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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are so many against it? I get it if that's where your face photos are and it's for discretion, but why do people act like it's a major offense rudeness if someone has looked at your profile and likes it enough to want to see more? Surely you just ignore the request and if you are talking to the person explain why rather than getting mad???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the point of getting mad.

If I get friends requests from people I dont know I just delete and move on.

I do find it weird though that someone would send a FRIENDS request when you haven't even spoken to them let alone became there friend x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't accept friends requests from people I haven't spoken to. I find it odd that people even send friend requests when we haven't even spoken. Does it annoy me tho no. I just let them sit there until I do a bulk delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think sometimes a friend request can help some people cut through the avalanche of winks and messages, signal a proper interestespecially if it is a single female because they get truly bombarded, most of the time if you message them your message is 20th within minutes I guess that if they get the same volume of friend requests though the same thing happens

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I dont accept friends requests

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

We don't accept friend requests from people we haven't spoken to. We don't get mad at them, they just don't get looked at or mass deleted. We explicitly stated in our profile don't send us one unless we've spoken, so it's actually a good tool to sift the people who apparently can't read

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is very difficult to cut through though, even though they are annoying I think that winks and friend requests help get the receivers attention a bit easier than messages, especially if the recipient is a single female at least it puts your profile in a place where it will be seen so they can judge whether they want to talk or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's fair enough, I understand that most wouldn't because they usually have more private photos in friend's only, but at least it signals an actual interest and isnta message that will more than likely be lost in minutes

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

My private pics are private

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"It is very difficult to cut through though, even though they are annoying I think that winks and friend requests help get the receivers attention a bit easier than messages, especially if the recipient is a single female at least it puts your profile in a place where it will be seen so they can judge whether they want to talk or not"

Quite often in a profile it states that friend requests won't be accepted unless you've spoken before so its also used as a filter to see if the sender has read your profile and worked out if you could be suited or not.

On your pics alone I would probably send one, reading your profile I know it would simply be yet another unwanted friend request and get deleted.

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Why I have to accept someone who I do not know ?

Our profile is built based on what we want to show to the public (public gallery), friends area, so something which we want to show to the people we know, and private.

If someone is willing to read about us, will spot that we do not want random friends request. Most often we block that people. Sad but true. If you do not bother reading, I do not bother to make any connection.

I believe, most of the time all friends requests are sent to see maybe more hot photos for a better wanking.

For us wink system is great as it is for catching attention.

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By *allBristolManMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"That's fair enough, I understand that most wouldn't because they usually have more private photos in friend's only, but at least it signals an actual interest and isnta message that will more than likely be lost in minutes "

But you've blocked single males from contacting you (no idea how i know that ahem ).

I suspect if you were open to single males too your views on random friend requests might be a bit different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont even accept requests from friends

Unless it's-bad romance by Lady Gaga

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My guess is it's speculative. I don't tend to accept random ones unless I also want to see the private pictures / videos of the person in question.

I think we can safely assume that's why people do it randomly - so as to see pictures. Either let them or don't - not a big decision really.

Seems that most don't.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I dont even accept requests from friends

Unless it's-bad romance by Lady Gaga "

She was great to see in concert.

I shall withhold sending you one then as I'm not Lady Gaga

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We get a friend request from a profile we like the look of we accept it and then try & arrange fun x

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By *nna WulfWoman
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"It is very difficult to cut through though, even though they are annoying I think that winks and friend requests help get the receivers attention a bit easier than messages, especially if the recipient is a single female at least it puts your profile in a place where it will be seen so they can judge whether they want to talk or not"

The best way to 'get my attention' is to use your words.

I don't get so many messages that it's difficult to keep track.... but even if I did, a quick skim and scan easily separates the wheat from the chaff.

Winks and friend requests (from people I've never communicated with) will always be chaff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont even accept requests from friends

Unless it's-bad romance by Lady Gaga

She was great to see in concert.

