FabSwingers.com forum: Face Pictures

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it reasonable to ask for face pictures right off the bat? Bearing in mind I happily post and share my own.

I have had quite a lot of resistance, excuses and even abuse because I want to see if there is a physical attraction before venturing into chat.

I absolutely get that some guys need discretion, but that’s not for me so surely they should be okay with me saying ‘no thanks’ if they can’t provide one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kind of reluctant to send face pics to someone if they live in my town, or I feel that they may not be genuine.

But apart from that, I'm fine with it!

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

I think it's fine, a reasonable ask.

Well, maybe a few messages in, actually, so you know there's some kind of connection.

I keep mine on display, but I also understand people who don't

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By *p4u69Man
over a year ago

Guernsey

Because of living on such a small island I don't like to give a face pic out straight away until I get to know someone. Discretion is an absolute must at all times!

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By *manda And MartinCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Is it reasonable to ask for face pictures right off the bat? Bearing in mind I happily post and share my own.

I have had quite a lot of resistance, excuses and even abuse because I want to see if there is a physical attraction before venturing into chat.

I absolutely get that some guys need discretion, but that’s not for me so surely they should be okay with me saying ‘no thanks’ if they can’t provide one.

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yes it is

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If there's a connection, yes.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You can ask but it doesn't mean anyone has to send one.

Personally I won't send a face pic anymore unless I have been chatting for a while and anyone pushing for one straight away gets told no. But I also won't ask for one off anyone either.

Too many on here share pics that is the main reason I no longer will share mine.I don't agree with people sharing other peoples info and pics but it does happen quite frequently on here. So now I err more on the side of caution.

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

First message? Probably a bit much.

If we’ve exchanged a few messages, are on the same page? I’ll happily exchange face pics.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

It’s fine to ask. There are members I may be happy share mine with but others, perhaps not... like anything online not all fab members are all they appear to be.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I'm with you, OP.

I have my face on my profile, so I expect a pic with the first message. Totally reasonable. There's no point chatting if you don't find them attractive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that’s ur preference op then yes if others don’t like it then that’s they problem

for some off us though can’t post face pics ie work and such

But if someone asks me then i don’t grumble or get nasty or snip at them

Has it gotten in the way off some meets yes it has the way I see it is it’s my lose for not have them

My normal think to say is if someone ask

Is sorry I don’t do face pics I understand if that’s a problem and was good to chat to you and happy swingeing or something along those lines

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies.

I respect other people wanting to be private and usually ask after a couple of messages.

I just maintain that if you can’t share, for whatever reason, you’re not for me.

Just don’t expect to be attacked verbally over it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies.

I respect other people wanting to be private and usually ask after a couple of messages.

I just maintain that if you can’t share, for whatever reason, you’re not for me.

Just don’t expect to be attacked verbally over it x"

Awww big hugs op no one should be verbal attack if they done that they shown they not worth ur time

Plus also shown you they true colours and a easy escape best thing to do is not let it get to you and hit that block botton and on to the next

It’s they lose op as from ur pics ur a knockout a 20 out off 10 x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Thanks for the replies.

I respect other people wanting to be private and usually ask after a couple of messages.

I just maintain that if you can’t share, for whatever reason, you’re not for me.

Just don’t expect to be attacked verbally over it x

Awww big hugs op no one should be verbal attack if they done that they shown they not worth ur time

Plus also shown you they true colours and a easy escape best thing to do is not let it get to you and hit that block botton and on to the next

It’s they lose op as from ur pics ur a knockout a 20 out off 10 x"

I second this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No .. I like a convo 1st if possible ... like to see how much depth is there lol ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have face pic but no dick pic on public profile, I prefer a face pic to any naked pic,small things like eyes and mouth are nicer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is even tho 99.9% of the times you get blocked. But this a swinger site so things are the way they are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t start flirting until I’ve seen a face pic. I don’t like wasting my time chatting to someone just to discover I don’t fancy them.

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I wouldn't be offended and would gladly send one if it was reciprocated, i find it a lot easier to talk to someone if I've seen their face

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Clearly you have a right to ask OP but the other person has a right not to supply one .If he or she does not do so then you can end the correspondence right there if you want. I put my face photo on my profile as it saves anyone wasting their time but not everyone can.

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By *laric-DomMan
over a year ago

Chapelhall

If the person who messages me has face pics on their profile I will happily send mine if asked ..

What I don't like is people with no pics at all demanding if you message to send a face pic or they will just delete your message

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By *manda And MartinCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We have private face pics and will send one if we receive one with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who messages me has face pics on their profile I will happily send mine if asked ..

What I don't like is people with no pics at all demanding if you message to send a face pic or they will just delete your message "

This is kinda my thinking. Happy to show my face as long as they are willing to show theirs...

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Yes. There needs to be sexual attraction . Kissing is a huge part of our fun. No sexual attraction then its a waste of each others time

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its part of your negotiation tactics when deciding if you want to meet, so I think its perfectly acceptable.

If they want to keep “discrete” then perhaps they should not be on a swingers site because af some point (assuming they meet) someone will see their face.

