FabSwingers.com forum: Fb, hubby or wife???

By *onny Bones OP Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Hi all I like to post topics and questions where fellow people on the scene can explain things that baffle me sometimes. With our fun comes some really interesting points for me to think about.

On some profiles and also in conversations with some at social or club nights, people speak of their preferences for those they play with and not all of these are appreciated by all. I am now wondering why some couples choose only to play with married couples? Please do not think that I am belittling this choice or mocking in any way, I simply hear of it popping up more often. Why would a fb not be as enjoyable as another's wife/hubby. Is this something to do with intimacy?

My not being married may be a reason for not understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because the fb may be cheating?

some think that a single may try to split them up?(ie ask for 121 meets)

some just thing swinging is only for cpls

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think they choose to play only with other married couples as they want there to be a connection between the couple they are playing with.2 fbs playing together may not have the same repore

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By *onny Bones OP Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

"I think they choose to play only with other married couples as they want there to be a connection between the couple they are playing with.2 fbs playing together may not have the same repore"

So maybe they question the level of commitment from the other couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they choose to play only with other married couples as they want there to be a connection between the couple they are playing with.2 fbs playing together may not have the same repore

So maybe they question the level of commitment from the other couple?"

Because some married people think that fb's can't have the same connection that a marriage certificate has.

Could also be that they think single people may steal their partner away. Personally I think there's still a risk a married person may want to steal someone away....

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By *onny Bones OP Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Don't some couples 'lie'any way? How heard or easy would it be turn up with someone whom you passed off as your wife or hubby?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Because some married people think that fb's can't have the same connection that a marriage certificate has.

Could also be that they think single people may steal their partner away. Personally I think there's still a risk a married person may want to steal someone away....

Hahaha, nicely put.

I do wonder if those who insist on only playing with married couples would turn down a couple in a concubinage or civil partnership simply through lack of marriage certificate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our personal prefference is another couple, married or not, but who are in a genuine relationship...

A couple in a genuine relationship are under the same emotional pressure as is the married couple. In most cases fb's have three or four partners they can call on to make a couple up and it does not mean as much psycologicaly...Its not about your partner straying and running off with a single person. Swinging is about adults having sexy fun and learning new techniques and styles of love making...live the dreams

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

I think for some people there's also the thought that, particularly the male in an fb pairing, might be using the female to get meets he wouldn't get as a single male and possibly wouldn't care as much if the fem was enjoying herself as long as he was getting his.

I'm not saying this is true, and even if it is, it's certainly not true for all fb couples but you can see where the perception might come from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think for some people there's also the thought that, particularly the male in an fb pairing, might be using the female to get meets he wouldn't get as a single male and possibly wouldn't care as much if the fem was enjoying herself as long as he was getting his.

I'm not saying this is true, and even if it is, it's certainly not true for all fb couples but you can see where the perception might come from. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hi all I like to post topics and questions where fellow people on the scene can explain things that baffle me sometimes. With our fun comes some really interesting points for me to think about.

My not being married may be a reason for not understanding

There are couples that meet singles, fbs etc confident in their relationship. Perhaps those that only meet other couples are "purists" and think only couples can swing, or only want to play with those with something to "loose" should things go tits up.

I'm single and would never play with a couple under any circumstance but I understand not playing with fuck buddies.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm not saying this is true, and even if it is, it's certainly not true for all fb couples but you can see where the perception might come from. "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying this is true, and even if it is, it's certainly not true for all fb couples but you can see where the perception might come from.

Good point.

very good point. x

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By *ursevampsWoman
over a year ago

bucks

i have a fb as yet we havent decided to play out side yet but he is married with permission and we have a great time we both understad the rules and i always tell him family first no matter what it is but we have a great connection how is it more married couples have to loose yes im single he not the risks are still the same if ppl are married or not some people have their preferences but others dont mind as long as we all having fun does it matter if were married single of fb

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

"i have a fb as yet we havent decided to play out side yet but he is married with permission and we have a great time we both understad the rules and i always tell him family first no matter what it is but we have a great connection how is it more married couples have to loose yes im single he not the risks are still the same if ppl are married or not some people have their preferences but others dont mind as long as we all having fun does it matter if were married single of fb "

see for you that works but i dont think i would be so nice if my hubby went off with another woman who was single as a fb and they had a great rapport we started this as a couple and will end it as a couple i trust my hub and he trusts me because without it all this would be disaster but i couldnt do the fb thing with another single x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only play with single guys but that said there was one guy who after a social meet tried to get sandy meeting alone. We blocked him and he came in under another profile and was messaging for two weeks before revealing his true identity. Peeps like that get single men a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to say from experience when met married couples rather than FB's there is a difference in how they act towards each other. seems more intimate with married couples and less forced if you understand what i mean. no less enjoyable but different and can see for other couples why they specify certain meets. each to there own i say x

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We like to take pics of our fun and feel more secure with a 'couple' rather than fb's. Just think there's more chance of someone from a fb couple showing them off to mates etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we wont play with couples who are not a real couple.

its not what swinging is about,we are a couple so want other couples who feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wont play with couples who are not a real couple.

its not what swinging is about,we are a couple so want other couples who feel the same"

What is swinging about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is about consenting adults having fun with likeminded couples or singles...

It's about what everyone is comfortable doing and not judging the other people either age race or sexual prefferences...if you read profiles and like what you see then join in the fun...if you prefer fb's then thats fine but they need to be honest on their profiles and admit they are exactly that so they are not misleading people...just my opinion and right or wrong it's what we swing by...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is about consenting adults having fun with likeminded couples or singles...

I think that's a good explanation.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

we dont insist on meeting married couples only, but couples that are in a relationship.

FB's (where one or both are cheating on their partners) vicariously dont care about their own relationship, so how could we expect them to care about ours?

its about a mutual respect thing, nothing to do with fear of one or other of us/them wanting to steal someone away, thats just a very paranoid idea of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think it matters as long as there is a connection between you all we have met a few "Marrieds" that clearly have issues and i for one cant do anything if the woman lays there uninterested in me and more concered what her partner is doing....and i dont mean in a "enjoy watching her partner"way

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Damn guys our secret is out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wont play with couples who are not a real couple.

its not what swinging is about,we are a couple so want other couples who feel the same"

but what is the criteria for a "real couple"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once went to party with a girlfriend that i only knew for a week' party was full of married couples not one of them seemed to mind' or care that we might not be married'we where all putting your selfs first?

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