I shall withhold sending you one then as I'm not Lady Gaga "

Lol

I'm not jealous at all honest x

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By *ilf3423Man
over a year ago

Beds


"Why are so many against it? I get it if that's where your face photos are and it's for discretion, but why do people act like it's a major offense rudeness if someone has looked at your profile and likes it enough to want to see more? Surely you just ignore the request and if you are talking to the person explain why rather than getting mad??? "

Completely agree. You can ignore the request and then it goes away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We get loads of random friend request, because it says on our profile that we are fine with them, just because one is sent it doesn't mean we will accept if we aren't interested but at least that person's interest is registered straight away rather than lost under messages, we don't struggle with messages but single women are and like you say, if we had single men unblocked we would be lost in dick pics

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"Why are so many against it? I get it if that's where your face photos are and it's for discretion, but why do people act like it's a major offense rudeness if someone has looked at your profile and likes it enough to want to see more? Surely you just ignore the request and if you are talking to the person explain why rather than getting mad??? "

Totally agree with u.. cuz I see don’t said FR etc I’ve stopped all together and if, god that’s a challenge, if I get talking to someone I always ask first... just to many self important ppl on here lol fuck email, I’m on here to enjoy not be a moral rule maker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree the wink system works for couples and men because for the most part couples and men don't get the volume of interaction single women do, but say if we wanted to contact a single woman a friend request puts our profile right there for her to see and check out (and decline if she wants) rather than all the way under the other 75 messages she received in the ten minutes since we messaged ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's fair enough, I'm sure you can see from my other replies why I think *at times* a friend request can help, for example, we put a thread on here that drew a woman to us, and we messaged fats enough for the first few messages to not get buried, however it also attracted a fuck load of men and within a short time our conversation was buried

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I don't accept friends requests from people I haven't spoken to. I find it odd that people even send friend requests when we haven't even spoken. Does it annoy me tho no. I just let them sit there until I do a bulk delete.

"

My policy too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Also, people, I'm not so much questioning why people do or don't accept friend requests, I just am not sure why some people get so mad and offended about people sending them??? We constantly see status' RAGING about people doing it, and a lot of those people don't state anything about not wanting friend requests...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can imagine that for females on here the friend request thing is far more annoying than it is for others, you get avalanche with messages and winks, I'd put money on friend requests being the same, just to my logic friend requests would be far far easier to sort through than inboxes!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"It is very difficult to cut through though, even though they are annoying I think that winks and friend requests help get the receivers attention a bit easier than messages, especially if the recipient is a single female at least it puts your profile in a place where it will be seen so they can judge whether they want to talk or not

Quite often in a profile it states that friend requests won't be accepted unless you've spoken before so its also used as a filter to see if the sender has read your profile and worked out if you could be suited or not.

On your pics alone I would probably send one, reading your profile I know it would simply be yet another unwanted friend request and get deleted."

Do some people not read profiles?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That does make sense!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Many profiles send a friend invite when they have hardly any pics of their own and none infriends only.

I don't want just anyone to see my private pics and that's stated in my profile, yet its often ignored.

I think it's polite to send a message before a friend request tbh and I only add people I've met or spoken to for a while.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"It is very difficult to cut through though, even though they are annoying I think that winks and friend requests help get the receivers attention a bit easier than messages, especially if the recipient is a single female at least it puts your profile in a place where it will be seen so they can judge whether they want to talk or not

Quite often in a profile it states that friend requests won't be accepted unless you've spoken before so its also used as a filter to see if the sender has read your profile and worked out if you could be suited or not.

On your pics alone I would probably send one, reading your profile I know it would simply be yet another unwanted friend request and get deleted.

Do some people not read profiles? "

Clearly as ive had one or two state what they'd love to do to my vagina as well as my arse

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By *stoppMan
over a year ago

Durham

I did have about 70% hidden in friends file, none where face pics just ones that involved others in the photos.. but last week I posted a new pic and opened up all pics to the public.

I found yes they got some like but also noticed viewers didn’t generally go beyond the first page..

All are still open to public at present..

