FabSwingers.com forum: What would your best bit of advice be to couples new to swinging

By *ittleMissCali OP Woman
over a year ago

all loved up

For me I'd say communication is key....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes communication is number one.

I'd say also stick to your guns. People will tell you there's only one way to swing but there isn't. I

Don't ever do anything because you're too polite to say no and if you're rejecting someone do it politely but leave no room for argument.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Set some rules and stick to them

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Talk, talk and talk. Talk before every experience and after. Stick to agreed boundaries and have lots of fun

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"For me I'd say communication is key.... "

Along with honesty.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Do what you both feel happy, if you are at a club or party and feel somewhat overwhelmed, go home, have a chat and you live to fight another day.

Best advice we got many years ago.

Meet for a drink and chat first.

You'll have some brilliant social meets that may turn to play meets at a later date.

Don't get frustrated with time wasters, the number of time wasters is incredible, that's why we only meet initially for a drink and chat.

Never had any problems since.

Just have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't trust anyone it's all lies, every single person is fake and always bag it up before you slap it up because althou they say they always play safe they really don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come back when covids over hahaha

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By *ittleMissCali OP Woman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Come back when covids over hahaha

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hahaha

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Take your time and choose carefully - your first experience could define your swinging career!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time and don’t feel rushed into anything. We made some stupid mistakes just by giving in to the initial excitement and thrill x

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Be honest with each other, and yourself.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Honest open communication xx

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

Follow your gut instincts ... and if one of you is not comfortable don't just take one for the team.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

Communication and never “take one for the team”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and don't take one for the team. Just do what you feel comfortable with.

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

Lots of communication before a meet and set boundaries you can always push the boundaries later

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By *allnlongMan
over a year ago

Torpoint & Stonehouse

Look out for each other no matter what and be the ones calling the shots

There are some truly amazing people in this community, but most are selfish fucks who cant even look at themselves in a mirror

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By *abfriendcarlMan
over a year ago

barnstaple

Go to a club (once we are aloud) sit chill and watch see how you feel from there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always consider what the effect of what you’re considering doing will have on your partner. Stick within what’s already agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes communication is number one.

I'd say also stick to your guns. People will tell you there's only one way to swing but there isn't. I

Don't ever do anything because you're too polite to say no and if you're rejecting someone do it politely but leave no room for argument."
best advice there . The how do u know u won’t like it unless u try one ! But sound advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take your time and don’t feel rushed into anything. We made some stupid mistakes just by giving in to the initial excitement and thrill x"

This exactly! We were like kids in a sweet shop at first which now looking back we made some questionable choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be influenced by how other people go about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Follow your gut instincts ... and if one of you is not comfortable don't just take one for the team. "

Does this actually happen?

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Communication and honesty. Make sure you are doing this for the right reasons and that your relationship is completely solid. So many try this thinking it will save a marriage/relationship when all it does is make things worse. Always have each other’s back and never let your partner “take one for the team”

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stick to your rules and your wants and remember the forums are not ''the rule '' for anything ...

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Never do anything both of you aren't completely and utterly comfortable with. Never push anyones boundaries and be wary of pushing your own too far. It's important to share the enjoyment and excitement.

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By *el and jayneMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Trust and set your rules out 1st

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Take your time and choose carefully - your first experience could define your swinging career!

Funny story but ours did.

We hooked up with a random couple at Quest in Leeds. Left feeling used and abused. Didn’t get what we wanted from the experience and panicked about risks afterwards.

Now to be clear they didn’t do anything wrong, we just didn’t discuss things first to find we were a bad match. It taught us a lesson.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Take your time and choose carefully - your first experience could define your swinging career!

Funny story but ours did.

We hooked up with a random couple at Quest in Leeds. Left feeling used and abused. Didn’t get what we wanted from the experience and panicked about risks afterwards.

Now to be clear they didn’t do anything wrong, we just didn’t discuss things first to find we were a bad match. It taught us a lesson. "

This

Communication is key.

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Agree boundaries , stick to them. If the situation doesn’t feel right , it isn’t

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple
over a year ago

Douglas

Read this thread, lol.

All posts contain really good advice and information.

Read them all and see what resonates with you into working out how to proceed further.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Never do anything both of you aren't completely and utterly comfortable with. Never push anyones boundaries and be wary of pushing your own too far. It's important to share the enjoyment and excitement."

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Trust your instincts, they're usually right.

Katie.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

"Talk, talk and talk. Talk before every experience and after. Stick to agreed boundaries and have lots of fun

We totally agree with this, communication and boundaries always! x

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

"Follow your gut instincts ... and if one of you is not comfortable don't just take one for the team.

Does this actually happen?

Yes it does ...

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

After meeting quite a few couples, my advice would be to make sure you both want it as much as your partner does ..

On a few occasions you can feel that one party isn’t into it as much as the other..

Do it for yourself and not to please your partner

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Always wash yer bits before a meet

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Wear sunscreen

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

Don’t take one for the team! Communicate no matter how difficult, set hard boundaries, have fun!

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Honesty, communication, clear rules and having fun with it

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

Communication, openness and boundries that you set.

Don't be pushed into doing something you don't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being open for sure, communication and boundaries and trust,

But before all that making sure your relationship is absolutely solid, I don’t think a relationship that isn’t absolute would survive

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By *ssexhamptonMan
over a year ago

Rayleigh

"Wear sunscreen"

Always.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Make sure you each have a really good idea of what each other wants and is willing to do and what hard limits you each have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to clubs (when they reopen) and take your time together.

MrGivesPleasure x x

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