We send face pics if the persons profile asks for them, even if they message us first.

No point getting deep into a conversation only to find out the reality does not match the fantasy.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think it's totally reasonable that, otherwise you could waste both your time and have no attraction when you do see one.

I've had this before in the past, a man once told me I didn't need to see a face pic for a social. I just moved on and didn't engage anymore, I appreciate we would all like to be discreet, but it would make me question why they were so unwilling to share a pic.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Just to say, I wouldn't ask for 1 first message.

But after a few, if we seem to hit it off, I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost always send it in the first few messages so we can see if there is attraction. I've never had a problem!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Ultimately OP "your profile your rules" is the way I think of it - now that has to come with a modicum of acceptance that others may have different rules and you either have to find a compromise or leave it if they're unwilling to do so, but people should never get arsey if you stick to yours - it really is that simple

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

I have my face pic on show always, and only message people that I can see. This site is about attractions amd fantasies not get to know someone who isn’t my type

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all of you for your comments x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it reasonable to ask for face pictures right off the bat? Bearing in mind I happily post and share my own.

I have had quite a lot of resistance, excuses and even abuse because I want to see if there is a physical attraction before venturing into chat.

I absolutely get that some guys need discretion, but that’s not for me so surely they should be okay with me saying ‘no thanks’ if they can’t provide one.

Would be more happy to, if I could!

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"Thanks to all of you for your comments x"

Yes i send them but only after a period of time chatting and I can trust the person sending it, been burned before x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not unreasonable at all. If theres no attraction, what is the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to see a face pic to know if there is any attraction there. I’ve gotten into conversations in the past without seeing a face pic only to find there is no attraction and the awkward moment of having to explain that. So for that reason I want to see a face pic with first message. You can set it so that pic disappears after it’s viewed if you so wish. If I was to send a first message to someone I would include a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I always ask for a face picture first. I understand why some people might not want then public, but if they want to meet and won't share one up front then bye bye xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only give face pic if we plan to meet but put it on auto delete

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

after chatting for a time i think it's fair to ask for face pics. Always trust verified people more

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

If someone messages us wanting to meet then is completely incumbent on them to send a face picture. What is the point of withholding one, we're not going to entertain a conversion about meeting without knowing there may not even be an attraction. If we make the first approach we would always include a face picture of us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"after chatting for a time i think it's fair to ask for face pics. Always trust verified people more"

I think that if faces aren't shared pretty early on during a chat then it can turn into a bit of a farce about who shares first

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We always are happy to send face pics if people have them on their profile or if they send us theirs first. Really annoys when people say they will only respond if you send a face pic but have none themselves.

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By *inecrestMan
over a year ago

West Yorks

Someone can have a beautiful face pic and still be a monosyllabic chancer with zero personality. I'm with those who prefer to have a conversation first before any exchange of private pics.

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By *ower Couple - NorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Watton

Everyone’s lives are different, plus there are so many fakes and picture collectors, we prefer to play things safer. If there is a connection and we are comfortable the other person is real then we are happy to share. The challenge with fab is that it is too easy to make a fake profile.

Just respect that others have their priorities, work together and build the initial trust and then all should be fine

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

We have ours on show as we want people to know who we are. Both of us are open books. We understand it's different for everyone though. For us the attraction is usually in the eyes and smile. Gives us a little clue on what people are actually like.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I think it’s reasonable to ask but also reasonable for people to say no- I wouldn’t send a face pic in my first few messages no but also wouldn’t expect one straight away. Once a few messages have been exchanged then absolutely I’d send one and want one in return. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who messages me has face pics on their profile I will happily send mine if asked ..

What I don't like is people with no pics at all demanding if you message to send a face pic or they will just delete your message

This is kinda my thinking. Happy to show my face as long as they are willing to show theirs... "

Agreed.

TBH I see this mainly on women's profiles but because they have so much choice they can pretty much demand what they want! Pretty annoying that as a single guy you're expected to put in so much more effort to even get a conversation started. Equal opps definitely doesn't extend to Fab!

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"If the person who messages me has face pics on their profile I will happily send mine if asked ..

What I don't like is people with no pics at all demanding if you message to send a face pic or they will just delete your message

This is kinda my thinking. Happy to show my face as long as they are willing to show theirs...

Agreed.

Thats exactly how it should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who messages me has face pics on their profile I will happily send mine if asked ..

What I don't like is people with no pics at all demanding if you message to send a face pic or they will just delete your message

This is kinda my thinking. Happy to show my face as long as they are willing to show theirs...

Agreed.

Thats exactly how it should be. "

How what should be? Guys putting in all the effort or equal opps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone’s lives are different, plus there are so many fakes and picture collectors, we prefer to play things safer. If there is a connection and we are comfortable the other person is real then we are happy to share. The challenge with fab is that it is too easy to make a fake profile.

Just respect that others have their priorities, work together and build the initial trust and then all should be fine"

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I personally send a face picture in my first message, that way if someone is attracted to me then they’re more likely to reply, if not then they won’t. Saves everyone’s time

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

Just respect that others have their priorities, work together and build the initial trust and then all should be fine"

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