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By *ittleCurvyChickWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the rainbow

i never look at winks or friend requests, i think both are currently in 3 figures. if i'm chatting to someone and they ask if they can send one i will send it myself.

i never delete them though as it meand they can resend more quickly. if left undeleted i believe, i may be wrong, they can't resend for 30 days for winks and 6 months for friend requests. i personally don't understand sending friend requests to a stranger you've never spoken to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what I mean, that attitude towards it all is perfectly fair, but some just flip their lid whenever they've received them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally I'm really really perverted

I occasionally walk up to people in the street and grab there phone off them and look though there pics to see if theres any nudes I can do my perverted pervy stuff over

Apart from that slight flaw in my idiot head I'm ok ish x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I stopped even deleting friends requests as I kept getting them trying again and its just a time wasting exercise on both parts... it's different if you're chatting to someone and suggest it then they agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If it is stated and ignored over and over then I can see why it would become an enraging thing

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By *allBristolManMan
over a year ago

nowhere


"Me personally I'm really really perverted

I occasionally walk up to people in the street and grab there phone off them and look though there pics to see if theres any nudes I can do my perverted pervy stuff over

Apart from that slight flaw in my idiot head I'm ok ish x "

I like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That is some next level of skill in not reading or paying attention hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That would go viral on a YouTube prank channel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me personally I'm really really perverted

I occasionally walk up to people in the street and grab there phone off them and look though there pics to see if theres any nudes I can do my perverted pervy stuff over

Apart from that slight flaw in my idiot head I'm ok ish x

I like this "

Me too

But the people I do it too and the police DON'T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That would go viral on a YouTube prank channel "

And crimewatch x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, but sod it, there's lots of sex in prison

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

What annoys us is we don’t even get a wink or a message just a friend request out of the blue..

I get it. They want to see our friends pics album. But it’s for that, friends...

Usually, we only friend if we have met or are going to meet...

Tiny, feel free to do your weird perverted stuff over our pics....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't accept friends requests from people I haven't spoken to. I find it odd that people even send friend requests when we haven't even spoken. Does it annoy me tho no. I just let them sit there until I do a bulk delete.

"

This^^^

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I don’t get cross with them, but I don’t accept them and wouldn’t consider meeting someone who just sent a random one. I think it’s an odd and lazy thing to do. It’s pretty much just asking to see your private pics without putting any time in to establishing a connection. Not for me.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We don't get annoyed or cross, just message them back say that we don't accept friends requests from people we haven't met or we don't intend to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, but sod it, there's lots of sex in prison "

Hahahahaha x

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By *agnar1980Man
over a year ago

Poole

I’m happy to accept friends request as Long as they have pics & they chat to me first

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"What annoys us is we don’t even get a wink or a message just a friend request out of the blue..

I get it. They want to see our friends pics album. But it’s for that, friends...

Usually, we only friend if we have met or are going to meet...

Tiny, feel free to do your weird perverted stuff over our pics....

"

I can’t blame them tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what we do, just because people send them it doesn't mean that the receiver has to accept if they don't like what they see on the profile... But it avoids the whole messages being lost in an inbox straight away

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

The hint is in the name friends request, not total strangers who cannot be bothered to even talk to you had 5 today already

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I can imagine that would be annoying! They could at least try the other ways first I guess. In our experience though, we look for single females more than couples, so wink and messages can get badly buried, so a friend request after trying them could pop our profile right where they can quickly check it out and they will see the they messaged you and winked you message up in the top corner and if they like message us back or just ignore it all...

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It's funny when you accept a friends request, look at their friends pics which are just cock and fanny pics. Then unfriend and....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get that, but what if they had messages you but their message had been lost in hundreds as is the case with single females? A friend request then helps because the person getting it would see the request, may look at the profile and then would see the "they messaged you * hours/ days ago" and if they are interested they can then message back...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's a good approach, we see people going nuts in their status about requests all the time. It's just not worth the high blood pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only got 1 friend but they don't chat with me anymore

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We don't stress about it, we just leve them there and they cannot send another one

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"Why are so many against it? I get it if that's where your face photos are and it's for discretion, but why do people act like it's a major offense rudeness if someone has looked at your profile and likes it enough to want to see more? Surely you just ignore the request and if you are talking to the person explain why rather than getting mad??? "

The issue is in your own words above " want to see more " . Unsolicited friends requests are all about wanting to see someone's friends only photos not about establishing why you think the other person might be interested in you. If that were the case you would try to initiate a conversation first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get that, but in that case just ignore it or if you are interested but not at that stage yet just send a message. Don't bust a blood vessel in your status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't stress about it, we just leve them there and they cannot send another one "

They can after 6 months unfortunately.

