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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why is it that some ppl on here have to be so rude nasty and offensive....... i thought i had heard it all until now xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh dear whats happened?

Ive had my fair share of nasties too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest there are some pretty horrible people on here.

Luckily the good folks outweigh the bad but the levels of arrogance/plain nastiness is staggering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it that some ppl on here have to be so rude nasty and offensive....... i thought i had heard it all until now xx "

I think that as with every section of society, you get all sorts but on here they can hide behind their screen and will probably act braver than they ever would if they were face to face with you.

Sorry to hear you've had a nasty experience, report them to the monitor, block them ad move on to the nice people.

Being honest though, the sort of person I am, I usually want retribution! Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst there are without doubt some nasty folk on here there are also plenty of overly sensitive souls as well.

This site is nothing more than a snap shot of life in general. The rudeness of some on here is no different to that of the average driver, the average person in the street, the average bad neighbour etc etc etc.

Most of us can easily deal with all of that on a day to day basis so maybe a little more "manning up and ignoring rude people" is required, just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well guy from a cpl wont meet us now he knows i have had sex with a black guy...... how bad is that ? xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thank you for your kind messages.........xxxxx nice to know there are nice ppl like us out there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get nasty messages all the time from guys i dont want to meet, they think because its a sex site your supposed to meet anyone and everyone, im never rude if i dont want to meet someone i always send a polite thanks but no thanks message back.....some of the rplys i get back are shocking

But all that says to me is i made the right choice in not meeting them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes i agree with you there......... hes got a huge prob i think...... and pity his poor wife lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well guy from a cpl wont meet us now he knows i have had sex with a black guy...... how bad is that ? xx"

well theres enough people on this site to not have to worry about folks like that, what the hells it got to do with him wjo you have played with before anyway? block him and move on thats what i do lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes have done... hope his wife gives him help. love to be a fly on teh wall lol xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"well guy from a cpl wont meet us now he knows i have had sex with a black guy...... how bad is that ? xx"

turn it around and thank them for showing their true colours... after all, knowing what you know now, would you really want to play with someone who has that type of attitude?

it could be considered a lucky escape really, brush ya self down, learn from it and move on.....

no point venting yourself up over things you can't control.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might be afraid that he wont be able to compare to a black guy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well just think that "those nasty people" are the ones who have lost out hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be afraid that he wont be able to compare to a black guy lol "

I doubt it's even that myth based scenario .... sounds like something racially motivated to me, as others have said you had a lucky escape ... from a small minded moron in my opinion xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nicecpl.

i think this is very sad as i know you both to be polite and lovely people.

we have exchanged messages recently and i just wish we were closer as your the type of people i love to meet.

please do not let this get you down.

i had one couple talk to me on another site for ages ,exchange numbers,view cam and arrange a meet then tell me im too short when i get to the door.

some people are just not worth worrying about.

I know your good people and thats all that matters.

chat soon xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its so nice to know ppl out there are kind and thoughtful........ im still in shock at the moment......... but i wont let an idiot like that get me down . he'll come across his match one day im sure. as my mum always says, what goes around comes around cheers all xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some folk really make me sick!! sod them and have fun with the good ones !! there are a lot of nasty ones but more good ones!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 guy i was chatting to and was on the verge of arranging a meet ...said to me "oh before i meet u i wont shag u if u have slept wiv ....." and he used a not very nice term for an asian person...i asked him wot on earth was that to do with anything ? his reply " u live by bradford u must have done" i was disgusted at his attitude towards another human being......

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By *imbojim150Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire


"1 guy i was chatting to and was on the verge of arranging a meet ...said to me "oh before i meet u i wont shag u if u have slept wiv ....." and he used a not very nice term for an asian person...i asked him wot on earth was that to do with anything ? his reply " u live by bradford u must have done" i was disgusted at his attitude towards another human being...... "

I cant believe people with that sort of attitude especially as hes not 100% english thanks to the Romans,Vikings,Normans and other invaders throughout our history.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this site is full of lovely, gorgeous, well mannered, sexy , horny, happy people,

tell the rest to fuck off, and block, its as easy as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1 guy i was chatting to and was on the verge of arranging a meet ...said to me "oh before i meet u i wont shag u if u have slept wiv ....." and he used a not very nice term for an asian person...i asked him wot on earth was that to do with anything ? his reply " u live by bradford u must have done" i was disgusted at his attitude towards another human being...... "

Well I'd 'shag' you if you've even shagged a donkey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1 guy i was chatting to and was on the verge of arranging a meet ...said to me "oh before i meet u i wont shag u if u have slept wiv ....." and he used a not very nice term for an asian person...i asked him wot on earth was that to do with anything ? his reply " u live by bradford u must have done" i was disgusted at his attitude towards another human being......

