particular partner can't give them, they should find an additional partner who can.

Nobody is anybody's everything."

I would have been happy for him to find an additional partner with my full consent and knowledge but he wanted monogamy. Well he wanted me to be monogamous at least...

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


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I know why it hurts. It's a combination of having a tilted uterus and therefore a low cervix and endometriosis which makes my cervix being hit even more uncomfortable. However I know my limits and how to work around it so I can enjoy sex. I know other women even without these issues hate cervix bashing so I know I'm not alone. It's just hard to remove the niggling doubt once someone plants that seed.

The wife is/was the same and is also very tight to make things worse, sometimes when we had a play, not very rough, she would be in agony the next day.

She's just had a hysterectomy and loads of endo removed so is now loads better, don't know for how long though?

Your ex, as most have said, is just a dick and did the classic wanting to get the last shot in to hurt you and blame you for everything.

Have you been referred for your endo by the way? Arrowe park has got one of the top endo specialists there."

I've recently heard and spoken to someone who has been treated by him. Really considering asking to have my care transferred there.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Do you enjoy the sex your having? If yes then im sure your partners are "

I do yes

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I have a tilted uterus too and had a similar ex when I was 20. Now, if someone were to be disappointed at not being able to do something that caused me pain they'd be out the door. I wouldn't spare a thought for their disappointment, I'd be angry.

None of my current sexual partners express even an ounce of dissapointment but I think because its been said to me before I just worry they secretly are and are just being too nice to say.

You have more than one sexual partner- presumably because they all give you something different. They won't all be carbon copies, they will enjoy different things and some may have things they don't like to do.

Does it disappoint you that they can't or won't do that thing? Or do you respect their wishes and enjoy all the other things you can share and enjoy?

Perhaps they are disappointed that your ex was such a dick that you now feel this way.

"

It absolutely doesn't and I enjoy each experience with each person in its own way. There is no one good way to have sex. I know this, it's just not always as easy to tell yourself. Talking about it here though for me is helping .

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I enjoy "hard, deep sex"... if that particular partner likes it.

I also enjoy gentle, shallow sex... if that particular partner likes it.

I've been with partners who could take the most savage pounding I can deal out and come back for more.

I've been with partners who could barely endure having me inside them, and who required all the patience and care and lubricant in the world... and they came back for more too.

Sex is something you do *together*, not something one person inflicts on another.

If someone wants something a particular partner can't give them, they should find an additional partner who can.

Nobody is anybody's everything.

I would have been happy for him to find an additional partner with my full consent and knowledge but he wanted monogamy. Well he wanted me to be monogamous at least... "

Ugh. I'm sorry, Lacey. You deserve so much better than that. If it's not too presumptuous of me to say so, I'm glad you're out of that.

If it's any consolation, I share your fear – I can never quite shake the conviction that I'm letting a partner down, even when they're making all the right noises and reassuring me that I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about finding a considerate partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I have preferences and favourites of my own, for me the whole thing is about pleasing the lady. Nothing turns me on more than seeing a woman enjoying sex so my priority is her needs, desires and fantasies. Simple, really.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There is nothing wrong with your needs or wants OP. Your ex sounds like a very selfish man. It sounds like you had a lucky escape from him. If you need a chat, feel free to inbox me anytime. Xx

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By *attM73Man
over a year ago

Oldham

I’ve always made sure that the lady I was with enjoyed the experience, I was never really bothered about me actually. And Op you’re stunning, sod the caveman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex from behind also hurts me and I don't enjoy it. Felts like it's too deep and pushes against something inside here causing pain.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

It wouldn't bother me. I want the person I am with to be enjoying sex. If hard sex hurts I wouldn't do it.

Out of interest have you seen a doctor to see if there is a medical reason behind it?

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"‘He couldnt fuck you as hard as he wanted’....

Erm are you a human or a wall? Who is the endless aggressive pounding for? To prove a point? Cant he feel anything?

Sex is something you do with someone else. Shared experience. When ppl say i want to pound you really hard, sex stops being about you both, and all about that selfish persons pleasure power trip.

I swear by communication. I ask soooo many questions before i share my body with someone. It doesn't fully suppress the feeling i might be a shit shag to them but it certainly helps me know if its going well.

Over the years I've gotten much better at doing this and only engaging in sexual activities I actually enjoy rather than tolerating things for someone elses benefit. I still continue to do so but I still have that niggling feeling in the back of my mind that I'm dissapointing in that regard. "

If any guy doesn't respect some sexual things are painful for you he doesn't deserve to be with you. You would have to be a selfish uncaring bastard to expect the woman to do something she finds painful. I know there is BDSM but for me, sex is pleasure not pain.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were.

Honestly, there are some things I couldn't give up. I diched one girl because she didn't let me go down on her and another because she would let me see her fully naked.

Being able to pound you really hard isn't one though. Maybe you could take a strapon to them instead

You look super sexy. I wouldn't worry too much. People like different things right? I mean some girls don't like anal or even swinging. Taking a pounding is low on the list in my perspective.

Maybe just pretend it's because they are so big guys fall for that kind of flattery! "

Lol good idea.

Lacey next time a guy wants to fuck you hard ask them if you can peg them hard and deep.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I'm not a man, please see the doctor if sex is painful.

