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By *xonswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford

We are having a full week of Swinger Clubbing week after next and over the past year or so MrsOxon, who is very much an exhitionist, has gone from wearing a nice short dress with plunging neckline on our first night to a club to the last out fit which was a pair of Kylie Gold Super short and tight hotpants and a Band thing around her boobs (is it called a Bandero ?) and knee high tight boots, essentially 3 really tiny items of clothing (4 if you get picky about it being 2 boots).

But with this week of clubbing we are planning on visiting a different club every night and she was wondering if she should push her own limits on outfits and go for something even more revealing? For example, Stocking suspenders, crotcless tiny G and Net top with bigish holes and no Bra, or should she start wearing more clothing and go for a different type of look? Now we know the crowd at AbFabs so we know what we can get away with there, but are different clubs more conservitive in their "sexy outfit" requirements?

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

no holds barred go for it lol let it all hang out xx

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By *xonswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford

But do you think that would go down well with other patrons? Obviously the guys dont mind, and she is confident enough to do it and not care what other people think, but I on the other hand (and I may be being too sensitive here) dont want other ladies to get pee'd off about it and have it ruin their night? Or am I just being silly and should just go with the attitude of not caring what other people think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see you offending anyone to be honest. I remember my wife when we first went to a club she wore the standard little black dress, now it's just lingerie with stockings under a long coat to travel there in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But do you think that would go down well with other patrons? Obviously the guys dont mind, and she is confident enough to do it and not care what other people think, but I on the other hand (and I may be being too sensitive here) dont want other ladies to get pee'd off about it and have it ruin their night? Or am I just being silly and should just go with the attitude of not caring what other people think?

"

Ok now where do I start with this lol Firstly if you are worried then ring the club in question about their dress code.

Secondly you are assuming that others care what your partner wears, they may not.

Thirdly why on earth would it ruin another woman's night?

Oh you think that your wife will be the best looking woman there and other women couldn't look as good?

lmao Nice that you love your wife

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By *xonswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford


"

Thirdly why on earth would it ruin another woman's night?

Oh you think that your wife will be the best looking woman there and other women couldn't look as good?

lmao Nice that you love your wife "

Hi thanks for the hostile reply, but honestly it wasnt really necessary now was it? What makes it worse is you have made what started as an honest equiry into peoples thoughts into a way of trying to embarrass me which isnt very helpful when all i am trying to do is make sure we dont offend everyone, which i think shows a degree of curtusy and politeness, something you ought to google by the way.

But, in answer to your response, you are right about calling the club, and i am sure the club wouldnt care, but a club cant speak on behalf of its patrons, so if I ask people who are go to clubs they could offer their opinion based on what they think.

I am not really assuming others care what anyone else wears but I do know from the years we spent on the fetish scene before going to swingers clubs that what you wear ought to be inline with the kind of club you are attending. We have only attended one swingers club, AbFabs, and many times, but is the attire and attitudes there different from other clubs? I dont know? So I ask.

Your final point isn't releveant, so need to take that part any further.

Adding an LOL or LMAO doesnt make a response any less insulting. But just in casse

Hopefully that covers it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Thirdly why on earth would it ruin another woman's night?

Oh you think that your wife will be the best looking woman there and other women couldn't look as good?

lmao Nice that you love your wife

Hi thanks for the hostile reply, but honestly it wasnt really necessary now was it? What makes it worse is you have made what started as an honest equiry into peoples thoughts into a way of trying to embarrass me which isnt very helpful when all i am trying to do is make sure we dont offend everyone, which i think shows a degree of curtusy and politeness, something you ought to google by the way.

But, in answer to your response, you are right about calling the club, and i am sure the club wouldnt care, but a club cant speak on behalf of its patrons, so if I ask people who are go to clubs they could offer their opinion based on what they think.

I am not really assuming others care what anyone else wears but I do know from the years we spent on the fetish scene before going to swingers clubs that what you wear ought to be inline with the kind of club you are attending. We have only attended one swingers club, AbFabs, and many times, but is the attire and attitudes there different from other clubs? I dont know? So I ask.

Your final point isn't releveant, so need to take that part any further.

Adding an LOL or LMAO doesnt make a response any less insulting. But just in casse

Hopefully that covers it."

Im sorry that you took it as a hostile reply, it wasnt. It was pragmatic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go for trackies and a hoody and furry parker jacket...now thatd be offensive to us swingers

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

ok, My take on this and I'll get the initial reaction out of the way which is Cor Blimey, I think I want to be at each of the clubs your visiting just to see your wife's outfit....

I've been to several clubs and when it comes to ladies it's truely impossible to answer your question.

I'll give you just one example which is Xtasia on a Friday night. In each case the lady described was part of a couple: Lady One wore jeans and a pretty innocuous top, not disimilar to what she might wear for shopping round Asda, she did look pretty and had makeup etc but the outfit seemed outof place in the club, partly because it was trousers and in my view just not glam or risky enough. Most ladies wear anything from a sexy short dress, with or without underwear, with what can best be described as easy access areas through to any manner of underwear, bra, panties, corsets, stockings etc, so in a way pretty similar to the outfits you have described your lady wearing. A lesser number wear what I might describe as raunchy or erotic stuff ranging from fully naked apart from a discreetly placed tassle to fishnet body stocking and nothing else to skirt and no top.

If this comes across right, noone is bothered and yet everyone notices. So long as your wife is comfortable in her chosen outfit and the attention she/you will recieve then bare as much as you dare or dress/undress to impress. I'm sure you will find many people will love her look whatever she chooses to wear, though if we were permitted a request, i think you should post a pic in your public gallery of her chosen outfit for each night....

