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"Heres another one. If its your first time with someone, how do you work out if theyre game? Its not something id mention casually over dinner. My method is get into it in the middle of sex, like when she starts to moan i might ask something like 'whos pussy is this?' and gauge her response. Its gotta be something she is comfortable with, if i sense shes not then i drop it. Theres been times when i have met my match and the girl turns out to be wilder than me, more often than not the quiet,shy type that youd think butter wouldnt melt in their mouths. Lol " How often do they get up and leave? Because if a stranger had the nerve to say that to me, that’s what I’d do. | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol" Girls... if you want to...  | |||
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"Ohhh I love it...I can be both Dom/Sub...either over the phone or in person...Mmmmm "sounds like a date  | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol" Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent." Totally agree  | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent." Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. | |||
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"If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM." Agree with everything you said, but especially this bit. I’d have no problem at all talking about it over dinner, or a coffee, or whatever. Maybe not over an alcoholic drink, personally. But if you can’t talk about this stuff with your clothes on, before the horny mist descends, don’t suddenly spring it on someone during sex. I’ve had that done to me and it’s really shit. The “whose pussy is this?” thing really pissed me off, outside of an established dynamic my only answer to that is going to be “mine, now get off it”. Mind you, calling it roleplay annoyed me too - if someone was only playing at being a Dominant, I’d know it straight away and it would ruin the mood for me. | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent." Agreed wholeheartedly | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care." Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed  | |||
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"For one to a true dom/sub cpl it is not role play sinario. It is part of the dynamic part of their sexual relationship they have. I think the who's pussy thing is not for a fuck and go meet. That is reserved for her man to use. You will meet women who are submissive up to a point, but bdsm is for us part of our relationship. She gives up her power to me for me to push her boundries and sexual pleasure via pleasureable pain. " I am glad that you said it. I agree that for some of us it is not about role play but an expression of our being, which I believe is different from being naturally dominant or submissive. This is just my view but I believe it it is different because natural doms or submissives do not see there is a wide world of D/S. They prefer to be solitary and in their own groove. Particularly the bedroom bondage practitioners. Whereas those of us to it is part of ourselves want to understand it. As a result we educate ourselves and mix with others to see the richness of the kink community. | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed "If they don’t understand after care and Subspace and the impact of it they really are not safe, yes everyone has to learn but in these days of the internet it’s not hard to bone up a bit if something is of interest..... I blame.. Yea you have it as a guess, 50 fucking shades it was a absolute disaster for the DS scene. | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed
If they don’t understand after care and Subspace and the impact of it they really are not safe, yes everyone has to learn but in these days of the internet it’s not hard to bone up a bit if something is of interest..... I blame.. Yea you have it as a guess, 50 fucking shades it was a absolute disaster for the DS scene."I'm still fairly new myself to the D/s lifestyle but self educating is paramount if you seriously want this lifestyle, you need to understand all facets the D/s world offers | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed
If they don’t understand after care and Subspace and the impact of it they really are not safe, yes everyone has to learn but in these days of the internet it’s not hard to bone up a bit if something is of interest..... I blame.. Yea you have it as a guess, 50 fucking shades it was a absolute disaster for the DS scene.
I'm still fairly new myself to the D/s lifestyle but self educating is paramount if you seriously want this lifestyle, you need to understand all facets the D/s world offers "I’ve been in the lifestyle for just over 20 years and am still learning everyday | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed
If they don’t understand after care and Subspace and the impact of it they really are not safe, yes everyone has to learn but in these days of the internet it’s not hard to bone up a bit if something is of interest..... I blame.. Yea you have it as a guess, 50 fucking shades it was a absolute disaster for the DS scene.
I'm still fairly new myself to the D/s lifestyle but self educating is paramount if you seriously want this lifestyle, you need to understand all facets the D/s world offers
I’ve been in the lifestyle for just over 20 years and am still learning everyday "It's a huge learning curve, also a journey & one that i am very much looking forward to travelling | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed
If they don’t understand after care and Subspace and the impact of it they really are not safe, yes everyone has to learn but in these days of the internet it’s not hard to bone up a bit if something is of interest..... I blame.. Yea you have it as a guess, 50 fucking shades it was a absolute disaster for the DS scene.
I'm still fairly new myself to the D/s lifestyle but self educating is paramount if you seriously want this lifestyle, you need to understand all facets the D/s world offers
I’ve been in the lifestyle for just over 20 years and am still learning everyday
It's a huge learning curve, also a journey & one that i am very much looking forward to travelling "There are over 60 different types of dominant and submissive. Make sure you find one that understands that dominance and submission is given and never taken, respected and never expected. I wish you all the best on your amazing journey | |||
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"I realise its not for everyone and it has never been a total stranger. Ive had girls say/do things that shocked me, like wanting put fingers up my bum, but i never got up and left, i just laughed and said no chance. Lol Although OP has left the site but I assume will pop up with a new profile, I would like to address this point. When it comes to BDSM activities they should be negotiated before the start of play. If a person is unable to raise those issues beforehand they should not be doing BDSM. Topping and dominance is not just about control, but also about the sub's and or bottom's well being. Introducing D/S in the middle of vanilla sexual play without prior discussion is not acting with informed consent and is not acceptable. Being treated without informed consent by someone else does not give a person permission to treat a third person without informed consent. Well said, if it’s something that a partner is potentially curios about it feel free to explore it but no what should someone act without consent, at the best outcome you won’t get a second chance, dominance is not about abuse and miss use of position, it also should come with an understanding of after care. Thing is those that are only playing at being a "Dom" don't even know what aftercare is let alone what it means & why it's needed
If they don’t understand after care and Subspace and the impact of it they really are not safe, yes everyone has to learn but in these days of the internet it’s not hard to bone up a bit if something is of interest..... I blame.. Yea you have it as a guess, 50 fucking shades it was a absolute disaster for the DS scene.
I'm still fairly new myself to the D/s lifestyle but self educating is paramount if you seriously want this lifestyle, you need to understand all facets the D/s world offers
I’ve been in the lifestyle for just over 20 years and am still learning everyday
It's a huge learning curve, also a journey & one that i am very much looking forward to travelling
There are over 60 different types of dominant and submissive. Make sure you find one that understands that dominance and submission is given and never taken, respected and never expected.
I wish you all the best on your amazing journey "I have been self educating for a very long time on this, not saying i know it all but have a good understanding of the D/s lifestyle & what i would like from it. Thank you for your best wishes | |||
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