I've posted many times in the feedback section that it should be that either we can have the function to turn off friends requests, or they should only be allowed to send them once.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"We get a friend request from a profile we like the look of we accept it and then try & arrange fun x"

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Best way to do it impo.

Check profile.

Like it say Hi.

Don't BLOCK sorted.

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By *nna WulfWoman
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"I get that, but in that case just ignore it or if you are interested but not at that stage yet just send a message. Don't bust a blood vessel in your status "

Surely people can use their statuses as they see fit?

You've started a thread about friend requests which is even more effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are so many against it? I get it if that's where your face photos are and it's for discretion, but why do people act like it's a major offense rudeness if someone has looked at your profile and likes it enough to want to see more? Surely you just ignore the request and if you are talking to the person explain why rather than getting mad??? "

I get so few that I just accept any...well up to now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see the point of getting mad.

If I get friends requests from people I dont know I just delete and move on.

I do find it weird though that someone would send a FRIENDS request when you haven't even spoken to them let alone became there friend x "

Because they're hoping to find and view more risque pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's totally out of order if you state on your profile not to send a friend invite ,and some self entitled pratt thinks it doesn't apply to them

If someone can't respect a few words on our profile,what respect are they likely to have should we ever meet?

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

I think F.S should call it a

"FUCK REQUEST"

That would be clearer imho.

Hey.

I only ask once chatted.

And look at profile of ones that come in.

Like it I say HELLO.

Not for me or no photo's BLOCK.

So send if you wish and ill have a look

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By *cotsboyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Why are so many against it? I get it if that's where your face photos are and it's for discretion, but why do people act like it's a major offense rudeness if someone has looked at your profile and likes it enough to want to see more? Surely you just ignore the request and if you are talking to the person explain why rather than getting mad??? "

After viewing your profile photos I’d love to send you one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind random friends requests

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasn't really questioning the status originally, more why people get so offended by it...

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We dont accept them unless we have chatted 1st, we would rather only have a select few friends rather than just anyone who sends them, saying that we dont get angry with them being sent

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We get at least 10 friends requests a day...at least 9 of those are guys we’ve never spoken to and have no intention of meeting.

We leave them there as they can’t send another request through. Even if they were of interest to us, we wouldn’t accept a friends request unless we’ve spoken to them.

We don’t want people seeing our friends pics who we have no intention of engaging with them.

K

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don’t even look at friends requests. . I only ever accept them from people I have met in person. So I have no idea How many I have

V xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends how you use your profile. I don't have any face pics anywhere, so my friends section is just where I store my more graphic pics. If someone likes my profile enough to want to see more, I'm happy to accept. It doesn't mean we're besties now lol.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop


"I don't see the point of getting mad.

If I get friends requests from people I dont know I just delete and move on.

I do find it weird though that someone would send a FRIENDS request when you haven't even spoken to them let alone became there friend x "
nutshell

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

If they express an interest in us and appear genuine, then no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't accept friends requests from people I haven't spoken to. I find it odd that people even send friend requests when we haven't even spoken. Does it annoy me tho no. I just let them sit there until I do a bulk delete.

"

Same.

You don’t randomly flick through Facebook sending friend requests to strangers so you can see more of their profile so you? I have enough publicly available on fab for people to make a decision if they want to get to know me. If they message and the feelings reciprocated then I’ll talk for a bit and make sure they’re not completely on a different page and think about adding them as a friend

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By *ouise HartleyTV/TS
over a year ago

the street of failed artists Liverpool

Ignore if you don't want to accept, don't delete and they can't send another one, simples

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