FabSwingers.com forum: Guys and girls that like Dommes

By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

So I'm finding it frustrating on here (I know it's not kink focused) because people read my profile than message to say they want to tie me up.

Are there many guys and girls on here who like a woman in control?

For those that play with guys too, do you like a similar form of play too?

How about S/m with Dommes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a switch and absolutely love submitting to a Domme! I think a lot of swingers (especially men) really don't know about bdsm kink. A case of ignorance and just wanting to get their dicks wet I believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm finding it frustrating on here (I know it's not kink focused) because people read my profile than message to say they want to tie me up.

Are there many guys and girls on here who like a woman in control?

For those that play with guys too, do you like a similar form of play too?

How about S/m with Dommes?

Would love to be considered for play Mistress but seems distance could be a challenge!

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I am a switch and absolutely love submitting to a Domme! I think a lot of swingers (especially men) really don't know about bdsm kink. A case of ignorance and just wanting to get their dicks wet I believe."

Absolutely. I have no objection to people having room to grow. But worry about people blagging because they are horny and agreeing to stuff they don't understand so I'm cautious.

I though it may be interesting to see for whom it's a focus.

With switching do you find more interest of here for you as a Dom or sub?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Hello! Yes please!

We’re both switches, I (The Boy) enjoy both being. Dom and sub. But I think I would like to be sub more often! Kitty does Domme but very rarely.

We’d love to both be submissive to a Bi Domme!

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I enjoy being Dominated, but it's rare to find a genuinely Dominant female, especially on fab. Lots of ladies into the tie and tease element but not so much the psychological and punishment aspect.

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Hello! Yes please!

We’re both switches, I (The Boy) enjoy both being. Dom and sub. But I think I would like to be sub more often! Kitty does Domme but very rarely.

We’d love to both be submissive to a Bi Domme! "

I've messaged you guys x

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I enjoy being Dominated, but it's rare to find a genuinely Dominant female, especially on fab. Lots of ladies into the tie and tease element but not so much the psychological and punishment aspect."

I know what you mean the wider bdsm element is often missing. People's expectation tends to be tie and tease, facesitting and maybe some pegging.

T. I guess thought with things like impact and cp we spend a long time learning the skills and a small fortune on toys so it's going to be less common.

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Algarve

Another switch here but way less experienced as submissive, even though I know that’s where my heart lies. Seem to meet far fewer dominant women sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met Dom’s, but never a Domme, but it’s something I’m currently looking into.

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

It really depends what we fancy at the time, but this is something we’d love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love submitting to the will and whims of a Domme xx

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Hello! Yes please!

We’re both switches, I (The Boy) enjoy both being. Dom and sub. But I think I would like to be sub more often! Kitty does Domme but very rarely.

We’d love to both be submissive to a Bi Domme! "

Actually this is a more accurate answer!

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

There definitely are sub men on here. We have been messaged on our couple profile.

More of the women on here seem to be looking for a Dom so switches tend to develop that more on here.

Good luck in your search. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both switch, so equal fun to be had.

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Another switch here but way less experienced as submissive, even though I know that’s where my heart lies. Seem to meet far fewer dominant women sadly."

I think you are right. Maybe this thread might help some people seek each other out though

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I’ve met Dom’s, but never a Domme, but it’s something I’m currently looking into. "

I love playing with female submissive they are so reactive. It's definitley worth exploring I think x

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

Absolutely. I grt that it's not going to suit every meet. Just curious about others. I wasnt expecting couples who switch but would like to both sub in all honesty. But it's awesome

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"There definitely are sub men on here. We have been messaged on our couple profile.

More of the women on here seem to be looking for a Dom so switches tend to develop that more on here.

Good luck in your search. X"

Thank you you too!

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"We both switch, so equal fun to be had.

Would you expect to switch in a session always?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

On the Fetish scene I met quite a few Dom people both male and female. Those who knew what to do and some beginners who went to the clubs to learn more about it. That’s where I’d look personally, the unfortunate thing is, the best site isn’t really that reactive to meets like this site. Often too far away as well, if you do find a connection.

I think a female Dom, will certainly get a lot of interest from both sexes on here though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely sub ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve met Dom’s, but never a Domme, but it’s something I’m currently looking into.

I love playing with female submissive they are so reactive. It's definitley worth exploring I think x"

I’m excited about it

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are certainly both dominants and submissives out there on here and you only have to look at threads like this one to see that.

Women tend to be a lot more subtle about it though - partly out of protection against the inevitable influx of messages offering to dominate or submit that will follow if they're more overt.

I've actually always found it better when the D/s side comes out naturally as part of the getting to know someone process anyway, rather than (in my instance) going "looking" for a dominant - partly because my submissive side isn't the only thing on the buffet table of my sexuality, and partly because I prefer it to come to the fore naturally and instinctively as a dialogue progresses.