Have fun, have you decided if your going to Xtasia or Atlantis on any night of your week long tour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Im sorry that you took it as a hostile reply, it wasnt. It was pragmatic."

text as a medium of communications can be so ambiguous.

Personally, I always try to er positively and on the side of caution - and assume the writer meant no malice. ie: innocent until proven guilty

Best if we all give the benefit of the doubt in forums, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Im sorry that you took it as a hostile reply, it wasnt. It was pragmatic.

text as a medium of communications can be so ambiguous.

Personally, I always try to er positively and on the side of caution - and assume the writer meant no malice. ie: innocent until proven guilty

Best if we all give the benefit of the doubt in forums, no? "

Thank you

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By *xonswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford

Yes we have been persuaded by several people to try Atlantis so I think its definately going to be worth the trip, and we both went to Uni there many years ago so it will be nice to see how much Stoke and Hanley has changed.

Its all a confusion to us, you want to draw attention to yourselves but you dont want to look too out of place or unapproachable to others. Going to clubs is kind of big release away from the drudgery of daily life and an opportunity to dress and act like people without the responsibilities that can inhibit you in your daily life which is why OxonFem wants to go OTT with it, but I am just very mindful of not wanting to have people "tut"ing at us.

I think the plan at the moment is going to be (and we have extended our tour slightly now):

Friday - AbFabs

Saturday - Eurekas

Sunday - VA or Tease II

Monday - Either AbFabs or Chams

Tuesday -

Wednesday

Thursday - Bath Spa

Friday - Atlantis Stoke

Saturday - The Office

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a great idea, we've thought about doing the same one day. What a great way to see the country and have some serious fun!

Could you let us know how it goes please?

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By *xonswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford


"Sounds like a great idea, we've thought about doing the same one day. What a great way to see the country and have some serious fun!

Could you let us know how it goes please?"

Yes of course, we are really looking forward to it and you're right, a good way to see the country and check out how everyone else does it, hopefully come back with lots of tips and ideas and friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically anything goes doesn't it.

I love dress up and I wear what I want to at a club. I never think about what is in keeping with what others wear to clubs. I like corselettes and have many different styles, colours etc, so that's what I wear, but it depends on what I feel like. I went to one club in a full circle skirt and petticoat. It was hot to wear but it went down well with the guys who enjoyed sliding their hands up my skirt and getting lost in layers of frothy net.

I don't understand what you mean about what outfit your wide wears spoiling other womens nights. its not something I think about really, what others are wearing. I can think other ladies look lovely but I am always happy with how I'm dressed and I feel very sexy and gorgeous so that's all that matters to me.

Tell her to wear what she likes and feels confident in. Noone else will be offended or shocked by it

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By *allnlongMan
over a year ago

Torpoint & Stonehouse

I have nothing add, just wanted to say this is a great thread and thanks

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I use to wear tiny little mini dresses at most clubs but now am a bit more daring and have been known to wear an underbust corset with thong and thigh boots as i love that look

Dresses i still wear if going to a new club as never know what to expect

Thigh boots and naked is good too

xxxx

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral


"Yes we have been persuaded by several people to try Atlantis so I think its definately going to be worth the trip, and we both went to Uni there many years ago so it will be nice to see how much Stoke and Hanley has changed.

Its all a confusion to us, you want to draw attention to yourselves but you dont want to look too out of place or unapproachable to others. Going to clubs is kind of big release away from the drudgery of daily life and an opportunity to dress and act like people without the responsibilities that can inhibit you in your daily life which is why OxonFem wants to go OTT with it, but I am just very mindful of not wanting to have people "tut"ing at us.

I think the plan at the moment is going to be (and we have extended our tour slightly now):

Friday - AbFabs

Saturday - Eurekas

Sunday - VA or Tease II

Monday - Either AbFabs or Chams

Tuesday -

Wednesday

Thursday - Bath Spa

Friday - Atlantis Stoke

Saturday - The Office

"

Couple of thoughts for you Oxon.

First dress code for your sexy lady.

You could play safe and opt for the mini dress look to arrive at the club, but either as your confidence builds or the look of the club shortly after arriving, your lady could change into her more daring outfits.

Second Your Tour, If your Thursday Bath do could move to Tuesday, you could then go to Cupids on Wednesday night in Manchester for it's couples only night, moving onto No 3 club in Chorley on Thursday for it's Social Night (or take in any of the other Manchetser clubs such as Partners in Bury or Adam & Eves in Eccles, heading back down to Atlantis for the Friday

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By *xonswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford

Thats actually a really good idea about taking another outfit with us and just seeing how the club is before changing into it, well done!

Unfortunatly we need to be close to home on the Wednesday and Thursday for a more vanilla event in the daytime otherwise we would have stayed in hotels and certainly had longer look around at the Manchester scene.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

There is one easy solution for one night - go to Chams Darlaston on Tuesday! It`s Nude Night! So, instead of wrapping your towel around your waist you throw it over your shoulder!

Seriously though, in Chams I`ve seen everything from the Little Black Dress to one very brave lady at the Xmas Pussy Posse party who wore a long thin strap. It went arond her waist and over one shoulder in the way that you would tie a parcel!

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By *ickeyandrewsMan
over a year ago

birmingham


" I went to one club in a full circle skirt and petticoat. It was hot to wear but it went down well with the guys who enjoyed sliding their hands up my skirt and getting lost in layers of frothy net.

"

Mmmmm now that does sound very sexy - that's something that would definitely get me going and wanting to slide my hand up beneath the hem of that skirt during a long passionate kiss.

xx

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