FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence drop...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guys, have you ever hit a patch where you don't feel you're performing right sexually and it knocks your confidence and drops your sex drive??

If you can relate or have ever been able to, what did you do to get back into your stride??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys, have you ever hit a patch where you don't feel you're performing right sexually and it knocks your confidence and drops your sex drive??

If you can relate or have ever been able to, what did you do to get back into your stride?? "

Had this with jenny a while back. Not sleeping enough hit my sexdrive badly. The love and support i got from her and helping me to sleep better helped me. Surprising how other factors hit your sexdrive without realising it. Lucky i have a big hearted woman who is my soulmate to lean on. John

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your help! I am extremely bad at sleep, I sleep like the dead when I am asleep but its always a late drop off! I will definitely try and find a solution for better and earlier sleep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did a few years back, I have vitiligo and some skin discolouration on my cock, it effected me quite a bit at one stage, but after a while I realised that there is absolutely nothing I can do or even wanted to do, so fuck it, this is me, some will be cool with it, some won’t, things got loads better from then on.

Breath through it, nothing is permanent, keep talking!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your help, glad you got through that!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Guys, have you ever hit a patch where you don't feel you're performing right sexually and it knocks your confidence and drops your sex drive??

If you can relate or have ever been able to, what did you do to get back into your stride??

Lack of sleep definitely hit me before.

Also, anxiety (the cause of the lack of sleep).

I started excercising more, eating better and drinking lots more water and the which helped settle my mind and helped me sleep.

That really turned things around for me.

Good luck with it OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah, I have got a lot of that planned, eating better, more water, more structure and fitness improvement so hopefully gradually things will fall back into sync! Thanks for taking your time to help!

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

Stress with money/work for me. And believe it or not, seeing some of the sizes of men on here messes with my head too, and it really shouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your input! I have never once been allowed to think I am anything less than anyone else in my relationship, so this is most definitely something in my own brain that's fucking with me, myself that is making me feel disappointed in myself and then telling me that because it's happening in my mind then maybe it could be in others too, even though that notion has been crushed via talking my mind doesn't care lol

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Yeah, stress and lockdown aren’t helping me.

Plus I’m badly out of practice.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Thank you for your input! I have never once been allowed to think I am anything less than anyone else in my relationship, so this is most definitely something in my own brain that's fucking with me, myself that is making me feel disappointed in myself and then telling me that because it's happening in my mind then maybe it could be in others too, even though that notion has been crushed via talking my mind doesn't care lol"

Well yes, I think "admitting" it is the biggest step. Be kind to yourself, imagine one of your friends was in a similar place and you'd wish they asked you for help.... Do the same... Ask for help. These are really stressful times so the fact its having a noticable effect on you is nothing to be disappointed about. Its very human. Some great advice above.... But try and make time every day to do one thing of self care... And take a look on YouTube at 4 7 8 breathing technique.... Its a brilliant, quick, effective stress buster and helps sleep too.

I hope things settle down a bit for you. Be kind to yourself.

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