FabSwingers.com forum: Call me old fashioned

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It amazes me how many people are on here looking for advice on how to get their partners in to swinging, bemoan their lack of sex life or their partners have no fantasies or sex drive etc

Take the global pandemic out and the effect it is having on people, be it mental health or stress etc but I cannot believe how they feel being on a swingers site asking for help will actually help them. Is it a back handed way of looking for sympathy and someone saying I’ll help you with that fantasy or lack of blow job?

As the thread says, call me old fashioned (not literally), if I had a partner, and felt that something was failing in the relationship that led me on to a swinging site where I was displaying photos of my cock or semi naked or fully naked, here without their permission, wouldn’t be the first or maybe in the top few things I would do to try and sort the issue.

What’s happened to respect? Sit down and talk to them. If they won’t talk then consider counselling, know that when you walk away as a final option you’ve done what you can to save it

Yes it works both ways, effort from both, but being on here is that considered your effort?

By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Seriously thought... you are completely right. The people who have a shaky relationship and think that swinging will fix it, rarely come away happy. Successful swingers are generally couples who already had a great relationship and a great sex life who just want to add a bit "extra".

Cal

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

People and their relationships eh!

Not everyone is equipped with the skills required for good emotional and sexual communication. Humans will often look for the easiest way out of a situation rather than a more difficult one that might have a better long term outcome. A lot of men (it is mostly men who ask for advice about their partner or moan about lack of sex, although I'm sure women do too) simply cannot or will not have a conversation with their partner about difficult subjects.

I'm not here to judge, it doesn't stop me lol but I think that when someone says they want advice or they're in difficulties it can be useful to talk to strangers and get their view on things.