I think there's also a danger on a site like this that there are people on both sides of the D/s coin who think it's simply a case of the stereotyped "whips and chains" thing and can be stepped into at the flick of a switch which couldn't be further from the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to find a female Domme, but not had any luck yet. Cassie

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm 100% SB and have met a few male Dom's who really pushed me and it was a rich rewarding experience for both of us. However, my ultimate is to meet a strict, cruel Domme. I need a woman to pledge my submission to so badly.

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"On the Fetish scene I met quite a few Dom people both male and female. Those who knew what to do and some beginners who went to the clubs to learn more about it. That’s where I’d look personally, the unfortunate thing is, the best site isn’t really that reactive to meets like this site. Often too far away as well, if you do find a connection.

I think a female Dom, will certainly get a lot of interest from both sexes on here though

I'm on that site and agree with your assessment. I've been active on the fet scene for a long time but currently it seems really male Dom heavy to me.

I've met some lovely people off here I wouldn't have normally met so that's why I'm asking x

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"There are certainly both dominants and submissives out there on here and you only have to look at threads like this one to see that.

Women tend to be a lot more subtle about it though - partly out of protection against the inevitable influx of messages offering to dominate or submit that will follow if they're more overt.

Absolutely the switch only works with some people and it takes conversation and trust to get there I agree.

I'm explicit about it because I have no desire for non kink based play and it is certainly not something that everyone wants. That still leaves the it's not something everyone wants with everyone.

I don't want to roleplay D/s I want to find a D/s dynamic so I absolutely appreciate what you are saying

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I would love to find a female Domme, but not had any luck yet. Cassie"

*Waves*

If you ever need a hand with that lol

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By *ertsplayMan
over a year ago

St Albans

Assertive or dominant women really are both exciting and rare it seems. I’d love to meet a spanking buddy who just enjoys being in charge

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

I (Mrs) love a domme, nothing better than submitting to another woman, Mr has expressed some interest in playing with a domme and we've both played a little before together but I think he'd like to do more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both switch, so equal fun to be had.

Would you expect to switch in a session always? "

No.

It generally depends on our moods and what we both need/want from it.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I’m switch with girls, but generally end up leading. Always in hope of a more sadistic girl coming my way.

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I’m switch with girls, but generally end up leading. Always in hope of a more sadistic girl coming my way. "

More sadistic girls are definitley out there

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By *aptainBlackstoneMan
over a year ago

Walthamstow

Mostly a switch but because I've been in relationships most of the time, havent had anyone in control as much as I'd like, just want a woman to look me in the eye and tell me I'm hers and just take control, maybe get grabbed a little , nothing bdsm level but definitely a little aggression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky enough to be married to a domme. She would happily see me used by another Domme, but wouldn't submit herself

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By *hantelle-La-SlutTV/TS
over a year ago

South Birmingham

Very sub sissy here, love to meet Dom and Domme to use me for their pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to be controlled by a woman , something I am massively interested in, yet not been lucky enough to find

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife

Yes I would love a woman to take control of me

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By *andAukCouple
over a year ago

leeds

This is very much us but so hard to come by. Both of us are sub but the Mrs more so. She's even allowed to just play ff in a sub position but it's much more fun if we're re both involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely submissive! Love the thought of being controlled and doing whatever the domme requires of me

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By *ick-meMan
over a year ago

high peak

I’d love to find domme to be in charge and control me....

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Meeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a woman taking control and using me for her pleasure.

It excites me knowing i’m being used to fulfil her fantasy. Being told what to do by her and what she wants from me makes me submit even more.

I love a woman running her hands/pulling my hair as I give her oral.

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By *ittlesub4uWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"So I'm finding it frustrating on here (I know it's not kink focused) because people read my profile than message to say they want to tie me up.

Are there many guys and girls on here who like a woman in control?

For those that play with guys too, do you like a similar form of play too?

How about S/m with Dommes?

Hey!! I’ve found it near impossible to meet Dommes and the one or two I have played with I’ve been so awestruck that I’ve been pretty useless to be honest! Really hoping to indulge some more in sapphic s/m over the next year x

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By *nmgCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"So I'm finding it frustrating on here (I know it's not kink focused) because people read my profile than message to say they want to tie me up.

Are there many guys and girls on here who like a woman in control?

For those that play with guys too, do you like a similar form of play too?

How about S/m with Dommes?

Love to be dommed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im submissive naturally but have switched on a woman i was seeing and although a little out of comfort zone, it was a very good experience

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By *inran OP Woman
over a year ago

Dudley

It's nice to find a lot of people who have similar interests in here

Finding D/s matches is always trickier and it's not worth forcing dynamics.

It's nice to find a community online too when all the events are cancelled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub here that is always looking to serve a domme

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