I cant believe people with that sort of attitude especially as hes not 100% english thanks to the Romans,Vikings,Normans and other invaders throughout our history."

Now there's prejudice for you, who says he was definitely English?, could be Scottish, or even Jamaican for all you know.

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"well guy from a cpl wont meet us now he knows i have had sex with a black guy...... how bad is that ? xx"

i know its frowned upon but that moron really needs to be named shamed and have his ass booted off this site,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well guy from a cpl wont meet us now he knows i have had sex with a black guy...... how bad is that ? xx

i know its frowned upon but that moron really needs to be named shamed and have his ass booted off this site,"

Why?

as much of an arse he may be showing such prejudice, to do that is showing the same prejudice don't you think, there could be any reason why he has a shitty attitude, we all have our ideals and his seem a little warped compared to others, but that's his thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hmmmmmmmmm............ well maybe you would feel different if the message was sent to you, i can assure you i now exactly what teh txt meant, and im not rpepared to repeat it, because unlike him, im not racist to anyone.........opinions are one thing, but down right offensive remarks about a guy he didnt even know the name of is another !!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hmmmmmmmmm............ well maybe you would feel different if the message was sent to you, i can assure you i now exactly what teh txt meant, and im not rpepared to repeat it, because unlike him, im not racist to anyone.........opinions are one thing, but down right offensive remarks about a guy he didnt even know the name of is another !!!!!!!!!"

I like Gez am only going off face value, what has been said already before you posted just now.

I have no idea what he said but going off what has been said so far I don't see any real reason why he should be named and shamed and booted off the site, there could be any manner of reason why he has that shitty attitude.

I have been on the end of racist attacks also, yes white people can be racially abused, my then partner was walking down the road we lived carrying our 12 month old child, about 15 different race to us males threw large stones at her for being white.

it's a tad worse than a bad attitude via message don't you think?.

point is, he is entitled to his views, now if you think he was abusive and is totally uncalled for then allow the mods to see the message and let them decide, but Gez's post was a tad over the top to me.

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

you see theres different forms of racism and everyone is allowed there views of course, but i think when you have views as extreme as those and you start upsettng others with those views, which he clearly has and will, in our opinion he should be booted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im sorry you were treated that way in the past there is no space for any sort of racism in my world........ and i dont want to fall out or upset anyone in here, not the reason we are here, but my last words on it are...........it wasnt a bad attitude infact it was more than one txt....... and was racist....... all i ask from ppl is treat ppl as you want to be treated, and if you are going to be judgmental on ppl you havent met, have the guts to stand up to you own convictions......... but then again these type of ppl tend to be extremely shallow from the onset........ ty again everyone. im back and fighting now whhich was what i needed....... heres to all you lovely ppl out there.......and sod the rest xxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you see theres different forms of racism and everyone is allowed there views of course, but i think when you have views as extreme as those and you start upsettng others with those views, which he clearly has and will, in our opinion he should be booted"

There are a lot on here then that should be booted for upsetting people with their views, jeez there's an argument every week, lol.

Still, what you show is prejudice Gez, as what has been said here is not near enough to make such a judgement that you have made, not looking to argue but it's true, prejudice comes in many forms, no prejudice is good.

For all we know the guy might have been beaten regular by his mothers partner that happened to be the type he is now prejudice against, then again he could just simply be an ill informed ignorant piece of shit, but we don't know for sure do we?.

Like I said, if the message was actually abusive and disrespectful and not just a comment of ill nature then the OP should allow the mods to see the message and allow them to decide.

Prejudice of all kinds is nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" all i ask from ppl is treat ppl as you want to be treated, and if you are going to be judgmental on ppl you havent met, have the guts to stand up to you own convictions........."

And I am saying quite the same.

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

sort of know where your coming from shagarooney but i,m not saying boot him for having those views, although im sure there is somthing in terms about been racist, what im saying is boot him for upsetting other members with them, had a pm from op telling me exactly what was said and how she felt and theres no need for it, this site has a lot of profiles from people saying dont want to meet asian/black/white guys etc, to me that isnt racist or offensive its personal choice, but what this guy said and how he made op feel was nasty

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

The problem we have here is indicative of the society that has grown up over the last 12 years! Even nasty bastards have rights... He is perfectly entitled to aire his views and we mustn't "punish" him because it is his right to feel that way.