That was one of the symptoms for my cervical cancer.

Your cervix my be at an angle so it's painful for deep penatration. A doctor or nurse wo be able to tell you where your cervix is and help find, suggest less painful positions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I would imagine - unfortunately due to the world we seem to live in - you’re being over critical of yourself! One idiot has done you wrong - and understandably you’re conscious of it

But I’m sure the other guys are telling the truth and it’s just a small mental block you need to get yourself over

Good luck - don’t let 1 horrible man be your yard stick for any other x

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I enjoy "hard, deep sex"... if that particular partner likes it.

I also enjoy gentle, shallow sex... if that particular partner likes it.

I've been with partners who could take the most savage pounding I can deal out and come back for more.

I've been with partners who could barely endure having me inside them, and who required all the patience and care and lubricant in the world... and they came back for more too.

Sex is something you do *together*, not something one person inflicts on another.

If someone wants something a particular partner can't give them, they should find an additional partner who can.

Nobody is anybody's everything.

I would have been happy for him to find an additional partner with my full consent and knowledge but he wanted monogamy. Well he wanted me to be monogamous at least...

Ugh. I'm sorry, Lacey. You deserve so much better than that. If it's not too presumptuous of me to say so, I'm glad you're out of that.

If it's any consolation, I share your fear – I can never quite shake the conviction that I'm letting a partner down, even when they're making all the right noises and reassuring me that I'm not.

"

Yep, years out of it. I'm sure you're not letting anyone down at all. Though I understand that it's so hard to shake the doubt.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thank you everyone for your comments, I appreciate them

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

You've got nothing to worry about.

We're sure disappointment will be the last thing on their minds when getting it on with you going by your pictures.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Thank you everyone for your comments, I appreciate them "

I can on occasion go a little to deep into my wife. Not on purpose but sometimes the angle is wrong etc.

But there are so many ways to have sex that hammering away deeply is only 1 of a number of variations that you can try.

I honestly would not miss it at all.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is good sex doesn't come down to ability more compatability and adaptability and it sounds like this guy failed on both counts.

What's worse is he's made it all about you, not him as a means of excusing his failure!!

It's easy to get hung up on these things Lacey, to think that you're somehow inadequate or not as good as others, and to an extent a site like this (where people regularly talk about their experiences in exaggerated terms) can only exacerbate that and make you question yourself more - trust me I know, been there, bought the t-shirt.

It's not easy to overcome either - no amount of reassurance and being told there's no issue will address the mindset that you're somehow lacking, that can only be overcome from within yourself and through experience and time.

I'm very open about what I perceive to be my shortcomings, possibly too open at times, and am usually told not to be daft - the fact that when I have had meets we've all walked away smiling and wanting to do it again helps, but still doesn't stop me questioning myself at times so I totally get where you're coming from, but think you just have to focus on the fact that you, and those you have met, walk away smiling and satisfied, and want to do it again as a means of drowning out the negative thoughts and doubts.

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By *enksMan
over a year ago

hereford

Personally my main aim is the pleasure of the lady as love making women orgasm. I have never been into hammering away and love a good long session. A couple I used to meet he enjoyed really going for it like a jack hammer but she also liked the way I fucked her as well and when she was riding a cock she went much slower.

I think you just need to find someone who likes the same things as you or at least someone who wants to satisfy you not just themselves

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By *onesy261985Man
over a year ago

Sudbury

You could never disappoint any red blooded male who takes the time to get you all excited before any fun commences. For me it’s all about stimulating the mind and the body will follow. You are a gorgeous woman and never feel that you are a disappointment to anyone you are a woman of your own taste and desires. I enjoy the more sensual side of sex rather than the rough hard deep stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear that you suffer discomfort Lace. I love hard, rough sex, but it hurts me too if they hit my curvix hard, and doggy does seem the worst position for that (I still love doggy though).

Do you like hard anal? Could be another option? Xx

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

Sec should just be about hard a rough, variety is key but I’m not for cause pain, and not being able to actually go deep some of the session would a bit of a mood killer for me. I’m sure there are loads of guys that wouldn’t care though.

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By *verready5000Man
over a year ago

mansfield


"So I find hard, deep sex painful and struggle to do doggy without it hurting. Being super turned on helps but they still have to be careful. My ex cheated on me and said part of the reason was because he couldn't fuck me as hard as he wanted and now I have a bit of a complex about it. The men I have sex with seem to be enjoying themselves and assure me that they are but I can't help but worry I'm a bit of a dissapointment. Looking for sone honest opinions from those who gave been in that situation or how they think they'd feel if they were. "

I’m sure someone as sexy as you shouldn’t worry! Doggy is only one great position lady on top is another. Sex doesn’t just have to be a pounding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't hold it against anyone if they didn't enjoy something. It's way more enjoyable for me to see my partner enjoying themselves, and it's a real turn on for me too

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"it can be hard to shake self doubt linked to breaches in trust. "

This bit totally spoke to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it can be hard to shake self doubt linked to breaches in trust.

This bit totally spoke to me "

And me

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By *ndulge101Couple
over a year ago

Village life in West Yorks

we don't see owt nice and hard n fast

its what guys think good sex is about but saying that might say why their always pestering for meets its cheep porn in our eyes

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