Well sorry, that is wrong! We as a society have every right to penalise those who break our rules, whether they be social rules or legal ones. That is how we regulate our society and that is what is missing now! I for one am fed up with people making excuses for those who have extreme views.

Yes, move on from this ass wipe and rest assured in the knowledge that what goes around, comes around! xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem we have here is indicative of the society that has grown up over the last 12 years! Even nasty bastards have rights... He is perfectly entitled to aire his views and we mustn't "punish" him because it is his right to feel that way.

Well sorry, that is wrong! We as a society have every right to penalise those who break our rules, whether they be social rules or legal ones. That is how we regulate our society and that is what is missing now! I for one am fed up with people making excuses for those who have extreme views.

Yes, move on from this ass wipe and rest assured in the knowledge that what goes around, comes around! xxxx"

I agree, my point was the irony on how prejudice is quick to show, and from few words on a forum.

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I say pity him, he is the one that has to live with such vile mindless hatred.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If it was done on the site, report the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it was done on the site, report the profile."

I think it was via text message reading through, where do we stand on that?.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Sadly as it is off the site there isn't anything that can be investigated by Admin.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

But I am sure there is something you can do about offensive texts with your phone provider

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

So breaking the rules and people wanting a punishment is prejudice? Someone scratches your car and you want retribution and that is prejudice?

"A prejudice is a preconceived belief, opinion or judgment especially toward a group of people characterized by their race, social class, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, age or religion."

Nowhere does it say that railing against those with views that have been deemed unacceptable, is prejudice!

I am soo fed up with people making excuses for others!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly as it is off the site there isn't anything that can be investigated by Admin.

"

Is it ok if someone agrees to meet the couple the we all turn up and take turns to rub different types of toothpaste on his head and feet, then make him walk home naked?.

if it's not done on the site are we ok with that?.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Sadly as it is off the site there isn't anything that can be investigated by Admin.

Is it ok if someone agrees to meet the couple the we all turn up and take turns to rub different types of toothpaste on his head and feet, then make him walk home naked?.

if it's not done on the site are we ok with that?. "

That would be a waste of good toothpaste !!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Sadly as it is off the site there isn't anything that can be investigated by Admin.

Is it ok if someone agrees to meet the couple the we all turn up and take turns to rub different types of toothpaste on his head and feet, then make him walk home naked?.

if it's not done on the site are we ok with that?. "

You are well kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So breaking the rules and people wanting a punishment is prejudice? Someone scratches your car and you want retribution and that is prejudice?

"A prejudice is a preconceived belief, opinion or judgment especially toward a group of people characterized by their race, social class, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, age or religion."

Nowhere does it say that railing against those with views that have been deemed unacceptable, is prejudice!

I am soo fed up with people making excuses for others!!!!"

The car scratch is a ridiculous example,

my comment was towards the ban him etc, there are very few words here to form a realistic view of the guy, hence prejudice, and yes thank you I do know what it means.

I also stated if it was done via message here to allow mods to see it, if he was abusive then they can decide to let him go, but he is (like it or not) entitled to his views, how he expresses them is a different story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly as it is off the site there isn't anything that can be investigated by Admin.

Is it ok if someone agrees to meet the couple the we all turn up and take turns to rub different types of toothpaste on his head and feet, then make him walk home naked?.

if it's not done on the site are we ok with that?.

That would be a waste of good toothpaste !! "

Hmm good point, we could get the cheap horrible stuff, or even use mushy sprouts, there's nothing good about sprouts.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Are they hot or cold sprouts?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Are they hot or cold sprouts?"

oooo you are well kinky too

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


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I cant believe people with that sort of attitude especially as hes not 100% english thanks to the Romans,Vikings,Normans and other invaders throughout our history."

You see, that's what I don't understand about the BNP - surely it's a bit late to be whining about it now? Maybe they're just dense...must be all that selective breeding...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are they hot or cold sprouts?"

I don't mind, but best not too hot to seriously burn, just make him stink and look silly in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are they hot or cold sprouts?

oooo you are well kinky too "

ah now you're tempted eh.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Best make them cold ones then.

I am getting worried about honey, she thinks toothpaste and sprouts are kinky....what does she know that we don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best make them cold ones then.

I am getting worried about honey, she thinks toothpaste and sprouts are kinky....what does she know that we don't? "

I don't know, but I'm beginning to think I would like to know.

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